Losing your crush/girlfriend/wife to another man

[toreaddave]

I see, that's one way to guard against this I suppose. Though it would depend on the woman if she feels this rule is too restrictive and takes away from the experience. I personally would not implement this rule because I think it's a bit unfair for her in case she really likes someone. But then again, if she really likes someone, that presents an increased risk of losing her. It's definitely a tough balancing act between giving her enough freedom and ensuring the relationship survives.

I didn't impose any sort of rule, we decide together, and she is always in control of who when and where things happen

Right, you two decided on that rule together which is fantastic. However, some women would much prefer having regular bulls/boyfriends rather than one-and-done affairs. So I meant to say that in those cases, I don't think it'd be fair for me to deny her that, even at the increased risk of things going wrong.

Some ppl wont like me saying this; it is riskier.with exclusive relationships with bf. You need to be really close with your husband (cuck) in every other way to keep it going, or you will start to fall for your bf. With randoms its not so much of a problem. But i feel like my bf really owns me and can actually control me. Its all in the relationship dynamics and how much control the husband can maintain.

Thanks for sharing! Have you ever fallen for a bull/bf and thought about leaving your husband?

[Thebestdays1]

Oh man, thanks for sharing. I'd be devastated if that happened to me after 21 years. But it seems you're rather okay with the situation given that you're still in contact and do cuck-related activities with her. Do you regret anything or would do anything differently if you could do it over again?
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I think I shouldn't have become so fixated on hearing all the details of her times with her boyfriends, I didn't realise until it was too late that she'd started to tire of that, I used to get over excited, I guess. But then again, she used to do the same to me when I went with her sisters. She'd fondle me and masturbate herself when she asked me about my times with them so I didn't realise I was asking her too many questions. I think that as she was falling deeply in love with the last boyfriend, she didn't want me to get turned on by telling me what they did.
I had a great time with her and I'm just happy that we're still friends.

[toreaddave]

I think I shouldn't have become so fixated on hearing all the details of her times with her boyfriends, I didn't realise until it was too late that she'd started to tire of that, I used to get over excited, I guess. But then again, she used to do the same to me when I went with her sisters. She'd fondle me and masturbate herself when she asked me about my times with them so I didn't realise I was asking her too many questions. I think that as she was falling deeply in love with the last boyfriend, she didn't want me to get turned on by telling me what they did.
I had a great time with her and I'm just happy that we're still friends.

Wait...you guys were a cuckold/cuckqueen pair?!

[sana9889]

I didn't impose any sort of rule, we decide together, and she is always in control of who when and where things happen

Right, you two decided on that rule together which is fantastic. However, some women would much prefer having regular bulls/boyfriends rather than one-and-done affairs. So I meant to say that in those cases, I don't think it'd be fair for me to deny her that, even at the increased risk of things going wrong.

Some ppl wont like me saying this; it is riskier.with exclusive relationships with bf. You need to be really close with your husband (cuck) in every other way to keep it going, or you will start to fall for your bf. With randoms its not so much of a problem. But i feel like my bf really owns me and can actually control me. Its all in the relationship dynamics and how much control the husband can maintain.

Thanks for sharing! Have you ever fallen for a bull/bf and thought about leaving your husband?

Part of me would. It had come up before.
My bf is the father of my daughter. (him and my husband are not aware- i think his wife suspects)

I just feel safer and more bonded to my bf. I do care for my husband. But Its really a sisterly thing. Nothing sexual for me.
Its like two best friends masturbating in the same room over some sexy talk about hot guys or porn.

If my bf waant married and had his own family, this may have turned out different.

There is a reason why i dont let my husband see me naked. I just dont see him that way. Im naturally submissive to my partners. I cant be like that with him.

[toreaddave]

Right, you two decided on that rule together which is fantastic. However, some women would much prefer having regular bulls/boyfriends rather than one-and-done affairs. So I meant to say that in those cases, I don't think it'd be fair for me to deny her that, even at the increased risk of things going wrong.

Some ppl wont like me saying this; it is riskier.with exclusive relationships with bf. You need to be really close with your husband (cuck) in every other way to keep it going, or you will start to fall for your bf. With randoms its not so much of a problem. But i feel like my bf really owns me and can actually control me. Its all in the relationship dynamics and how much control the husband can maintain.

Thanks for sharing! Have you ever fallen for a bull/bf and thought about leaving your husband?

Part of me would. It had come up before.
My bf is the father of my daughter. (him and my husband are not aware- i think his wife suspects)

I just feel safer and more bonded to my bf. I do care for my husband. But Its really a sisterly thing. Nothing sexual for me.
Its like two best friends masturbating in the same room over some sexy talk about hot guys or porn.

If my bf waant married and had his own family, this may have turned out different.

There is a reason why i dont let my husband see me naked. I just dont see him that way. Im naturally submissive to my partners. I cant be like that with him.

