Missing the cuck life

[gulfcoastguy2]

My wife was open to the hotwife life when we dated, but after marriage she stopped cold turkey. I miss it terribly, the knots in the stomach while she went on dates, sleeping alone in our bed while she stayed out all night. The memories give me such raging erections, like nothing else does. No amount of begging has worked and we have been married over 5 years. I’ve even considered divorce because of the “bait and switch “. But as I approach 60, that seems like a scary proposition. What to do….

[MarshaA]

I've heard this many times. It's sad, but it's normal.

[stonemtncouple]

You only have one life to live. And another unhappy year goes by, and another, and another. What are you waiting for?
Would she be ok with you having a girlfriend on the side a open marriage?

[isinlarsa]

You don't say how old your wife is, but there still may be hope. When I started dating my then-future wife, I was more than happy that she had been a bit promiscuous. For a while she even was getting fucked by another man on weekends we didn't date. I was looking forward to her continuing after we married.

However, after we married she decided she wanted to be monogamous. After years I was somewhat resigned to a monogamous marriage. Then when she was in her mid-40s, and after 16 years of marriage, she came to me and told me she wanted to date other men. She did for a number of years. So never say never.

[Rip_isback]

You only have one life to live. And another unhappy year goes by, and another, and another. What are you waiting for?

Ditto. You didn't really say anything about the aspects of your marriage but I think that we can agree that this is a pretty big issue. It's up to you to sort it out given the whole situation. It sounds like this may not change.

[BritishCuckCpl]

I don't think begging is the right way to approach it.

Honestly I'd suggest a weekend break together somewhere nice, some new surroundings and their just having a heart to heart about it.
Explain how important it is to you, it's ingrained in you, part of who you are and those feelings won't go away any more than you can change your skin or eye colour.

Find a compromise, somewhere to start. Roleplay in the bedroom, perhaps some social dates with other couples, bulls or cucks.
One thing I've found is that talking about the lifestyle can make it feel cold and removed and hard to relate to, it leaves lots of room for her imagination to fill in gaps with negative ideas such as bulls are all unattractive men, perverts and rapists, honestly women can concoct all kinds of weird ideas about what the lifestyle is. Meeting others in the lifestyle, whether meeting individuals in social settings or even better, groups of people in social settings strips away all those misguided imaginings and shows her that they are normal, nice, ordinary people.

I remember at our first social which was just in a bar setting, when she got to talk to other hotwives who were ordinary hard working mums like her, she realised they were having a great time in the scene and were normal nice people. She met cucks who were nice ordinary guys and of course she met bulls and realised they were nice and respectful guys. The whole atmosphere was friendly and ordinary and she came away with a whole new perspective on it saying "you know, that was a fun evening, when will they be organising another social?" and "actually, I think this is something that could work for us also".

[trecital]

Has she given you any reasons why she suddenly went cold on the hotwifing/cuckolding?