How has your relationship type evolved over time?

[toreaddave]

So you two already openly fantasized about it in bed with each other but she still cheated?

Yes. It was basically a matter where we enjoyed fantasizing/role playing in bed but she wasn’t sure I would actually be ok with her being a hot wife.

Interesting. How did the fantasy get brought up in bed and what was the discussion like after you found she cheated?

I had actually brought the fantasy up in bed while dating, telling her about my previous hot wife (RIP). Actually found out about the cheating after she had told me she was meeting an ex boyfriend who was going to be in town for a couple of nights for dinner and we planned her outfit.

I see. Sorry for your loss, RIP.

[PANTIES]

It started one night when I asked her since we have been married have you meet anyone who would want to get in tour panties. When she said, yes and told me who all I could say was for it it. Wow did she ever. Later when she meet a different lover and this guy became the male in life I was told to move out of our bedroom and to use the guest bedroom. I have been there submissive and sleeping in that bedroom since March 2019.

Pauline

Very hot. Was it your wife or your wife's lover who suggested you move out of the bedroom?

I found out it was her lover telling her he was the only man allowed in her bed. I cried for several months because Neil I got used to sleeping alone.

Pauline

[Johnann2227]

We started dating at 19ish (me)/18ish(Ann) and were monogamous. Both had had other lovers before. About a year into our relationship we had a drunken night while camping with friends and haf a surprise 4some. After a lot of talk the next day (where we found out they were into swinging), we decided we enjoyed it and played with them weekly. After about 6 months they took us to a swingers club where we played in a group room with a number of couples. We were all in. After a few years we decided on an open marriage (and to live as nudists at home) where either of us could fuck others we met on a night out or could date people we met. We did that through our marriage until our kids were old enough to start questioning where was mummy/daddy at breakfast? We kept swing though even if it every 3 weeks or so. We then evolved into Ann hotwifing when she was late 30s. We both loved it. I have always loved sharing her and giving her the most pleasure has always been my aim. Now in our late 40s Ann is in her sexual peak. We swing weekly with a group of 5 other couples (who we have been together with over 20 years). Ann has regular boyfriends. She usually dates 2 days per week (Tuesdays and Fridays). Recently our 20 year old daughter and 17 year old son found out that we are swingers and Ann is a hotwife. After a lot of family discussion they accept it and are supportive. They wish us a fun night when we are leaving for our Saturday night group party. Our daughter helps her mother get ready for dates. Only our family and most of our vanilla friends do not know.

Your daughter helping her mother get ready is...wow! Are you familiar with FamilyCuckold's thread?

Hi,
Yes it is awesome not having to sneak around at home anymore. Our kids took the swinging well and the hotwifing was an add on. Our daughter is especially interested and flipped when Ann told her she was bisexual. Our daughter has since come out to us as bi and that she has had FFM threesomes with her friends.
We haven't heard of the family cuckold stream. Will have to look it up, thanks.

[Cdncuck]

My wife and I discussed her fucking other guys when we were dating before we ever had sex. The fear she would leave was extreme but whatever this is, it's part of who I am. It's not going away. It was difficult but it got done.

Much to my shock and surprise, rather than being offended or angry she was curious and even excited about the idea. She has a high sex drive. Perhaps that had something to do with her attitude.

Once we started having sex, we were monogamous for a few months. Then we tried mfm, she continued to do mfm but also began dating other guys without me there. We were married 2 years later. We continued with mfm and her dating activities but we tried swinging.

We both loved it and that was all we did for a couple of years, then she began dating on her own again. She took a job as a server in a bar and she had lots of opportunity. After we were married about 6 years she became more dominant and moved us into a cuckold relationship.

How did the topic of fucking other guys come up?

When it got to the point the relationship was becoming more serious, I told her before it went any further there were some things she should know about me. Then I told her about my sexual interests.

[Caribwaters]

Monogamous for the first 7 years, then her cheating, then honesty, then discussion and agreement on an open marriage, but for only her, then a full fledged cuckold, that evolved into FLM. She has enjoyed 6 lovers over the years, 3 of them long term relationships.

Sounds like you two have been together for a long time and that the only reason for her cheating was wanting something extra with her sex life, rather than there being something wrong with your relationship itself. Am I correct in this assumption?

toreaddave
Very preceptive of you on both of the above points. Impressed.

My wife is a bit different than some of the other wives mentioned on this site, as she only gets intimate with men that she knows. There has to be a "comfortable" relationship first. Would never pick up a guy in a bar. The lack of longevity of the 3 short term assignations mentioned above were the result of these married guys getting strong feelings of guilt and broke off the relationship.

[toreaddave]

Monogamous for the first 7 years, then her cheating, then honesty, then discussion and agreement on an open marriage, but for only her, then a full fledged cuckold, that evolved into FLM. She has enjoyed 6 lovers over the years, 3 of them long term relationships.

