The risk a cuck takes

[hotwifelina]

Yes for Lina and I , being a slutwife cuckold couple the risk of eventually me being pussy free has become true. It’s a little odd in the beginning of being pussy free from Lina, and just being able to worshipe her and being able to clean her all up after her dates and help her getting ready and dressed for her dates has me literally just dripping pre-cum, it’s been amazing!!! I’m not able to put my little small cock anywhere near her Besides, my tongue, licking her clean and sniffing her and helping her dress for fee dates/BF’s as Ian worshiping her! but we both love it that way she’s become a size queen for extremely well hung guys, dating on a regular basis.!! and also another risk that us Cucks take is this your fact that when family and friends found out, they know that I only watch and lick clean and sniff, and that I have a small cock, so I got humiliated, but it was well worth it. That’s part of the lifestyle.

[Johor]

Yes for Lina and I , being a slutwife cuckold couple the risk of eventually me being pussy free has become true. It’s a little odd in the beginning of being pussy free from Lina, and just being able to worshipe her and being able to clean her all up after her dates and help her getting ready and dressed for her dates has me literally just dripping pre-cum, it’s been amazing!!! I’m not able to put my little small cock anywhere near her Besides, my tongue, licking her clean and sniffing her and helping her dress for fee dates/BF’s as Ian worshiping her! but we both love it that way she’s become a size queen for extremely well hung guys, dating on a regular basis.!! and also another risk that us Cucks take is this your fact that when family and friends found out, they know that I only watch and lick clean and sniff, and that I have a small cock, so I got humiliated, but it was well worth it. That’s part of the lifestyle.

Becoming PF is a big risk as many women only want one man at a time. Or just lose interest in her husband. I am glad you have made it work. PIV sex is not everything in life or even in sexual satisfaction.

[inivisibletwin]

so, in the poll i answered, "yes, been doing it for years, still happy, and no sex for the cuck." ...to clarify on that, my wife and i have been together for about 14 years. she has been cucking me for 13 of those years. Currently, I am only able to have actual PiV sex with my wife once a year, on our anniversary. other than that I am not allowed to see or touch her vagina. I am, however, able to have regular sexual activity with my wife other than that! The only thing that is off limits to me is her vagina. I get everything else regularly.

from my experience, my wife cucking me, and sleeping with other guys has only served to bring us closer as a couple, to keep things spicy and exciting. When I spend time with my wife, whether sexual or not, I feel closer to her, and more in love with her, because of all the other guys she sees.

and she feels the same way. I was her first serious boyfriend. I took her virginity all those years ago. She is and has been in love with me this whole time. other than the fact that she has a boyfriend who is her primary sex partner, we have a regular, strong, close marriage; and i have no doubts about that. We are eachother's life partners... I'm just not her primary sex partner... I'm actually, purposly, at the bottom of her sex-partner-priority list.

With the first "other guy" she slept with, after we had been together for about a year, she learned that she can separate "sex" from "love" and just enjoy casual sex without having to have feelings for the guy.

so we started counting all the guys she sleeps with, and its a fun little game we play together to see how high we can get that number. every tenth new guy we celebrate with a romantic date, and those dates are my favorite! those are when i feel closest to her! those are the most romantic!

this type of relationship is not for everyone. I can see how it can easily fall apart and end in tears. but, for the right people, under the right conditions, who choose to love and trust each other, it can not only work out long term, but can lead to the couple being happier and closer than a traditional monogamous marriage.

I have friends who talk to me about how they arent close with their wives, its feels more like they are "roommates" than married, because they dont have regular intimacy. i have never had that in my marriage. yes, my wife spreads her legs for other guys, but that only brings us closer together, and makes us feel more intimate... and usually, my friends who say that end up secretly fucking my wife behind their wife's back! ...but thats another story

[LatinaWife]

In our case the age gap almost provided it that our realtionship will be like that. And it really turns me on that almost all guys want her and she is mine. Fact, we are still developing us in that way of realtionship, but until now, best decision i ever made in due to a relationship

[coastalkid]

From just reading the posts it seems like there are significant risks and not just for the cuck. It seems that there is a tendency towards an unchecked uncharacteristic behavior from wives unless there is solid sincere communication. If you give full autonomy to your wife without communication all you have is trust. Anyone that has power is at risk of abusing that power regardless of what type of relationship you have. You often read here that some wives will make assumptions, disregard established boundaries, and get so filled with freedom that they let the consequences go unrecognized.

