After several years of trying to get pregnant, Sarah was suddenly pregnant with our second child when the first one wasn’t even a year old. It was crazy. Between breast feeding, sleepless nights, active toddlers, moving to a new house and my ever-growing job, our sex lives had really suffered.SutterKane wrote:If you have the time, I'd love to hear how you went from swinging to becoming Subguy80? Were you always submissive? If not, how did it progress to where you are now? Did Sarah encourage you in this?
We needed to do something to get some eroticism back into our lives, so we eventually went back to swinging after five years. Our old group had disbanded and this new group we found allowed single men. I always enjoyed watching Sarah with other guys, but this opened up a whole new world for me. Now single men were hitting on her and I was enjoying that. In 3-ways, I started taking a more supportive and passive role, while he took the lead with her.
The guys would pick up on that dynamic and the more I played beta, the more they played alpha. I liked it and Sarah liked it, too. Numbers were exchanged and that led to her having connections with guys outside of the swinger parties. That was new for us and we both loved it. Sarah was feeling sexy, again, after two kids. It was an “escape” for her from the demands of motherhood. She was loving the attention.
I had always known that Sarah needed “other men.” I accepted that long ago and was comfortable with it. The difference now was that I was getting turned on by it! I decided to embrace the feeling and stop wondering why I felt that way. I loved the fact that men were lusting after my sexy wife. Sarah could see I was enjoying this direction and she was supportive and, yes, she encouraged me to go as far as I felt I wanted to go. And that's exactly what we've done.