Once cuckolding begins is there any going back?

[bradisalpha]

Short answer is NO for the cuckold.

His hot wife might move on from the lifestyle for a number of reasons as have been mentioned here.. but unless an earth shattering event changed the lifestyle in his mind, a cuckold that has experienced the multifaceted affects of being cuckolded, will crave those feelings forever. Intense sexual feelings can never be replaced with lesser… psychologically or physically. In fact these desires might increase and need to be satisfied in other ways, as so often referred to in this forum !!!

Of course, this is only my opinion based on what I have seen in my experience with hot wife/cuckold couples…

Brad is absolutely right on this, my wife had an affair early in our marriage and in the months and years that followed I developed intense cuckold fantasies that led me to telling her I wanted her to cuckold me again and that I am bisexual. The cuckold cravings only get more intense as I age and could never just forget about them and go back to less intense activities.

This is a fascinating conversation with a predominantly “fatalistic” viewpoint on the “Cuckold lifestyle.”

It does often seem like there is only one way for the Cuckold to go and that’s forward deeper into the darkness; there is no turning back.

mfmfantasy50,

You sum it up with interesting, but true, wording .. LOL !!

Once a cuckold has felt submission to his wife and her BF.. felt the intense sexual arousal of denial.. cleaned his wife and her BF of their mixed juices.. swallowed her BF’s cum while sucking him (and some being fucked by him).. his sexual DNA (for lack of a better word) has changed.

His sexual desires and cravings are totally opposite now from the man that was previously satisfied with traditional sex between him and his gf/wife. He watches his gf/wife flirt, seduce, and experience levels of sex that he was not able to provide. He is seeing this from the outside.. as a 3rd party. The psychological and physical reactions to this is very intense and once submitting to these feelings will want more.. and more.. and more. Hence “going further into the darkness”.

As an Alpha BF, I also fall into a similar psychological and physical excitement of seducing a wife and dominating her cuckold husband. To date a woman and end with traditional sex no longer appeals to me.. at all !! I cannot live without the seduction of a wife and the submission of a cuckold. I will show his wife how to enjoy his submission and, together, lead him down a path that he cannot return from.. especially once sissification becomes part of the relationship. So, you might say that I also want more and more, and also “go further into the darkness” !!!

Once a couple enter this lifestyle, their life will never be the same again. There are many levels from dipping their toe into it, to going all the way, however, it will change your life. You cannot unhear or unsee the experiences either way.

I feel it is very important that the wife and husband, both, are together on their desires going into this lifestyle and are both open to the changes that will occur on this journey along the way. A wife seems to be able to go back as her desires change.. a cuckold, no.

Wow.. I got carried away !!!

Brad

[mfmfantasy50]

Short answer is NO for the cuckold.

His hot wife might move on from the lifestyle for a number of reasons as have been mentioned here.. but unless an earth shattering event changed the lifestyle in his mind, a cuckold that has experienced the multifaceted affects of being cuckolded, will crave those feelings forever. Intense sexual feelings can never be replaced with lesser… psychologically or physically. In fact these desires might increase and need to be satisfied in other ways, as so often referred to in this forum !!!

Of course, this is only my opinion based on what I have seen in my experience with hot wife/cuckold couples…

Brad is absolutely right on this, my wife had an affair early in our marriage and in the months and years that followed I developed intense cuckold fantasies that led me to telling her I wanted her to cuckold me again and that I am bisexual. The cuckold cravings only get more intense as I age and could never just forget about them and go back to less intense activities.

This is a fascinating conversation with a predominantly “fatalistic” viewpoint on the “Cuckold lifestyle.”

It does often seem like there is only one way for the Cuckold to go and that’s forward deeper into the darkness; there is no turning back.

mfmfantasy50,

You sum it up with interesting, but true, wording .. LOL !!

Once a cuckold has felt submission to his wife and her BF.. felt the intense sexual arousal of denial.. cleaned his wife and her BF of their mixed juices.. swallowed her BF’s cum while sucking him (and some being fucked by him).. his sexual DNA (for lack of a better word) has changed.

