Not a Cuckold, but Thought I'd Share My Situation

[whosbeensleeping]

Hope all goes well. I suggest finding ways to get out of your head and be present. Walk in nature maybe?

[mf2hd82]

Can we synchronize watches here for a minute? What time zone are you in?

[drstrangelove]

Can we synchronize watches here for a minute? What time zone are you in?

EST; I'm in New York. It's 10 a.m. here.

[drstrangelove]

So I wasn't planning to post again until after the events of the day concluded, but I'm sitting here now and realize this moment may be interesting/valuable for others. Might be therapeutic for me to write too.

At around 7:30 a.m. I got out of bed to take a shower. My wife had woken up earlier, but curled into me and fell back asleep. After the shower, I put on me cage, noting the collection of items on our bathroom vanity: condoms, chastity key and my wife's wedding rings. I kept putting it out of my mind and putting one foot in front of the other.

Around the time I got my cage on, it was nearly 8 a.m. and my wife joined me in the bathroom. We asked how we each were and "nervous" was the common denominator.

I left her to shower and got the kids up and over to my mother's house.

My wife and I were now alone in the house and it was about 8:25, so we only had 20 minutes left before she was heading out. We talked a bit and I could see her anxiety had possibly surpassed her excitement. We consoled each other, reassuring that we will be back in our bedroom in two hours and we will have each other.

She then gave me some options to select for her underwear. I decided on a black lace bra and black lace panties. I knelt down to put the panties on her, gently kissing her pussy once before I pulled them up. She was standing in front of me, makeup and hair perfect, sexy underwear and my chastity key around her neck and dangling between her breasts (I may buy her an anklet while I'm in Italy next week...).

I took a picture so I could remember the moment (if I can convince her to post it with her face cropped, I will).

I then told her not to worry about all the various hot ideas we discussed and to just go with the flow and enjoy the moment; though I did emphasize him cuming on her pussy would be hot (and obviously a pic or video would be a gift from heaven).

She put on jeans and a really cute cropped t-shirt, exposing a portion of her tight stomach. Knowing this asshole didn't deserve her entered my mind briefly, but I pushed it out.

We exchanged I love yous and she got in her car and drove away.

I drove over to the grocery store and parked, thinking I'd wait for her text before I started shopping. I received it at 9:06 a.m.

Wife: Here
Wife: I love you *heart*

Me: Love you *heart*
Me: You want this. Enjoy it *Smiling Devil*

Wife: *heart*

I then headed in to do an extensive shop as I'm putting together a complex menu for a NYE gathering I'm hosting tomorrow evening. Shopping was a great distraction and by the time I got back home and unpacked groceries it was around 9:50 a.m. Then I sat down to write this.

I'm expecting a text from her in about 15 minutes (10:30 a.m.) when she's back to her car. You'd think it felt like time was standing still--and it has up until now--but now it feels like it's so close. The hard part *could* be over, but that will depend on if she enjoyed it and my emotional response when I see her.

Honestly though, I think I'll be ok. I'm certainly incredibly anxious, but the week has been so emotionally difficult, that I think it's been built up to be worse than it is--which is how I operate: prepare for the worst and be pleasantly surprised.

So that's about it. I've been writing here for several years now and taken such a wild journey, but for those who have followed along, I suspect my next post will be the one you've been waiting for. I'd like to take in the emotions of the day and then settle down to write it tonight while I'm in the house alone, so if all goes well, that is the plan...

[drstrangelove]

Well, she just texted me. She has a 10 min drive, so I thought I'd give you all the text convo quick before she gets back.

Wife: I'm in the car

Me: How are you?

Wife: Haha probably on a high
Wife: How are you?

Me: That's great, right?

Wife: I guess
Wife: I'm still in a daze

Me: I'm ok. Just been breathing. Shopping helped.

Wife: Good

Me: Did you have fun?

Wife: I had fun. Thank you babe, I needed that
Wife *heart*

Me: So am I a cuckold now?

Wife: I don't know
Wife: It depends on how you feel
Wife: Well I guess in this moment right now
Wife: Yes
Wife: So you are

Me: I love you

Wife: I love you

Me: Any vids or pics?

Wife: No lol

Me: Did he cum on your pussy?

Wife: And on my ass *ashamed emoji*
Wife: And don't worry
Wife: I used condoms

Me: All three of them??

