What was your longest period you have been denied sex by your wife?

[4herpleasure89]

Two things some say defines a man as a cuckold is denial and humiliation. I don’t believe that denial has anything do do with it and potential humiliation is present any time your wife plays and you remain faithful. Just let all your vanilla friends know and will feel it!

I am not denied sex, but there have been periods of time we had very little sex mostly because of me. Her bulls “take her” which is what my wife wants. If I wait on her to make the first move it may not happen, but she has never denied me unless she is sick or exhausted from having sex with others!

I don’t get the denial thing, especially the way some here actually love and encourage it. I cannot help wondering if this is conceived in the minds of some cucks with psychological predispositions of inferiority and unworthiness. Sex binds me to my wife. Lack of it causes her to make emotional connections to others instead of me. And with some possible exceptions, is a recipe for divorce.

[inivisibletwin]

after dating for ten years, we finally got married january 2021. on our wedding i had sex with her. the next day I was informed by her and her boyfriend that that would be the last time i was allowed access to her pussy for a whole year. I am 100% pussy denied, i cannot touch it, i cannot even see it... it's not mine, its her boyfriend's... until our 1 year anniversary, january 2022. at that point i will have been denied for a whole year, and that will be the longest amount of time i was denied.

meanwhile her boyfriend has "husband level" access to it... which he already had, we are just calling it that now... he gets her pussy as much as he wants, when ever he wants, to do with what ever he wants.

we have always believed, even before she started dating her current boyfriend, that she should ALWAYS have another guy that she fucks more than me. that's just what works for our relationship, it feels right. it feels right to me, and it feels right to her. even if her and this boyfriend break up we will find another guy for her to fuck more than me... so this 1 year of denial while he fucks her all he wants, is the current way of ensuring he fucks her more.

[Des 31]

Two things some say defines a man as a cuckold is denial and humiliation. I don’t believe that denial has anything do do with it and potential humiliation is present any time your wife plays and you remain faithful. Just let all your vanilla friends know and will feel it!

I am not denied sex, but there have been periods of time we had very little sex mostly because of me. Her bulls “take her” which is what my wife wants. If I wait on her to make the first move it may not happen, but she has never denied me unless she is sick or exhausted from having sex with others!

I don’t get the denial thing, especially the way some here actually love and encourage it. I cannot help wondering if this is conceived in the minds of some cucks with psychological predispositions of inferiority and unworthiness. Sex binds me to my wife. Lack of it causes her to make emotional connections to others instead of me. And with some possible exceptions, is a recipe for divorce.

Your marital accord fits better with what is best known as a hotwife or stag-vixen relationship. But I can understand a cuckold's disposition. Most would agree that your analysis of a cuck's personality is right on target, but that's okay with most guys who embrace their submissive personalities. Their postings here make it evident they recognize why they have those needs. Nothing wrong with that, just different from many others.

Denial, submissiveness, humiliation are important to guys who have feelings of unworthiness in various ways. They need a more masculine male to fill their wives ' needs and get off on that just as husbands of hotwives do. With an understanding and approving wife, that keeps their marriages together. Marriages that include a wife who cannot accept that can, as you suggest, lead to circumstances that are a recipe for divorce.

[Cuckonthelook]

I'm pussyfree in that I'm denied PIV sex with my girlfriend. She much prefers fucking bulls than me and has told me as such.

[ErikaPeter]

He has been denied penetration since December 2017. I give him partial blowjobs (although I am slowly weaning him off them) and finishing him with handjobs. He does masturbate on his own. I am trying to convince him to get caged so that I can have more direct control over the frequency of his orgasms. Although he was initially interested—in fact it was he who brought up the idea at first—he has gotten cold feet.

Hi Erika, has he had any since 2019 and did you lock him up. Does he get any sex of any type. Does he experience compersion knowing about some fun if you have any and is he allowed to cum.

Hi, OZCPL. He finally agreed to experimenting with caging in August 2019. We gradually moved to increasingly smaller cages and longer periods of lockup. He is now permanently caged and gets only ruined orgasms once every few weeks. We sleep in separate bedrooms. Yes, he does get some satisfaction through compersion, knowing that I am being satisfied by other, better men. However, I had to stop seeing other men for almost a year because of the pandemic. We successfully resisted any temptation to have sex with one another during that time. He bought me some new toys to keep me satisfied during that time, including some Bluetooth enabled devices that my friends could control remotely through the internet.

[jsteel]

Powerful Erica that you were able to keep your husband celibate till you resume your sex with lovers. Love to hear your recent journey. Beautiful couple.

