I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic

[mundyman]

Hey all,

I haven't posted as frequently lately, and that's been somewhat intentional, and somewhat just not sure if I want to continue. And when I say not continue, I mean writing on here as much as I mean the lifestyle and our game. My wife has gone further than I would have ever imagined. She's been gone more than she's been at home lately, and I've been sleeping with Joanna almost every night. But while this might seem a dream, it's become something of a nightmare, and I know I need to end it all. The question is how.

The other night I received a new video, taken from my wife's phone and sent to me by someone who was filming her being fucked. She was being taken by four men. Her eyes were glazed over in lust, appearing completely delirious. The phone was moved to the person who was fucking her from behind. She was on her hands and knees, sucking a guys cock while this guy was burying his cock in her ass. From the cameras view, I could see Jaimee's back, and I saw that she had new tattoos. I small intricate chain running from the nap of her neck down the center of her spine. As I followed the chain back to her neck and looked closer, I saw another tattoo. The camera jostled and moved away, but not before I saw the word "LEXI" just below her hairline.

It all became too much at that point. I realized how lost in lust we both were, and if we didn't make a change, my wife would be too far gone to come back to me. There's a part of me that worries she might already be there. But I won't be letting go that easy. One way or another, we'll come out on the other side of all of this. It's time we focus on things that actually matter. Our kids, our families, the things that will be with us for longer than an orgasm or two, the things of actual substance and good. It's time we right the ship and castoff the chains of lust that fog our minds and our feelings of love toward each other.

I'm tired of letting lust control so much of my thoughts and energy. It's time to make a change.

This probably isn't the kind of erotic reading people want, but it's where I'm at. I want to accomplish more than what I'm doing now. And while I'd like to think that we can 'lightly' play the game in the future. It seems we're incapable of half measures. One way or another, we always end up in the deep end of the pool.

I wish all of you the best. For myself, I want to find a better path. There has to be more to life than what we've been doing the last number of years. We have a beautiful family, we live in a nice place (politics aside) and we have so much potential for a great future. But not if we stay our current course. I'm off to fix the things that aren't working for us anymore. I have a lot of work to do.

Thanks for the update Ky. It does indeed sound like her anchor needs to be an anchor and stop things where they are and give you two a chance to come back to each other and your senses.
Given her rather snippy and impatient responses the last times you wanted to talk about your current activities and how she was pissed b/c you told her she was in control this time, I’m certain this is going to be a heated and angry conversation. Unless of course the same thoughts have begun to creep into her mind.

I hope you return to tell us things are going and how these discussions are going. You’ve developed quite a following here and a group of people who are quite invested in your story and have been supporting you and Jaimie all this time. I think it’s fair to say we are just as interested in how you intend to pullback and reset your relationship with Jaimie, and if she is willing to go along with it.

I hope you stick to your guns, as the saying goes, when Jaimie begins to push back strongly against you putting a stop to her activities.
And beware the “ I want one more get together with Sipho and the guys before I stop” as you have to know that won’t end well.

Good luck Ky. I am truly hoping for the best for all of you. Please keep,us update.

[mick_flow]

Hey Ky, the beauty of writing things down is the art of reflection. If you don’t feel like sharing, please keep writing. I recently purchased a journal app to do just that. To give me the space to think.

Everyone’s balance is different, and I think most of us who have been around the lifestyle for a couple of years or more have found our own personal edge.

When I found my edge I posted here, and honestly found great support. I believe that thread is long gone - but you kindly offered advice. Thank you.

The balance you strike will be right one for you guys.

Looking ahead to what might be, is a good way to process what’s going on, a great reflection opportunity.

I can see some deep conversations with Jaimee coming up. From what you’ve said in the past, when you’ve asked her for a honest chat and used a safe word she’s been right there with you. I’m sure she will again.

