Getting cheated on.

[majestic17]

I've posted about it before but I had a gf in my 20's who unexpectedly sucked and then fucked my roommate with me in the apartment after we both got drunk. I was shocked at the time but it would go on to become a defining moment in my life. I still fantasize about it to this day. In fact I've fantasized about every gf I've had since then cheating on me.

My wife cheated on me years ago when we started living together and I saw her in action after coming home from work early. She has cheated on me more than a few times since. We love each other and have a very healthy relationship but sexually she has a very high drive and I am well aware that she does not belong to me.

are you ok with it? do you encourage her to do more?

[Wls77]

Ive always been into the idea of my partners with other people. My wife never, ever liked or warmed to the idea of a swapping, hotwifing, cucking relationship at all, but ended up having a huge affair which i found out about pretty early - and instead of confronting her, or admitting that i knew, i basically ended up facilitating. Previously i had never really realised that cheating itself was a huge turn on, but it was, and crazily so.

I find the general reception to it on here can be quite frosty and ‘superior’ from people that arent into it though - ive had many conversations about it on here over the years, and it often gets considered unhealthy etc.

[hornedhubby]

I'm not sure how I feel about this one.

In the early 1990's I offered my wife a "don't ask, don't tell" arrangement. Maybe I was desperate enough to get her to "try on" any cuckoldress approach. Maybe I still am. But it's not what I really wanted, then or now. I want to share the thrill in real time.

And I would absolutely draw the distinction between one-night stand cheating and an affair of the heart. If it involved someone stealing her heart and taking her away from me, that would be devastating to me.

Cheating is also an experience I did not have in previous relationships. So I have no prior self-knowledge about how I would react to it.

[majestic17]

Ive always been into the idea of my partners with other people. My wife never, ever liked or warmed to the idea of a swapping, hotwifing, cucking relationship at all, but ended up having a huge affair which i found out about pretty early - and instead of confronting her, or admitting that i knew, i basically ended up facilitating. Previously i had never really realised that cheating itself was a huge turn on, but it was, and crazily so.

I find the general reception to it on here can be quite frosty and ‘superior’ from people that arent into it though - ive had many conversations about it on here over the years, and it often gets considered unhealthy etc.

Me and my gf often talk about cheating and often bring it while having sex. She would tell me how she would cheat like different scenarios like how she would go out and have casual sex with stranger or like she would fuck someone when i am at office. We imagine like she would not tell me about it but there would be obvious hint and traces all around to guess it.

[Thebestdays1]

When I proposed to my wife, we agreed to have an open marriage and that we both had to be honest and say if we'd just been with someone else or if we were going to. She was bi and said she wouldn't tell me any details but would tell me if she was going to see another woman. For many years this is what happened. We'd both get turned on when we knew each other had been seeing someone else. Apart from a couple of occasions I only went with her elder sister, whereas she had sex with quite a few men and women and we never had any problems.
After we'd been married about 12 years, she took a job in the local hotel, working mornings and evenings. In her time there, she had two long-term boyfriends and we both shared one of her female colleagues for about 5 years.
One day, I found a letter from a woman with an east European name and it was quite explicit, talking about how she was missing my wife. She admitted to me that before she started seeing the female colleague, she'd secretly been having sex with the boss's au pair when they cleaned the rooms together. She hadn't told me because she was ashamed that she'd been seeing an 18 year old woman when she was 35. Naturally, I was turned on as I remembered seeing the au pair and she was gorgeous but I didn't press the issue as I had to obey the, no questions about my wife and other women rule. I did find it exciting to think about my wife, supposedly cheating on me.
Whilst still at the hotel, she told me she'd been asked to give one of the live-in waiters a wake up call in the mornings and she told me she used to blow him each time. One day I was with her colleague and she let slip that my wife had also been waking the other waiter the same way and that sometimes, if she had time my wife would have a threesome with the two men. When I told my wife what I'd heard she admitted it and said she hadn't told me everything because she knew I'd be turned on and would want to know the details and she didn't always want to tell me and get me turned on. She was apologetic and she was right, I was turned on; as much by the fact she'd cheated as I was hearing the details. She also admitted she'd had sex with a couple of the guests when she tidied their rooms in the past.
I loved having a wife that not only had sex with men and women that I knew about but who cheated on me too.
Some years later, we'd just agreed to a trial separation as she'd become quite distant from me. She admitted she'd been having an affair with a colleague for the past 9 months (she'd only admitted sucking him off twice before this) and told me she loved him. Suddenly, i realised I'd lost her and her cheating stopped sounding exciting.