That's why I've always believed it takes an exceptional women to pull off being a hot wife and truly make it last. They have the power, the responsibility to make it really work falls on them. Isn't it supposed to be a situation where all parties involved are excited and want to do it again? Even if a husband asks for it, a wife with the authority is even more responsible for the well being and happiness of her husband. That's not an easy job if you really do love your husband with all your heart. Being happy with it isn't the same as being happy together.

Sure plenty of people make it work while others blow up or fade away. Clearly there many significant risks. To deny that would be naive.

[trecital]

From your survey results it looks like 15% have responded that they have had a negative outcome. So there does seem to be a reasonable level of risk.
But, I wonder how many of those negaive outcomes would have come to pass anyway?

Also, the cuck taking a risk.... Isn't that where part of the excitement comes from?

[Marco]

In our case the age gap almost provided it that our realtionship will be like that. And it really turns me on that almost all guys want her and she is mine. Fact, we are still developing us in that way of realtionship, but until now, best decision i ever made in due to a relationship

What is the age difference?

[veub]

From your survey results it looks like 15% have responded that they have had a negative outcome. So there does seem to be a reasonable level of risk.
But, I wonder how many of those negaive outcomes would have come to pass anyway?

Also, the cuck taking a risk.... Isn't that where part of the excitement comes from?

That's 15% of the people who are still enthusiastic about this activity or they wouldn't be on here. Seems like a high number to me.

[coastalkid]

This is a long read but it's well written and on point to this thread.
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=71251

There are risks. This thread made me get the feeling of the old proverbial, "How To Boil A Frog". So many times you read here about a set of circumstances combined with an event that sets in motion an unstoppable, predictable progression that fails miserably. Sometimes when I read these well written long threads I can tell it doesn't end well by the first or second page.

[ucaneffher]

so, in the poll i answered, "yes, been doing it for years, still happy, and no sex for the cuck." ...to clarify on that, my wife and i have been together for about 14 years. she has been cucking me for 13 of those years. Currently, I am only able to have actual PiV sex with my wife once a year, on our anniversary. other than that I am not allowed to see or touch her vagina. I am, however, able to have regular sexual activity with my wife other than that! The only thing that is off limits to me is her vagina. I get everything else regularly.

from my experience, my wife cucking me, and sleeping with other guys has only served to bring us closer as a couple, to keep things spicy and exciting. When I spend time with my wife, whether sexual or not, I feel closer to her, and more in love with her, because of all the other guys she sees.

and she feels the same way. I was her first serious boyfriend. I took her virginity all those years ago. She is and has been in love with me this whole time. other than the fact that she has a boyfriend who is her primary sex partner, we have a regular, strong, close marriage; and i have no doubts about that. We are eachother's life partners... I'm just not her primary sex partner... I'm actually, purposly, at the bottom of her sex-partner-priority list.

With the first "other guy" she slept with, after we had been together for about a year, she learned that she can separate "sex" from "love" and just enjoy casual sex without having to have feelings for the guy.

so we started counting all the guys she sleeps with, and its a fun little game we play together to see how high we can get that number. every tenth new guy we celebrate with a romantic date, and those dates are my favorite! those are when i feel closest to her! those are the most romantic!

this type of relationship is not for everyone. I can see how it can easily fall apart and end in tears. but, for the right people, under the right conditions, who choose to love and trust each other, it can not only work out long term, but can lead to the couple being happier and closer than a traditional monogamous marriage.