Take care, stay calm. You guys will get through this. I know we are all rooting for you

[scdiver]

You have a fight that will last years. Jaimee has been brainwashed by a master. My advice is to get out of England and move back to the USA immediately.
I don't envy the pain you are going through. Please write and let us know how you are doing.
Jaimee is going to need years of therapy to undo the brainwashing Sipho has done
I am praying for you.

[path22]

Dear Ky, I am not a big commenter on forums, but I have read all of your posts. I think your story is a reality that you are surfing over time. You have gone through all kinds of highs, obviously I am not the one who can tell you what to do, since you are the only one who knows the whole reality of your life with Jaimee/Lexi. I think that you have always made the right decisions in these more than ten years and I don't think this time is the exception. Maybe you think this time is different, deeper, but you have already overcome things that are perhaps worse, like the birth of your first children. You and Jaimee are made for each other and you will find the right way to get the train back on track. I hope to continue receiving your updates to continue understanding the human brain. This site has been a great escape for you in many circumstances. Sometimes reading twenty different opinions helps you understand or find a small solution. Good luck, Ky.

[venus-can99]

Wish you the best in righting the ship Ky and getting to things are are precious to both of you. Hope you do update us once the dust has settled and you can look back at the “game” and plan for the future with your wonderful family

[scdiver]

You will probably not read this, but I am going to give you some advice. I will not mince words.
1. Grow a backbone. If you make a threat to Jaimee, don't make it an empty threat. Take action on that threat.
2. Get the kids out of the house. See if they can stay with Jaimee's mom for a while.
3. Decide on which woman you really want. Joanna will provide a stable and loving home for you and the kids that Jaimee won't be able too for some time to come.
I suspect that you will choose Jaimee. If so you must get Joanna out of the house. You can only have one woman.
4. Get a restraining order so that what you do next will be legal.
5. Shock Jaimee with the restraining order, no kids in the house, and your safe word all at the same time. Let her know that if she goes out again, that you will change the locks and put her clothes outside. She will fight you and go anyway. You need to follow through on your threat.

Jaimee has an addiction that is just as powerful as alcohol, drugs, or gambling. Only tuff love may overcome this addiction.
I lost my battle all those years ago, but I won by finding my true love that I have been married to for over 40 years.
For Jaimee to stay with you, insist that she removes any and all of Siphos slave tattoos and that clit jewelry. That jewelry is constantly tapping on Jaimee's clit and driving her nuts.
I would also insist on therapy for both of you.
Please don't stop writing. There are so many of us that are here for you and not just for masturbation material.
And again I want to add, get away from Sipho. Move back to the US. Do this as soon as possible. Next week even. It is vital to get Jaimee away from her source of addiction.
Good luck, you will need it.

[elina]

Thank you Ky,

I fully understand your thinking.

Sometimes things can get just get to "just too much".
I can relate and understand how you now feel it is time to make serious changes.
At the same time, I also know how these emotions can change. If you have been sleeping with Joanna more or less every night now, I wonder if you are now in a constant "post-nut"-clarity state???

However, whatever you decide, and whatever you agree with Jaime to do, PLEASE do not just stop posting here!

I am not looking for any lengthy juicy details but I truly long to follow your path going forward to see how you proceed out of this situation, or fall back in?

I am a romantic at heart, hoping to see that you can get Jaime to subdue Her alter-ego-Lexi for the two of you to rediscover your love, or maybe discovering a different state of loving relationship. Also, I would love to see you help Joanna move on in life. She for sure is a good person...

Sincerely
elina

[veub]

There is really no reason for the hand-wringing on this thread. We all know what is going to happen.
There will be a defining moment of some kind and Ky and Jaimee will end with Sipho. It might be Ky hooking up with Joanna and Jaimee is pissed about it despite her pushing. Maybe another pregnancy. Maybe some major body alteration - new tits perhaps or just a tattoo that is always visible. Most likely, Sipho gets bored and tosses her away saying the contract has ended.
Then it will be a discussion about how they need to rebuild their relationship and focus on the kids. She will get all the tats removed, except one that will serve to remind her and Ky about this time. She'll probably keep the QOS tattoo.
Finally, Ky will stop posting for a year or so and the cycle will repeat with something a little more intense.