I see.
Did you ever have romantic/sexual feelings for your husband?
Or did you lose those feelings over time after you started with your bf?
Would you leave your husband right now if your bf asked you to?

[sana9889]

Some ppl wont like me saying this; it is riskier.with exclusive relationships with bf. You need to be really close with your husband (cuck) in every other way to keep it going, or you will start to fall for your bf. With randoms its not so much of a problem. But i feel like my bf really owns me and can actually control me. Its all in the relationship dynamics and how much control the husband can maintain.

Thanks for sharing! Have you ever fallen for a bull/bf and thought about leaving your husband?

Part of me would. It had come up before.
My bf is the father of my daughter. (him and my husband are not aware- i think his wife suspects)

I just feel safer and more bonded to my bf. I do care for my husband. But Its really a sisterly thing. Nothing sexual for me.
Its like two best friends masturbating in the same room over some sexy talk about hot guys or porn.

If my bf waant married and had his own family, this may have turned out different.

There is a reason why i dont let my husband see me naked. I just dont see him that way. Im naturally submissive to my partners. I cant be like that with him.

I see.
Did you ever have romantic/sexual feelings for your husband?
Or did you lose those feelings over time after you started with your bf?
Would you leave your husband right now if your bf asked you to?

Ive never had any such feelings for my husband. Our marriage was arranged.

Its complicated. Part of me would. I don't want anyone getting hurt.

[stonemtncouple]

I lost every girl I ever fucked till my first wife who was a virgin.

Those girl friends I had before and lost, Id fuck them once maybe twice and then they’d drop me.

Latter in life when I was around other guys doing gangbangs and group sex I realized how small my cock was in comparison. Bing Go! Realized my “short coming”.

Lost a girlfriend after my first marriage ended and lost second wife after 10 months of monogamy.

Finally realized that if I wanted to keep a wife satisfied Id have to marry a slut. Appreciate her for being a Hot Wife, and encourage her to fuck “Hung Studs” to keep her satisfied.

I did just that and we are happily married 12 years going strong.
She fucks her hung Boy Friend with a big 9 inch and thick cock when ever she wants, records the audio for me to jack off too and occasional pics of her sucking his cock and she’s happy, Im happy, he’s happy!

[sana9889]

I lost every girl I ever fucked till my first wife who was a virgin.

Those girl friends I had before and lost, Id fuck them once maybe twice and then they’d drop me.

Latter in life when I was around other guys doing gangbangs and group sex I realized how small my cock was in comparison. Bing Go! Realized my “short coming”.

Lost a girlfriend after my first marriage ended and lost second wife after 10 months of monogamy.

Finally realized that if I wanted to keep a wife satisfied Id have to marry a slut. Appreciate her for being a Hot Wife, and encourage her to fuck “Hung Studs” to keep her satisfied.

I did just that and we are happily married 12 years going strong.
She fucks her hung Boy Friend with a big 9 inch and thick cock when ever she wants, records the audio for me to jack off too and occasional pics of her sucking his cock and she’s happy, Im happy, he’s happy!

So she stayed with you because she didnt have any previous experience? What caused you to break up can I ask?

[toreaddave]

Ive never had any such feelings for my husband. Our marriage was arranged.

Its complicated. Part of me would. I don't want anyone getting hurt.

Ohhh arranged marriage, that's a tough situation. Well, I'm glad you seem content with your current situation though.

[toreaddave]

I lost every girl I ever fucked till my first wife who was a virgin.

Those girl friends I had before and lost, Id fuck them once maybe twice and then they’d drop me.

Latter in life when I was around other guys doing gangbangs and group sex I realized how small my cock was in comparison. Bing Go! Realized my “short coming”.

Lost a girlfriend after my first marriage ended and lost second wife after 10 months of monogamy.

Finally realized that if I wanted to keep a wife satisfied Id have to marry a slut. Appreciate her for being a Hot Wife, and encourage her to fuck “Hung Studs” to keep her satisfied.

I did just that and we are happily married 12 years going strong.
She fucks her hung Boy Friend with a big 9 inch and thick cock when ever she wants, records the audio for me to jack off too and occasional pics of her sucking his cock and she’s happy, Im happy, he’s happy!

Wow, thanks for sharing! Do you think your first two marriages would have worked out if you had offered cuckolding as a solution? And do you ever worry if your current wife will leave you for a bull/boyfriend?

[stonemtncouple]

I lost every girl I ever fucked till my first wife who was a virgin.

Those girl friends I had before and lost, Id fuck them once maybe twice and then they’d drop me.

Latter in life when I was around other guys doing gangbangs and group sex I realized how small my cock was in comparison. Bing Go! Realized my “short coming”.

Lost a girlfriend after my first marriage ended and lost second wife after 10 months of monogamy.

Finally realized that if I wanted to keep a wife satisfied Id have to marry a slut. Appreciate her for being a Hot Wife, and encourage her to fuck “Hung Studs” to keep her satisfied.

