My girlfriend and her interest in other men

[Freemans892]

Are you and Rie back to having PIV sex now that Big Mark has a girlfriend? It seemed to me a rule that Big Mark wanted to put in place when he basically lived with you guys almost full-time and now redundant with Big Mark having his own girlfriend? I also wondering how long will it be before he gets caught by girlfriend?

[Tolliver]

No I didn't get laid after the movie. Big Mark had wore her out. I did sit in the living room jacking off to vids of them on my phone while they had sex. Not moving into a new place. Once we get married our plan is to see how things go and maybe check the market for a house. Housing market is decent for buyers but the places I'd really want are still very expensive.

Update to our saga. She still texts big Mark but hasn't seen him in a few weeks. Jeff is her boyfriend now. She tells me if something happens Mark will most likely be back but she's enjoying her time with Jeff more so than she did with Mark. No weird antics where he's trying to pimp her out to other guys or get overly possessive. They just have a good time together. I've seen a few pics of her sucking his dick and he is very thick, esp at the base. She tells me she will literally suck his cock for an hour or more and he never gets tired of it. She will typically show up in a cute workout outfit as her stated excuse with me is that she's going to work out. The outfit typically comes off in the first 10 mins and they get down to business shortly thereafter. He fucks her more now too, still with condom. She jokes that if he wants to get her pregnant after our wedding she will be down there on hands and knees until he puts a baby in her.

One last thing. Debra, our head manager in the apt office, asked me if Rie and Mark broke up, as she hadn't seen him around in a while. She's older, probably 65 at least, and can be forward in conversation. I told her yes, they are taking a break. She asked me if Rie has a new boyfriend and I told her yes. She asked me about him and I was vague but forthcoming. Then asked me when the big date was and I told her our wedding is next Spring. Told me she wanted to have a chat with Rie sometime to find out what her secret was for pulling all this off. lol She then thanked me for the check and I left the office.

[subtoall]

One last thing. Debra, our head manager in the apt office, asked me if Rie and Mark broke up, as she hadn't seen him around in a while. She's older, probably 65 at least, and can be forward in conversation. I told her yes, they are taking a break. She asked me if Rie has a new boyfriend and I told her yes. She asked me about him and I was vague but forthcoming. Then asked me when the big date was and I told her our wedding is next Spring. Told me she wanted to have a chat with Rie sometime to find out what her secret was for pulling all this off. lol She then thanked me for the check and I left the office.

What a deliciously humiliating conversation. Liberating!

[OldChap]

Did you know Debra knew about you and Rie? Have you or Rie had anymore conversations with your sister about Rie being with other guys?

[Tolliver]

She had approached myself and Rie some time ago in the downstairs common area and mentioned that she saw Rie and Mark kissing in the parking lot by our car. She asked if the two of them were an item and RIe basically told her yes.

I've been avoiding my sister and haven't discussed it at all with her.

[Tolliver]

Things are largely the same. Rie hasn't seen Big Mark at all and visits Jeff regularly. New update though. She has still been coming with me to pickleball on the weekends and has in fact been talking to my coworker (I'm hesitant to type his name at this point but will call him B.), either inside the court where we play or out by the front desk just inside the main door. They don't always chat but about half the time he stops a bit early and goes and talks her up. At first I found it slightly hot and told her so, reminding her of my wish that she not actually "get to know him" too well. But looking back it was probably a mistake to confess what I did. She would say it's just innocent talking but they've traded numbers now and she confessed to me that he asked her out (full knowing we're engaged) which is a concern.

I told her we should talk about this and be very careful and not rush to a decision. I wanted to shoot it down outright but was worried she'd see him anyway, and we are having fun with this kink and not sure I'd be able to leave her just now if she went behind my back and did something.

I asked her if she is attracted to him and she said yes, and that it also gets her hot that he's a coworker and the situation is a turn-on for her. I am still intrigued at the fantasy level but anxious about having my fiance sleep with a coworker. He's not really a friend, and doesn't work on the same team as me, but I do see him regularly so would probably be awkward. Also he is friends with a guy that is on my team and if he hooked up with Rie would possibly share details with him.

[Geev]

Interesting thread. I've been going through it over the past few weeks. Looks like you were more or less molded into a cuck whereas I did most of the legwork to convince my g/f to begin having sex with one of HER coworkers, which she did. So some similarities and some differences to our stories. Have to know though. Did Rie hook up with your coworker?

