What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

[Lucky Dog]

Perhaps it is waxing too philosophical but I draw a parallel to a well-known concept in music: Composers recognize that the human brain enjoys music which introduces a tension, in melody and intensity, which is then resolved as the composition continues, tension released for the listener, their discomfort relieved as the music plays out. In larger symphonic compositions this is often a layered concept with multiple passages which introduce tensions and resolutions - all resulting in an enjoyable, engaging experience for the listener.

In an ever so much more complex way many of us enjoy elements of our sexual lives in finding adventures which introduce other sorts of tensions that contribute to the brain's enjoyment as those tensions are relieved. The simple tension of arousal and orgasm is at that first layer, the more complex ones that people draw in and enjoy include the elements of kinky D/s play and for some the complexities of relationship play with multiple partners in all of the variations including hotwife and cuckold play.

The resolution, the release, the return to the comfort of a committed relationship and the marriage bed (or in some cases a devoted hubby who is graced with a creampie to consume or a hotwife that gets her spanking for being such a "bad girl") may be a similar sort of experience for his cuckoldress' brain to enjoy. It is not quite as good if there is not the tension developed, and where some wives and couples find they like the taunting, teasing and humiliations, some have not discovered those can be a part of the tensions while others have not quite understood themselves and the why's of their enjoyment of the tensions.

The music plays in so many ways.

Prof Wood

Very beautifully said.

[4incheslong]

Having started with multiple partners when i was much younger (15), out of formal relationships, I had a very different experience to most girls growing up in India- who were basically virgin (vaginallt) till they got married.

I would also add that this happened (or started) with some exploitation from my older cousin (who i was in a romantic relationship with' at least on my side) and her bf at the time.

When I got married 12 years later- arranged marriage, I felt unsatisfied with sex with my husband. Dick size wasn't the only issue, but hes not long enough to penetrate me. But I love him in every other way. He keeps me happy and is always kind to me. Sexually.. it just wasn't there. And he just wasn't dominant enough for me. I didnt feel submissive with him

When we moved to Sydney, I found it easier to meet/date others discreetly.

I loved being submissive to strong, dominant men (and women) and giving them pleasure.
I met my bf 5 years ago through his wife... and have been exclusive with him sexually since (unless he arranges it otherwise). Its something he wanted and felt strongly about that only he should be allowed to share me, and I was his sexualy. He has a massive sex appetite and good hard dick. I want him to have me for sex.

My husband is by best friend. My sister. I love him dearly.
I can talk to him about anything and everything. (my sex is a secret). But i talk to him about men we see, their potential dick size. Girls, who we think sleeps around. I just dont want to have sex with him.

My wife was the same. Cheated on me because the sex was boring. She loves being submissive and giving them pleasure. She has kept most of it private, she finds it hotter that way. Plus when we were dating an old BF contacted her and she asked me if she could go see him and I said no. Also, the few times I have known about her affair I would mess it up for them both. Unfortunately I get jealous. A few times I knew it was going on..new underwear..notes..but I let it go on.

[Elly_Wilde_]

I've seen some pretty good "video diaries" from some hotwives on onlyfans where they explain the details of their thought processes and what they find hot about it all.
Sorry, I don't have links. I know @innocenthotwifexxx did a few but I can't remember any of the others.
I'm sure if you're after something specific, you could request it from an onlyfans hotwife, for a price obviously.

I think it's hard to take anything on OF seriously. Everything there is carefully constructed to appeal to the viewers. They want more buys and clicks so I am not sure you can take anything there as truth.

I am still pretty new to all this, but with that said I think attraction is attraction. For me I know that any one person can't be everything so there are things with each person that I enjoy. I think the problem with a lot of fantasy in this realm is that it goes pretty far to a point where there isn't much reason for a woman to remain with or be attracted to their original partner still. In reality there has to be things I would still want in the person to stay with them.

So what goes through my mind when I have more then one partner is that I appreciate each of them for what they bring to the table. That can be sex or it could be companionship, security, or connection.