I have friends who talk to me about how they arent close with their wives, its feels more like they are "roommates" than married, because they dont have regular intimacy. i have never had that in my marriage. yes, my wife spreads her legs for other guys, but that only brings us closer together, and makes us feel more intimate... and usually, my friends who say that end up secretly fucking my wife behind their wife's back! ...but thats another story

Just looking at it from this perspective... 10 years of this means you only penetrate your wife 10 times, meanwhile her boyfriend is probably inside her several times a week. Not to mention the other guys she may see once in a while. Assuming your wife and her boyfriend have sex twice a week, that's 104 times per year versus ONCE with you. That's a crazy huge difference when you actually break it down. I like that lol.

I've said it before and I'll say it again, your marriage's lifestyle arrangement is one I would not hesitate to replicate if my partner told me that's how she wanted our relationship/marriage to function. The only tiny difference is that I would want her to be cucking me longer than our actual time married which means I'd love for her to start cucking me before we get engaged. It's obviously just a want for the sake of one day saying "we've been married 10 years but she has been cucking me for 13 years."

[Mgcouplemn]

No risk with real trusting, loving, and honest relationship. Laurie and I have been swingers and now cuckold for many, many years, we have never had an issue. She has told me to have private sex numerous times, I have asked her to do the same. Neither has any interest in dining it, because we both love seeing the other performing sex with others. At this time of our lives I am not interested in sex with other women, don't really really need it. I have great sex with Laurie, best time is getting sloppy seconds after she has been fucked by someone else.

[coastalkid]

No risk with real trusting, loving, and honest relationship. Laurie and I have been swingers and now cuckold for many, many years, we have never had an issue. She has told me to have private sex numerous times, I have asked her to do the same. Neither has any interest in dining it, because we both love seeing the other performing sex with others. At this time of our lives I am not interested in sex with other women, don't really really need it. I have great sex with Laurie, best time is getting sloppy seconds after she has been fucked by someone else.

I believe you are right on about the risk when you apply your conditions. When you truly love someone you want the best for them. You do everything you reasonably can to make them happy. You take pride in facilitating that. If Laurie wants your sex life to be as exciting/satisfying as you want hers to be you can't lose. It doesn't sound like she wants to restrict you. It sounds like you have as much freedom as she has. I don't get that "power exchange" vibe from how you guys do it. You sound more like equals and that sounds believable.

[stubbyhubby]

I became a cuck April 3, 1993. Me nor my wife knew what that was at the time, but when I brought up her fucking other guys rather than divorcing me because she was so unhappy with our sex life she told me if she did it then I had to agree that I gave up my "husband rights" to have sex with her and that I had no say in who she had sex with. I agreed to it simply because it made sense. She was never going to have sex with me again if we got divorced anyway. I have not been inside of a woman since and our marriage is stronger than ever. Most of our friends have been divorced or seperated. Meanwhile we hold hands in public, kiss and are affectionate both in private and around other people and we often get comments from people that they can tell we are still in love after 30+ years of marriage. Cuckolding didn't just save our marriage, it made it stronger than ever.

[LongTermHubby]

I became a cuck April 3, 1993. Me nor my wife knew what that was at the time, but when I brought up her fucking other guys rather than divorcing me because she was so unhappy with our sex life she told me if she did it then I had to agree that I gave up my "husband rights" to have sex with her and that I had no say in who she had sex with. I agreed to it simply because it made sense. She was never going to have sex with me again if we got divorced anyway. I have not been inside of a woman since and our marriage is stronger than ever. Most of our friends have been divorced or seperated. Meanwhile we hold hands in public, kiss and are affectionate both in private and around other people and we often get comments from people that they can tell we are still in love after 30+ years of marriage. Cuckolding didn't just save our marriage, it made it stronger than ever.

My wife strongly hinted that she would leave the marriage if I didn’t accept her seeing other men.