[MrPepeLePew]

A couple of weeks max I'd say. Mostly her period plays a role in that wait time. As a traditional cuckold I do have a fantasy of being denied her pussy for longer periods of time but it would probably have to be by her bull / boyfriend vs. her. Despite my small size she seems to genuinely crave our coupling even though it doesn't get her off or anything (she says it still feels good).

If she does find a boyfriend / Dom who wants to make me pussy free, I'd expect we would explore "outercourse" and other tactics where we can still be intimate without violating the boyfriend's (and perhaps her) wishes.

[sherulestherooster]

Mostly her period plays a role in that wait time.

That was a big part of it for me as well, my ex Hotwife had very long periods (7+ days) and didn’t want me to touch her at all during that time (I read that orgasms help the discomfort so we would usually use the Hitachi over her pad - worked perfectly). One hot time she was about to start and she said, “the next cock inside me will not be yours” and I had wait for a date with a Bull before entering.

I’d say no more than a month though. Handjob orgasms were actually more intense for me but there is no substitute for the connection you get from intercourse.

[PANTIES]

I’m in my third year since I’ve had pussy. All I get it clean up a couple of times a year. I don’t get erections due to the estrogen I have been using. There are been some times when I go to his home and suck his cock when he tells me. He does not ask, I get warm fresh man cream to taste and swallowed.

Pauline

[SailorGuy]

I am denied sex by both my wife and my girlfriend. They both have other steady lovers: well-hung men who can last a long time. Me, I am barely 4 inches any more and when thinking about either of them and rubbing myself I cum in less than a minute. It's been years since I've had sexual intercourse; at 66 now I don't suppose I will ever have that pleasure again. So I take my pleasure how I can, which is in knowing two beautiful women I love have a great pounding sex life with other men. A true cuckold!

[Bnc63]

6 months yesterday. My wife says it will be permanent... I’m one that feels as Des 31 described above as unworthy.

I’m small with no stamina. She told me she’s faked enjoyment of our less than 1 min rendezvous for over 30 years and it’s her time now to seek out pleasure!

This excites me beyond understanding but is also a bit scary.

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

He has been denied penetration since December 2017. I give him partial blowjobs (although I am slowly weaning him off them) and finishing him with handjobs. He does masturbate on his own. I am trying to convince him to get caged so that I can have more direct control over the frequency of his orgasms. Although he was initially interested—in fact it was he who brought up the idea at first—he has gotten cold feet.

Hi Erika, has he had any since 2019 and did you lock him up. Does he get any sex of any type. Does he experience compersion knowing about some fun if you have any and is he allowed to cum.

Hi, OZCPL. He finally agreed to experimenting with caging in August 2019. We gradually moved to increasingly smaller cages and longer periods of lockup. He is now permanently caged and gets only ruined orgasms once every few weeks. We sleep in separate bedrooms. Yes, he does get some satisfaction through compersion, knowing that I am being satisfied by other, better men. However, I had to stop seeing other men for almost a year because of the pandemic. We successfully resisted any temptation to have sex with one another during that time. He bought me some new toys to keep me satisfied during that time, including some Bluetooth enabled devices that my friends could control remotely through the internet.

I'm not being judgmental. I'm just wondering...no sex of any kind with you except ruined orgasms. You two sleep in separate bedrooms. Sounds more like a friendly/roommate situation than a marriage. But if it works for you, then I guess it works for you.

[ErikaPeter]

He has been denied penetration since December 2017. I give him partial blowjobs (although I am slowly weaning him off them) and finishing him with handjobs. He does masturbate on his own. I am trying to convince him to get caged so that I can have more direct control over the frequency of his orgasms. Although he was initially interested—in fact it was he who brought up the idea at first—he has gotten cold feet.

Hi Erika, has he had any since 2019 and did you lock him up. Does he get any sex of any type. Does he experience compersion knowing about some fun if you have any and is he allowed to cum.

Hi, OZCPL. He finally agreed to experimenting with caging in August 2019. We gradually moved to increasingly smaller cages and longer periods of lockup. He is now permanently caged and gets only ruined orgasms once every few weeks. We sleep in separate bedrooms. Yes, he does get some satisfaction through compersion, knowing that I am being satisfied by other, better men. However, I had to stop seeing other men for almost a year because of the pandemic. We successfully resisted any temptation to have sex with one another during that time. He bought me some new toys to keep me satisfied during that time, including some Bluetooth enabled devices that my friends could control remotely through the internet.

I'm not being judgmental. I'm just wondering...no sex of any kind with you except ruined orgasms. You two sleep in separate bedrooms. Sounds more like a friendly/roommate situation than a marriage. But if it works for you, then I guess it works for you.

I understand what you are saying. We are depriving ourselves of the contribution that physical sex makes to the emotional connection in a marriage. Because we shared your concern, we did make an effort to make love without PIV on an occasional basis, but honestly it did very little for either of us. Sex with other men is so much more gratifying for me, and my husband actually prefers the long-standing arousal and vicarious satisfaction that comes from denial.

