how do you feel about discovery risk?

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Being discovered

We only do it when travelling to avoid discovery risk
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10%
HW uses identifiable or nearly identifiable photos in on-line ads
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7%
HW meets FBs in local bars/hotel lobbies
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19%
HW has told friends about cuckold lifestyle
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26%
We go out in public with FB, and there is public display of affection between HW and FB
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HW has FB at work, and co-workers are aware of it
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8%
We have definitely been discovered
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15%
 
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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by annsman » Sat May 25, 2019 11:53 am

From the beginning Ann was sure she didn’t want a sordid affair like some of her friends where she had to hide in out of the way places so she is happy to go to local pubs and restaurants with her boyfriends. At first I was worried about them being seen by people we knew, but now we’re both turned on by her being daring. However, they’re not all over each other in public so even if people suspect something is going on, they don’t know for sure.

The few exceptions are if she’s seeing a married boyfriend who lives locally and then by necessity they are more discreet.

We’ve also told quite a few people over the years and I do get a kick out of listening to Ann talking to a friend about her boyfriend.

We’ve not had any problems, Ann’s friends think it’s great and wish their husbands we so accommodating and I just tell my friends I’m proud of having a sexy wife. By being open we’ve even discovered that some of our friends are also into it or swinging.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by SammySings » Sun May 26, 2019 5:31 am

She has told a couple of her friends and even picked up prospects in front of them. Also we went to a swing club last night and saw a couple we knew. Not sure if they saw her sucking someone else's dick last night but can't rule it out.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by carolinacuck » Sun May 26, 2019 9:06 am

It has always been a fantasy and turn on for me....I'm fairly certain we have been discovered by a couple of different people.
1. She has entertained two different men in our house ...one of them a regular boyfriend who has spent the night on a couple of occaisons while I was out of town. They also went out to dinner a couple of times, and she admits to kissing him goodbye in the driveway before he left. We have reason to believe one of our male neighbors may have witnessed that...or at least saw this guy's vehicle parked here for the weekend. Now that he has gotten a divorce, he's been pretty blatantly coming on to C....including wearing tight fitting shorts while outside showing off what C calls his "ample package." C likes him and I wouldn't be surprised if he's the next man to take her married pussy.

2. We answered a CL ad from a guy in a nearby city...looking for a HW of course. His R rated pic got C's interests...When we got around to exchanging face pics, I was surprised to see I knew the guy from some work related situations. He didn't know her, and didn't know where we lived either, but we certainly knew each other. She was gung ho to have sex with this guy although I had my reservations. She met him and they went back to our place while I was supposedly "out of town." They had sex a couple other times until his wife found out....virtually certain he put two and two together and knows that he has cuckolded me. I also have reason to believe from other people that he has outed me as a cuckold.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Sun May 26, 2019 9:24 am

The only choice that is an option for me to choose is:
"HW meets FBs in local bars/hotel lobbies"
There is no obvious physical contact in public and I don't call attention to the meeting. If you are casual and act as if everything is ordinary (nothing to see here) then other people won't suspect anything. This is a tourist area so it is common to have out of town family and friends visit and staying at local hotels.
I do go to dinner at local places with fwb's but have not run into anyone I know yet. If I did I would just say they were a friend in town visiting.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by Rastafoo69 » Sun May 26, 2019 4:03 pm

Discovery risk is the best part of cuckolding! the only thing better would be impregnation, but that rarely ever happens

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by Dutch » Mon May 27, 2019 4:46 am

We like to host and that got us ostracized at the last place we lived. One lover acted like a fourth grader and blabbed to someone in the community.

We've since moved to Florida and live in an over 55 community and we still host, but we are more careful about vetting a guy, that, and we don't care that much what other people think. We've been in the swinging lifestyle so long I think we have kind of radar that other people here are swingers too. Seems to be quite common here in Florida.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by Bull2cuck » Mon May 27, 2019 8:29 am

So far only a few know about us, obviously any of my friends that Sandy has fucked, plus a relative that knows, and fully supports it. She helped me encourage Sandy to go after younger guys
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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by Jora » Tue May 28, 2019 2:56 pm

We were pretty discreet about it until she went on a vacation in Belize with a couple of friends. Her friends (who are single) copped off with two guys and my wife was flirting with a third when she had to tell them about our "arrangement" so that they didn't think she was cheating on me (we were fairly recently married). One of them thought it was awesome while the other was rather lukewarm.

She ended up fucking the guy, she was just going to suck him off but he wanted to fuck her. She insisted that he use a condom (for obvious reasons) but she absolutely loves cum and told me that when he pulled out he had the biggest load in the condom that she'd ever seen. She wished she'd been able to have him come inside her but alas... They all got fucked several times during the trip. Neither of her friends have mentioned it to me but I do kinda like that they know that I like my wife to fuck other guys.

