I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
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Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
Hello Ky,
I don't have much to say, other than I have faith in you, and Jamiee/Lexi to explore as much as you both want, and giving Sipho the benefit of the doubt as to his intentions. One thing I agree with pretty much every poster is that you write beautifully, which always makes reading your story a pleasure (in more ways than one, lol).
The undercurrent of your writing makes me believe that you're both actually happy, and most importantly, in control, with things so far, despite the anxiety/arousal/fear you both also feel...which can be a potent drug.
It sounds like you write here for one of the same reasons I do, as a cathartic exercise to explain your own emotions to yourself. In my case, my writing has become very sporadic over the past several years not only because I've been busy, but also because lately my wife and I have never been happier, and I haven't felt the same level of desire to write my thoughts and feelings as I used to. I'm guessing you're in the same boat, and that's a good thing.
Lastly, I understand that how people react to things they witness either in person or through retelling is influenced by their own emotional state and past experiences, positive or negative, so I don't judge what some of the other posters are writing here, even the particularly scolding or judgemental ones. I hope you don't take them personally.
It's because of this that you have my complete support in your explorations, and, purely selfishly, I just hope that the recent comments here don't result in what's happened to many posters before and scare you away. If not, great, but if we end up losing you as a contributor, I wish you continued happiness & love.
I don't have much to say, other than I have faith in you, and Jamiee/Lexi to explore as much as you both want, and giving Sipho the benefit of the doubt as to his intentions. One thing I agree with pretty much every poster is that you write beautifully, which always makes reading your story a pleasure (in more ways than one, lol).
The undercurrent of your writing makes me believe that you're both actually happy, and most importantly, in control, with things so far, despite the anxiety/arousal/fear you both also feel...which can be a potent drug.
It sounds like you write here for one of the same reasons I do, as a cathartic exercise to explain your own emotions to yourself. In my case, my writing has become very sporadic over the past several years not only because I've been busy, but also because lately my wife and I have never been happier, and I haven't felt the same level of desire to write my thoughts and feelings as I used to. I'm guessing you're in the same boat, and that's a good thing.
Lastly, I understand that how people react to things they witness either in person or through retelling is influenced by their own emotional state and past experiences, positive or negative, so I don't judge what some of the other posters are writing here, even the particularly scolding or judgemental ones. I hope you don't take them personally.
It's because of this that you have my complete support in your explorations, and, purely selfishly, I just hope that the recent comments here don't result in what's happened to many posters before and scare you away. If not, great, but if we end up losing you as a contributor, I wish you continued happiness & love.
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
I have taken several days away from all this and thought about it seriously.
Ky.
I am sorry to have to say this but it’s time to pull the plug. The transformation of Jaime is not just to sexy but to trashy. The tats have now gone way too far. The last tat you described. How is that going to work on a vacation to Disney? Only trashy women have and show tats like that. It’s one thing for them to be in intimate places and never see the light of day or small but that last one is just over the top.
And Jaime’s disrespectful attitude towards you concerning the breast enhancement. Yes it’s her body but if it was my wife and she did that knowing I didn’t like it and would never touch them again would tell me exactly how I feel about it. She no longer is doing things to please you but to please only herself and her lovers. That’s not much of a marriage.
And the last thing that is NOT being considered. Maybe she’s doing this to be more herself. But is that the woman who you fell in love with? Apparently she hasn’t thought that maybe when she becomes her true self, or is it the self that Sypho has convinced her is her true self, that it will not be a person who you can love any more and certainly not be a good mother.
It’s one thing to be Lexi. That I can get behind when she says it 2 different people. Unfortunately the tats and breast enhancements don’t just stay with Lexi… they also come over to Jaime. It is no longer separated.
Based upon what I have heard with these last 2 updates it is no longer possible for me to support Jaime. The disrespect she has shown is too much. It is time to pull the plug and see what happens. Can Jaime be saved? Maybe. If this goes further then no.
You can’t just remove tats or breast implants. Tat removals always leave tell tale scars. Breast are never the same after the implants are removed. The scars are always present. Don’t let Jaime ruin her body any more than she already has.
The questions you must truly ask yourself. Is Jaime becoming a woman you can love? You know she is not the woman you fell in love with and have loved up to this time. Is Jaime wing a good mother to your kids? While I know she has her good moments her order of responsibility should be kids first, Ky second, and Jaime third. Right now the responsibility is clearly Sypho, Jaime. Not sure where you and the kids place. This is not a healthy situation for the kids or the marriage.
As she said this is no longer a game which means it can’t/won’t be stopped. If it were a game then you could continue to play. But now it’s not what do you do because it is destroying your family and your marriage.
As I said earlier about Jaime’s responsibility you also have a responsibility. Yours is kids first, Jaime second and then you. You need to get Jaime out of this for the sake of the kids and then also for the sake of Jaime. She needs some serious protection against a predator that she has proven she cannot protect herself from. Regardless of how the marriage goes you owe this to your kids and Jaime.
I hope I am wrong and have incomplete information and understanding but from what I see here I am afraid I am not.
I love you guys and wish you, Jaime, and family the best no matter what happens.
Ky.
I am sorry to have to say this but it’s time to pull the plug. The transformation of Jaime is not just to sexy but to trashy. The tats have now gone way too far. The last tat you described. How is that going to work on a vacation to Disney? Only trashy women have and show tats like that. It’s one thing for them to be in intimate places and never see the light of day or small but that last one is just over the top.
And Jaime’s disrespectful attitude towards you concerning the breast enhancement. Yes it’s her body but if it was my wife and she did that knowing I didn’t like it and would never touch them again would tell me exactly how I feel about it. She no longer is doing things to please you but to please only herself and her lovers. That’s not much of a marriage.