Wife: No 2 of them

Me: Ok. Can you come home now?

Wife: Yes

[Guhunkadorn]

12/30...a date that will be etched in your mind forever.

Congratulations and - as always - best of luck navigating the future.

[leander99]

Wow,

Congrats on becoming a cuckold

[mf2hd82]

Congratulations! Enjoy the ride!

[David52]

Congratulations. You have been on a wild ride, think positive thoughts only. Best for the New Year.

[Rogueuser1]

Congratulations! Glad it worked out. We actually drove through NY today traveling and I thought of you... and of your wife face down on his bed with him behind her. Hopefully you get the details soon and are ready for all that comes next.

[drstrangelove]

As I’m sure you can all imagine, today has been a wild ride. A bit surprisingly, it was all in good ways. Honestly, it was sensory overload, but I’m going to do my best to share back what happened.

I’m not quite sure how to structure this post, but I think I’ll start with the cold facts of her visit with F and then move on to her return home.

So she arrived outside his house and texted me at 9:06 a.m. as I noted in my previous post. She went to his door and as they joked about, he followed through and decided to answer the door completely naked with a raging boner. (This was in response to the creative way my wife answered a hotel room door for him during the affair.)

Not a word was spoken; they just embraced and he led her back to his bedroom, which was fairly dark. They began making out as he took off all her cloths immediately and threw her on the bed.

He began by eating her out for a bit, eventually turning her over onto her hands and knees and eating her from behind, she was eager to get to the action, so shortly after, she briefly took control and pushed him onto his back and started to suck his cock.

He was moaning and loving it, but after a bit he told her he didn’t want to cum like that, so she grabbed one of the condoms I bought and he put it on. She then straddled him and rode him hard while he kept reaching up to choke her. She thought it was a bit too aggressive and pulled away a couple of times, but she orgasmed fairly quick from cow girl regardless.

She then told him when he was ready, to pull out and cum on her ass. So as soon as she said that, he threw her off of him and positioned her doggy. He fucked her really hard and fast in doggy while grunting and firmly griping the back of her neck as he pummeled her. This made her cum hard for the second time and he then took off the condom and dumped a load on her ass. He then grinded his dick over the cum, her pussy and on her ass.

They both collapsed on their backs—it was about 9:45 a.m. at this point. They were soaked with cum and sweat and just tried to catch their breath—they still hadn’t said much of anything.

After a few minutes, he moved over to begin kissing her again. They made out for a bit while they used their hands on each other until my wife asked if he was ready for round two. He grabbed another condom and she said she wanted to ride him reverse cowgirl (she knows it’s his favorite position).

She rode him for a bit and could tell he was getting close to coming again, so she asked him to cum all over her pussy this time. That really turned him on and he threw her off him (roughly). He put her legs over his shoulders and then slammed into her pussy hard. He fucked her deep and fast and then pulled out and sprayed his second load right on top of her gapping, swollen pussy.

He then dropped her legs and collapsed on top of her, grinding his dick over her pussy and stomach as the last of his cum leaked out.

It was now close to 10:15 a.m. and again they were catching their breath. After a couple of minutes, he moved down to eat her out, but she stopped him, saying she couldn’t go again as she had to go.

She got up and began getting her cloths on and he spoke his first words: “So how have you been?”

She laughed and he added: “I’d like to see you again.”

She responded: “I’d like to see you again too.”

She then left his house, having had four orgasms over the course of a little more than an hour, and was back in her car texting me before 10:30 a.m. (see text exchange in my previous post).

(Note: we had agreed on 9 a.m. to 10:30 a.m. before she came, but I had been clear that she was free to push it a bit if she was having fun, so we made 11 a.m. the cutoff no matter what. As I learned later, she very much wanted to stay, but explained that she didn’t want to fuck around and risk hurting me, ruining the dynamic. She recognized in the moment for her to be able to keep doing this, she needs to maintain my trust.)

**

Ok, so then she comes home. And she’s clearly nervous about how I’m going to react. I’m just thrilled to see her. She’s glowing and happy as a kid on Christmas.

She drinks a glass of water snd we go upstairs to the bedroom.

She starts telling me the story and I peel off her panties, setting my eyes on her swollen pussy—I start eating her out. I very clearly could taste his salty cum covering her pussy and I licked her clean. We then moved to queening and I really dove in deep, it it was hard to focus on her pussy on my face and the story she was telling, so she dismounted me and unlocked my chastity cage.