I did tell a buddy of mine about it early on in our relationship thinking he might be interested but he was not. He's come around and now hints every once in a while that he'd like to have a go but she's not interested. He blew his chance I guess. As far as I know he's been discreet to our mutual friends but I have no way of knowing one way or the other.

When we've met guys since it's always at a bar or over dinner at a restaurant near our house. We usually go to places we don't go very often but since all three of us are there it wouldn't be a big deal if we ran into people we know. We're currently looking for a guy for an ongoing arrangement where he'd meet her during the day while I'm at work. We have a somewhat nosy retired couple living next to us and I'm sure they'd notice that a guy was coming over fairly regularly while I'm away. I actually kinda like that idea myself.
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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by theothercuck » Wed May 29, 2019 1:26 am

We've been discovered. Our main goal is to make our relationship appear polyamorous. People know my wife sleeps around, so she's snapchatted and insta'd a few photos of my kissing her friends or holding their boobs. Neither of us want people to know she's asked me to stay monogamous.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by ErikaPeter » Wed May 29, 2019 3:10 am

In general, although I play in town, I try to be discreet and not play within my social circle. I do have some photos online that are not fully identifiable, but one of our couple friends did guess that it was me. It turns out that they were interested in the lifestyle, and I introduced the wife to one of my partners who is good with newbies. Also, I did have sex with one of my husband’s coworkers, and gave some of his friends a blowjob. The friends who know have similar reasons to be discreet, and have not told anyone else as far as I know.
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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by hotsusan » Tue Jun 25, 2019 1:16 pm

she has told a few of her friends. One who knows called our house one time looking for her. I told her she's away for a couple of days. She said with family, I said no with her boyfriend in Vermont. She knew about him already but was still taken back. I encourage her and her BF (my good friend) to tell people. He does because he knows it turns me on.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by desertsub » Wed Jun 26, 2019 8:25 am

ErikaPeter wrote:
Wed May 29, 2019 3:10 am
I do have some photos online that are not fully identifiable, but one of our couple friends did guess that it was me. It turns out that they were interested in the lifestyle
My wife is very skittish about pictures of herself on the internet because of her job. She was also hesitant about going to our first BDSM play party for the same reason. I pointed out that if someone we knew saw her picture or saw us at a play party it would be because they were also involved in the venue and it would be extremely unlikely that they would try to use that against her in any way since they would also be outing themselves too! We did actually run into a couple that we knew at the swingers club we go to and it was just as I said, they were also into the same things!

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by bradisalpha » Thu Jun 27, 2019 2:20 pm

desertsub wrote:
Wed Jun 26, 2019 8:25 am
ErikaPeter wrote:
Wed May 29, 2019 3:10 am
I do have some photos online that are not fully identifiable, but one of our couple friends did guess that it was me. It turns out that they were interested in the lifestyle
My wife is very skittish about pictures of herself on the internet because of her job. She was also hesitant about going to our first BDSM play party for the same reason. I pointed out that if someone we knew saw her picture or saw us at a play party it would be because they were also involved in the venue and it would be extremely unlikely that they would try to use that against her in any way since they would also be outing themselves too! We did actually run into a couple that we knew at the swingers club we go to and it was just as I said, they were also into the same things!
My feelings exactly .. if they are there too, what are they going to say ???

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by PANTIES » Mon Feb 14, 2022 6:28 am

At the beginning we wanted to keep our lifestyle our business. Now we just don’t care. The three of us have gone out together, the two of them have gone to the same places we go to.

My biggest concern was her mother knowing buy it was a concern not warranted. Her mother lets them spend the weekend at her home, sleeping in her former bedroom. My MIL went as far as to buy a double bed to put in the bedroom.

Common friends know, so who cares. We are who we are with a different lifestyle.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by Mgcouplemn » Mon Feb 14, 2022 6:03 pm

We haven't been discovered, it is more like we told on ourselves. In my past marriage we did a lot of swinging but even then I was more a stag than swinger. I would rather jerk off watching my wife of 35 years being fucked than fucking someone else's wife. My current wife knows about my fetishes and what I like. When I want to watch her fucking, I tell her and we go find someone to fuck. Sometimes it is a friend. If she is interested she will tell people about our lifestyle and if they are interested she will have me explain what it is. an example was just the other night when we were at our friendly bar, we had dinner and our friend the pull tab guy joined us. A couple of the people there were talking crap about our friend so my wife went to our friends side of the table and sat close to him, she was flirting with him and gave him a few kisses. I could see through her blouse that her nipples were extremely hard which meant she was excited. I texted her from across the table asking if she wanted to fuck him. She looked at me and said "I know that you like it" and texted me back a yes. She then showed the texts to our friend. I asked him if he wanted to fuck my wife he could, but I will be by her side while he did. I asked him again if he wanted to fuck her and he said yes. I told him to follow us home.
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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by Des 31 » Tue Feb 15, 2022 1:21 pm