I did just that and we are happily married 12 years going strong.
She fucks her hung Boy Friend with a big 9 inch and thick cock when ever she wants, records the audio for me to jack off too and occasional pics of her sucking his cock and she’s happy, Im happy, he’s happy!

So she stayed with you because she didnt have any previous experience? What caused you to break up can I ask?

My first wife you mean? Who was a Virgin when we met?
I divorced her for nonsexual reasons. She suffered from major depression and flat out refused treatments of any kind. After 10 plus years of living with her and trying everything I could to help her I just escaped to live my life. Depression is a terrible disease.

Living with someone suffering from it is a living hell especially when they refuse to get help. I took financial care of her for 10 years after the divorce. She wanted for nothing at great expense to me.

I found happiness with my slutty Hot Wife! Love her so much!

[Thebestdays1]

I think I shouldn't have become so fixated on hearing all the details of her times with her boyfriends, I didn't realise until it was too late that she'd started to tire of that, I used to get over excited, I guess. But then again, she used to do the same to me when I went with her sisters. She'd fondle me and masturbate herself when she asked me about my times with them so I didn't realise I was asking her too many questions. I think that as she was falling deeply in love with the last boyfriend, she didn't want me to get turned on by telling me what they did.
I had a great time with her and I'm just happy that we're still friends.

Wait...you guys were a cuckold/cuckqueen pair?!

I guess you could say that, though I never thought of that myself.
Right from the day I proposed to her, she encouraged me to go with her elder sister. It took me a few years before I went all the way with her though. The day after that we had a threesome but I couldn't concentrate on pleasing both of them at the same time so my wife borrowed her sister's vibrator and masturbated as she watched me with her sister, then she'd clean me. After that, whenever we stayed at the family home, my wife would send me to her sister's room in the morning if I was feeling horny as she never felt horny with me in the morning.
Many years later she encouraged me to go with her younger sister, after her last relationship had finished. We only got together about four times though.
My wife and I also used to go with a colleague of hers, a woman twice our age but never in a threesome. My wife would want to know all the details afterwards but I wasn't allowed to ask my wife or our friend what they did together. That was private and not done for my arousal.

[toreaddave]

I think I shouldn't have become so fixated on hearing all the details of her times with her boyfriends, I didn't realise until it was too late that she'd started to tire of that, I used to get over excited, I guess. But then again, she used to do the same to me when I went with her sisters. She'd fondle me and masturbate herself when she asked me about my times with them so I didn't realise I was asking her too many questions. I think that as she was falling deeply in love with the last boyfriend, she didn't want me to get turned on by telling me what they did.
I had a great time with her and I'm just happy that we're still friends.

Wait...you guys were a cuckold/cuckqueen pair?!

I guess you could say that, though I never thought of that myself.
Right from the day I proposed to her, she encouraged me to go with her elder sister. It took me a few years before I went all the way with her though. The day after that we had a threesome but I couldn't concentrate on pleasing both of them at the same time so my wife borrowed her sister's vibrator and masturbated as she watched me with her sister, then she'd clean me. After that, whenever we stayed at the family home, my wife would send me to her sister's room in the morning if I was feeling horny as she never felt horny with me in the morning.
Many years later she encouraged me to go with her younger sister, after her last relationship had finished. We only got together about four times though.
My wife and I also used to go with a colleague of hers, a woman twice our age but never in a threesome. My wife would want to know all the details afterwards but I wasn't allowed to ask my wife or our friend what they did together. That was private and not done for my arousal.

That is a very unique dynamic!

[inivisibletwin]

I'm pretty confident that actually losing her is not something that will happen to me. other than her sex life, we have a rock solid relationship. I was her first boyfriend, her first love, her first everything. I'm not her primary sex partner, but I AM her primary life partner...

that said, we come about as close as we can to that line, without actually crossing it...

we are married, but she has a boyfriend. Chris is her primary sex partner, and they have a full on relationship, outside of our marriage... he is her only sexual partner that she doesnt have to share all the details with me. he "owns" her pussy, and controls what does and doesnt happen to it, and he has elected to deny me access to it...

I get so much joy and happiness from seeing them happy together. not just having sex (though when they have sex everything in my world feels right. its basically impossible for me to be sad while they are having sex)... but seeing them together as a couple, happy, flirting, having fun... especially when they are out on a date, or with friends or something, and I'm not there, just seeing it in pictures... woah baby yeah I get that rush, I get so happy and so turned on! i just love it! I do anything I can to push them together! I'm basically chris' wingman, doing what ever i can to help seduce me wife for him!

