There should be more socials

[BritishCuckCpl]

One thing we found helped us to get started were social events where we could just meet others in the lifestyle in a normal social setting, getting to make new friends, hear fun stories about peoples adventures and just see that people are ordinary nice people.

We spent ages wondering how to start but it was a social event near London that was really ground breaking. It was just in a hotel bar where we met some bulls, two other hotwives and their cucks. We drank, had snacks, talked around a big table. My wife wasn't sure what to expect but she was fascinated by their stories, hearing who was doing what and fun stories about meetups that didn't always go so well. She was transfixed by it and was laughing along and really liked the people there. Plus seeing other hotwives talk about the fun they were having, seeing and listening to bulls explain what they enjoy from a bulls perspective and seeing other cucks there having fun just demystified it and made the next steps just so much easier.

I think more socials like that would be good for helping new couples to get started.

[trecital]

I can certainly see how this might help a couple to transition into the hotwife or cuckold lifestyle.

By being able to discuss things with 'normal' people it makes the whole idea less scary, and less 'weirdo' or 'perverted'. It just normalises it, and shows it to be the fun and exciting thing it can be.

[Johor]

A real advantage of living near London. There are few places where there are enough people that are willing to out themselves that way. How did you find the group?

How did you feel about outing yourself as a cuck? That is a huge step too.

[BigJim]

It's difficult if not impossible for us to find like minded people who share the same lifestyle in normal daily life especially because we're not living in a big city like you. Living in London, Paris, Berlin must be great to enjoy the LS. My wife and I would gladly participate in social events like the one you describe.

[discreetlys husband]

This would be fun. Wish our area had one.

[BritishCuckCpl]

I can certainly see how this might help a couple to transition into the hotwife or cuckold lifestyle.

By being able to discuss things with 'normal' people it makes the whole idea less scary, and less 'weirdo' or 'perverted'. It just normalises it, and shows it to be the fun and exciting thing it can be.

It's difficult if not impossible for us to find like minded people who share the same lifestyle in normal daily life especially because we're not living in a big city like you. Living in London, Paris, Berlin must be great to enjoy the LS. My wife and I would gladly participate in social events like the one you describe.

This would be fun. Wish our area had one.

That's exactly it, it removes any perception that it's strange people or something really weird. My wife really didn't expect to enjoy that first social but what she found were normal, nice people talking about the lifestyle, fun adventures and practical things like how they work around family and busy work lives. Sitting at the table while a hotwife talks about some bull she met with last week, the great time she had and some funny stories about the meeting, clearly remembering a fun time and seeing her cuck laughing along and seeing how it was really something they were enjoying. Then a bull just talking about why he enjoys the lifestyle, some fun adventures he's had. It demystifies it. Afterwards back in our own room she kept talking about some of the stories she'd heard and the characters we'd met, how nice they were. The next day she went to breakfast ahead of me since I had a work call to make but we met up after my call and she told me how she'd had breakfast with this bull we met last night and got his number, they were going to meet up for coffee since he often travels near our way with his work.

Actually after the social when back in our room it was clear she had some pangs of regret for missing out since those other wives went back to their rooms with bulls, she was the only one who came back to her room with her husband. After all the stories and seeing the flirting I could tell it was playing on her mind a bit which wasn't a bad thing.

We don't live in London, we had to drive about 90 minutes to get there and I sold it as a night away from family socialing but it had an impact and after that she had her own connections and interest in learning more.

A real advantage of living near London. There are few places where there are enough people that are willing to out themselves that way. How did you find the group?

How did you feel about outing yourself as a cuck? That is a huge step too.

Do you mean to my wife or other people?
It wasn't easy to come out to my wife about being a cuck but I can describe how I did it since it worked well for me. As for other people, it's only really people we've met in the scene who I've being open about being a cuck to and I never had a problem with that.

[Flyboy130]

It seems odd that a city the size of London wouldn't have more lifestyle meet and greets and/or lifestyle brick and mortar clubs. Here in Iowa of all places I can name four in our immediate area. In fact, my wife and I recently purchased a 125-year old, former tavern that we use to hold meet and greet parties.

Downstairs in the bar and patio areas its just a tavern (BYOB). A place for people to gather, hang-out, and openly be who they are. It also has a three-bedroom apartment upstairs, which offers guests the ability to avoid the "your place or mine" question should things progress beyond meet and greet.

None of these groups openly advertise for members. They all have a web presence, but you have to be invited into the group from another member to get access. Basically they are all word-of-mouth sort of groups.

If rural Iowa has several options, I would be shocked if London or its surroundings doesn't have many more, but I doubt they advertise either.

"First rule about fight club is, you don't talk about fight club."