Well, I was wrong about Sipho being bored but otherwise this story is ending the same way as all his other tales.

[wannabecUKold]

Hey all,

I haven't posted as frequently lately, and that's been somewhat intentional, and somewhat just not sure if I want to continue. And when I say not continue, I mean writing on here as much as I mean the lifestyle and our game. My wife has gone further than I would have ever imagined. She's been gone more than she's been at home lately, and I've been sleeping with Joanna almost every night. But while this might seem a dream, it's become something of a nightmare, and I know I need to end it all. The question is how.

The other night I received a new video, taken from my wife's phone and sent to me by someone who was filming her being fucked. She was being taken by four men. Her eyes were glazed over in lust, appearing completely delirious. The phone was moved to the person who was fucking her from behind. She was on her hands and knees, sucking a guys cock while this guy was burying his cock in her ass. From the cameras view, I could see Jaimee's back, and I saw that she had new tattoos. I small intricate chain running from the nap of her neck down the center of her spine. As I followed the chain back to her neck and looked closer, I saw another tattoo. The camera jostled and moved away, but not before I saw the word "LEXI" just below her hairline.

It all became too much at that point. I realized how lost in lust we both were, and if we didn't make a change, my wife would be too far gone to come back to me. There's a part of me that worries she might already be there. But I won't be letting go that easy. One way or another, we'll come out on the other side of all of this. It's time we focus on things that actually matter. Our kids, our families, the things that will be with us for longer than an orgasm or two, the things of actual substance and good. It's time we right the ship and castoff the chains of lust that fog our minds and our feelings of love toward each other.

I'm tired of letting lust control so much of my thoughts and energy. It's time to make a change.

This probably isn't the kind of erotic reading people want, but it's where I'm at. I want to accomplish more than what I'm doing now. And while I'd like to think that we can 'lightly' play the game in the future. It seems we're incapable of half measures. One way or another, we always end up in the deep end of the pool.

I wish all of you the best. For myself, I want to find a better path. There has to be more to life than what we've been doing the last number of years. We have a beautiful family, we live in a nice place (politics aside) and we have so much potential for a great future. But not if we stay our current course. I'm off to fix the things that aren't working for us anymore. I have a lot of work to do.

Thanks for the update Ky_Da.

This is a very far-gone position for Jaimee. I can’t see that she can pull herself out of it by herself. I suspect that she needs to be dragged away by others. She needs to be prevented from returning to Sipho. I suspect you’re going to have to bring her family into it.

I wonder where this leaves you. You are sleeping most nights with Joanna. I can imagine that you are thinking of staying with her. Life is much easier. It is a family life. It’s not a life of open sex, nor one of shock and extremes. You must be asking yourself whether Jaimee can ever get back to such a life. She’s always been a bit extreme. Is it worth giving Joanna up, on the off chance that Jaimee will give up the life of sex and drugs? You couldn’t be sure of it.

Plainly you’re going to have to give Jaimee an ultimatum. This must not go on, for anyone’s sake.

[rascalnvixen]

I admire your desire to get your family back to more of what it was before Sipho!!! But, honestly, I think Jaimee will have a very difficult time in letting Lexi go away. I have a concern that Lexi will always be with her from now on and she will crave that experience even if she doesn't express it to you verbally. Maybe you can help her in her withdrawal by finding some similar parties to take her to for just an evening to let her relive her extreme experiences. You know she will always crave wanting to be bound and gang banged by many men at the same time. Maybe giving her some latitude with that for just small time frames under your supervision will help her adjust. Just be aware, some of those folks in those situations might want to drag her down that rabbit hole again for their own needs. Maybe do this in another town/city where their influence isn't so strong. These are just some of my wonderings in hoping your get what you want for your family again!!! Good luck and please let us know how it all goes for you.