I also rolled her over and licked up and down her ass and lower back, where she told me his first load landed after doggy. The flavor of cum was unmistakable, but because it had dried, it wasn’t problematic to lick up at all for me.

She then lied next to me and began to gently give me a HJ while she wrapped up the rest of the story—she told me about him fucking her deep with her legs on his shoulders and then covering her pussy with cum and I immediately shot a giant load all over my chest—I probably lasted 2-3 min from HJ. It’s important to note that I love legs on shoulders sex, reverse cowgirl, BJs, etc., but those are things she rarely does or enjoys with me. So hearing about how she did them all was too much to handle.

She then gently cleaned me up and I came down from my orgasm. We decided to go shower together to clean off and then returned back to bed to cuddle.

We began talking, trying to gauge how we each felt. I brought up the topic of them both saying they wanted to meet again and I could tell my wife wanted to get a read from me.

I told her to just give me a day to process it all, but I’m ok with her meeting him again. She was *very* excited.

I then asked if she wanted to do it before I leave for Italy (Jan.8) as we previously agreed she wouldn’t see him during that week regardless of how this developed.

She responded saying she didn’t want to get ahead of herself and thought maybe that was a bad idea. Wanted to take it one step at a time.

I told her it really turned me on that she was so open about wanting to keep seeing him and she took that as a queue to lean in a bit.

Wife: Are you sure you are going to be able to handle him railing your wife all the time? I get impulsive and frequency could get out of hand.

She reached down and felt my cock getting hard.

Wife: Fuck, you really do like it. This is awesome. I hope you know I don’t feel any guilt giving him everything he wanted from my body and only letting you fuck my hand. Also, in all seriousness, you need to go buy more condoms.

She kept stroking me and we kept talking. I told her I’ll be fine if she can be honest about this stuff—doesn’t need to worry about hurting my feelings as it’s such a clear reality that she prefers sex with F over me.

She told me that while that is of course true, she sometimes feels bad telling me that because she loves me so much and life isn’t only about sex—it’s just F is an incredible fuck.

We then also discussed my expectations moving forward with sex—with her doing crazy stuff with F, I’m fine taking some things between us off the table as sexual attention from her of some kind was more important than certain things. So I told her I understood she may let F in her ass again and will be doing things like fun positions and BJs with him often, but I’m ok largely removing them from our dynamic. I want to avoid being disappointed in my birthday, etc.

She didn’t want to be mean, but she agreed on no anal and BJs for me (not that I ever get anal anyway lol)—those are two things she doesn’t see herself wanting to do with me. She said the other stuff might happen on certain occasions, so don’t rule them out yet.

She then asked if I wanted to reconnect with sex and I of course did. She asked me if it could be tender romantic sex as that’s what she is looking for from me if I’m ok with it. She said she was really sore, so to please be gentle.

So I rolled on top and we made love missionary. She had a really big orgasm as we clung to each other and reconnected. I could tell she was sore, so we pivoted back to a HJ for a bit as we discussed more stuff (can’t remember what).

She then asked how I wanted to cum and I said if she was up to it, I’d love to quickly finish from sex. So we went back at it.

She asked me how I felt losing her pussy and I asked her if she took it back for herself. She said: “This is [F’s] pussy now. You’re fucking [F’s] pussy.”

I came fairly fast.

We cleaned up and then grabbed some food and had to do some errands together—we chatted about everything entire time.

She noted the importance of her not wanting to go overboard on frequency. She knows every time she sees him it’ll put a strain on other parts of her life and wants to be smart about this so she doesn’t mess it up and we stop doing it. I could tell she was hellbent on making this work.

She felt, at least at first, she’d only want to see him a few times a month, but admitted frequency could go up from there at times if we can handle it. Honestly, I was a bit surprised to see her want to see him that often, but it’s hot, so I’ll roll with it.

The topic of potentially seeing F again before I leave for Italy came up as well and she asked me if I was serious about being ok with her seeing him again next week.

I told her of course, in fact, we could do something hot like after I take you out to dinner, with you dressed really sexy, you tell me you need to go off and get fucked by F instead of me that night and ditch me for a few hours to get railed exactly how you need it.