We have been sufficiently cautious that our way of life hasn't been discovered. My wife has my approval to fuck whoever, whenever, and wherever she wishes and that works for the two of us.
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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by mahan3035 » Tue Feb 15, 2022 4:08 pm

The situation is sort of hard to explain but J works about 45 minutes away at a facility for the government. It is in the middle of nowhere and the people who work there are a close-knit group. We don't really socialize with any of them but see some of them at the kid's school events ballgames etc. So, I know them, but we really aren't ever around them socially. Anyway, J fucks one of the guys at work and everyone over there knows. When we do happen to run into one of her work associates it's always small talk with me saying things like "good to see you again how old are your kids now" or some other chit chat. J doesn't try to hide her work relationship and I like the fact everyone over there knows she is fucking someone but it doesn't spill over into our "normal everyday life".

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by mfm4bnc » Fri Feb 18, 2022 7:39 am

Risk is a huge turn on for me... not sure how actual discovery would be.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by Minnhotwife » Mon May 23, 2022 7:40 pm

Bull2cuck wrote:
Mon May 27, 2019 8:29 am
So far only a few know about us, obviously any of my friends that Sandy has fucked, plus a relative that knows, and fully supports it. She helped me encourage Sandy to go after younger guys
Thanks for the reply. We're the same way. A few friends know and some of my in-laws. A few encourage it while others are not so hot on their sister fucking other guys. Obviously, the women I see know and my wife's partners, too.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by Greg_N_Shelley » Tue May 24, 2022 6:03 am

For us, discretion has always been important. Ads have always been body-only for public posts and face photo only after selecting a guy. Meetings have always been in hotel rooms including us together and when she's gone solo. We've met a couple of guys beforehand in bars, but she was always seated with me and the discussion was low key in the public's eye.

But the idea of a risky semi-public situation was always a turn on. We talked a few times about doing a day trip to Caliente with her bull or just hanging out there nude and letting her flirt with new guys. The idea of her sitting next to a guy publicly nude and flirting while I hung out with them was always arousing. Never happened though.
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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by Des 31 » Sun Jun 26, 2022 7:27 am

becontree2001uk wrote:
Mon Jun 26, 2017 2:08 pm
AS long as you go into this eyes open then I see no problem.

Are you OK with friends or family asking you questions about being cuckold, and even losing a few as a result? Listening to comments about you being a wimp and your wife a slut?

I am not trying to put you off, but the fantasy is sometimes better then the reality. As long as you accept that, then it could be very exciting!
I don't like it. Only once did others find out, when she was fucking a younger guy who told friends. His friends said I must be gay and need others to fuck her. We no longer trusted him after that.
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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by Loserpaul » Tue Jun 28, 2022 12:17 am

Only a small number of people know I am a cuck, but a few do. Some of Dottie's closest friends and maybe (I am not sure) one of her work colleagues knows.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by PANTIES » Tue Jun 28, 2022 6:35 am

Our friends know because my wife blurred out when we four were out of town and said as we passed a casino saying. That’s where I spent the weekend with him. I know she didn’t mean to say this, but later when my friend and I were alone he asked me about her comment.

I told him due to my sexual inadequate she has a lover. I told him I asked him to be the man in her life. So now he knows and I don’t think he told his wife.

He asked me for her cell phone number and told me he had always wanted to get in her pants but because of our friendship never tried. I told him, if she wants you to get in her pants that’s between the two of you.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by jesseejames29 » Tue Jun 28, 2022 9:44 am

We live in a small town and have public jobs so we had always been reasonably careful. The thought of "being caught" was always something we were leery of. We had always tried to find guys who were at least an hour away but my wife met a guy online who worked in our town. I was hesitant but he was hot and she wanted to move forward. About 4 months later my wife and her sister were shopping and out of the blue her sister asked if she knew this guy we'll call him John S. My wife had to confess but the sister wasn't expecting her to say that I knew and participated. Come to find out my brother in law visits this guys now old place of work and the guy working there said that John had been bragging about banging his sister in law. So who knows who all this guy ran his mouth to, even though he was married and cheating.

I was initially pissed but after thinking about it, it became a huge turn on. I guess part of the appeal to this lifestyle to me is your wife being slutty and this situation certainly qualified as that. We've also learned through years of swinging and playing solo that girls will generally keep their mouths shut but a lot of guys like to brag.

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Re: how do you feel about discovery risk?

Unread post by ccklvr » Sat Nov 18, 2023 9:09 pm

One should imagine a world in which one can be whoever one wants, can live out one's sexual fantasies without anyone interfering, judging or even trying to prevent them.

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