[LongTermHubby]

I became a cuck April 3, 1993. Me nor my wife knew what that was at the time, but when I brought up her fucking other guys rather than divorcing me because she was so unhappy with our sex life she told me if she did it then I had to agree that I gave up my "husband rights" to have sex with her and that I had no say in who she had sex with. I agreed to it simply because it made sense. She was never going to have sex with me again if we got divorced anyway. I have not been inside of a woman since and our marriage is stronger than ever. Most of our friends have been divorced or seperated. Meanwhile we hold hands in public, kiss and are affectionate both in private and around other people and we often get comments from people that they can tell we are still in love after 30+ years of marriage. Cuckolding didn't just save our marriage, it made it stronger than ever.

My wife strongly hinted that she would leave the marriage if I didn’t accept her seeing other men.

[stubbyhubby]

I became a cuck April 3, 1993. Me nor my wife knew what that was at the time, but when I brought up her fucking other guys rather than divorcing me because she was so unhappy with our sex life she told me if she did it then I had to agree that I gave up my "husband rights" to have sex with her and that I had no say in who she had sex with. I agreed to it simply because it made sense. She was never going to have sex with me again if we got divorced anyway. I have not been inside of a woman since and our marriage is stronger than ever. Most of our friends have been divorced or seperated. Meanwhile we hold hands in public, kiss and are affectionate both in private and around other people and we often get comments from people that they can tell we are still in love after 30+ years of marriage. Cuckolding didn't just save our marriage, it made it stronger than ever.

My wife strongly hinted that she would leave the marriage if I didn’t accept her seeing other men.

I imagine a lot of divorces could be avoided if the husband was able to recognize that he wasn't fulfilling his wife's needs in the bedroom and shared her. Not many women will file for divorce because hubby isn't keeping the grass mowed or because he still hasn't fixed that leaky faucet, but if she goes weeks without satisfaction in the bedroom on a regular basis she will eventually start looking to get that need fulfilled somewhere else, either by affair or divorce.

[SpicySaltnPepper]

I became a cuck April 3, 1993. Me nor my wife knew what that was at the time, but when I brought up her fucking other guys rather than divorcing me because she was so unhappy with our sex life she told me if she did it then I had to agree that I gave up my "husband rights" to have sex with her and that I had no say in who she had sex with. I agreed to it simply because it made sense. She was never going to have sex with me again if we got divorced anyway. I have not been inside of a woman since and our marriage is stronger than ever. Most of our friends have been divorced or seperated. Meanwhile we hold hands in public, kiss and are affectionate both in private and around other people and we often get comments from people that they can tell we are still in love after 30+ years of marriage. Cuckolding didn't just save our marriage, it made it stronger than ever.

My wife strongly hinted that she would leave the marriage if I didn’t accept her seeing other men.

I imagine a lot of divorces could be avoided if the husband was able to recognize that he wasn't fulfilling his wife's needs in the bedroom and shared her. Not many women will file for divorce because hubby isn't keeping the grass mowed or because he still hasn't fixed that leaky faucet, but if she goes weeks without satisfaction in the bedroom on a regular basis she will eventually start looking to get that need fulfilled somewhere else, either by affair or divorce.

That's a big thing for a guy to admit though. And let's be honest, a lot of cucks who are willing to admit it actually also get off a little on the "shame" that comes along with it. It takes a special kind of man to admit he can't please his wife. I'm thankful y'all exist, don't get me wrong. I rather enjoy pleasing them for you.

[LongTermHubby]

I became a cuck April 3, 1993. Me nor my wife knew what that was at the time, but when I brought up her fucking other guys rather than divorcing me because she was so unhappy with our sex life she told me if she did it then I had to agree that I gave up my "husband rights" to have sex with her and that I had no say in who she had sex with. I agreed to it simply because it made sense. She was never going to have sex with me again if we got divorced anyway. I have not been inside of a woman since and our marriage is stronger than ever. Most of our friends have been divorced or seperated. Meanwhile we hold hands in public, kiss and are affectionate both in private and around other people and we often get comments from people that they can tell we are still in love after 30+ years of marriage. Cuckolding didn't just save our marriage, it made it stronger than ever.