His sexual desires and cravings are totally opposite now from the man that was previously satisfied with traditional sex between him and his gf/wife. He watches his gf/wife flirt, seduce, and experience levels of sex that he was not able to provide. He is seeing this from the outside.. as a 3rd party. The psychological and physical reactions to this is very intense and once submitting to these feelings will want more.. and more.. and more. Hence “going further into the darkness”.

As an Alpha BF, I also fall into a similar psychological and physical excitement of seducing a wife and dominating her cuckold husband. To date a woman and end with traditional sex no longer appeals to me.. at all !! I cannot live without the seduction of a wife and the submission of a cuckold. I will show his wife how to enjoy his submission and, together, lead him down a path that he cannot return from.. especially once sissification becomes part of the relationship. So, you might say that I also want more and more, and also “go further into the darkness” !!!

Once a couple enter this lifestyle, their life will never be the same again. There are many levels from dipping their toe into it, to going all the way, however, it will change your life. You cannot unhear or unsee the experiences either way.

I feel it is very important that the wife and husband, both, are together on their desires going into this lifestyle and are both open to the changes that will occur on this journey along the way. A wife seems to be able to go back as her desires change.. a cuckold, no.

Wow.. I got carried away !!!

Brad

This is a co-dependent relationship between the Dominant and the Cuckold. Neither can exist in a vacuum and they each require the other. The wife is an prize they vie for; in totally different (opposite) ways, that compels them to link arms over the wife during the struggle, but without ever taking their eyes off one another.

[bradisalpha]

Brad is absolutely right on this, my wife had an affair early in our marriage and in the months and years that followed I developed intense cuckold fantasies that led me to telling her I wanted her to cuckold me again and that I am bisexual. The cuckold cravings only get more intense as I age and could never just forget about them and go back to less intense activities.

This is a fascinating conversation with a predominantly “fatalistic” viewpoint on the “Cuckold lifestyle.”

It does often seem like there is only one way for the Cuckold to go and that’s forward deeper into the darkness; there is no turning back.

mfmfantasy50,

You sum it up with interesting, but true, wording .. LOL !!

Once a cuckold has felt submission to his wife and her BF.. felt the intense sexual arousal of denial.. cleaned his wife and her BF of their mixed juices.. swallowed her BF’s cum while sucking him (and some being fucked by him).. his sexual DNA (for lack of a better word) has changed.

His sexual desires and cravings are totally opposite now from the man that was previously satisfied with traditional sex between him and his gf/wife. He watches his gf/wife flirt, seduce, and experience levels of sex that he was not able to provide. He is seeing this from the outside.. as a 3rd party. The psychological and physical reactions to this is very intense and once submitting to these feelings will want more.. and more.. and more. Hence “going further into the darkness”.

As an Alpha BF, I also fall into a similar psychological and physical excitement of seducing a wife and dominating her cuckold husband. To date a woman and end with traditional sex no longer appeals to me.. at all !! I cannot live without the seduction of a wife and the submission of a cuckold. I will show his wife how to enjoy his submission and, together, lead him down a path that he cannot return from.. especially once sissification becomes part of the relationship. So, you might say that I also want more and more, and also “go further into the darkness” !!!

Once a couple enter this lifestyle, their life will never be the same again. There are many levels from dipping their toe into it, to going all the way, however, it will change your life. You cannot unhear or unsee the experiences either way.

I feel it is very important that the wife and husband, both, are together on their desires going into this lifestyle and are both open to the changes that will occur on this journey along the way. A wife seems to be able to go back as her desires change.. a cuckold, no.

Wow.. I got carried away !!!

Brad

This is a co-dependent relationship between the Dominant and the Cuckold. Neither can exist in a vacuum and they each require the other. The wife is an prize they vie for; in totally different (opposite) ways, that compels them to link arms over the wife during the struggle, but without ever taking their eyes off one another.

Yes !!

Brad

[cuck4daze]

I can only speak for our relationship, but our marriage was born in the midst of her infidelity. I knew that she was seeing other men at the time I proposed to her but I thought once I showed I was willing to commit to her 110% that she would embrace monogamy with me. Exactly, the opposite happened--she gave me no choice but to embrace her dominance and submit as her cuckold. I loved her so much that I didn't want to lose her in my life, even if it meant that I pretty much became her husband in name only as we no longer have a sexual relationship that involves intercourse.