[4incheslong]

Early on when we were dating we would watch porn. I would tell her it turned me on to her having sex with other guys. I wanted to be included, maybe a threesome. An old BF had gotten married and wanted to fuck her on the side, I told her no so she hid it. She found it hotter if I didn't know. I found out about 5 of the men. mostly by snooping. Her mother told me about one and her sister told me about another. Most knew me, she would tell them I was a cuck. I don't know the total number but she is a slut.

[DylanTd]

I found out my gf had been cheating on me for months with my boss. It was hard to process but honestly it turned me on immensely. That's how we actually got into this cuckold lifestyle.

[cucking88]

Love getting cheated on, this cuckolding journey started because of her cheating on me. She continues to do it especially with men I hate.

[isinlarsa]

I must admit I've found it very hot when I've been cheated on. My first wife started her hotwife career by cheating on me with her co-worker. She even made me unknowingly eat her out after he had fucked her. She couldn't keep a secret, and she told me within a month or two of her starting her affair; and we agree she could continue. It was much later that she confessed about having me eat the creampie her boyfriend deposited in her pussy. When she finally told me, my reaction was to tell her it was about the hottest thing she had ever done to me.

After that marriage ended, my girlfriend, with whom I was in a monogamous relationship, got seduced on a business trip. Sometime later she, too, confessed to cheating. Again, I discovered it excited me, which I acknowledged to her. Needless to say that lead her into getting laid on other business trips.

[isinlarsa]

Ive always been into the idea of my partners with other people. My wife never, ever liked or warmed to the idea of a swapping, hotwifing, cucking relationship at all, but ended up having a huge affair which i found out about pretty early - and instead of confronting her, or admitting that i knew, i basically ended up facilitating. Previously i had never really realised that cheating itself was a huge turn on, but it was, and crazily so.

I find the general reception to it on here can be quite frosty and ‘superior’ from people that arent into it though - ive had many conversations about it on here over the years, and it often gets considered unhealthy etc.

Did your wife ever know you had discovered her affair? What did you do to facilitate her affair?

[gruenberg]

Probably it can be a kink. Everything can be a kink.

But it wasn't in my case. If been cheated on by my girlfriend at the university and it was worse. I walked in on them. I was far from getting an erection or arousal. This scenario, which is often described here, didn't happen to me. I split up with her.

My wife, whom i met later, cheated on me and got pregnant. That is how i learned about her affair with her boss. This was the same. I wasn't aroused. It was a tough time for us but we stayed together and i accepted it. It is more acceptance than arousment.

[AZCuckedMale]

Getting cheated on by an ex gf is partially how I realized I'm a cuck so it's definitely a huge turn on for me. My wife has told me she’s had sex with someone a bunch of times behind my back that she’s never told me about. I’m guessing it’s one of my friends or one of her Bull's friends. I love that woman lol.

[readerofthings]

I've posted about it before but I had a gf in my 20's who unexpectedly sucked and then fucked my roommate with me in the apartment after we both got drunk.

are you ok with it? do you encourage her to do more?

I'm not always okay with it while it's in progress but it's a huge turn on. As for encouraging her, it's typically not necessary.

[goodgollymsmolly]

One of hubbys biggest fantasies is for me to invite a lover to our home while he is out, without his knowing about it of course. Then having him catch me in the act when he comes home. Some day it might happen, not now because we are not empty nesters yet.

That would be what we might consider cheating, or more like a cheating fantasy. becasue like many have said, it wouldn't be the true definition of cheating as it is something we both have talked about and are ok with.

I would never truely "cheat" on hubby as there is absolutely no need for that. He lets me do whoever or whatever I want.

[Marksmall5]

Yes, l think about this a lot. Would love it.

[trecital]

I would never truely "cheat" on hubby as there is absolutely no need for that. He lets me do whoever or whatever I want.

'Whoever" you want. So, are you saying that you have sex with other men (or women) and your hubby knows about it?

[goodgollymsmolly]

I would never truely "cheat" on hubby as there is absolutely no need for that. He lets me do whoever or whatever I want.