A couple times I have even solved fights they were having (theyve been together since 2019) because I want them to be happy together!

also, one time, year ago, before she met Chris, we experimented with the "losing her" game... She had a 4th date with a guy she met on a dating site. they were going to spend the weekend together. Before she left to meet him, friday night we actually broke up... when she came home monday morning we got back together...

this was before we got married, so during the weeking while she was with him she was actually single...

didnt need to worry about me, or check in with me, and doesnt need to tell me about what happened, since she was single...

she said as much as she enjoyed her weekend, and as much fun as she had with the guy, she hated it and never wants to do it again. she was glad we tried it (i was too, it was something we both wanted to try) but she hated breaking up with me.

so while I'm just going to have to settle for watching her be with her boyfriend, I absolutely understand how you feel about getting off to actually losing her!

[toreaddave]

I'm pretty confident that actually losing her is not something that will happen to me. other than her sex life, we have a rock solid relationship. I was her first boyfriend, her first love, her first everything. I'm not her primary sex partner, but I AM her primary life partner...

that said, we come about as close as we can to that line, without actually crossing it...

we are married, but she has a boyfriend. Chris is her primary sex partner, and they have a full on relationship, outside of our marriage... he is her only sexual partner that she doesnt have to share all the details with me. he "owns" her pussy, and controls what does and doesnt happen to it, and he has elected to deny me access to it...

I get so much joy and happiness from seeing them happy together. not just having sex (though when they have sex everything in my world feels right. its basically impossible for me to be sad while they are having sex)... but seeing them together as a couple, happy, flirting, having fun... especially when they are out on a date, or with friends or something, and I'm not there, just seeing it in pictures... woah baby yeah I get that rush, I get so happy and so turned on! i just love it! I do anything I can to push them together! I'm basically chris' wingman, doing what ever i can to help seduce me wife for him!

A couple times I have even solved fights they were having (theyve been together since 2019) because I want them to be happy together!

also, one time, year ago, before she met Chris, we experimented with the "losing her" game... She had a 4th date with a guy she met on a dating site. they were going to spend the weekend together. Before she left to meet him, friday night we actually broke up... when she came home monday morning we got back together...

this was before we got married, so during the weeking while she was with him she was actually single...

didnt need to worry about me, or check in with me, and doesnt need to tell me about what happened, since she was single...

she said as much as she enjoyed her weekend, and as much fun as she had with the guy, she hated it and never wants to do it again. she was glad we tried it (i was too, it was something we both wanted to try) but she hated breaking up with me.

so while I'm just going to have to settle for watching her be with her boyfriend, I absolutely understand how you feel about getting off to actually losing her!

Thanks a lot for sharing! I've loved reading your posts over the years. You're literally living the dream life! It's actually very wholesome and heartwarming that she never wants to do the "separation" again. One thing stuck out to me - the way you used the word "settle" in your last sentence gives me the impression that you'd actually be okay with her leaving you? I find it hot only in theory and would hate for it to actually happen.

[inivisibletwin]

I'm pretty confident that actually losing her is not something that will happen to me. other than her sex life, we have a rock solid relationship. I was her first boyfriend, her first love, her first everything. I'm not her primary sex partner, but I AM her primary life partner...

that said, we come about as close as we can to that line, without actually crossing it...

we are married, but she has a boyfriend. Chris is her primary sex partner, and they have a full on relationship, outside of our marriage... he is her only sexual partner that she doesnt have to share all the details with me. he "owns" her pussy, and controls what does and doesnt happen to it, and he has elected to deny me access to it...

I get so much joy and happiness from seeing them happy together. not just having sex (though when they have sex everything in my world feels right. its basically impossible for me to be sad while they are having sex)... but seeing them together as a couple, happy, flirting, having fun... especially when they are out on a date, or with friends or something, and I'm not there, just seeing it in pictures... woah baby yeah I get that rush, I get so happy and so turned on! i just love it! I do anything I can to push them together! I'm basically chris' wingman, doing what ever i can to help seduce me wife for him!

A couple times I have even solved fights they were having (theyve been together since 2019) because I want them to be happy together!

also, one time, year ago, before she met Chris, we experimented with the "losing her" game... She had a 4th date with a guy she met on a dating site. they were going to spend the weekend together. Before she left to meet him, friday night we actually broke up... when she came home monday morning we got back together...

this was before we got married, so during the weeking while she was with him she was actually single...

didnt need to worry about me, or check in with me, and doesnt need to tell me about what happened, since she was single...

she said as much as she enjoyed her weekend, and as much fun as she had with the guy, she hated it and never wants to do it again. she was glad we tried it (i was too, it was something we both wanted to try) but she hated breaking up with me.

so while I'm just going to have to settle for watching her be with her boyfriend, I absolutely understand how you feel about getting off to actually losing her!