[GuruTravelMonkey]

You are a good and realized cuckold—well done.
I for one look forward to hear how things have progressed for you both.
Congrats.

[Tolliver]

Geev. she did indeed get together with him last month. She told me last week after I asked. He stopped by and picked her up and they went to lunch at a fast food place nearby. Then he drove her to an old shopping center with no grocery store that's fairly dead most of the time and she sucked him off in the parking lot and of course swallowed for him before he brought her home. I was at work and didn't get home until a few hours later. She joked that she was a cheap date and told me he was already asking to see her again.

[Long Lurker 34]

Geev. she did indeed get together with him last month. She told me last week after I asked. He stopped by and picked her up and they went to lunch at a fast food place nearby. Then he drove her to an old shopping center with no grocery store that's fairly dead most of the time and she sucked him off in the parking lot and of course swallowed for him before he brought her home. I was at work and didn't get home until a few hours later. She joked that she was a cheap date and told me he was already asking to see her again.

T
- Come on man!!! AND you are.......???

[path22]

im waitting too !!!

[Tolliver]

I'm a ball of mixed emotions right now. My fiance just fooled around with another guy who happens to be a coworker that I see on the regular. Part of me is scared shtless and wants to run away. Another part is turned on like never before. I don't know whether to cancel the wedding or invite a group of coworkers over for football Sunday, leave the apt in the second half to go get some groceries and see if B. and his friend double team Rie while I'm gone. Yes I fantasized about this last night while having sex with her, but didn't mention it as it's fairly unlikely.

[BallSpanking]

Cancel the wedding???
Why?
Isn't she the one you want as your wife?

[Dream Weaver]

Man, she really gets around. I assume your co-worker is a friend or something? That's how she knows him? Or was it some random meetup? A fluke?

If it is jeopardizing your means of earning an income and you are basically supporting her (does she work?), that's a serious problem for both of you. It's all fun and games until you get blackballed at work.

[Rogueuser1]

Take a deep breath and calm down - it is going to be ok.

If you think she went too far then you need to talk about it with her and set some ground rules. Chances are if you are jerking off or fantasizing about it you don't really think she went too far you are just scared. Take some time to slow down and think about it and then decide what is best for the two of you together.

[Jeremie11231]

Thanks for the update!

I can see why you would be feeling anxious and uncomfortable.
My impressions from everything you've wrote from the beginning:

1) Rie really cares about you and loves you and wants you as her main partner, and you are critically integral to her interest in other men and just the whole situation.

2) Rie kind of sits at the edge of not being totally in control of her desires and urges, and acts impulsively. Yes, she clearly has wanted to groom and train you into being a cuck, but also the way that went down was not planned in some detached way -- she had some drinks at concerts and just got swept away into hooking up with guys who were interested in her. And same with Big Mark - going over to watch that movie with him and having something unplanned happening -- pushing you into new territory, having some confidence that with a little help and nudging, you'd adjust. And you did. Ideally, for big things that are really not okay with you, she'd be able to pause and stay within some discussed boundaries. She did do that at first, like when you asked her not to sleep over at Big Mark's place, and she did. For a while. So she is capable of that. But I think she probably also has such a high level of sexual need and desire, combined with impulsiveness and boldness in moving forward with a situation that comes up, that probably being with her means you would have to accept things happening that aren't exactly what you expected or wanted. In fact, I bet she has been with boyfriends before you who just couldn't handle that. And it probably scares her to lose boyfriends because she just cannot control her desire for other men. That's why I think she really *needs* a cuck-inclined man to be her life partner, and part of why she is so attached to you. She won't ever just completely ignore your input, but also she is probably not capable of sticking strictly to some plan or boundary, either -- at least not in the long run.

3) I think Rie craves to see you in uncomfortable situations and dilemmas. I think she wants to see you paralyzed in your angst. And then to see how you end up doing nothing to stop what is happning, and ultimately accept it. *Not because she is cruel or unloving or uncaring* - but because she loves you and loves to see the part of you that is soft and yielding to her will and to her sexuality. I think that while she loves certain aspects of men who are very dominant and a “stud” to her (like Big Mark), she just as much has a need to see a man surrendering and showing his accepting side. It’s endearing to her, and it’s sexy to her – enough that she wants to marry you. And all along she gravitates toward situations and actions that bring that out of you by putting you in these situations where she can see that side of you. Each time you surrender your pride, you are strengthening the bond she shares with you and becoming more and more hers.