[hornyguy90]

Is there a place I can go that is less sexual and more mental, a place where I can understand how a hot wife views her husband and bull?

On this site and others I can only find oversexed comments from cuckolds who are fantasizing and jerking off to responses. Or similar comments from wives who are posting for their husbands benefit. It would be nice to get an honest answer from a wife who explains how she feels about being in love with her husband but also being in lust with her boyfriend. How does she feel about her husband being humiliated by the bull? And for those that do, Why they like humiliating her husband.

Nice question. I decide to talk about this with my gf today, very anxious to discover what she'll say about it.

[olive2a]

Before the internet and cell phones my ex received a U.S.P.S. letter that was sent to her at her former address and then forwarded to her from her father. The letter was from a High School boyfriend that she had not seen nor talked to in 17 years. He had recently gotten divorced and wanted to get reacquainted with her by taking her out to dinner. So, I naively, gave her a "hall pass" before the movie. On a Friday evening about 5:00 PM, we told our daughters, 10 and 12, that mom was going out to dinner with some college girl friends. He took her to a suburban, hotel restaurant, that slowly revolved 360 degrees with the sunset skyline of Chicago...very romantic and expensive. For dessert he rented a hotel room and he fucked my shy, non-orgasmic, (with me), wife, to multiple orgasms, all night and into the early morning. He had stamina and a larger cock than I did. When she came home Saturday morning about 5:00 AM, she told me that she was planning on seeing him again on Monday, while I was at work and our daughters were in school...then also on Tuesday and Wednesday and Thursday and Friday. What I thought was going to be one and done, lasted another two years with over-night trysts at an out of state, Country/Western venue and a local sex motel with mirrors on the ceiling and sex swings. He owned her pussy, that she had me shave, for him and her 36DD tits. He insisted that when they were alone together that they had to be naked and that she could not wear any jewelry including her wedding and engagement rings. Of course, she agreed to his whims because she was addicted to sex with him. She told me that Catholic guilt added to her sexual pleasure with him. I had cuckold angst and masturbated to the thoughts of him fucking all of her holes because she and I only did missionary. Pretending that she was in a summer bowling league, We even bought her a bowling ball, bag and bowling shoes so that during the summer she could spend Friday nights and early Saturday mornings with her lover. After our divorce, he insisted that he had the exclusive right to use her car and then she finally saw the light and dumped him. Lying to our children was the worst part of her affair and my compliance!

Hi.
Every couple is different but I agree that cuckolding as a sexual game is something dangerous for the couple. It’s Pandora’s box, it can’t be closed anymore. But it's so addictive.

[sana9889]

Having started with multiple partners when i was much younger (15), out of formal relationships, I had a very different experience to most girls growing up in India- who were basically virgin (vaginallt) till they got married.

I would also add that this happened (or started) with some exploitation from my older cousin (who i was in a romantic relationship with' at least on my side) and her bf at the time.

When I got married 12 years later- arranged marriage, I felt unsatisfied with sex with my husband. Dick size wasn't the only issue, but hes not long enough to penetrate me. But I love him in every other way. He keeps me happy and is always kind to me. Sexually.. it just wasn't there. And he just wasn't dominant enough for me. I didnt feel submissive with him

When we moved to Sydney, I found it easier to meet/date others discreetly.

I loved being submissive to strong, dominant men (and women) and giving them pleasure.
I met my bf 5 years ago through his wife... and have been exclusive with him sexually since (unless he arranges it otherwise). Its something he wanted and felt strongly about that only he should be allowed to share me, and I was his sexualy. He has a massive sex appetite and good hard dick. I want him to have me for sex.

My husband is by best friend. My sister. I love him dearly.
I can talk to him about anything and everything. (my sex is a secret). But i talk to him about men we see, their potential dick size. Girls, who we think sleeps around. I just dont want to have sex with him.

My wife was the same. Cheated on me because the sex was boring. She loves being submissive and giving them pleasure. She has kept most of it private, she finds it hotter that way. Plus when we were dating an old BF contacted her and she asked me if she could go see him and I said no. Also, the few times I have known about her affair I would mess it up for them both. Unfortunately I get jealous. A few times I knew it was going on..new underwear..notes..but I let it go on.

