Who pitched the idea? And how was it received?

[saunder]

Neither of us pitched the idea, she knew I was interested, but it was never pursued until a scenario happened by chance and it developed from there.

[hubudig2]

I know the results are skewed by the nature of this forum but there isn't a single "She pitched the idea, he still isn't willing".
I've also never known a woman with this fantasy to have much trouble getting her boyfriend/husband into the idea.
Has any guy considered themselves against the idea up until the moment she started suggesting it?
I would be interested to hear how that happened.
A few posts touched on it already:

Hotwifing was my idea. Cuckolding was hers.
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Me becoming a cuckold was her choice. I happily acquiesced, but I never thought, "I want to be a cuckold." I don't think we ever fantasized it in all of our years of fantasy play.

I've told this story before, but she pitched the idea I guess.

We were in a sex shop looking for toys when the clerk approached and asked Marla if she needed help finding anything. Marla asked if they carried cock cages. Well short version, I was in a cage within a week and watching her blow guys within a couple of months.

TO

In fact (and that was the reality) my wife pitched the idea.
Once (and a long time ago) we were fucking.
Then she asked me if I ever thought during fucking if I imagined fucking another woman then.
No was my answer because I was very satisfied with her.
But of course I asked her the same question.
Yes I did, she said, more than once.
But she refused to tell me who was her choice.

I imagine the vast majority of men in the general population would consider themselves against the idea but I always wonder how many of them could be "seduced" into liking the idea if their wives wanted it.
If there were to be a popular book or something (like 50 shades) that convinced most women that they wanted to try cuckolding, how many husbands would find themselves willing?

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum saunder.

[sw6]

she did
we were on a walk around the lake
she suggested there are guys who would hop on a plane to come do her
I was intrigued

[NSEW1]

she did
we were on a walk around the lake
she suggested there are guys who would hop on a plane to come do her
I was intrigued

That’s awesome. I’ve heard a twist of this in which the wife says, “there’s a guy at work who wants to hop on me and take me for a ride.”

[Reno1]

It seems to me, that in all the experience that I have had in wife sharing, the wife really does have to want to fuck other men, and you have to let her know it’s alright with you. These are not easy things. A wife who wants to make a life with you considers that for her to fuck another guy, and you to find out, would be the end of things for you. And hearing you saying that you want her to do it is equally frightening to her, and you.
If you are lucky enough to have a wife who will cheat and fuck another man, and then confess it to you is really rare. But my wife’s friends have admitted to her about the other men they are fucking and their husbands never know. So at least some guys have it going on now. But you must just leave the idea out there and let her decide if she wants to take it further.
I let her go out on her own and fuck guys that she wanted to, and then showed her how much I enjoyed her doing it.
It all sounds backwards but I think many, if not most wives would do it if they really knew it would make your marriage better. A more likely problem will be you.
Also if you want to interest one of your male friends in fucking your wife, they will usually say no at first, but always come back and do it after they think about it a while.