Real life gets in the way - Help!

[Englishcouple]

I was a member of the original Bianca's Smut Shack forum back in 1996 and met my wife in 1998.

I disclosed my fascination with this kink, to my utter delight she was on board, and weeks after we moved in together we started our ENM journey. Initially we visited swingers clubs and played with single guys but after 4 years we grew tired of the driving and no booze for me.

We saw 3 club guys again at hotels and our home but ultimately, my wife wanted a long term connection with bareback as she loathes condoms.

We spent the next 18 years with my oldest friend as her lover. After an initial mfm it became exclusively the two of them. He would stay overnight every 3 months and we'd have a regular friendly evening but at bedtime I always went to the guest room and she invited him to our bed.

He was cautious initially but as time passed they became closer and filthier. At the peak, I returned to our bed after he left after 45 mins to an hour and cleaned her up.

He moved abroad 3 years ago and we missed him so much that my wife invited a neighbour for drinks, told him about our friend and suggested that he replaced him. He was initially ultra cautious but she saw him for a few weeks before he reunited with his ex gf and called it off.

We're now in our 50s with various health issues, not least being menopausal dryness and low libido. Add into the mix 3 teenage kids, needy, elderly parents living nearby (2 mins walk) self employment, and neither of us are able to get any head space to even feel horny, let alone have sex or plan anything.

The solution would be a guy like our old neighbour and my wife to go on dates, disguised as an evening hobby or similar.

From experience, I love the reclaim more than anything and when she visited our neighbour the dryness didn't occur and I adored them being together without me.

Has anyone else managed a similar arrangement and can offer tips?

[Breakerhymen]

Where are you at? Feel free to DM me. Would love to be a friend.....and ease into a relationship....see what I did there?!?

[Saskcple]

Many of us have similar stories, that dirty old menopause is a big downer for much of this fun. Weight gain, loss of libido from either partner. Getting old sucks

[troilusand]

Empathy...that's all I've got. Yeah, my wife now has as much interest in sex as the does in studying calculus. Fucking menopause!

Wish I could help, but all I can suggest is jackoff a lot to your memories...I've been doing that for about 10 years.

Troilus

P.S. I was a "lurker" here back when this "Hotwife Forum" was sponsored by Bianca's.

[annsman]

I sympathise with where you are. But in our experience life gets in the way right from the start of sharing especially when you have kids.

Finding time, arranging sitters, kids being inquisitive when they get older, options being married and it’s just too much bother.

I think you just have to work at it to keep it going.

[aztd]

I was a member of the original Bianca's Smut Shack forum back in 1996 and met my wife in 1998.

I disclosed my fascination with this kink, to my utter delight she was on board, and weeks after we moved in together we started our ENM journey. Initially we visited swingers clubs and played with single guys but after 4 years we grew tired of the driving and no booze for me.

We saw 3 club guys again at hotels and our home but ultimately, my wife wanted a long term connection with bareback as she loathes condoms.

We spent the next 18 years with my oldest friend as her lover. After an initial mfm it became exclusively the two of them. He would stay overnight every 3 months and we'd have a regular friendly evening but at bedtime I always went to the guest room and she invited him to our bed.

He was cautious initially but as time passed they became closer and filthier. At the peak, I returned to our bed after he left after 45 mins to an hour and cleaned her up.

He moved abroad 3 years ago and we missed him so much that my wife invited a neighbour for drinks, told him about our friend and suggested that he replaced him. He was initially ultra cautious but she saw him for a few weeks before he reunited with his ex gf and called it off.

We're now in our 50s with various health issues, not least being menopausal dryness and low libido. Add into the mix 3 teenage kids, needy, elderly parents living nearby (2 mins walk) self employment, and neither of us are able to get any head space to even feel horny, let alone have sex or plan anything.

The solution would be a guy like our old neighbour and my wife to go on dates, disguised as an evening hobby or similar.

From experience, I love the reclaim more than anything and when she visited our neighbour the dryness didn't occur and I adored them being together without me.

Has anyone else managed a similar arrangement and can offer tips?

Me too it got very rude

[Gulfcpl]

I was a member of the original Bianca's Smut Shack forum back in 1996 and met my wife in 1998.

I disclosed my fascination with this kink, to my utter delight she was on board, and weeks after we moved in together we started our ENM journey. Initially we visited swingers clubs and played with single guys but after 4 years we grew tired of the driving and no booze for me.

We saw 3 club guys again at hotels and our home but ultimately, my wife wanted a long term connection with bareback as she loathes condoms.

We spent the next 18 years with my oldest friend as her lover. After an initial mfm it became exclusively the two of them. He would stay overnight every 3 months and we'd have a regular friendly evening but at bedtime I always went to the guest room and she invited him to our bed.

He was cautious initially but as time passed they became closer and filthier. At the peak, I returned to our bed after he left after 45 mins to an hour and cleaned her up.

He moved abroad 3 years ago and we missed him so much that my wife invited a neighbour for drinks, told him about our friend and suggested that he replaced him. He was initially ultra cautious but she saw him for a few weeks before he reunited with his ex gf and called it off.

We're now in our 50s with various health issues, not least being menopausal dryness and low libido. Add into the mix 3 teenage kids, needy, elderly parents living nearby (2 mins walk) self employment, and neither of us are able to get any head space to even feel horny, let alone have sex or plan anything.

The solution would be a guy like our old neighbour and my wife to go on dates, disguised as an evening hobby or similar.

From experience, I love the reclaim more than anything and when she visited our neighbour the dryness didn't occur and I adored them being together without me.

Has anyone else managed a similar arrangement and can offer tips?

It’s good to see someone who remembers Bianca’s. I’ve been reading this forum since then also. As to your post, has your wife considered hormone therapy? My wife went through the same thing but now she is as horny as 40 years ago. Also, for the dryness, she had the Juliet procedure. She’s wet all the time now.

[cpmici+]

. . . . . . . . . . My wife went through the same thing but now she is as horny as 40 years ago. Also, for the dryness, she had the Juliet procedure. She’s wet all the time now.

I will recommend it to my wife!!!

[wench66]

Life, children and aged parents definitely restricted our swinging/ hot wife excursions. But Covid was the biggest downer, so many friends and contacts disappeared. The world of swinging has changed, now it’s all seems like hard work to make contacts.