mundyman wrote: ↑Thu Dec 08, 2022 3:06 am
w770 wrote: ↑Thu Dec 08, 2022 2:02 am
trecital wrote: ↑Thu Dec 08, 2022 12:42 am
There is an awful lot of pontificating going on here, about what 'w770' should and shouldn't do.
And a lot of it based on their own personal experience.
I know that this advice is offered with the best of intentions, but it assumes that that individuals experiences are going to be a good fit for everyone else. Which is patenely not true.
If there is one thing I've learnt, after many years of reading and communicating with other cucks, that there is no 'one size fits all' method.
And to be perfectly honest, 'w770' strikes me as an intelligent person, perfectly able to make his own mind up about what he does.
In particular, I have to take issue with the idea that as soon as the cuck accepts some sort of humiliation to take place, then his wife will lose respect for him. That does not apply in my case. And I've read many other cuck encounters where that is also not the case. Read someon like 'Canadian wittols' postings and you will see a 'cuck' whose wife has maximum respect for him. Maybe even more respect than she would otherwise have. And there are plenty of others who are similar.
Another comment I saw on this forum only this morning was a cuck describing himself as an 'alpha cuck'. I knew immediately what he meant. Not all cucks are beta's, wimps or sissy's.
In my cuck relationship I'm the one who is really in charge. Yes, a lot of 'topping from the bottom' going on. But that's the only way it's going to work for me. My wife and boyfriend have understood this from the beginning. They understand this and tacitly agree to it. For me 'cuckolding' is not a 24hr lifestyle choice. Yes, I often think about cuck type things during the day. But actual cuck activity is almost exclusively reserved for sexual activity, for the bedroom.
Cuckolding is a complex and diverse set of circumstances, and ways of thinking.
Please, just let's ease back from the 'listen to xyz, he wrote the bible on cuckolding' type comments.
A lot of this resonated with me especially the mention of the term "alpha cuck" and how cuckolding is not a 24/7 sort of endeavor. Like yourself, although my relationship is balanced, my wife has always said to me and our family/friends that I'm the decision maker and she defers to me. Now I understand that this sentiment might seem counter to what's been expressed here but it's a forum for a particular lifestyle and in this specific area, Lana and I have chosen to play certain roles with the same ultimate goal. But I understand the impression that some might get here that she's the one in charge because of the focus on her having sex with someone else.
As always, I take all views and throw them into the equation as I won't claim to know more than I do and others with experience. Like I've said before, everyone here has the advantage of objectivity in their perspective, colored by their own experience while I have the advantage of knowing Lana and our marriage like I do. It's all a process of give and take, ying and yang, a great symbiosis in my opinion.
More specifically, since there seems to be a wave of comments remarking on the speed of progression, I'm definitely going to try and step back and evaluate that as objectively as I can.
Thanks everyone. Today is scheduled to be a low key day. Lana and I are taking a long lunch break today and going to some cute french restaurant that she loves. I'll see how she feels about taking a breather and a longer pause from all things Superman just to get a feel for her thoughts.
A tremendous adventure you are on.
Have a great couple day as you are no doubt both looking at each other in amazement that you are doing this.
Have fun with each other this weekend.
Thanks! Yeah it was a pretty sweet, low key day. We barely even talked about Superman or anything even remotely related to this entire experience. Instead, we just went on a long lunch, and then after lunch we walked around with the dogs. I kinda thought that her sex drive would be more amped up in light of her talk with him yesterday but in fact, the opposite.
Bi_Giver wrote: ↑Thu Dec 08, 2022 8:32 am
I enjoy reading about your progress. I think it would be fun if Lana told Superman that she came clean with you and that although you took it hard , came to accept their arrangement. You could set something up where you could home unexpectantly and find them together fucking! I would be curious to know what he would do!
It is hot to think about, coming home and seeing them already going at it. Maybe in the next few weeks, that will be the case. Superman seems like the type to enjoy that circumstance as well, so it might be for everyone's benefit.
KevDi69 wrote: ↑Thu Dec 08, 2022 9:50 am
Good luck with this next chapter in your adventure! It sounds like you and Lana have a good game plan going ahead. Glad you two are taking the day to be together.
The only person Lana should lose respect for in this saga is Superman. I think he clearly clearly showed what a douche he is when he admitted he was trying to get them caught by you and that in CA he would intentionally leave clues so the other married woman would get caught by her husband. Both wives were giving him the gift of their bodies and he returns the favor by trying to at least get them in trouble or ruin their marriages. What was Lana’s reaction to that?
She has a really good poker face so although she was thinking what an asshole he was in the moment when he told her that, she was barely unphased in terms of her reaction to his telling of it. She wasn't necessarily surprised though, as no one should be. I mean, we're not about to get upset at an asshole for acting like an asshole.
diet_dew_86 wrote: ↑Thu Dec 08, 2022 10:29 am
It sounds like she has the greater interest in your being present. With regard to the discussion of whether you'd be undressed as well, have you asked what her preference is?
Maybe I missed this detail but I think it would be better for you to meet with him and her first in a non-sexual encounter with the hotwife aspect on the table. I think it will help establish the boundaries and relationship dynamics. I think it is easier to move from a Stag-style dynamic over time to more Cuckold than it is the other way around.
Well, it's pretty certain that I'll be touching myself while watching them, but I'm a tad insecure about the size differential between the two of us, so that's the only consideration that's holding me back from whipping it out. Regarding your other question, she prefers that I'm there watching her, but she also understands if it's too much for me at first, so I might just be listening in the first few times, which is also really overwhelming.