Rascal

[mick_flow]

Thank you Ky,

I fully understand your thinking.

Sometimes things can get just get to "just too much".
I can relate and understand how you now feel it is time to make serious changes.
At the same time, I also know how these emotions can change. If you have been sleeping with Joanna more or less every night now, I wonder if you are now in a constant "post-nut"-clarity state???

However, whatever you decide, and whatever you agree with Jaime to do, PLEASE do not just stop posting here!

I am not looking for any lengthy juicy details but I truly long to follow your path going forward to see how you proceed out of this situation, or fall back in?

I am a romantic at heart, hoping to see that you can get Jaime to subdue Her alter-ego-Lexi for the two of you to rediscover your love, or maybe discovering a different state of loving relationship. Also, I would love to see you help Joanna move on in life. She for sure is a good person...

Sincerely
elina

This is good advice. Think about what you really want. Deep down Ky wanted this, and it is basically what Sipho said would happen.

Long term, sure you can do this in a way that balances family? - Sure! But it is a balance.

All experiences change people. We are not the same today that we were yesterday. That’s ok. We can’t roll back the clock, we can’t uns the milk.

That doesn’t mean our partners don’t love us. It doesn’t mean that they don’t want a strong family.

I get the impression that it’s the post nut clarity, coupled with the sense of distance to jaimee that has scared ky. I get that, been there got the t-shirt.

I hope the ship rights itself.

[citms2022]

Hi Ky! Haven't commented on your story at any point, just enjoyed reading what you've shared. I wish you strength in the challenge ahead. I feel like writing has probably been helpful for you prior to these struggles, and I hope it will continue to be, whether you share that writing or not. It is a great way to reflect and remember. And while you've struggled with sharing the more 'mundane' portions of your story in the past, I think they are even more valuable than the 'fun' parts. Best of luck to you and your family.

[sabya167]

It's best to get Sipho out of your lives... the sooner the better.... he seduced both of you. Addiction, mind control, manipulation, hypnotism, tantrik voodoo inks and tattoos and jewelry, slutting, sex slave, BDSM... you don't really need them, KY, to satisfy your " hunger for the next level". Maybe you needed to explore that avenue for the sake of variety of experience. Maybe you needed to experience it once . You have been there. Now things are getting out of hand. It's the right time to pull Jaimee back. She needs help against this Master tantrik voodoo hypnosis manipulator. I suspect she can't stop on her own. BUT SHE WANTS TO. Save her KY. Remember her slap when you wanted to end it with Derrick? And you stayed and pulled her away from him. That day I respected you because YOU FOUGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE. Do it again KY. Whatever it takes. To hell with rules and deals and contracts. Go till the end of the road and beyond, if need be. Drag her away....WHATEVER IT TAKES.

[coastalkid]

Thanks for the update. I totally understand your reluctance to wanting to post. From the tone of your last post I get that you're focused on how to pull things back. Jaimee being gone more than she's home is not good for the family. Even more formidable is her inability to moderate her desire and discretion. The Lexi tattoo will be with her as a constant reminder for you and her. I didn't catch it, but it didn't sound like she consulted with you regarding the new tattoos.

Your whole agreement/contract/time period thing with Sipho has been a test. It seems like you've figured out that Sipho's path is too much to handle for you both. If it clouds your thoughts Ky then there are other aspects of your day to day life that have to be suffering. The whole thing has to lost some of its appeal. Seeing videos of her like a porn star drunk with lust and not being surprised by her behavior has to be an "in your face" dose of reality. I can only imagine the thoughts tumbling around in your head about having the conversation with Jaimee. If she says she wants to continue and she knows you don't that will be a crusher!

You're right you have a lot to do. I hope you can pull things back to center. I'm pulling for you, I'm sure there are plenty of others too!