Combine this with the fact that I've fallen in love with cross-dressing and I don't think we could ever have a traditional marriage, even if we tried.

[coastalkid]

Short answer is NO for the cuckold.

His hot wife might move on from the lifestyle for a number of reasons as have been mentioned here.. but unless an earth shattering event changed the lifestyle in his mind, a cuckold that has experienced the multifaceted affects of being cuckolded, will crave those feelings forever. Intense sexual feelings can never be replaced with lesser… psychologically or physically. In fact these desires might increase and need to be satisfied in other ways, as so often referred to in this forum !!!

Of course, this is only my opinion based on what I have seen in my experience with hot wife/cuckold couples…

Brad is absolutely right on this, my wife had an affair early in our marriage and in the months and years that followed I developed intense cuckold fantasies that led me to telling her I wanted her to cuckold me again and that I am bisexual. The cuckold cravings only get more intense as I age and could never just forget about them and go back to less intense activities.

This is a fascinating conversation with a predominantly “fatalistic” viewpoint on the “Cuckold lifestyle.”

It does often seem like there is only one way for the Cuckold to go and that’s forward deeper into the darkness; there is no turning back.

I agree mfmfantasy50! There are far too many absolutists! "That's just the way it is!" is far too simplistic to be considered an accurate and inevitable result. There are so many possible combinations of personality and experiences to declare a foregone conclusion. There's also no denying that this is one possibility out of an infinite set of outcomes. I do believe that both positive and negative experiences will always linger in the hearts and minds of a cuckold. The difference is that there is no clear definition of what constitutes what is positive and what is negative. Humans are far more resilient and capable of overcoming adversity to limit them. People can, and do change.

[shorebird]

Our first FWB said it succinctly to me when he asked how I was doing and I expressed the angst I was feeling. He said "you better get used to it because once your wife is shared you're not going to get that toothpaste back in the tube !"

[cukgrl69]

I mean this as a serious question and not a fantasy thing and I'm interested in opinions from everyone...cucks, hotwives, bulls...

After cuckolding starts, is it possible for the hotwife to go back to having normal attraction for her man, or will she always see him as submissive and perhaps less attractive (than she would to bulls and other guys who are dominant/not into submission)?

I know with my ex that she couldn't see me the same way once she'd seen me submit to her. She told me once that she always felt that she would want other guys and questioned whether that was good for a relationship.

I wouldn't put it quite like this. For us at least, I don't think we will ever return to a non-cuckolding relationship. My wife and I are much closer now and get along better than before we started all of this. She always says that I'm "the man" in her life and that other guys have to understand that she doesn't want a long-term relationship with them or that any relationship with them will always be secondary to ours. She always says she very much likes being with a cuckold and that she's so happy that I've become her cuck. She likes being able to fuck lots of men and thinks it would never work if she was in a relationship with the type of guys she likes to fuck.

However, I don't think she'll ever want to "have sex" with me again, meaning she has no interest in having intercourse with me anymore. But we still do lots of sexual things and she wants me to be there to watch when she is with other men. She initiates pegging me on occasion, and we masturbate together frequently. I still fist her when she gets really horny and of course I lick her pussy. And I almost always clean her up after other men cum in her.

But will she always want to be fucked by other men? I would say almost certainly. I don't think she'll ever want me to fuck her again, but I'm ok with that.

[brutay2]

With all that being said, Why would you go back? you finally got what you wanted , simply go with it

[ohtobecucked]

Yeah, I think it can but I know my wife sees me differently as a person now - so it would take a long time to be ‘the way it used to.

My wife’s boyfriend has asked her to start staying over for longer, maybe 4 or 5 days a week rather than just quick ‘sessions’. I know that she’d like to but she’s sounding nervous over how she thinks I’ll take it.

I’m all for it! I’m a cuck and that’s so hot. I’m here to support her in whatever comes up.

So we’d much more likely be progressing things rather than trying to reset back to ‘normal’

[LongTermHubby]

I'm sure my wife would not give up being with other men. She sees sex with me was a waster of time because I don't satisfy her.