She paused and looked over to me and said: “That’s the hottest fucking thing I’ve heard.”

She then added again later on about same topic, she texted me while I was upstairs and we had this exchange:

Wife: lol! I had more sex than you today

Me: Significantly

Wife: And I hope that’s the case moving forward 🫣

Me: *big eyes*
Me: I love that you plan to keep fucking him and that you’re open about how great the sex is compared to me. It’s such a turn on, I can’t even describe it lol.

Wife: I’m glad you feel that way

Me: Are you glad because you want to fuck him again soon?

Wife: Maybe
Wife: Let’s just say I was pleasantly surprised you said before Italy

Me: Just don’t stop letting me fuck your hand—I’m fine settling for that!

Wife: I’m fine giving you my hand if I can keep getting his dick

**

So yea, today was a whirlwind. Honestly, I feel like I’m living out my cuckold fantasy and it’s so weird. There was a real telling exchange I had with her today.

I was talking endlessly (it’s what I do to avoid having the quiet force me to think). I had talked a lot and she barely said anything.

I noted how bad my anxiety was before she went to his place and how bad it gets while they text. I warned those could be issues I have to monitor as I can’t realistically live with them as I’m losing sleep and can’t focus.

She immediately jumped into the convo: “But don’t you think that’s because it’s the first time? And that it will get better when I see him for future sessions?!”

I burst out laughing and then she did as well when she realized how desperate she sounded. She’s legit terrified about me pulling the plug and her losing her new boyfriend. But this time it wasn’t in a threatening way like she would be angry, it was in a cute way like she’s willing to do anything to comfort me so she doesn’t have to stop.

I told her to just keep it light and sexy with me and I’ll have fun. And if I’m having fun, you’ll always have a green light.

So this is all incredibly real. What a long strange trip it’s been. I went from wannabe cuck, to unknowing cuck, to full-fledged cum eating cuck. If nothing else, I’m getting a full human experience.

As for next steps, we are focused on dinner party tomorrow and then we do another check in with each other on Monday. If we feel good, she’d like to setup another meet with F next week, before I leave on Jan. 8. We also are going back to couples therapy together on Wed, so no doubt I’ll have plenty more updates.

And feel free to ask any questions—as much as I’m writing, I can’t possibly cover it all.

[residueS]

Wow such a hot post, glad to hear it all worked out pretty well. Btw, did she wear the key the entire time, did he even ask or notice the key at all. Another thing kinda interesting is that your wife seems to be very interested in the denial things, feeling like something she really want to explore. I’m wondering Is that mostly because your influence, or she also developed some kinks on her own.

Anyway , congrats!

[elina]

Dear DrStrangelove

I am very glad that this turned out so good all three of you.
At least for now, it looks like you are all truly enjoying this.

Doubtless, there will me more times with cuck-angst, but still; are you now not glad that you allowed your Wife to go forward with this?

Sincerely
elina

[edgedndenied]

Since it is now F's pussyin future are you going to be denied all PIV sex or do you think you will be able to reclaim via PIV. Also are blowjobs now off limits also.
Are hand jobs going to be your main release in future. Will you be caged more

[drstrangelove]

Wow such a hot post, glad to hear it all worked out pretty well. Btw, did she wear the key the entire time, did he even ask or notice the key at all. Another thing kinda interesting is that your wife seems to be very interested in the denial things, feeling like something she really want to explore. I’m wondering Is that mostly because your influence, or she also developed some kinks on her own.

Anyway , congrats!

She wore the key around her neck entire time and he never said a word about it. She told me it was annoying while she was trying to blow him though.

The cage isn’t too big a deal for us. She says she likes the idea that I’m all hers and she has control, it she also said it’s not like she’s thinking about that while F is railing her (her words verbatim lol).

As for denial, she’s more into teasing than punishment. So she’ll say no to something in a teasing way as long as I’m having fun with it—she’s not into upsetting or hurting me.

I’m certainly into the idea of being denied things that she’s giving him—but I also have to be careful with it because if I don’t get different sexual attention from her, I’ll spiral for sure.

Meaning, if she gives me a HJ and tells me she only gives BJs to F, I’m all in. But if she literally goes out and gives him a BJ and then ignores me, I’ll be hurt.

I can tell already the key thing here is going to be managing my expectations and my wife managing how she provides attention to F and I.