'Whoever" you want. So, are you saying that you have sex with other men (or women) and your hubby knows about it?

Yes I have sex with other men, I've been with a few girls as well, but I prefer sex with men. Hubby enjoys me being a slut, and I enjoy the attention and the sex of course.

[HappyHardHubby]

I get superaroused and it has happened.

[cpeater]

It's one of my biggest turn ons, and over time I have gotten to the point where I tell her "there are no rules." I seriously doubt there's anything much going on but the idea thrills me so much.

[Gmor]

This story is different than most in this section, but I think its still relevant.

This happened with a woman I was almost engaged to. We were both previously relatively inexperienced sexually, but she had started to blossom when we were together. Unfortunately, her ‘blossoming’ ultimately ended up with her cheating on me. We eventually made up and continued on our/her ‘exploration’ but before long she suggested we have an ‘open relationship’. I agreed in the beginning as it sounded exciting and fun but soon came to regret this.

Soon after her affair was (what I believe) the first time she ‘utilized’ our new ‘open relationship’. She decided to go out of town for a weekend with a guy she knew from work and as the date approached I started freaking out. I tried my best but as the weekend approached and came I failed miserably. The whole weekend she was away I was going crazy and come Sunday when she was to return I started pestering her roommates to have her call me. I had called her a couple of times over the weekend and many times on Sunday but she wasn’t picking up her calls (she later claimed her phone failed).

One thing I should disclose was that my girlfriend, though her affair became very curious/ interested in better endowed men (im smaller than average). Her affair partner was large (‘long’) but learned later that her ‘weekend’ guy was enormous in all ways. I asked her later how she knew this, as this was supposedly their first encounter and never got a clear answer.

Finally, very late Sunday night I called the house phone again. She lived in shared accommodation with three other girls and her room was a former dining room and only separated from the main family room by thin ‘pocket doors’. Two of her roommates were pleasant but one was a total b*tch with a true cruel streak. They were all long in bed and I ending up waking up the bitchier girl. She was pretty pissed and said my girlfriend had gotten home but went straight to bed. When I pushed her to wake her up she said told me ‘she wasn’t alone’! Talk about a gut punch, and she knew it. I was even more frantic and said I just needed to speak to her for a minute. I could hear her calling for my girlfriend outside her bedroom door, all the while getting increasingly irritated until she eventually just set the phone down at the foot of the door. As I described these weren’t real privacy doors with a large gap under them right beside where she placed the phone. I could now easily hear that they were very obviously having sex. Passionate sex.

The sex went on for about 20 minutes (far longer than ours) and she was notably louder than she was with me. Not porn star sex or anything stupid but there was very passionate moaning and she was pretty loud. She did say a few things during their session; like ‘harder’, ‘deeper’ a couple of times and one comment about his size but it was mostly moaning or her sharp exclamations. I could tell when she climaxed (2x) which was a big deal as I had struggled to satisfy her after her first affair. I now know this was one of the reasons why she pushed for the open relationship. I still think how its odd to be exposed to something that makes you nauseous while at the same time compelling you to furiously masturbate.

I never did confront her about this – I think it would have been just too humiliated. I suspect her roommate probably collected the phone and never spoke to her about it (even she realized what a terrible thing that was to do). But to this day its still a dominant theme when I masturbate. I can clearly recall virtually every detail of their ‘session’. Especially what she sounded like climaxing twice – after months of us being frustrated in this regard.

We shared, or I observed (figuratively) many other of her adventures but we ultimately broke up. Not over the sex but it played a significant role.

I did remain friends with this ex who later gave me a blanket apology for all that occurred during this period. We were both drunk at the time (a wedding) and she wasn’t specific in the apology but said it was for ‘everything’ that occurred and that she was ashamed of so many of her actions which she knew were emasculating (I forget the specific word she used but im pretty sure it was along this line).

I have more and even more extreme stories with her (probably what she was referring to above). Ive also had related situations with my wife, although she has never ever done anything to purposely hurt me. My wife’s actions have more to do with her sexual frustrations and her preference/requirement for a better endowed man rather than any purposeful action (what are the odds my two most significant relationships both feel very strongly on this subject). For the longest time my wife would go well out of her way to shelter me from her true feelings and desires.