Thanks a lot for sharing! I've loved reading your posts over the years. You're literally living the dream life! It's actually very wholesome and heartwarming that she never wants to do the "separation" again. One thing stuck out to me - the way you used the word "settle" in your last sentence gives me the impression that you'd actually be okay with her leaving you? I find it hot only in theory and would hate for it to actually happen.

thanks for reading my posts! I love my life, and my dynamic with my wife and her boyfriend and I dont ever want it to change! so im happy to be able to share it on here with people who appriceate it...

yeah, i chose the word "settle" on purpose because, like all cucks who play these games, i have thought about it... that weekend that we broke up, i was actually fine with it. I enjoyed the thought of her being single with him, so she could just enjoy herself... so i think that if i were to ever actually lose her to another guy, i think i would not only be okay with it, but i would probly enjoy it, i would probly be turned on by it...

that said, while im not her primary sex partner, i am her primary life partner... so in every other aspect of my life i would be devistated... i love her very much and it would tear me apart... but id be turned on at the same time... it would be a very confusing time for me! haha

so i consider myself very lucky that i can be confident in that not happening.

we'll come as close as we can get to that without actually crossing that line.

[toreaddave]

I'm pretty confident that actually losing her is not something that will happen to me. other than her sex life, we have a rock solid relationship. I was her first boyfriend, her first love, her first everything. I'm not her primary sex partner, but I AM her primary life partner...

that said, we come about as close as we can to that line, without actually crossing it...

we are married, but she has a boyfriend. Chris is her primary sex partner, and they have a full on relationship, outside of our marriage... he is her only sexual partner that she doesnt have to share all the details with me. he "owns" her pussy, and controls what does and doesnt happen to it, and he has elected to deny me access to it...

I get so much joy and happiness from seeing them happy together. not just having sex (though when they have sex everything in my world feels right. its basically impossible for me to be sad while they are having sex)... but seeing them together as a couple, happy, flirting, having fun... especially when they are out on a date, or with friends or something, and I'm not there, just seeing it in pictures... woah baby yeah I get that rush, I get so happy and so turned on! i just love it! I do anything I can to push them together! I'm basically chris' wingman, doing what ever i can to help seduce me wife for him!

A couple times I have even solved fights they were having (theyve been together since 2019) because I want them to be happy together!

also, one time, year ago, before she met Chris, we experimented with the "losing her" game... She had a 4th date with a guy she met on a dating site. they were going to spend the weekend together. Before she left to meet him, friday night we actually broke up... when she came home monday morning we got back together...

this was before we got married, so during the weeking while she was with him she was actually single...

didnt need to worry about me, or check in with me, and doesnt need to tell me about what happened, since she was single...

she said as much as she enjoyed her weekend, and as much fun as she had with the guy, she hated it and never wants to do it again. she was glad we tried it (i was too, it was something we both wanted to try) but she hated breaking up with me.

so while I'm just going to have to settle for watching her be with her boyfriend, I absolutely understand how you feel about getting off to actually losing her!

Thanks a lot for sharing! I've loved reading your posts over the years. You're literally living the dream life! It's actually very wholesome and heartwarming that she never wants to do the "separation" again. One thing stuck out to me - the way you used the word "settle" in your last sentence gives me the impression that you'd actually be okay with her leaving you? I find it hot only in theory and would hate for it to actually happen.

thanks for reading my posts! I love my life, and my dynamic with my wife and her boyfriend and I dont ever want it to change! so im happy to be able to share it on here with people who appriceate it...

yeah, i chose the word "settle" on purpose because, like all cucks who play these games, i have thought about it... that weekend that we broke up, i was actually fine with it. I enjoyed the thought of her being single with him, so she could just enjoy herself... so i think that if i were to ever actually lose her to another guy, i think i would not only be okay with it, but i would probly enjoy it, i would probly be turned on by it...

that said, while im not her primary sex partner, i am her primary life partner... so in every other aspect of my life i would be devistated... i love her very much and it would tear me apart... but id be turned on at the same time... it would be a very confusing time for me! haha

so i consider myself very lucky that i can be confident in that not happening.

we'll come as close as we can get to that without actually crossing that line.

I definitely understand what you mean - equally turned and equally devastated. The cuckold brain is truly a confusing mystery

[Freemans892]

I lost my wife to another man, 22 years ago.
She had been seeing a colleague of hers for about a year; sucking him off every morning after their night shift and spending Friday nights together, downstairs in our house, while he'd told his wife that he was working overtime. However, after a while he started acting a bit too weird for her liking and she eventually dumped him. He didn't take it very well and kept pestering her to take him back. At some point during this time his wife told him she'd started seeing someone else and left him. This seemed to make him more determined to get my wife to take him back.
This started to impact on their work and one man started sticking up for her and telling the other one to back off. She'd told me that there had been a couple of issues with the previous boyfriend but hadn't admitted just how bad it was. She told me how the second man looked out for her and I just felt grateful to him. I asked if she fancied him but she replied that he wasn't her type and that he was married.
A few months later there was a Christmas party for the staff and when she came home she admitted she'd sucked him off in her car when she drove him home. She denied anything else had happened although I noticed a stain in her knickers the next morning. A few months later, she came home and said they'd started taking their breaks together in her car to get away from the other man and that she'd sucked him off that night.
She never admitted anything else to me and after a couple of months she'd become so distant that I suggested we should have a trial separation. She eventually admitted she'd been having an affair with him for about 10 months, despite our rule that we were to be absolutely honest with eachother. She hadn't wanted to tell me because she didn't want to give me the juicy details of what they'd done. She was in love with him and didn't want to talk about him in a way that would excite me.
I moved out two months later, we continued to see eachother on my weekends off and went on two pre-booked holidays together, during which time, they'd talk on the phone whenever his wife wasn't around. She eventually found out and kicked him out so he moved in with my wife, 1 day before I'd had to leave my accommodation and move into the caravan on our old driveway.