[David52]

Hi Ky. I’m so sorry things have gone sideways. Like most here, I don’t feel qualified to offer any advice but I have been thinking about where you are with things.

1. Sipho. Was your trust misplaced? I assume you, Jamiee and Sipho have talked and he understands your misgivings and concerns. You have consistently indicated that he was doing no more than what he said he would do and that he was not a threat to your family or marriage. You have said that you even like the guy. But you have not said much about Jaimee’s relationship with Sipho beyond sex. They spend much time together during the week between work and evening play. It is hard to believe anyone can have intense multi player sex four nights a week. Do they travel together to art installations, openings, studios? Make dinner and watch TV at Sipho’s? If he loves and cares for Jaimee why would he promote or at least accept her self-destructive behavior in the face of your resistance if not to drive a wedge between you and Jaimee? I have suspected he introduced Joanna initally in order to get you out of the picture.
2. Joanna. Can a cuck really have two women? Since I started reading your thread years ago, I have never understood how you can have such an active life and sex life with three young children. For me and many having children is such an exhausting blessing that it effectively kills desire. We suspended play for 10 years while we raised our kids. Obviously, Joanna relieves Jaimee of much of her child care responsibility. Again, four nights a week away? Jaimee must need her three days home to just recover. Jaimee can’t be holding up her parental role and this must be a major source of conflict. It breaks my heart (as I’m sure it does yours) to think of the time Jamiee cannot get back with her young children. Hearing this from you probably makes her angry. The other sword edge is your relationship with Joanna. Joanna does not just care for your children, she cares for you also. When your story gets out to family and beyond, you will be seen in a worse light than Jaimee. Women’s explore outside marriage, men are just cheaters. I think you knew the risks of your relationship with Joanna when it was presented to you by Jaimee. You must face it now. Relationships especially cuckold relationships absolutely require consent. What happens if you withdraw your consent?
3. Jamiee. What can you do? You have been given some good suggestions to consider. None of us can give you any real advice. I know you have been determined to stick it out until your Florida trip in June but it now looks like you can’t wait. It seems Jamiee (and Sipho?) has refused to honor your request to stop the escalation. Can you and Jamiee get away for a time immediately? Are you prepared for an intervention? Would Jamiee’s friends and family be supportive in a constructive way? An intervention would be dangerous with many possible unintended outcomes possible. Would Jamiee ever agree to therapy (for both of you?)
4. Ky. You have been clear that you want a loving family and that you will fight to recover it. I wish there was something your loyal readers here could do to help. But, we are invested in your story and want only the best for all of you. You are a talented writer. Focus your talents on documenting your personal path, not so much on what you think your readers want to see.

With respect and admiration, David

[veub]

Hi Ky. I’m so sorry things have gone sideways. Like most here, I don’t feel qualified to offer any advice but I have been thinking about where you are with things.

1. Sipho. Was your trust misplaced? I assume you, Jamiee and Sipho have talked and he understands your misgivings and concerns. You have consistently indicated that he was doing no more than what he said he would do and that he was not a threat to your family or marriage.

IIRC, what Sipho said that this was just the beginning: Jaimee would "grow" into a "legend" in the following years. Is that compatible with a family life even if Ky is her "anchor?" On the point of Sipho always referring to Ky as her "anchor," remember that an anchor is a dead weight that keeps a boat from moving. Is he really saying that Ky is the dead weight Jaimee will have to let go off to realize her full potential?

I have suspected he introduced Joanna initally in order to get you out of the picture.

I said that weeks ago and Ky discounted it. I still think that it is obvious she was placed there to pacify Ky.

I have never understood how you can have such an active life and sex life with three young children. . . . Jaimee can’t be holding up her parental role and this must be a major source of conflict. It breaks my heart (as I’m sure it does yours) to think of the time Jamiee cannot get back with her young children.