I would also argue that marriage is much more than just sex. We still share the love, companionship, mutual support, and merging of our lives that characterize more traditional—and successful—marriages. The hotwife/cuckold/denial dynamic itself represents a deep, albeit non traditional, sexual connection between us. Of course, none of us can be sure what the future will bring.

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

Hi Erika, has he had any since 2019 and did you lock him up. Does he get any sex of any type. Does he experience compersion knowing about some fun if you have any and is he allowed to cum.

Hi, OZCPL. He finally agreed to experimenting with caging in August 2019. We gradually moved to increasingly smaller cages and longer periods of lockup. He is now permanently caged and gets only ruined orgasms once every few weeks. We sleep in separate bedrooms. Yes, he does get some satisfaction through compersion, knowing that I am being satisfied by other, better men. However, I had to stop seeing other men for almost a year because of the pandemic. We successfully resisted any temptation to have sex with one another during that time. He bought me some new toys to keep me satisfied during that time, including some Bluetooth enabled devices that my friends could control remotely through the internet.

I'm not being judgmental. I'm just wondering...no sex of any kind with you except ruined orgasms. You two sleep in separate bedrooms. Sounds more like a friendly/roommate situation than a marriage. But if it works for you, then I guess it works for you.

I understand what you are saying. We are depriving ourselves of the contribution that physical sex makes to the emotional connection in a marriage. Because we shared your concern, we did make an effort to make love without PIV on an occasional basis, but honestly it did very little for either of us. Sex with other men is so much more gratifying for me, and my husband actually prefers the long-standing arousal and vicarious satisfaction that comes from denial.

I would also argue that marriage is much more than just sex. We still share the love, companionship, mutual support, and merging of our lives that characterize more traditional—and successful—marriages. Of course, none of us can be sure what the future will bring.

Well, if it works for you, then it works for you.

[Open2it]

... I would also argue that marriage is much more than just sex. We still share the love, companionship, mutual support, and merging of our lives that characterize more traditional—and successful—marriages. Of course, none of us can be sure what the future will bring.

Erika makes a really good point. There are many facets in a good marriage that outweigh sex. If sex was the primary indicator of a good marriage, then it would have far more time devoted to it on a daily basis. I would offer that chastity and cuckolding offer their own forms of intimacy between couples who have gotten past the stage where jealous feelings are destructive. There’s a huge difference between love and casual sex.

[desertsub]

... I would also argue that marriage is much more than just sex. We still share the love, companionship, mutual support, and merging of our lives that characterize more traditional—and successful—marriages. Of course, none of us can be sure what the future will bring.

Erika makes a really good point. There are many facets in a good marriage that outweigh sex. If sex was the primary indicator of a good marriage, then it would have far more time devoted to it on a daily basis. I would offer that chastity and cuckolding offer their own forms of intimacy between couples who have gotten past the stage where jealous feelings are destructive. There’s a huge difference between love and casual sex.

I agree with you! My wife says that what she does with other guys is fucking, plain and simple. Even though we rarely have PIV sex, my wife says that we still make love when we cuddle and I do oral on her. Even without the PIV sex, our marriage is the strongest it's ever been.

[hando]

Back when I first answered the poll, I checked 2 years. Now, I'm up to 4 years and 7 months of no penetration. My "sex life" is now hand jobs only about twice a month, and still performing oral on her about twice a year. I no longer miss pussy and never think about getting any, as well as forgetting a long time ago what it feels like to be inside a woman.

On February 26th, I passed 5 years without any pussy. Everything is about the same as I mentioned in the post.

My wife did tell me a few days ago that she has no interest at all in my penis at all. She has told me frequently for the last 10 year she couldn't wait until I became impotent, but I'm still able to get an erection without chemical help. Impotent or not, her pussy is permanently off limits, so there is no expectation of any penetration on my part forever.

[GoddessJ]

Penetration is one form of sex and one way of achieving orgasm, however there is so much more to a deep meaningful sexual relationship that just penetration. Living a BDsm cuckold marriage is and continues to be something quite different from a husband being in control of when he gets to watch and when he gets to pleasure himself. I have not let my husband inside of me for over 2 years and having read the posts above I see no reason to change this arrangement. I get a great deal of satisfaction knowing that my husband is pussy free and the behavioural modification this eventually brings, enhancing our BDsm Female led marriage. It also motivates me to make sure I have a regular lover (as is the case right now) and I adore my husbands deep commitment and adoration of me his Hotwite that has developed over long term denial and differentiation. Ensuring long term chastity was never something we considered at the beginning our relationship but it is something I will continue to insist on for his and my benefit, and that of our marriage.