[ohtobecucked]

I'm sure my wife would not give up being with other men. She sees sex with me was a waster of time because I don't satisfy her.

Appreciate the honesty and how you see it. Sounds like she'd be more likely to give you up than the real fucking that she had been missing out on and is now experiencing?

[LongTermHubby]

I'm sure my wife would not give up being with other men. She sees sex with me was a waster of time because I don't satisfy her.

Appreciate the honesty and how you see it. Sounds like she'd be more likely to give you up than the real fucking that she had been missing out on and is now experiencing?

She would never give up her sexual freedom after experiencing it.

[ohtobecucked]

Good for her, nor should she! Sure you're happy, too!

[belvedere]

I think that creampie eating after the bull comes in the wife is the thing that breaks the sexual bond between a wife and husband more than anything. I think as far as penis in vagina she'll want something else exclusively not the husband at some point. Not to say she won't have vaginal intercourse with the husband. It'll just never be the same. If she wants "fucked" it'll be elsewhere. Is there any going back? I do not know. Both of my cuckolding relationships ended without cycling back to me being exclusive with my ex wife or ex fiancee. My ex fiancee used to comment that her pussy no longer wanted me inside her but she allowed it as she thought we needed the intimacy. And she was right about that. I do think that is important to maintain if you go down this road.

Your argument is very interesting.

Would you say that the feeling of broken sexual connection generated in a wife when she sees her husband cleaning her after the bull begins even before the actual act takes place?

Consider, for example, a wannabe cuck who has been encouraging his wife to become a hotwife for years and then tells her he wants to kiss and clean her with the bull's semen. Besides saying these things, he also shares videos showing husbands cleaning their wives after sex with the bull.

Would this dynamic likely lead to this outcome?

[Midnight Joker]

I don't think there is a way back. If you really wanted your wife to fuck other people, and then she started fucking other people, it was a big mental struggle for you. If you went beyond that and said, if you've already fucked someone else, fuck more than once and with more people. This means at least as much joy and excitement for you as when your wife slept with someone else for the first time. At that point, you feel more pleasure, not pain, and you want your wife to fuck with other people as much as possible. However, your wife also begins to enjoy fucking with others more and more and will fuck more and more with others. In addition, she finds more and more sex partners who fuck much better than you. This knowledge can be very pleasant for you, but it also means that your wife will fuck you less and less often. This culminates in your wife announcing that she is no longer going to fuck you. I was 30 years old when my wife permanently denied me her pussy. After that, I never had my dick in a pussy again, while my wife regularly fucked other people.

The cuckold fantasy is 99% of our sex right now. I doubt she has read any boards or stories (that I haven't provided) but still brought up a few points that seem to relate to real-life stories here. First, she said that she can never be un-fucked. Once she cucks me, her pussy will have been fucked by another man and that will never change. Second, she said during sex that she probably won't fuck me anymore. I was surprised to hear that one and asked why. She literally said I would be a pussy-free cuck as she won't need my cock anymore. Of course that turns me on and terrifies me at the same time.

[mfmfantasy50]

I don't think there is a way back. If you really wanted your wife to fuck other people, and then she started fucking other people, it was a big mental struggle for you. If you went beyond that and said, if you've already fucked someone else, fuck more than once and with more people. This means at least as much joy and excitement for you as when your wife slept with someone else for the first time. At that point, you feel more pleasure, not pain, and you want your wife to fuck with other people as much as possible. However, your wife also begins to enjoy fucking with others more and more and will fuck more and more with others. In addition, she finds more and more sex partners who fuck much better than you. This knowledge can be very pleasant for you, but it also means that your wife will fuck you less and less often. This culminates in your wife announcing that she is no longer going to fuck you. I was 30 years old when my wife permanently denied me her pussy. After that, I never had my dick in a pussy again, while my wife regularly fucked other people.

The cuckold fantasy is 99% of our sex right now. I doubt she has read any boards or stories (that I haven't provided) but still brought up a few points that seem to relate to real-life stories here. First, she said that she can never be un-fucked. Once she cucks me, her pussy will have been fucked by another man and that will never change. Second, she said during sex that she probably won't fuck me anymore. I was surprised to hear that one and asked why. She literally said I would be a pussy-free cuck as she won't need my cock anymore. Of course that turns me on and terrifies me at the same time.