When only one person in the relationship is having that "active life and sex life" the other has plenty of time to care for the children. As to the parental role, it didn't seem to bother anyone when she was spending all her time with Matt and playing mommy to his kids. I just don't think they are or have ever been a concern.

Relationships especially cuckold relationships absolutely require consent. What happens if you withdraw your consent?

Why should this relationship require consent? Ky voluntarily gave up any right to consent when they started this. Likely she will just ignore him because she has to grow into a legend.

Jamiee. What can you do?

What he probably should do is pack up the kids, take them to the US and start over. But, as in all his stories, there will be a tearful reconciliation and a year later they will move on to another adventure.

I know you ave been determined to stick it out until your Florida trip in June but it now looks like you can’t wait. It seems Jamiee (and Sipho?) has refused to honor your request to stop the escalation.

Remember that there is no end date to the agreement with Sipho. That agreement is expected to continue for years. The only think that ends soon is the ban on Ky having sex with Jaimee.

Ky. You have been clear that you want a loving family and that you will fight to recover it.

If he really cared about that he wouldn't have started down the road with Sipho. Before that he could pretend that he and the kids mattered or that the family mattered to him but once he agreed to Sipho's terms he could not longer pretend.

[scdiver]

Ky,
I see you have checked this thread today. Please if you read this, drop a short line to let us know what is happening. There's a lot of us that really care about you.
I know that there is a lot of pain in your life right now.
Keep fighting for Jaimee, but don't let her control the outcome. An addict cannot think straight.
I pray for you.

[veub]

An addict cannot think straight.

The problem is that there are two addicts - both of them crave this more than anything else in life.

[scdiver]

Veub

I feel even to the detriment of their kids.

[tojanman]

Veub

I feel even to the detriment of their kids.

I feel that is unfair to Ky. He has been there for his kids the whole time.

[txrockdog]

Veub

I feel even to the detriment of their kids.

I feel that is unfair to Ky. He has been there for his kids the whole time.

Agree whole heartedly. His concern for his family has figured prominently in his thoughts and decisions at many steps along the way.

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

So I started reading from page one of this thread again. In the very first post Ky made there is this:


“Ky,” she began, “If we start again, I’m not sure I’ll be able to stop. Each time it’s gotten harder and harder to stop… “ she paused in thought for a long minute, “If we decide to play again, and if we push the game further, I don’t know if there will be any coming back from it—I just have this feeling deep down that we’ve been playing a game where we are trying to jump into the water and only get a part of us wet, but each time we play, we get wetter… thinking about it now, it feels like we’re jumping into the deep end of the pool.”

I didn’t sleep much that night. I laid awake thinking about what my wife had said—I felt the same way—like something significant had just changed, only it was hard to quantify. When morning finally came, I told her I wanted to play again. It took some serious soul searching, but this is who I am and this is what I need.



So from the very beginning they spoke of how this could be something that they could not come back from, something that would change their marriage, relationship, themselves.

I would not be shocked in the least bit if Ky succumbs to this lifestyle and goes all in with Lexi and together they continue down this road with Sipho. And I mean all in as in getting his ass fucked side by side with Lexi. Sucking black cock right along with her. Maybe even get a few tattoos himself like "Lil Bitch" or "Slave" or "Property of Sipho". Get totally owned.

Wouldn't be surprised at all. The addiction is so strong. Lexi is already at a point of no return. Ky isn't far behind

[veub]

Veub

I feel even to the detriment of their kids.

I feel that is unfair to Ky. He has been there for his kids the whole time.

How can he "be there for his kids" when he consented to and encouraged her to go deeper and deeper into this situation? He has encouraged her and Sipho in everything they have done without concern, just so he can get his rocks off.

[mundyman]

So I started reading from page one of this thread again. In the very first post Ky made there is this:


“Ky,” she began, “If we start again, I’m not sure I’ll be able to stop. Each time it’s gotten harder and harder to stop… “ she paused in thought for a long minute, “If we decide to play again, and if we push the game further, I don’t know if there will be any coming back from it—I just have this feeling deep down that we’ve been playing a game where we are trying to jump into the water and only get a part of us wet, but each time we play, we get wetter… thinking about it now, it feels like we’re jumping into the deep end of the pool.”

