subguy80 wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2019 10:01 am
I know some of you will be appalled and you’re welcome to your opinion. This is a private affair and we’ll handle it privately, so don’t be offended if I don’t respond to some of your comments or questions.
I have to admit I'm curious, can I ask which one of you, Sarah or you, came up finally with the idea or made the suggestion of Jamal moving in with you full time? Have you reached this decision during the last week when you and Sarah had a few days alone with eachother or already before?
I assume finally it was you, who first voiced out loud this idea, correct me if I'm wrong? But don't you think Sarah subtly pushed you in this direction, maybe even in prior agreement with Jamal? About the sleeping arrangement I guess they will sleep in the master bedroom and you move to the adjoining spare room? If this is indeed the case, I really would beg you to rethink at least this. As unlikely as it seems to you but if suddenly one of your boys would enter the main bedroom and wouldn’t find you and their mom, but their mom and Jamal, maybe even in a compromising situation, well, I don't think I need to tell you what possible dire impact this could have on them.
I know you probably will this has never happen that one of your sons was suddenly in your bedroom, but you can't deny the possibilty that this danger exists. And alone the sheer existence of such a danger, as unlikely as it seems, should actually make you rethink the sleeping arrangements.
I mean, no problem with building a door between the rooms so you can move between the rooms without needing to use the hallway, but I don't think I exaggerate when I say for the sake of your sons, let Jamal use the spare room and, if Sarah should spend the night with Jamal, let her return in the early morning hours to you in the master bedroom, just for all cases. Is there any hope you'll agree with me on this point?
One last thing, at that point your statement was a little unclear to me, probabely I just misinterpreting your message, but will you and Sarah really tell your sons that their mom is "sleeping" a.k.a. having sex with Jamal? Or will you only tell your sons Jamal is moving in?
Please, could you clarify this.
Many questions I hope they aren't too intimate and you could answer them