Midnight Joker,
Your situation is very much like ours. Specifically, our "intimacy" is limited to the cuckold fantasy scenarios; primarily because that's what I (the cuckold husband wannabe) have emphasized and encouraged. She goes along with some but not all aspects of the fantasies, but hasn't yet gone forward to make them a reality with the exception of a period of infidelity she ventured into many years ago. About the time of that infidelity, she revealed honestly to me, that my cock wasn't satisfying her sexual needs; particularly as she couldn't achieve an orgasm while I was penetrating her. Being a "problem solver", I set out to find ways to increase my cock size and stimulation, which I enjoyed and were fun, but didn't result in her having any orgasms while I was penetrating her. I stepped up my game by adding large cock toys and vibrators to the game along with a lot of dirty fantasy and real life proposition talk. At first she resisted using the toys and listening to the dirty talk, but suddenly that combination hit the mark in an explosive way; she suddenly began experiencing massive physical vocal orgasms like I had never seen before. She suddenly jumped onboard with the toys and dirty talk to the point that she ONLY wanted penetration from those big cock toys. She began denying me penetration altogether, fulfilling another big element of the Cuckold Fantasy by only allowing me to have orgasms through masturbation. And, that's what our "intimacy" looks like to this day.
Rock

[Midnight Joker]

Midnight Joker,
Your situation is very much like ours. Specifically, our "intimacy" is limited to the cuckold fantasy scenarios; primarily because that's what I (the cuckold husband wannabe) have emphasized and encouraged. She goes along with some but not all aspects of the fantasies, but hasn't yet gone forward to make them a reality with the exception of a period of infidelity she ventured into many years ago. About the time of that infidelity, she revealed honestly to me, that my cock wasn't satisfying her sexual needs; particularly as she couldn't achieve an orgasm while I was penetrating her. Being a "problem solver", I set out to find ways to increase my cock size and stimulation, which I enjoyed and were fun, but didn't result in her having any orgasms while I was penetrating her. I stepped up my game by adding large cock toys and vibrators to the game along with a lot of dirty fantasy and real life proposition talk. At first she resisted using the toys and listening to the dirty talk, but suddenly that combination hit the mark in an explosive way; she suddenly began experiencing massive physical vocal orgasms like I had never seen before. She suddenly jumped onboard with the toys and dirty talk to the point that she ONLY wanted penetration from those big cock toys. She began denying me penetration altogether, fulfilling another big element of the Cuckold Fantasy by only allowing me to have orgasms through masturbation. And, that's what our "intimacy" looks like to this day.
Rock

Thank you for the reply. Yes, very similar. When turned on she loves the dirty talk. I almost start to believe that she has or will. Like your wife, she cums hard, especially when I'm cleaning up the mess.

Technically she did cuck you. Why did she stop? Do you ever try to penetrate her and if so, what does she do?

[mfmfantasy50]

Midnight Joker,
Your situation is very much like ours. Specifically, our "intimacy" is limited to the cuckold fantasy scenarios; primarily because that's what I (the cuckold husband wannabe) have emphasized and encouraged. She goes along with some but not all aspects of the fantasies, but hasn't yet gone forward to make them a reality with the exception of a period of infidelity she ventured into many years ago. About the time of that infidelity, she revealed honestly to me, that my cock wasn't satisfying her sexual needs; particularly as she couldn't achieve an orgasm while I was penetrating her. Being a "problem solver", I set out to find ways to increase my cock size and stimulation, which I enjoyed and were fun, but didn't result in her having any orgasms while I was penetrating her. I stepped up my game by adding large cock toys and vibrators to the game along with a lot of dirty fantasy and real life proposition talk. At first she resisted using the toys and listening to the dirty talk, but suddenly that combination hit the mark in an explosive way; she suddenly began experiencing massive physical vocal orgasms like I had never seen before. She suddenly jumped onboard with the toys and dirty talk to the point that she ONLY wanted penetration from those big cock toys. She began denying me penetration altogether, fulfilling another big element of the Cuckold Fantasy by only allowing me to have orgasms through masturbation. And, that's what our "intimacy" looks like to this day.
Rock

Thank you for the reply. Yes, very similar. When turned on she loves the dirty talk. I almost start to believe that she has or will. Like your wife, she cums hard, especially when I'm cleaning up the mess.