My wife strongly hinted that she would leave the marriage if I didn’t accept her seeing other men.

I imagine a lot of divorces could be avoided if the husband was able to recognize that he wasn't fulfilling his wife's needs in the bedroom and shared her. Not many women will file for divorce because hubby isn't keeping the grass mowed or because he still hasn't fixed that leaky faucet, but if she goes weeks without satisfaction in the bedroom on a regular basis she will eventually start looking to get that need fulfilled somewhere else, either by affair or divorce.

That's a big thing for a guy to admit though. And let's be honest, a lot of cucks who are willing to admit it actually also get off a little on the "shame" that comes along with it. It takes a special kind of man to admit he can't please his wife. I'm thankful y'all exist, don't get me wrong. I rather enjoy pleasing them for you.

My wife says her first-time lovers always ask if she still has sex with me. When she answers no, it gives them an extra kick knowing they have replaced me between her legs.

[trecital]

It takes a special kind of man to admit he can't please his wife. I'm thankful y'all exist, don't get me wrong. I rather enjoy pleasing them for you.

Most times though, it's probably not that he can't please his wife at all, it's just that someone else can do it better.

I mean, I could probably get a racing car around the track, but Lewis Hamilton is gonna be a whole lot better at it.
Mind you, he'd likely be better at fucking my wife too.....

[SpicySaltnPepper]

It takes a special kind of man to admit he can't please his wife. I'm thankful y'all exist, don't get me wrong. I rather enjoy pleasing them for you.

Most times though, it's probably not that he can't please his wife at all, it's just that someone else can do it better.

I mean, I could probably get a racing car around the track, but Lewis Hamilton is gonna be a whole lot better at it.
Mind you, he'd likely be better at fucking my wife too.....

It's funny you should mention that. I raced open wheel cars quite successfully up until I realized I didn't have the budget to continue climbing the ladder and had to make a decision between racing or another career.

[coastalkid]

Just a thought to throw out there, isn't there a risk involved if a cuck can't handle it any more, or doesn't like it? Can it ever really go back to like it was? Won't he feel like his sex life is ruined either way he goes? He'll have to choose between being caged and pussy free and countless other humiliations or to go home to a dead bedroom because the wife is resentful for him bailing out on the whole scene.

There's tons of other examples of failed relationships on this forum alone. A lot of the risks were common to each other too.

Surely, there's some people here that aren't just "cheerleaders" and acknowledge there are a lot of risks. I don't disagree that the marriage needs to be rock solid and have honest open communication to prevent a bad experience. Along with the heightened sexual experience there has to be some heightened emotions that can confuse that honest, open communication and question a rock solid marriage. I believe it takes a uniquely paired couple to make this work, ones that know how to avoid the risks.

Like I said, I'm just throwing that out for discussion. I only know what I read here so, you know better than me.

[trecital]

Just a thought to throw out there, isn't there a risk involved if a cuck can't handle it any more, or doesn't like it? Can it ever really go back to like it was? Won't he feel like his sex life is ruined either way he goes? He'll have to choose between being caged and pussy free and countless other humiliations or to go home to a dead bedroom because the wife is resentful for him bailing out on the whole scene.

There's tons of other examples of failed relationships on this forum alone. A lot of the risks were common to each other too.

Surely, there's some people here that aren't just "cheerleaders" and acknowledge there are a lot of risks. I don't disagree that the marriage needs to be rock solid and have honest open communication to prevent a bad experience. Along with the heightened sexual experience there has to be some heightened emotions that can confuse that honest, open communication and question a rock solid marriage. I believe it takes a uniquely paired couple to make this work, ones that know how to avoid the risks.

Like I said, I'm just throwing that out for discussion. I only know what I read here so, you know better than me.

Responding to your first question, yes, there must be a risk that trying to go back to how it was won't work. But I'd have thought that it's the females who are more likely to want to return to a 'normal' sexual life. The men, not so much. If anything, it's more likely that the men would want to go deeper into the lifestyle.

