Our Hotwives

My wife was entertaining me with the idea of becoming a HW again, with a caveat, even though she still thought I was weird asking her to fuck other men. So, to seize this opportunity I must be tactful. She got turned off once when I pushed too hard. I need some advice from both women and men here on how to ease her into it again.

Back to when we were dating…. She was a natural flirt, very attractive, and always had boys going after her. She just glows when she flirts with men, even today.

She was doing semi-nude modeling. One day she told me she was flirting and making out with her photographer after her shooting session in revealing lingerie. We didn’t understand the meaning of ‘hotwife’ at that time but it immediately turned me on. That was irresistible and I proposed and married her soon after.

After we were married, her sister-in-law got her a job as a waitress in a very upscale nightclub frequented by very rich men looking for hookups. As she was very pretty, flirtatious, and had a high sex drive, this was like mixing gasoline with fire. She told me she met this trainer in thoroughbred racing at the club, twice her age (she was in her 20’s), who pumped her hard and good in the hotel room doggie style after making out on the dance floor and getting her dripping wet. She came back glowing and told me she had the best time in her life. But she was a bit reluctant in giving me her sloppy second thinking that this was weird. I had it, anyway. She thought it was weird that her husband let her fuck other men. She went along with it, however, because she had such a great time. She was a natural hotwife who did it for her own pleasure and for herself. We were so fortunate that it just happened this way. We didn’t even know there were other hotwifes nor understood the terminology. I allowed her and she took advantage of it. It was just I was weird. She suspected that, maybe, I allowed her so that I could even up with her to fuck other women as well. I assured her that it was not my intention nor my interest to fuck other women. She still doesn’t quite get it today.

This trainer was her frequent date though she had many dates with different men. But the trainer was most capable of doing her hard and deep which she liked. He fucked her brain out. Some of these men would stash a couple of thousands in her purse even though she never expected it. Once she was in this wealthy and decadent circle of men she got passed on, and flown to exclusive resorts all over the world to party. It was in one of these parties at a resort she met and fucked a very famous film star. She told me how she grabbed his hair as he pumped her hard to multiple orgasms. She was always a multi-cummer and still is today.

Her day job was an administrative assistant. She regularly flirted and made out with the VP’s, sometimes in an empty office or on an elevator, whenever the opportunities came.

Then, life took a 180 degree turn when we had the baby. Her mother instinct took hold and she became a very devoted mom. She quit her jobs to become a full time mom. So, all her sources of men dried up. AIDS was on the rise at that time. We became risk adverse. We became a vanilla couple. As you can imagine bringing up children naturally became our preoccupation. She didn’t even have an occasional fling. It has been decades now since she was a hotwife.

But our kids have now grown up. She was still very pretty and in a good shape, looking 40ish. Most important of all, she still has multiple orgasms (need her vibrator besides me, however). She still likes to flirt with men. Men find her attractive. I can tell from their gestures and eye contacts. I find that she has been missing so much. So am I, as the husband. Do it now before we get too old. It became urgent to me lately. But I need to be patient with her.

So my question to you all, after you read our story, is how to get her back as a hotwife again after stopping for decades. The idea of online dating won’t work. Going to a swingers club won’t work. These have been my ideas. We have talked about it. These won’t turn her on. Like before, it has to come from her, not from me.

She was a model when she was a hotwife. She worked in an exclusive nightclub. The men there had the skills to seduce her and get her into bed with them. No, not from an online dating site, nor from a swingers’ party either. These are too upfront, too abrupt. She won’t do it. It needs to start with the right chemistry, the right atmosphere, the flirting, and the seduction. Unlike men, for a woman it has to be the whole process.

So, we are going to Vegas for Halloween, and to attend the Eagles concert at the Sphere this Friday. After the concert we will adjourn to the Zouk nightclub. Saturday is open. I think if she has the opportunity to flirt with men at the bar, and perhaps even make out at a quiet table behind after some drinks. It will be her (our) big first step back into hotwife. I would love her to fuck someone but that is too hopeful. I won’t expect that to happen.

So at the bar what should we do? Should we sit around some single men and as she picks up the conversation with them, I make myself somewhat fade away? We are not used to the bar scene. Which venue would you recommend? I read online but there is no specific bar for cougar or hotwife hookups. They recommended upscale bars like the Chandelier in Cosmopolitan. How do we get the clues from men looking for cougars and hotwifes? How do they get the clues from her that she is open for this. Again, she won’t like the idea and get turned off if I plan this for her. It has to come to her naturally and unexpectedly. How to find the opportunity to have this happen to her?

Sorry for this long post. This is my first time posting. I hope to get some suggestions from you. I will let you know what happens in Vegas (it won’t just stay in Vegas). Hopefully we have some good stories to tell. Wish us luck.

Welcome to the forum doggie1. Vegas on Halloween should be great hunting. It's a holiday when people pride themselves on being naughty. We will be there the week after for play.

Just have her dress sexy at the cosmo, have her go in alone and let it happen naturally. If she is a natural flirt it will happen if she finds a guy she likes.

Thanks for your advices. She is definitely a natural flirt but has just warmed up to the whole idea. She would want me to be there. Maybe I will sit at the other end of the bar. We are not familiar with the bar scenes. Will play by ear.