Technically she did cuck you. Why did she stop? Do you ever try to penetrate her and if so, what does she do?

I've never pushed the matter and I long ago accepted the fact that I cannot satisfy her. It seems a bit unfair to try to push too hard, when she's not getting anything out of it.

[Bobs52]

I had long let my wife know that she could have sex with other men as long as she told me afterwards. She seemed completely uninterested. Well she finally did fuck a guy at an out of town high school reunion but didn’t tell me about it for some time after. In the meantime much along the Pandora’s box thing I keep reading about, after total faithfulness for 20 years she tried to arrange to fuck two other guys that summer. One had a difficult time hooking up as he was married and didn’t work out. The other guy she met at a casino while I was out of town, and must have told him she had a hall pass because he really put the full press on her. While she didn’t fuck him that night she later got as far as meeting him for coffee and following him back to his house to fuck. While she didn’t really explain it well, somehow she got a weird vibe when she got there feeling she had been lied to about something and split. I discovered the two later summer attempts and I think she got embarrassed that I knew and stopped all efforts.

After all this she finally tearfully confessed her high school reunion fuck. I think it surprised her that I was THRILLED to hear about it. I bought her flowers and the next week took her to a jewelry store to pick out a very expensive necklace as a reward that we refer to as her “hotwife necklace”. It made me feel like such a cuckold rewarding her so lavishly for fucking another man, and I loved the feeling!

Although I would love for her to continue, I’m sure she has not since due to lack of opportunity because we are now retired and our circle of friends consists of married couples and I’m sure she doesn’t want to jeopardize any friendships. I’m trying to get her to at least go to a clothing optional resort over the winter. She had breast enlargement recently and looks fantastic naked. She is receptive to my encouragement to show them off. Plus it would be great for her to see some large swinging dicks as she walks around with her husband and his little nub. I’m already anticipating that sweet humiliation! Who knows, even though I couldn’t get her to agree to a swingers resort, maybe a well endowed man will take pity on her and approach her anyway!

Anyway back to my point. Once that seal is broken it’s much easier for them to continue. They’ve crossed a line that can’t be uncrossed. Can they stop? Well, in my case yes unfortunately, even with my encouragement to continue.

Does she see me differently? It doesn’t seem like it. We’ve always had a pretty equal marriage in terms mutual respect outside of the bedroom. The funny thing is I’d kind of like for her to see me differently to a degree. What it has done is allow me to gradually introduce things in the bedroom that before I was hesitant to share. She was super lucky in that her one time tryst was great in bed. He gave her her first orgasm through intercourse. I have never come close to doing that. I have gotten her to readily admit that his cock was so much harder and bigger than mine and that he was a much better lover than I and to tell me that while I’m fucking her. I’ve gotten her to engage in SPH, although I always have to be the one to get the ball rolling. I wish I could get her to just make random comments when I’m getting out of the shower etc. Believe me, that’s some humiliation I truly deserve. I was hesitant to refer to myself as a cuckold, now I enthusiastically thank her for making me a cuckold in real life. I recently said to her that she probably has figured out that submissiveness and humiliation are a turn on for me. She did acknowledge that but at the same time told me she’s not naturally dominant in that area. Still, she is such a great sport when she straddles my face cowgirl position and rests her weight on my face as I greedily lick her pussy and then tounge her beautiful asshole as far as my tounge can reach while masturbating myself to an orgasm as she tells me she’s feeding me Robby’s (the reunion guy) cum!

Hmmm, I think I’ve just come up with a fun afternoon activity!

[masculinecuck]

In our case a firm NO
Pencil dick here once she went big it was off to the races, her cuck for over 8 yrs now
I watch/clean both........

[bradisalpha]

In our case a firm NO
Pencil dick here once she went big it was off to the races, her cuck for over 8 yrs now
I watch/clean both........

Good boy !!

Brad