I didn’t sleep much that night. I laid awake thinking about what my wife had said—I felt the same way—like something significant had just changed, only it was hard to quantify. When morning finally came, I told her I wanted to play again. It took some serious soul searching, but this is who I am and this is what I need.



So from the very beginning they spoke of how this could be something that they could not come back from, something that would change their marriage, relationship, themselves.

I would not be shocked in the least bit if Ky succumbs to this lifestyle and goes all in with Lexi and together they continue down this road with Sipho. And I mean all in as in getting his ass fucked side by side with Lexi. Sucking black cock right along with her. Maybe even get a few tattoos himself like "Lil Bitch" or "Slave" or "Property of Sipho". Get totally owned.

Wouldn't be surprised at all. The addiction is so strong. Lexi is already at a point of no return. Ky isn't far behind

I do not see your ending, rather it will either be some type of separation, or Ky not wanting to break up his family learns to live with Jaimie’s slutty ways until Sipho kicks her raggedy used up ass to the curb and replaces her with a newer model with fewer miles. This lifestyle has got to be taking a toll on her body….
At that point Ky will probably have her back and try to patch together as much of a relationship with her as possible. You see it quite often with addicts and their enablers.
I saw it with my parents as my mom struggled with my father’s alcoholism….

[scdiver]

First of all you need to remember that my first wife and I went down a similar path in the late 70's and early 80's. My ex-wife and I destroyed our family with the lust and sex that went on. The damage we did ultimately caused my daughter to commit suicide. The kids always know more than what you think they do.
Ky, Jaimee and Joanna have been having deviant sex in the open thinking the kids were asleep. Ky can not watch for his kids correctly when Jaimee is getting ass fucked in his lap.
What Ky wrote about is just a small sampling of what went on in that house.
Now let's talk about Jaimee's sex and slave tattoos. Jaimee can't hide them fully from the kids as shown where Ky got propositioned by a client when Jaimee brought the kids to his work. This won't effect the kids now as they are too young to know what they.have seen. Believe me when I say that they have long memories and when they get older they will find out the meaning of those tattoos and it won't be good. Only Joanna has been there for the kids as Ky and Jaimee have been too wrapped up in Jaimee's activities. Even Joanna has not put the kids first by having sex with Ky. No parent in that house has been a good role model in the kids most formative years.
Ky and mostly Jaimee have a bad sex addiction. Any addiction if left uncontrolled will in one way or another destroy the addicted. That's a fact. The only way for Ky to gain control of their addiction is to get away from the source of that addiction. As long as they live in London, Sipho will have a powerful pull on Jaimee. A pull that Jaimee will not be able to resist.
I feel that Sipho's brain washing removed all of Jaimee's morals and self control under the excuse of being Lexi. When Jaimee got sexually tortured while being told what to think then got a huge orgasmic relief when she agreed with Sipho. Then gets cuddled showing love and safety, well I don't think anyone can resist that especially someone that wants those sessions.
I think that Sipho told Ky what Ky wanted to hear all the while stealing Jaimee right out from under him
Three things tell me this
1. Sipho told Ky that Jaimee will be Jaimee when at home but all other times will be known as Lexi
2. Sipho told Ky that he felt that Jaimee belonged to Ky but Lexi belonged to him. If Jaimee acts as Lexi most of the time, what is there left for Ky.
3. Lexi keeps Siphos balls drained so Sipho went exclusive to Jaimee.
Ky was so wrapped up in his cuckold lust that he missed these signs. Hell, Sipho even invited Ky to use his safe word and Ky wouldn't even though Ky knew he should.
Ky, Jaimee and Joanna are in for years of pain, and it will only get worse if Ky stays around Sipho.