Damn, thanks for sharing. How long were you two together, and do you think your marriage would have survived if you never got into cuckolding?

I realised just afterwards that the day I mentioned the trial separation was the 21st anniversary of the day we met.
As for would it have survived if we hadn't have gotten into the lifestyle; I don't think we'd have got married. She was already into cheating and swapping before we met and being bi, she knew she'd want to continue to see other women instead. She was just being honest with herself.
She mostly stopped seeing other people when she and this man were together but that relationship didn't last long. For a while she didn't have anyone in her life and then she got together with her sister's first boyfriend, a previous lover of hers. Now she's with someone who knows nothing about her past and she settled down for a couple of years but she eventually started seeing a young bi curious colleague for a couple of years until she and her partner moved across country two years ago. It didn't take her long before she had an occasional fling with another young woman from work, however.
We've always kept in contact and for the past few years have been exchanging emails where we talk about our past life and she reads my posts on here, sometimes correcting something I've written or suggesting I mention something. As she now lives only a few hours from one of our daughters, who doesn't live far from me, she drives up to see her once a month. On that day she fucks her partner and I meet her along the road in my campervan. I clean her up and we have sex before I clean her up again. I stay in the layby until she's on her way home and we have sex again. This was all her suggestion, she doesn't seem to be able to stop the thrill of illicit encounters, despite being in love with her partner.

You have basically became her “Bull”, along with her female partner.

[Thebestdays1]

I lost my wife to another man, 22 years ago.
She had been seeing a colleague of hers for about a year; sucking him off every morning after their night shift and spending Friday nights together, downstairs in our house, while he'd told his wife that he was working overtime. However, after a while he started acting a bit too weird for her liking and she eventually dumped him. He didn't take it very well and kept pestering her to take him back. At some point during this time his wife told him she'd started seeing someone else and left him. This seemed to make him more determined to get my wife to take him back.
This started to impact on their work and one man started sticking up for her and telling the other one to back off. She'd told me that there had been a couple of issues with the previous boyfriend but hadn't admitted just how bad it was. She told me how the second man looked out for her and I just felt grateful to him. I asked if she fancied him but she replied that he wasn't her type and that he was married.
A few months later there was a Christmas party for the staff and when she came home she admitted she'd sucked him off in her car when she drove him home. She denied anything else had happened although I noticed a stain in her knickers the next morning. A few months later, she came home and said they'd started taking their breaks together in her car to get away from the other man and that she'd sucked him off that night.
She never admitted anything else to me and after a couple of months she'd become so distant that I suggested we should have a trial separation. She eventually admitted she'd been having an affair with him for about 10 months, despite our rule that we were to be absolutely honest with eachother. She hadn't wanted to tell me because she didn't want to give me the juicy details of what they'd done. She was in love with him and didn't want to talk about him in a way that would excite me.
I moved out two months later, we continued to see eachother on my weekends off and went on two pre-booked holidays together, during which time, they'd talk on the phone whenever his wife wasn't around. She eventually found out and kicked him out so he moved in with my wife, 1 day before I'd had to leave my accommodation and move into the caravan on our old driveway.

Damn, thanks for sharing. How long were you two together, and do you think your marriage would have survived if you never got into cuckolding?

I realised just afterwards that the day I mentioned the trial separation was the 21st anniversary of the day we met.
As for would it have survived if we hadn't have gotten into the lifestyle; I don't think we'd have got married. She was already into cheating and swapping before we met and being bi, she knew she'd want to continue to see other women instead. She was just being honest with herself.
She mostly stopped seeing other people when she and this man were together but that relationship didn't last long. For a while she didn't have anyone in her life and then she got together with her sister's first boyfriend, a previous lover of hers. Now she's with someone who knows nothing about her past and she settled down for a couple of years but she eventually started seeing a young bi curious colleague for a couple of years until she and her partner moved across country two years ago. It didn't take her long before she had an occasional fling with another young woman from work, however.
We've always kept in contact and for the past few years have been exchanging emails where we talk about our past life and she reads my posts on here, sometimes correcting something I've written or suggesting I mention something. As she now lives only a few hours from one of our daughters, who doesn't live far from me, she drives up to see her once a month. On that day she fucks her partner and I meet her along the road in my campervan. I clean her up and we have sex before I clean her up again. I stay in the layby until she's on her way home and we have sex again. This was all her suggestion, she doesn't seem to be able to stop the thrill of illicit encounters, despite being in love with her partner.