As to the need for a rock solid marriage, good communication, etc, yes, I'd have thought that the poorer those qualities were, the more risk there is of things going wrong.
When I look back to our early days of bringing someone else into our sex life, I can see many mistakes that we made. I'd like to think I'm much more experienced now, and don't make those mistakes. The point is, how do you deal with those mistakes?
It's not so much knowing how to avoid the risks. Because you often can't anticipate the risks, so don't know how to avoid them. It's more about how you deal with the problems and pitfalls when they do occur. For us it's been about being flexible, knowing when to compromise. And most importantly, knowing how to forgive when problems arise.

[weluvtoodoit]

"For us it's been about being flexible, knowing when to compromise. And most importantly, knowing how to forgive when problems arise." Never a more true statement has been said. We are no exception to having problems arise, and mostly those problems fall on me. My wife is not active now, but when she was, I was a complete ass a couple of times. She had some things she could have done differently too, but we are happy to be where we are after all the dust had settled. Thanks trecital

[dinoo]

It's not so much knowing how to avoid the risks. Because you often can't anticipate the risks, so don't know how to avoid them. It's more about how you deal with the problems and pitfalls when they do occur. For us it's been about being flexible, knowing when to compromise. And most importantly, knowing how to forgive when problems arise.

(Foreword:
Before we got married, I left my hometown to study at a university. I wanted to be free, so I told her to break up with me.
She responded that she could understand that I wanted to be free, but she could accept that. It wasn't necessary to end our relationship.
I wanted to be honest with the GF's I had. So I told them that I had a GF in my hometown. But I was also very honest with MY GF. In detail.
In short, I think this was the beginning of an "acceptable" open marriage. A marriage of trust and honesty).


In the very early years of our marriage, my wife told me that she had fallen in love with another man, but she broke off the relationship.
She argued that she had much more confidence in the future of how our life would develop.
By the way, we didn't have a stag-cuckold relationship at that time. Yes, she teased me about other men. And I loved it because I was proud to be married to her and never asked her for details. So I never knew if he fucked her.
I just said to be very glad that she had obviously reconsidered all the facts and that she was so open with me.

My wife kept teasing me about other men. She loved the attention she got, and I remained very happy with her.

Decades later our life changed to a HW/cuckold lifestyle.
I truly believe that trust, honest and open communication was the foundation of this lifestyle.
We were both aware of the dangers, but that had nothing to do with the style.

[coastalkid]

.....When I look back to our early days of bringing someone else into our sex life, I can see many mistakes that we made. I'd like to think I'm much more experienced now, and don't make those mistakes. The point is, how do you deal with those mistakes?
.......It's more about how you deal with the problems and pitfalls when they do occur. For us it's been about being flexible, knowing when to compromise. And most importantly, knowing how to forgive when problems arise.

In my observation very little is devoted to this area of the cuckold/Hot Wife lifestyle. There are lots of posts about the various ways these relationships are implemented. After reading so many posts here they have many similar aspects although there are also many slight deviations among them. There are countless threads regarding denial, humiliation, chastity, bi-sexuality, and group sex.

I recently read a thread from a long standing VHW that is honoring her husbands request to stop their Hot Wife lifestyle. Very little was mentioned about that decision other than her husband no longer had any interest for it and she chose to stop. Very little was mentioned about why he had lost interest. It almost sounded like it was too sensitive to discuss from the wording. Her thread stands out amongst so many other threads that simply end poorly or vanish. It seems there's more shame in the lifestyle failures and no one seems to share them or even acknowledge them.

To me or anyone considering the lifestyle this information regarding mistakes and problem solving would be invaluable.

........We are no exception to having problems arise, and mostly those problems fall on me. My wife is not active now, but when she was, I was a complete ass a couple of times. She had some things she could have done differently too, but we are happy to be where we are after all the dust had settled.....

Do you think it would be helpful to others if they knew about the mistakes made along the way, or do you think each relationship is so distinct that the knowledge would be insignificant?