And as for her thoughts on denying me things she gives to F, I don’t think it turns her on, but she’s more than happy to have me never has her for anal or a BJ again. It’s an easy request for her to give me lol.

[drstrangelove]

Dear DrStrangelove

I am very glad that this turned out so good all three of you.
At least for now, it looks like you are all truly enjoying this.

Doubtless, there will me more times with cuck-angst, but still; are you now not glad that you allowed your Wife to go forward with this?

Sincerely
elina

My perspective is the build up was significantly worse than doing it. In retrospect, it makes sense because I tend to think in worst-case scenarios.

I also think I’m really lucky to have a wife who handled this all so great today. She nailed it. I know she won’t always be perfect, but I think I can deal with a lot of days like this are the high.

[drstrangelove]

Since it is now F's pussyin future are you going to be denied all PIV sex or do you think you will be able to reclaim via PIV. Also are blowjobs now off limits also.
Are hand jobs going to be your main release in future. Will you be caged more

We did PIV today, so that’s not off limits, but we have discussed the idea of limiting it for fun. Something like he gets to fuck her more than me—so he fucked her twice today and me once, so I’d get her one more time before I’d have to wait for her to see him again.

It’s a hot idea, but I don’t know that we are codifying it. We want to guard against doing anything that could hurt our connection. Ultimately, if we want to have sex with each other, we probably should for the general health of our relationship.

BJs are off limits. I volunteered that. We’ll see how it goes.

Most BJs from her feel a bit uninspired—like charity—and I hate that feeling. But then sometimes she gets in a mood where she gives a BJ that changes your soul. If that seems on the table, I can’t turn it down lol. That said, I don’t think she’s gearing up to give me an epic BJ anytime soon.

I do think HJs will be main release for now.

As for chastity, we’ll see how it goes. We both like it, but don’t need it. And I hate the feeling of forcing anything. I suspect we will at a minimum continue to use it while she is on dates with F because of the powerful symbolism. It also creates the feel of a routine, like picking out her lingerie, etc.

[residueS]

Wow such a hot post, glad to hear it all worked out pretty well. Btw, did she wear the key the entire time, did he even ask or notice the key at all. Another thing kinda interesting is that your wife seems to be very interested in the denial things, feeling like something she really want to explore. I’m wondering Is that mostly because your influence, or she also developed some kinks on her own.

Anyway , congrats!

She wore the key around her neck entire time and he never said a word about it. She told me it was annoying while she was trying to blow him though.

The cage isn’t too big a deal for us. She says she likes the idea that I’m all hers and she has control, it she also said it’s not like she’s thinking about that while F is railing her (her words verbatim lol).

As for denial, she’s more into teasing than punishment. So she’ll say no to something in a teasing way as long as I’m having fun with it—she’s not into upsetting or hurting me.

I’m certainly into the idea of being denied things that she’s giving him—but I also have to be careful with it because if I don’t get different sexual attention from her, I’ll spiral for sure.

Meaning, if she gives me a HJ and tells me she only gives BJs to F, I’m all in. But if she literally goes out and gives him a BJ and then ignores me, I’ll be hurt.

I can tell already the key thing here is going to be managing my expectations and my wife managing how she provides attention to F and I.

And as for her thoughts on denying me things she gives to F, I don’t think it turns her on, but she’s more than happy to have me never has her for anal or a BJ again. It’s an easy request for her to give me lol.

Yeah, I see your point, I think especially when everything become more routine, she may not as invested in keep you engaged compared to the beginning. Especially, if she didn't really get any kick out of teasing you or giving you HJ. I felt she probably need to discovery what thing she does with you turn her on, or you guys need to figure out what works best together.

Don't know if you mentioned that before, is there a reason why she always deny your anal?

[drstrangelove]

Wow such a hot post, glad to hear it all worked out pretty well. Btw, did she wear the key the entire time, did he even ask or notice the key at all. Another thing kinda interesting is that your wife seems to be very interested in the denial things, feeling like something she really want to explore. I’m wondering Is that mostly because your influence, or she also developed some kinks on her own.

Anyway , congrats!

She wore the key around her neck entire time and he never said a word about it. She told me it was annoying while she was trying to blow him though.

The cage isn’t too big a deal for us. She says she likes the idea that I’m all hers and she has control, it she also said it’s not like she’s thinking about that while F is railing her (her words verbatim lol).