[Handsome63]

I'd like to understand why this is so exciting. I once looked in my wife's handbag and I found the card that was attached to two flower deliveries to my wife. They were little love notes with "XOXOXO" and signed my her lover. I had no idea. The idea that my wife was having a love affair behind my back for a period of time, and I had no idea, was intoxicating. Writing this in this forum is giving me an erection. I'm, to this day, trying to understand the passion that they had and how he made love to her. I was young and couldn't handle it. I don't know if I still could handle it but to this day I want to enter her and fuck her thinking about her love affair with this man. I can't explain it. It just is so.

[Decman]

Our cuckold relationship started with her cheating on me for several years before we confronted it. It was one of those things where I knew she was cheating, but did little to discover it for quite some time.

Back then she would assuage her guilt by having sex with me. Once we discovered that she loves me but is not sexually attracted or aroused by me, it’s quite the opposite.

[isinlarsa]

I'd like to understand why this is so exciting. I once looked in my wife's handbag and I found the card that was attached to two flower deliveries to my wife. They were little love notes with "XOXOXO" and signed my her lover. I had no idea. The idea that my wife was having a love affair behind my back for a period of time, and I had no idea, was intoxicating. Writing this in this forum is giving me an erection. I'm, to this day, trying to understand the passion that they had and how he made love to her. I was young and couldn't handle it. I don't know if I still could handle it but to this day I want to enter her and fuck her thinking about her love affair with this man. I can't explain it. It just is so.

When you say you couldn't handle her having an affair, how did you react? Confront her and tell her to stop? Divorce her? Or did you grow to first accept it, and discover it excited you?

I had an experience a little bit similar to yours. One day I was working from home, when my wife called me from her work to ask me to check the purse she carried the previous day for her bank card. My searching of her purse didn't find her bank card, but in an inside pocket I found a single condom.

She had already told me she wanted to date other men, but to my knowledge hadn't met any yet. The single condom got my head spinning. In my youth condoms had always come in packages of three. Why would she carry a single condom? Wouldn't she want to be prepared for a round two? I concluded the single condom was the last one left from a larger number she had started with. I must admit that kept me hard for many hours.

[Handsome63]

When you say you couldn't handle her having an affair, how did you react? Confront her and tell her to stop? Divorce her? Or did you grow to first accept it, and discover it excited you?

I discovered it excited me the moment I saw the cards from her lover. She was saving them. The problem was that eroticism/excitement was one of many emotions including anger, hurt, hopelessness...I wouldn't recommend it. Without going into the entire story, she left me. I almost forgot. I had had wife sharing thoughts and fantasies that I had shared with her previously a time or two during pillow talk. She ultimately threw that in my face and said that her boyfriend didn't want to share her, and she questioned how anyone could ever feel that way. It was complicated. We were married and there was a child involved. She left me for a period of time and moved back with her parents in another state. I remember I begged her to come back. It wasn't until I said screw it and decided to move on and see other people, she all of a sudden wanted me back. She had treated me terrible but there was our child and some other emotions I don't understand. We got back together and stayed together ever since, and it wasn't a mistake to do so. There's more to it but that is the gist of it.

[Cdncuck]

Hello to anyone reading this question. Does anyone get aroused by the idea of getting cheated on by there significant other?

Where wife or gf wants to cheat as it is a taboo and husband want to feel the rush of it.

Ps: can getting cheated on be a kink or am i the only one who has it.

No. You're certainly not the only one has this kink. My wife and I both have it which is probably strange because she's a hotwife who has my full support to fuck anyone she wants, anytime she wants.

Still, sometimes she cheats. When I found out about it many years ago, it was a surprise and very confusing. To be honest, I love her getting laid so her getting even more dick than I was aware of was a turn on. The part where she was going behind my back was just baffling. Given that she can do what she wants any time, why would she cheat?

The short version is, cheating gives her a deep, hot rush that she likes. Considering all the wonderful things she's done for me and to me, I decided I can live with a few secrets.

Cheating has a stronger pull on her than just screwing a few guys behind my back. She also gets a big rush from getting married guys to cheat on their wives and bed her. She also gets a rush getting her girlfriends to cheat on their husbands or significant other. It's a very big deal to her.

It's more complicated than that but in the interest of not going on too long, will just leave it at that.