You make a good point, so let me give an update for those who don't follow my thread on the Poly Forum.Shogun2049 wrote: ↑Sun Jul 24, 2022 3:45 amI think that the people who've followed along for 5 or 6 years need to have some sort of assurance that this isn't going to end badly.
In short, there is no need to worry about me or my marriage. Some may not completely agree with some of our choices, but please believe me that I'm totally happy and onboard with the direction we're taking.
Sarah, Aaron and our boys are leaving Florida and moving to Minnesota. There are several reasons, but we want to raise our kids in a better place than Florida. The husband of Aaron's ex-wife took a job there last year and she wants to take his boys from Florida, so it's working out well on several levels. I expect comments about leaving the nice weather for the cold of Minnesota. Yes, I have to admit I will miss the weather. But, there are more important things in life than the weather. We'll be building a new house outside Minneapolis with enough room for all of us. There are some exciting new work opportunities for me in Minneapolis, as well.
Aaron has blended into our family and that doesn't mean that I was moved out. Yes, I had to make some compromises, but don't all parties do that in a marriage? My wife has the ability and capacity to love two husbands.
Now for the sex part, which is probably what everyone wants to hear. We've discovered that BDSM and related fetishes work well for our arrangement, where we still want the cuckold dynamic. My wife has discovered the joy of being a dominatrix to me and I enjoy being on the receiving end. Aaron continues to excel at his alpha/dom role with me. Sarah and I are intimate, as we've always been. For those who participate in BDSM you will understand when I say that these activities can be highly intimate. We haven't had intercourse since last July and I've been denied her pussy in any form since October. Many of you won't understand that. I get it. It was Aaron's request. I'm the "legal" husband he wants to distinguish himself as the "legitimate" sexual husband. I'm willing to give that to him. I'm completely satisfied that other sexual activities have made up for that. I'm the happy recipient of her regular hand-job and blow-jobs. After all these years, I absolutely love watching them have sex. I sometimes am involved, but mostly I watch quietly and beat off. I love that.
From the very beginning when I met Sarah as sophomores in college, she has given me a sex life that was unconventional and crazy, at times. Sex with her for over 20 years has been a wild ride. I expect that to continue. Not knowing where things will go is a huge part of the fun and eroticism. Sex today won't look like sex in the future, I'm sure. We will continue to evolve and I'm happy to report we're all evolving in what feels to me like the right direction.
I miss posting on this old thread, but it feels like the Poly Forum is where I belong.