As for denial, she’s more into teasing than punishment. So she’ll say no to something in a teasing way as long as I’m having fun with it—she’s not into upsetting or hurting me.

I’m certainly into the idea of being denied things that she’s giving him—but I also have to be careful with it because if I don’t get different sexual attention from her, I’ll spiral for sure.

Meaning, if she gives me a HJ and tells me she only gives BJs to F, I’m all in. But if she literally goes out and gives him a BJ and then ignores me, I’ll be hurt.

I can tell already the key thing here is going to be managing my expectations and my wife managing how she provides attention to F and I.

And as for her thoughts on denying me things she gives to F, I don’t think it turns her on, but she’s more than happy to have me never has her for anal or a BJ again. It’s an easy request for her to give me lol.

Yeah, I see your point, I think especially when everything become more routine, she may not as invested in keep you engaged compared to the beginning. Especially, if she didn't really get any kick out of teasing you or giving you HJ. I felt she probably need to discovery what thing she does with you turn her on, or you guys need to figure out what works best together.

Don't know if you mentioned that before, is there a reason why she always deny your anal?

A few reasons. One I have a relatively large dick and it really hurts. We also had a poop incident last time when she let me after affair. She has PTSD.

And yea, I think she recognizes keeping me into it and happy is going to allow her to keep this going, so at least for now, that seems like a good dynamic to me.

Edit: I also should note that we really need to avoid this getting to be routine. Of course the dopamine hits won’t always be this strong, but we can work at that. There is a lot of risk and stress revolved around making this work, so it’s only worth it if we are both getting something out of it.

I think this needs to be something that spices up our sex life and we should always think of it like that. It can’t just be like, “oh it’s Saturday, time to go fuck F…”

We have to keep it fun. I’m already thinking ahead to Valentine’s Day—I’m hoping his schedule allows for her to visit (it’s a Wed and she works from home). It would be so hot if she went over to his place, told him to rail her so hard she’s too sore to fuck her hubby, then left and we went out to dinner without her cleaning up. Maybe she could slip her soaked panties to me under the table lol.

But stuff like that will keep us going. It has to be fun, light and sexy. And I’m so excited that she’s down to push these boundaries too—she can often be cautious, but right now she’s rolling with everything. No one I’d rather be doing this with than my wife.

[US31]

Way to go, Doc! I was afraid you’d blow it… but you done good.
I had to wait all day to get back on and see how you did. I think she’s got this figured out.

[realcucklife]

Congratulations on becoming a cuck in the loop.
And a clean up job on the first hit out, well done.

Sorting the birth control issue, then allowing him to fill her with cum, is a real escalation of his pussy not yours.
Her making you wear rubbers is a fun denial game.

CAUTiON.
If you’re going off to marriage counseling, be prepared for a narrow minded viewpoint. If you’re both communicating well, keep doing that! You sort your comfort level and so does she and then share this information, someone else’s opinion in this early stage might be a step backwards.

[jratt85]

Yeah, that's pretty much how I figured he'd treat her, maybe a little less aggressive actually. It's not surprising, he now knows he owns her and she's nothing but a fuck slut for him to use and abuse and get all his little porno fantasy moves out with her. The choking, the grabbing the back of her neck, the legs up.. all typical porno moves.. next thing you'll know he'll be "piledriving" her off the end of the bed or having her head hang off the end of the bed while he throat fucks her.

I wonder how long it'll be before she shows up at his place one day only to find there's half a dozen or more guys there (or they show up after she's there) and no matter what she says, she's going to get gangbanged and filled until everyone is completely spent.. maybe even fully airtight the entire time.

To me, there's not been any boundaries set by her when it comes to him other than the condoms. (now) There's no telling what he'll do to her or how many people he'll eventually think he can share her with, if the thought hasn't already crossed his mind.. It really seems like he's just treating her like a hole to fill and not another person. But hey, some people get off on that.. I've been reading stories for over 25 years and been on sites like alt.com and fetlife for almost 20.. I've heard plenty about how some people like it rough.. Hell Lizzy Hale even sang a song about it! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YpJAmlnBxoA

[drstrangelove]

Way to go, Doc! I was afraid you’d blow it… but you done good.
I had to wait all day to get back on and see how you did. I think she’s got this figured out.

Thanks, US! If I’m being honest, I thought I did blow it back on Wednesday after our mess of a Tuesday night.