You have basically became her “Bull”, along with her female partner.

I'm not really her bull, it's just like it was when we were married. She fucks someone and I clean her up. The only difference is that I get to cum two or three times that day instead of just once when we were married.

[cumkisser]

I had a HUGE crush on a cute girl back in high school, and I'm sure she also had a crush on me too. We were close friends, but I never had the balls to ask her out. After graduation, we drifted apart and haven't talked in years. Today, I saw a picture of her and her boyfriend looking VERY happy. I ended up cumming the hardest I've ever cum before to that pic and the thought of them being happy together. It was definitely the most pathetic jerk-off session of my life. And I've been so deep into this cuckolding fetish that I didn't even feel any post-nut clarity...I think I've hit rock bottom.

One of the most extreme fantasies in cuckolding is actually losing your girlfriend/wife to another man. I know she was never mine to begin with, but it feels like the lite version of "losing" her. Has anyone else had similar experiences with crushes or an ACTUAL girlfriend/wife?

I can relate to this 'lite' version. I've been shy in approaching women I've had crushes on in college. One time my best friend approached a girl I had a crush on, not knowing I liked her, and they ended up dating each other. The most satisfying wanks I have had were while coming across pictures of my female friends' with their husbands where they are so happy. Especially their wedding photos!

[inivisibletwin]

The woman I was with before Jen, that happened. I was with her for 5 years, I already knew I wanted her to spread her legs for other guys, and we talked about it a few times but nothing really happened about it, until the end...

She had an affair for several months, behind my back. Then one day she asked me if I was serious about wanting to watch her with another man, I said yes, then she said she would do it if we could find "the right guy" after a week or so of "looking" she told me she found a guy, a friend of a friend, she thinks he could and can she flirt with him and see where it goes? (I didnt know she had already been sleeping with him for months).

We had him over to our apartment, I watched them flirt, I watched them make out, I watched him take her top off, and suck her nipples... I watched her lead him to the bedroom, I watched her suck his dick, and ultimately I watched him fuck her... it was pretty hot...

A couple days later she left me for him, and I have to admit once the shock wore off, and I got over the mess of dividing up our lives (we were living together) ...ultimately it just turned me on. in the end, I was happy with it. and, of course it led me to the relationship I have now, which is basically the perfect relationship for me... but i will say that experience is what made me super hesitant to share my kink with Jen... but I'm glad I did!


Aside from that, though, before that relationship, Every girlfriend I ever had cheated on me, and every girl I was ever interested in had a boyfriend. I think thats a big part of what led me to being turned on by wife girl fucking other guys. and how I knew I wanted that when I told it to my ex.

my jealousy and my libido wires are crossed. things that should make me jealous just turn me on.

[Long Lurker 34]

The woman I was with before Jen, that happened. I was with her for 5 years, I already knew I wanted her to spread her legs for other guys, and we talked about it a few times but nothing really happened about it, until the end...

She had an affair for several months, behind my back. Then one day she asked me if I was serious about wanting to watch her with another man, I said yes, then she said she would do it if we could find "the right guy" after a week or so of "looking" she told me she found a guy, a friend of a friend, she thinks he could and can she flirt with him and see where it goes? (I didnt know she had already been sleeping with him for months).

We had him over to our apartment, I watched them flirt, I watched them make out, I watched him take her top off, and suck her nipples... I watched her lead him to the bedroom, I watched her suck his dick, and ultimately I watched him fuck her... it was pretty hot...

A couple days later she left me for him, and I have to admit once the shock wore off, and I got over the mess of dividing up our lives (we were living together) ...ultimately it just turned me on. in the end, I was happy with it. and, of course it led me to the relationship I have now, which is basically the perfect relationship for me... but i will say that experience is what made me super hesitant to share my kink with Jen... but I'm glad I did!


Aside from that, though, before that relationship, Every girlfriend I ever had cheated on me, and every girl I was ever interested in had a boyfriend. I think thats a big part of what led me to being turned on by wife girl fucking other guys. and how I knew I wanted that when I told it to my ex.

my jealousy and my libido wires are crossed. things that should make me jealous just turn me on.

IT
- It seems to me with that track record it was more along like subconsciously figured "Well this keeps happening, so I can keep trying to avoid it or I can embrace it and make it mine." Which is what you seem to have done.

[inivisibletwin]

The woman I was with before Jen, that happened. I was with her for 5 years, I already knew I wanted her to spread her legs for other guys, and we talked about it a few times but nothing really happened about it, until the end...

She had an affair for several months, behind my back. Then one day she asked me if I was serious about wanting to watch her with another man, I said yes, then she said she would do it if we could find "the right guy" after a week or so of "looking" she told me she found a guy, a friend of a friend, she thinks he could and can she flirt with him and see where it goes? (I didnt know she had already been sleeping with him for months).