Sounds like you two have been together for a long time and that the only reason for her cheating was wanting something extra with her sex life, rather than there being something wrong with your relationship itself. Am I correct in this assumption?

toreaddave
Very preceptive of you on both of the above points. Impressed.

My wife is a bit different than some of the other wives mentioned on this site, as she only gets intimate with men that she knows. There has to be a "comfortable" relationship first. Would never pick up a guy in a bar. The lack of longevity of the 3 short term assignations mentioned above were the result of these married guys getting strong feelings of guilt and broke off the relationship.

I see. Did your wife know beforehand that these guys were already married?

[Des 31]

Our marriage was monogamous at the beginning, but it wasn't long until I had feelings of sharing her with other men. She resisted my pleas for about a year but the concept never left her consciousness. Eventually, she fell into an affair with a hot coworker who was fucking her for three months before I learned about it. She confessed and I gave my approval to have sex whenever she wished with the guy.

He broke it off when she told him I knew about it, but she then agreed she needed more sex than monogamy would allow. Now, she is in my opinion the ultimate example of a successful hotwife. I love this, probably as much as she.

[toreaddave]

Our marriage was monogamous at the beginning, but it wasn't long until I had feelings of sharing her with other men. She resisted my pleas for about a year but the concept never left her consciousness. Eventually, she fell into an affair with a hot coworker who was fucking her for three months before I learned about it. She confessed and I gave my approval to have sex whenever she wished with the guy.

He broke it off when she told him I knew about it, but she then agreed she needed more sex than monogamy would allow. Now, she is in my opinion the ultimate example of a successful hotwife. I love this, probably as much as she.

Thanks for sharing! You had already told her about your desires, but she still cheated rather than just asking you. Did she ever tell you why?

[Des 31]

Our marriage was monogamous at the beginning, but it wasn't long until I had feelings of sharing her with other men. She resisted my pleas for about a year but the concept never left her consciousness. Eventually, she fell into an affair with a hot coworker who was fucking her for three months before I learned about it. She confessed and I gave my approval to have sex whenever she wished with the guy.

He broke it off when she told him I knew about it, but she then agreed she needed more sex than monogamy would allow. Now, she is in my opinion the ultimate example of a successful hotwife. I love this, probably as much as she.

Thanks for sharing! You had already told her about your desires, but she still cheated rather than just asking you. Did she ever tell you why?

Yes, she told me. She didn't then believe I could handle as well as I had claimed. Once she understood it was okay with me, we have lived a hotwife life since.

~ Des

[toreaddave]

Our marriage was monogamous at the beginning, but it wasn't long until I had feelings of sharing her with other men. She resisted my pleas for about a year but the concept never left her consciousness. Eventually, she fell into an affair with a hot coworker who was fucking her for three months before I learned about it. She confessed and I gave my approval to have sex whenever she wished with the guy.

He broke it off when she told him I knew about it, but she then agreed she needed more sex than monogamy would allow. Now, she is in my opinion the ultimate example of a successful hotwife. I love this, probably as much as she.

Thanks for sharing! You had already told her about your desires, but she still cheated rather than just asking you. Did she ever tell you why?

Yes, she told me. She didn't then believe I could handle as well as I had claimed. Once she understood it was okay with me, we have lived a hotwife life since.

~ Des

Interesting. I think I've heard this same reasoning before a few times elsewhere. I wonder what men can do to better convince their women that we really can handle it.

[Caribwaters]

Monogamous for the first 7 years, then her cheating, then honesty, then discussion and agreement on an open marriage, but for only her, then a full fledged cuckold, that evolved into FLM. She has enjoyed 6 lovers over the years, 3 of them long term relationships.

Sounds like you two have been together for a long time and that the only reason for her cheating was wanting something extra with her sex life, rather than there being something wrong with your relationship itself. Am I correct in this assumption?

toreaddave
Very preceptive of you on both of the above points. Impressed.

My wife is a bit different than some of the other wives mentioned on this site, as she only gets intimate with men that she knows. There has to be a "comfortable" relationship first. Would never pick up a guy in a bar. The lack of longevity of the 3 short term assignations mentioned above were the result of these married guys getting strong feelings of guilt and broke off the relationship.

I see. Did your wife know beforehand that these guys were already married?

toreaddave
Two of the 3 long term (years) lovers she worked for in their small professional office. First relationship developed after about 4 months and she had met his wife a few times when she stopped in. Worked for the other over 10 years before he decided to make his "move". She was friendly with the 2nd guys wife. The other long term, was an old HS boyfriend long divorced when they finally hooked up.

The 3 much much shorter events involved men that we were close social friends with.