I know it sounds cliche, but this wouldn’t have all been possible had we not worked on our communication so much the last two years. We have both been so transparent even while we are actively working things out in our heads.

[drstrangelove]

Congratulations on becoming a cuck in the loop.
And a clean up job on the first hit out, well done.

Sorting the birth control issue, then allowing him to fill her with cum, is a real escalation of his pussy not yours.
Her making you wear rubbers is a fun denial game.

CAUTiON.
If you’re going off to marriage counseling, be prepared for a narrow minded viewpoint. If you’re both communicating well, keep doing that! You sort your comfort level and so does she and then share this information, someone else’s opinion in this early stage might be a step backwards.

I think the BC issue is an ongoing topic for us and it came up again last night. I told her she needs to establish more agency with him. If she’s starting a routine sexual relationship with him, it’s not unreasonable at all for her to ask him to be tested and learn about his current sexlife. Ideally he can be tested, come back clean, and then they can forgo the condoms moving forward—and if he’s not clean, she’ll have to be even more cautious about protection.

She agreed and decided it would be fair to bring up this week. It’s her preference not to have to deal with condoms, so she is willing to have the conversation with him. In the interim, she asked if I would be ok buying the condoms for her as she’d prefer not do it and doesn’t want to trust him to do it. So I agreed and we’ll see how this topic progresses.

As for therapy, I agree with you. We have decided we want to continue exploring this dynamic and have no interest in judgments from a third party telling us why we are wrong.

However, what we do what is to make sure we are navigating this respectfully with one another, and the hope is a therapy setting will allow for enhanced communication. We plan to be clear about that upfront and if we aren’t getting what we want out of the sessions, we can stop again.

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Yeah, that's pretty much how I figured he'd treat her, maybe a little less aggressive actually. It's not surprising, he now knows he owns her and she's nothing but a fuck slut for him to use and abuse and get all his little porno fantasy moves out with her. The choking, the grabbing the back of her neck, the legs up.. all typical porno moves.. next thing you'll know he'll be "piledriving" her off the end of the bed or having her head hang off the end of the bed while he throat fucks her.

I wonder how long it'll be before she shows up at his place one day only to find there's half a dozen or more guys there (or they show up after she's there) and no matter what she says, she's going to get gangbanged and filled until everyone is completely spent.. maybe even fully airtight the entire time.

To me, there's not been any boundaries set by her when it comes to him other than the condoms. (now) There's no telling what he'll do to her or how many people he'll eventually think he can share her with, if the thought hasn't already crossed his mind.. It really seems like he's just treating her like a hole to fill and not another person. But hey, some people get off on that.. I've been reading stories for over 25 years and been on sites like alt.com and fetlife for almost 20.. I've heard plenty about how some people like it rough.. Hell Lizzy Hale even sang a song about it! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YpJAmlnBxoA

I think the sex dynamic between them is exactly that simple. He wants to treat her as his toy and she wants him to do so. He’s certainly going to keep pushing boundaries as he goes to check off various fantasies, but she understands that and likes it. There’s really no better way to explain it than she loves fucking him and is entirely open to pushing things to please him.

The topic of anal sex did come up between us going into this because I warned her he might push for that because he had already done it with her. She seemed a bit nervous going in and yesterday she told me she was relieved he didn’t try for it.

She said it in a way that made it clear she’d have gone along if he did though.

So I do think you’re right that her setting up boundaries are important—her issue is that she is turned on by not having limits. So physically she may not be eager to do anal again; mentally it is hot that he wants to use her like a cheating slut however he wants. She knows from a mental perspective she’s going to enjoy it when he gives her anal, even though it will hurt. She thinks the key is being in the right frame of mind when it happens and not doing it if she’s uncomfortable.

Ultimately, for her, that likely means working up to it in texts again so she’s amped up for it and prepared when it happens. I’ve likely mentioned this, but the texts with him are a huge part of this for her—for one, it builds anticipation and she feels prepared for what to expect; but also she finds it similar to the romance novels she reads and she’s able to tap into how kinky she is being as a married woman doing all these filthy things with another man.

I don’t think a gangbang is coming and I suspect you may be too far down the porn rabbit hole. That said, you were also the only person to point out to me two years ago that she was likely cheating, so I certainly won’t dismiss your opinion!