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My hotwife Becky was 45 when we started dating. She had borne four children before then and has what to me is a fantastic body but to her... way less than perfect.

I tried searching for "confidence" for previous discussions on this topic and a couple other keywords but the site is running on software from about 1999 and more often than not searches get no results so I'll post this and hope everyone understands that if it has been discussed before I can't find it.

What tips can I give Becky about feeling it's okay if you're no longer 18 years old because most men worth calling themselves a bull are not about the body as much as women worry about?

Thanks.

- Jack

I’m going to say there really isn’t anything that you, as a husband, can say that will help boost that confidence. She expects you to think she looks fantastic because you’re her husband.

To be perfectly honest, I’d skip trying to talk to her at all about Mens perception and desires and work towards ways to focus on her own feelings about self worth.

Try suggesting you take a new class together… maybe it’s a dance class…. But plenty of places have been ne night a week that does “intro classes” for a samba or something. When peiple do new things or learn new things, it often leads to feeling better about themselves. That can lead to more confidence.

Try getting her out and about, maybe it’s a hike or a walk around the neighborhood. Let her know it’s for your health and you’d like to do it together. Exercise breeds endorphins. Endorphins makes us feel good. In a couple weeks, tell her how you’ve noticed a change from the exercise. Even better if she notices first.

also, if you do new things, she’ll see other people and inevitably there will be people of all shapes and sizes and it’s not about comparing, it’s about being.

Really great idea.

ALLMYEXES wrote: ↑

Thu Dec 04, 2025 2:27 pm

My hotwife Becky was 45 when we started dating. She had borne four children before then and has what to me is a fantastic body but to her... way less than perfect.

I tried searching for "confidence" for previous discussions on this topic and a couple other keywords but the site is running on software from about 1999 and more often than not searches get no results so I'll post this and hope everyone understands that if it has been discussed before I can't find it.

What tips can I give Becky about feeling it's okay if you're no longer 18 years old because most men worth calling themselves a bull are not about the body as much as women worry about?

Thanks.

- Jack

AME
- Firstly does she you know you are here? And or, how might she be with a site like this?
- If she doesn't find the site too offensive have her get on and have look around (IMPORTANTLY) know there is a Ladies Only (not correct I know) forum.
- And if she is ok with it, take some pic of her, cloths on is fine (there's a thread for that) and then read the comments. I can almost certainly assure you she won't be 'trashed'.
- There's more to a woman than being a centre fold.