[subguy80]

Penetration is one form of sex and one way of achieving orgasm, however there is so much more to a deep meaningful sexual relationship that just penetration. Living a BDsm cuckold marriage is and continues to be something quite different from a husband being in control of when he gets to watch and when he gets to pleasure himself. I have not let my husband inside of me for over 2 years and having read the posts above I see no reason to change this arrangement. I get a great deal of satisfaction knowing that my husband is pussy free and the behavioural modification this eventually brings, enhancing our BDsm Female led marriage. It also motivates me to make sure I have a regular lover (as is the case right now) and I adore my husbands deep commitment and adoration of me his Hotwite that has developed over long term denial and differentiation. Ensuring long term chastity was never something we considered at the beginning our relationship but it is something I will continue to insist on for his and my benefit, and that of our marriage.

If I may weigh in from the husband's perspective, I totally agree with these comments from GoddessJ. My wife and I went for over two years without intercourse and yet I felt like it was a period of intense sex for me because of what this poster describes. There are so many other aspects of hot sex than just intercourse. One of them for me is watching her with her lover when I am denied. BDSM attributes of power plays between the dom and the sub can be incredibly powerful. By her choice and her lover's choice, my wife and I only have intercourse about once a month or even once every two months and I must wear a condom. We may be returning to complete denial of PIV. I read her this post from GoddessJ because I think it sums up our situation so well and describes what is going on from both sides, husband and wife.

[EDAS]

Wise words by Goddess. Penetration is not the be all and end all of sex. I think, as a male, the practice of a constant go-between "penetration" and "chastity" is ideal. I even think that women who insists more on the chastity side of this penetration/chastity cycle should allow their husband to penetrate them for no longer than 30 seconds so that the husband can feel what it is that he is not allowed to have 100%. The woman is then rubbing it into the husband's face, which is good.

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

Penetration is one form of sex and one way of achieving orgasm, however there is so much more to a deep meaningful sexual relationship that just penetration. Living a BDsm cuckold marriage is and continues to be something quite different from a husband being in control of when he gets to watch and when he gets to pleasure himself. I have not let my husband inside of me for over 2 years and having read the posts above I see no reason to change this arrangement. I get a great deal of satisfaction knowing that my husband is pussy free and the behavioural modification this eventually brings, enhancing our BDsm Female led marriage. It also motivates me to make sure I have a regular lover (as is the case right now) and I adore my husbands deep commitment and adoration of me his Hotwite that has developed over long term denial and differentiation. Ensuring long term chastity was never something we considered at the beginning our relationship but it is something I will continue to insist on for his and my benefit, and that of our marriage.

I've heard that in some situations like that, a cuckold husband and can, and sometime does, become emotionally detached from his Wife (and/or vice-versa), and then, eventually the marriage ends. I guess if it works for you, than it works for you.

[scarlettscuck]

Bumping this up to see if those that commented can update us on their status.

We are currently focused on a “delayed” not denied lengthy period of no sex (now 2 weeks). I’m locked 24/7/365 and find it very intense and she’s enjoying the control. When it’s the right time (her decision) we will have amazing sex then reset again. The longer we wait the better it will be.

[ucaneffher]

Bumping this up to see if those that commented can update us on their status.

We are currently focused on a “delayed” not denied lengthy period of no sex (now 2 weeks). I’m locked 24/7/365 and find it very intense and she’s enjoying the control. When it’s the right time (her decision) we will have amazing sex then reset again. The longer we wait the better it will be.

Speaking as a former cuck, currently a wannabe, but dating a girlfriend who is in full knowledge and agreement with my desires and claims to have absolute full intentions to dive into them lifestyle in the near future... Thank God she is like minded in that area.

That being said, I would like to state that while I don't hope for denial once she is on board, I would still be 100% supportive and compliant of her decision if she ever came to me and told me she was going to start limiting intercourse with me. Max I've gone in the past has been 4 months, then 8 months all within a 3 year period so 12 months combined but not in one straight shot.

In the even she cut me off while being available to all other men, I think the absolute max that i could endure without intercourse would be 8 to 12 straight months. I would comply for up to a year of seeing her only have sex with other men before I start demanding some of that delicious pussy.

In summary, I would at least want anniversary, birthday, and Valentine's day pussy... Although if she's anything like the ex, I would have settle for the weekend after Valentine's Day since she would likely go spend it with her lover to model her new Valentine's day lingerie for him.

[Bnc63]

640 days without piv for us and about 400 days since I felt her luscious lips wrapped around him

[Johor]

I've never really been denied sex by my wife. But we got to the point of not having sex due to her lack of interest and non-responsiveness. It has been three years now.