Its very nice and understanding of you. You get why it needs to be secret then. Shes still coming home to you at the end.

Submission is a need we have. Its different from love, affection and friendship.

[trecital]

Submission is a need we have.

You are at it again.....

You need to understand the difference between 'we' and 'I'.
You constantly assume and assert that your experience is the universal truth.
That is clearly not the case.
Submission might be a need you have. It's not a need that all women have. Please, stop being insulting to so many other women.

[coastalkid]

I'm still with the OP on this thread. What are cuckold wives thinking?

Do wives ever get the feelings they've pushed things too far? Is NRE enough of an excuse to ignore mistakes? What have wives done when they realize they've caused damage to the relationship? So often you read here about women that have complete autonomy and they often use it without caution. When you read these threads you almost instantly know they blow up at some point. That's why knowing what wives are thinking, even the crazy ones, offers me an opportunity to see how they reconcile their lifestyle. I cling to the hope that there are smart women out there that have figured out what works for them and keeps her partner happy and willing to continue.

[sana9889]

I'm still with the OP on this thread. What are cuckold wives thinking?

Do wives ever get the feelings they've pushed things too far? Is NRE enough of an excuse to ignore mistakes? What have wives done when they realize they've caused damage to the relationship? So often you read here about women that have complete autonomy and they often use it without caution. When you read these threads you almost instantly know they blow up at some point. That's why knowing what wives are thinking, even the crazy ones, offers me an opportunity to see how they reconcile their lifestyle. I cling to the hope that there are smart women out there that have figured out what works for them and keeps her partner happy and willing to continue.

This is one of the reasons why I keep it in a secret life

[dinoo]

There’s no humiliation in our relationship, my wife is turned on having sex with other men and equally turned on by my reaction when she gets home from a date and tells me all about it. She’s often said that coming home is the best part.

I can imagine very well.
And for you?

[dinoo]

I'm still with the OP on this thread. What are cuckold wives thinking?

I cling to the hope that there are smart women out there that have figured out what works for them and keeps her partner happy and willing to continue.

Our way of cuckolding. Both being happy must be the basic premise.

[4incheslong]

Having started with multiple partners when i was much younger (15), out of formal relationships, I had a very different experience to most girls growing up in India- who were basically virgin (vaginallt) till they got married.

I would also add that this happened (or started) with some exploitation from my older cousin (who i was in a romantic relationship with' at least on my side) and her bf at the time.

When I got married 12 years later- arranged marriage, I felt unsatisfied with sex with my husband. Dick size wasn't the only issue, but hes not long enough to penetrate me. But I love him in every other way. He keeps me happy and is always kind to me. Sexually.. it just wasn't there. And he just wasn't dominant enough for me. I didnt feel submissive with him

When we moved to Sydney, I found it easier to meet/date others discreetly.

I loved being submissive to strong, dominant men (and women) and giving them pleasure.
I met my bf 5 years ago through his wife... and have been exclusive with him sexually since (unless he arranges it otherwise). Its something he wanted and felt strongly about that only he should be allowed to share me, and I was his sexualy. He has a massive sex appetite and good hard dick. I want him to have me for sex.

My husband is by best friend. My sister. I love him dearly.
I can talk to him about anything and everything. (my sex is a secret). But i talk to him about men we see, their potential dick size. Girls, who we think sleeps around. I just dont want to have sex with him.

My wife was the same. Cheated on me because the sex was boring. She loves being submissive and giving them pleasure. She has kept most of it private, she finds it hotter that way. Plus when we were dating an old BF contacted her and she asked me if she could go see him and I said no. Also, the few times I have known about her affair I would mess it up for them both. Unfortunately I get jealous. A few times I knew it was going on..new underwear..notes..but I let it go on.

Its very nice and understanding of you. You get why it needs to be secret then. Shes still coming home to you at the end.

Submission is a need we have. Its different from love, affection and friendship.

Do you have love, affection and friendship with the men who fuck you?