The rejection test for bulls

[firef503]

I have been a bull for a while and inadvertently been put through the rejection test. It's fairly simple for a cuckold couple to perform. When you are screening bulls you simply tell them, "hey thanks for your interest but we don't see this as a good fit" or "found someone else" or whatever. Potential bulls can talk a big game but when you test them with a little bit of rejection their true colors start to come out. Often this will show their worst side, their fragile ego, their false dom side being crushed. If you come back with a responds like, "well fuck off, I get way better than you, you are fat, ugly" or whatever. You know you made the right choice. Block them move on. If a bull comes back with, "well I'm sorry you feel that way best of luck to you and let me know if you change your mind." You have found someone that has shown emotional maturity. Someone that is more likely to be a true dom because they are not crushed by a little rejection. If you get this reply you can reel them back in later. Even tell them, "this was a test we do and you passed with flying colors so we actually would like to keep talking to you."

Ok yes I'm sure there will be a lot of comments, yes it's manipulative. But you can save a lot of wasted time on both parts and potential in a firestorm of drama just by a simple test. Yes you might get some good ones scared off by playing games. But in the long run you are potentially saving months of screening with one single sentence that has very effective results.

[unclecuck]

100% correct

[Dream Weaver]

In life the biggest scumbags will cry "manipulation". The one that drives me nuts (that society seems to think is 100% fine) is the cheater who cries when their phone is looked at, like anybody who pretends to be monogamous deserves privacy over the one items that often proves a cheater a cheater. It's like the phone is some sort of holy diary. It's absurd. Don't cheat, you'll have nothing to worry about when your partner gets curious.

[truesub]

I keep my phone locked securely at all times, because of having work related confidential materials in it. My wife understands and never pries. But then again, I have a hall pass from her (never used though).

[Wifesharing]

Not sure we ever used it for a test but your comments on the reactions is dead on right the bad ones we are happy we made the right choice. There has been more then one that responded with the sorry it don't work may if things change, that we have ended up coming back too and things working out.

[knight4princess]

I'm not sure we'll use your test as a prerequisite for guys, but we've certainly experienced the "raging bull" reaction following rejections. And you're right. We're glad we never met those idiots.

[routesman]

I think your test is tacky. But I will concede it will help you eliminate a lot of less than ideal bulls. I can also tell you it might eliminate some potentially ideal bulls.

I tend to work with a strike system and using this test would definitely earn you a strike. 3 strikes and I'm likely going to move on. I won't say that I'd absolutely move on, but there would have to be a damn good reason to make an exception to my rule.

Now I'm not saying you shouldn't do this... just be aware of the ramifications. There are easier ways to test bulls for have fragile egos that aren't nearly as... deceptive. Just talk to the bull and listen. Also, see if they're listening. If they don't seem to care about your wants and interests, they're likely the type of bull you don't want.

[firef503]

I think your test is tacky. But I will concede it will help you eliminate a lot of less than ideal bulls. I can also tell you it might eliminate some potentially ideal bulls.

I tend to work with a strike system and using this test would definitely earn you a strike. 3 strikes and I'm likely going to move on. I won't say that I'd absolutely move on, but there would have to be a damn good reason to make an exception to my rule.

Now I'm not saying you shouldn't do this... just be aware of the ramifications. There are easier ways to test bulls for have fragile egos that aren't nearly as... deceptive. Just talk to the bull and listen. Also, see if they're listening. If they don't seem to care about your wants and interests, they're likely the type of bull you don't want.

It's not necessarily the "best" way. different strokes for different folks. You are correct there will be collateral damage with good bulls as well. But it likely is the fastest.

[Bull4Oldrwives]

A Bull should never be anything but a complete gentleman. It's the right thing to do and it will rarely work against you. For a long time most of the couples I have dated have been either new to the lifestyle or returning after a long absence and are often unsure of themselves. Being a patient gentleman has never been a disadvantage. When I have been told by a couple that they don't think it is a good fit I politely thank them and always wish them well on their journey in the lifestyle and if they think I might have a view on something that could be helpful that they should not hesitate to reach out. In one situation it worked out very nicely where I had occasion to hear from a couple nearly a year after we had met. The wife had decided not to pull the trigger. Apparently, the itch had returned and in their pillow talk about taking another dip in the pool they went down the list of men they had met. She mentioned that I had been so polite and attentive to her during the several times we met. She told her husband that I made her feel like she was the most attractive woman in the room. He told me that then and there that he realized I was the one for her. we dated for a while before we became lovers but once the sex started it was incredible. We were together for five years.

[Austin316]

At the end of the day it's about common courtesy and being a decent human being. Manners cost nothing. They're not a proper Bull who understands anything about a couple's situation if they bite back and are rude just because they heard something that wasn't flattering.