Some questions for guys that previously thought there was no way they could ever be into this

[Flcuck4herand]

I am very Alpha outside of the bedroom and was like you at one time that I was the guy period. I can't make you understand why I or any cuck can get to this point except to say it's very erotic and I want her pleasure over mine.

I can actually believe that cuckolds may get more "pleasure" being cuckolded than they did from the regular sex they had before they got into it.
I've chatted with so many people with all different backstories, guys that were bulls before, guys that fucked so many beautiful women when they were younger but they always gloss over that and want to reminisce about the times their wives were dirty sluts and rubbed their faces in it.
I can't personally "feel" what that kind of arousal is like but I feel like I have an understanding of it.

It seems like the "transition period" can be harsh but after that, providing the wife is willing, it sounds like a rollercoaster ride.
I always assume it to be similar to how I used to find olives disgusting There was a bar I used to go to that would put out bowls of olives and I would eat them because I was hungry, they were free and they were put right in front of me but I hated the little slimy salt balls. After a couple of weeks of eating them every night, I still hated them but I started to "like" the horrible sensation they gave me until eventually I loved them. They still taste like little slimy salt balls but I've learned to like that.

Anyway... to go back to the question of whether it's morally wrong to push a guy through that process, it would seem like if the wife is prepared to satisfy his new kink, you could argue she would be doing him and their relationship a favour?

I was also that guy in my younger days where I fucked so many women. I tended bar and they would throw themselves at me. I'm not bragging but it's true. A lot of hot women. I guess after being in management at my later jobs, the pressure of always being the top dog that everyone depended on gave me a thrill to be the bottom in our bedroom relationship. Submitting was easy. Being top dog was hard. I think that led me down this path. If you were to meet me irl you'd be surprised at how alpha male I am. The bedroom part, the jealousy and pleasure making my stomach turn flips but still so erotic. First couple times I wondered if it was the right decision but now I wouldn't trade it. My wife has morphed into this beautiful sexual creature. Our marriage of almost 22 years is on fire. We will be together always.

[albs19922]

I think it’s interesting the approach you’re taking because if she brought it up first that would be wonderful.

It's frustrating because there are plenty of married women that want it, for good reasons too (there are plenty more that have more selfish reasons). Most of them just can't believe that any guy could genuinely be into it and especially not their husband.

Sometimes when I've spoken to couples about general sex/kink, the wife has confessed secret extramarital desires and/or experiences to me (in confidence) and I feel that if I just pasted that conversation to the husband, he would (without realising) be stroking his dick by the end of it. Sure, his heart would be racing and he might feel a bit nauseous but those thoughts would eat away at him until he found himself wanting it.
I don't betray that trust though.

When I've done surveys of married women (not on this forum or anywhere sex related) about 50% of them said they would fuck other guys if their husband was ok with it. I'm sure it's easier for them to say that when they don't think it would happen though.

1. I first heard of cuckolding about 9 years ago. I wasn’t disgusted, I just thought it was odd and didn’t give it much thought at all.
2. Not exactly. I didn’t think about cuckolding much at all. That said, I did fantasize about her with others although not necessarily in cuckolding scenarios- more hotwifing, which I am also interested in but I didn’t know what it was.

So would you say that you never thought you could be into cuckolding specifically? But hotwifing has always been a fantasy?

still working up the courage to perhaps bring up the fantasy with my fiancee

I hope that goes well for you. I'm happy to chat if you need anything.

I wouldn’t go so far as to say I had a hotwife fantasy before a cuckold fantasy, but I was turned on by the thought of her with others before I really started to give much thought to either fantasy if that makes sense.