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I can't believe it's been a year since we started this. Last year was the first time they played when she went with him to his company Christmas party. We've played periodically since then and it's gotten more comfortable and hotter since with me finally able to participate a bit a few weeks ago. Now it's time again for the party and I'm concerned because he wants to just get a hotel room downtown for the 2 of them after the party rather than driving back home, so I'll be left alone. I'm not sure what I think about that or if I should try to insist they just come back here to play. In a few weeks we've gone from me being more involved to now facing being shut out. My mind is all over the place. Was it more of a setup and now he's got bigger designs on her? I don't know what to think.

I think your mind is worrying too much about him and not enough about her. Where is her mind at? Is this something she’s wanting to do? It’s not as if you’ve only played together as you said you’ve just joined a few weeks ago.

Obviously, only you know how the dynamic works in your relationship… but, could it just be taking a step back to trust the two of them after adding you for the last few weeks?

Just my thought from the peanut gallery…. “Insisting” rarely turns out well for anyone and you’ve not laid out at all how your partner feels. Also, things are rarely as contrived as “more of a setup” and likely just pre-planning…. If they get a hotel, they both can telax, enjoy a drink or two not worrying about getting home and experience an overnight together. One year into things, that’s not an unusual thought process. Again, it goes back to if she wants that and is ready for it.

Just another step in the adventure…

speak to her, guage if she's falling for him, or what her opinions are of him wanting a hotel instead of coming back to the house.

communicate. communicate. communicate

Merry Christmas, BTW.

Hello, from Kelly (Hotwife married to Wesley)

I think you are over thinking this and worrying too much. Let your wife have fun, as an outcome of this your wife will be happier, more confident, which leads to a better marriage and sex life between the two of you. Trust me I have been in your wife’s situation and it has worked out extremely well for my husband and I. Kelly

PS I think if you tell your wife no for a hotel overnight with him, just the two of them, that will frustrate your wife and set your marriage back. Trust your with and reap the rewards. Kelly

I don't think you're being unreasonable. If you'd rather your wife just came home (and then either took her boyfriend to the bedroom) or had a threesome with you and him, simply tell her so.

Unless you're a cuckold, you and you'r wife should work together in this hobby.

All good thoughts i think. The hotel saves him the risks of having a drink and then driving home. The party is at the hotel, so I probably shouldn't read too much into it beyond my own natural jealousy which is part of the kink I suppose.

I can’t find your old story. Can you refresh ?

Its tough. I wanted it and when she started talking to him all the time and he wanted to steal her away i fought it tooth and nail.

Every couples situation is different but i can totally relate to you feeling left out

So when’s the party? I’ve got my own company party this weekend. Have the two of you decided what to do?

I don’t know your story but sounds like maybe no kids. What if you drove to the city and had drinks at the hotel bar while you knew they were at the party. Not in a deceitful way, but more “the three of us have a secret no one else knows about way”. Maybe you in a he lobby bar while they walk thru heading to the banquet room.., nothing but a sly smile or glance your way as they walk off to the party. Could be your cue to head home and you get to see in person how great she looks headed to the party. That the sort of angst driven at to keep you ‘involved’ while not destroying the vibe.