We had him over to our apartment, I watched them flirt, I watched them make out, I watched him take her top off, and suck her nipples... I watched her lead him to the bedroom, I watched her suck his dick, and ultimately I watched him fuck her... it was pretty hot...

A couple days later she left me for him, and I have to admit once the shock wore off, and I got over the mess of dividing up our lives (we were living together) ...ultimately it just turned me on. in the end, I was happy with it. and, of course it led me to the relationship I have now, which is basically the perfect relationship for me... but i will say that experience is what made me super hesitant to share my kink with Jen... but I'm glad I did!


Aside from that, though, before that relationship, Every girlfriend I ever had cheated on me, and every girl I was ever interested in had a boyfriend. I think thats a big part of what led me to being turned on by wife girl fucking other guys. and how I knew I wanted that when I told it to my ex.

my jealousy and my libido wires are crossed. things that should make me jealous just turn me on.

IT
- It seems to me with that track record it was more along like subconsciously figured "Well this keeps happening, so I can keep trying to avoid it or I can embrace it and make it mine." Which is what you seem to have done.

well, that makes a lot of sense. now, I feel the most content when there is a dick that isn't mine inside my wife...

[Long Lurker 34]

The woman I was with before Jen, that happened. I was with her for 5 years, I already knew I wanted her to spread her legs for other guys, and we talked about it a few times but nothing really happened about it, until the end...

She had an affair for several months, behind my back. Then one day she asked me if I was serious about wanting to watch her with another man, I said yes, then she said she would do it if we could find "the right guy" after a week or so of "looking" she told me she found a guy, a friend of a friend, she thinks he could and can she flirt with him and see where it goes? (I didnt know she had already been sleeping with him for months).

We had him over to our apartment, I watched them flirt, I watched them make out, I watched him take her top off, and suck her nipples... I watched her lead him to the bedroom, I watched her suck his dick, and ultimately I watched him fuck her... it was pretty hot...

A couple days later she left me for him, and I have to admit once the shock wore off, and I got over the mess of dividing up our lives (we were living together) ...ultimately it just turned me on. in the end, I was happy with it. and, of course it led me to the relationship I have now, which is basically the perfect relationship for me... but i will say that experience is what made me super hesitant to share my kink with Jen... but I'm glad I did!


Aside from that, though, before that relationship, Every girlfriend I ever had cheated on me, and every girl I was ever interested in had a boyfriend. I think thats a big part of what led me to being turned on by wife girl fucking other guys. and how I knew I wanted that when I told it to my ex.

my jealousy and my libido wires are crossed. things that should make me jealous just turn me on.

IT
- It seems to me with that track record it was more along like subconsciously figured "Well this keeps happening, so I can keep trying to avoid it or I can embrace it and make it mine." Which is what you seem to have done.

well, that makes a lot of sense. now, I feel the most content when there is a dick that isn't mine inside my wife...

IT
- Would that make it an elevated level of compersion ? (Did I get that correct)??

[inivisibletwin]

The woman I was with before Jen, that happened. I was with her for 5 years, I already knew I wanted her to spread her legs for other guys, and we talked about it a few times but nothing really happened about it, until the end...

She had an affair for several months, behind my back. Then one day she asked me if I was serious about wanting to watch her with another man, I said yes, then she said she would do it if we could find "the right guy" after a week or so of "looking" she told me she found a guy, a friend of a friend, she thinks he could and can she flirt with him and see where it goes? (I didnt know she had already been sleeping with him for months).

We had him over to our apartment, I watched them flirt, I watched them make out, I watched him take her top off, and suck her nipples... I watched her lead him to the bedroom, I watched her suck his dick, and ultimately I watched him fuck her... it was pretty hot...

A couple days later she left me for him, and I have to admit once the shock wore off, and I got over the mess of dividing up our lives (we were living together) ...ultimately it just turned me on. in the end, I was happy with it. and, of course it led me to the relationship I have now, which is basically the perfect relationship for me... but i will say that experience is what made me super hesitant to share my kink with Jen... but I'm glad I did!


Aside from that, though, before that relationship, Every girlfriend I ever had cheated on me, and every girl I was ever interested in had a boyfriend. I think thats a big part of what led me to being turned on by wife girl fucking other guys. and how I knew I wanted that when I told it to my ex.

my jealousy and my libido wires are crossed. things that should make me jealous just turn me on.

IT
- It seems to me with that track record it was more along like subconsciously figured "Well this keeps happening, so I can keep trying to avoid it or I can embrace it and make it mine." Which is what you seem to have done.

well, that makes a lot of sense. now, I feel the most content when there is a dick that isn't mine inside my wife...

IT
- Would that make it an elevated level of compersion ? (Did I get that correct)??

yeah you could say that