And the last thing that is NOT being considered. Maybe she’s doing this to be more herself. But is that the woman who you fell in love with? Apparently she hasn’t thought that maybe when she becomes her true self, or is it the self that Sypho has convinced her is her true self, that it will not be a person who you can love any more and certainly not be a good mother.
It’s one thing to be Lexi. That I can get behind when she says it 2 different people. Unfortunately the tats and breast enhancements don’t just stay with Lexi… they also come over to Jaime. It is no longer separated.
Based upon what I have heard with these last 2 updates it is no longer possible for me to support Jaime. The disrespect she has shown is too much. It is time to pull the plug and see what happens. Can Jaime be saved? Maybe. If this goes further then no.
You can’t just remove tats or breast implants. Tat removals always leave tell tale scars. Breast are never the same after the implants are removed. The scars are always present. Don’t let Jaime ruin her body any more than she already has.
The questions you must truly ask yourself. Is Jaime becoming a woman you can love? You know she is not the woman you fell in love with and have loved up to this time. Is Jaime wing a good mother to your kids? While I know she has her good moments her order of responsibility should be kids first, Ky second, and Jaime third. Right now the responsibility is clearly Sypho, Jaime. Not sure where you and the kids place. This is not a healthy situation for the kids or the marriage.
As she said this is no longer a game which means it can’t/won’t be stopped. If it were a game then you could continue to play. But now it’s not what do you do because it is destroying your family and your marriage.
As I said earlier about Jaime’s responsibility you also have a responsibility. Yours is kids first, Jaime second and then you. You need to get Jaime out of this for the sake of the kids and then also for the sake of Jaime. She needs some serious protection against a predator that she has proven she cannot protect herself from. Regardless of how the marriage goes you owe this to your kids and Jaime.
I hope I am wrong and have incomplete information and understanding but from what I see here I am afraid I am not.
I love you guys and wish you, Jaime, and family the best no matter what happens.
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
Ky, When Jaimee is with Sipho or someone that is fucking her or torturing her, her world is only with Sipho. You and the kids don’t even exist to her.
Yet when Jaimee is with you, Sipho is still on her mind. That makes you just a place holder. Somewhere for Jaimee to recover and wait for her next gangbang and torture session.
Jaimee is using the same mind control techniques on you that Sipho uses on her, she will say anything to keep you in line. She may even feel some love for you when she says it but not the same or amount of love she had for you before this time with Sipho.
It will only get worse as Sipho is allowed to further control Jaimee’s mind. This is from experience!
Do you really love her or are you just getting off on the abuse that Jaimee is receiving.
I don’t envy you buddy, you have a lot of pain coming your way.
Good Luck
Yet when Jaimee is with you, Sipho is still on her mind. That makes you just a place holder. Somewhere for Jaimee to recover and wait for her next gangbang and torture session.
Jaimee is using the same mind control techniques on you that Sipho uses on her, she will say anything to keep you in line. She may even feel some love for you when she says it but not the same or amount of love she had for you before this time with Sipho.
It will only get worse as Sipho is allowed to further control Jaimee’s mind. This is from experience!
Do you really love her or are you just getting off on the abuse that Jaimee is receiving.
I don’t envy you buddy, you have a lot of pain coming your way.
Good Luck
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
This storyline shares similarity to xleglover's jen and Mike story, albeit a hardcore version. Ky and jaimee personality and story arch mirrors Mike & Jen.
Derek is scott/ricky. Sipho is jamal. 
If this is real....ky, set boundaries. You clearly don't have one.
Cuckolding/kink is an addition to a marriage, not the sum total of it all. It's clear you're doing all the heavy lifting in your marriage, while jaimee works only on exploring Lexi. Finding a common ground works only if both your goals aligned. Prioritize yourself first while being an equal partner in your marriage. Good luck.


If this is real....ky, set boundaries. You clearly don't have one.
Cuckolding/kink is an addition to a marriage, not the sum total of it all. It's clear you're doing all the heavy lifting in your marriage, while jaimee works only on exploring Lexi. Finding a common ground works only if both your goals aligned. Prioritize yourself first while being an equal partner in your marriage. Good luck.
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
I do, because all they EVER succeed in doing is to drive away the most prolific writers on this site.FamilyCuckold wrote: ↑Sat Feb 01, 2025 7:32 am
Lastly, I understand that how people react to things they witness either in person or through retelling is influenced by their own emotional state and past experiences, positive or negative, so I don't judge what some of the other posters are writing here, even the particularly scolding or judgemental ones.
Oh the humility! For fuck's sake people; Ky is not the Hindenburg.
These naysayers are so insufferably arrogant in their certainty that they know what's happening and what's best for people whom they will never meet based on the merest glimpse into the author's relationship. Are they aware of how they come across? They're all just one big ball of projection. Look it up.
Are there red flags in what Ky's describing? Sure there are. And many. Some of them big fat ones. Does he show evidence of an awareness of them. He sure does. Is there real danger in the course he is following? Maybe.
There's nothing wrong with sharing our fears and concerns but do it in a way that shows our awareness that they are OUR fears and concerns, and with the HUMILITY that we really know next to nothing about Ky, Jaime, their family and their situation. Rid ourselves of the certainty that we know what's best, or what is certain to happen based on what we've read and we'll do fine. We may even have more impact if we do this.
(Thank you FamilyCuckold for tolerating my quoting of your post to make a point. I'm not really replying to you.)
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
Subtoall, Have you lived this situation. I have and the pain that is headed to that family is real and disastrous. You are entitled to your opinion but so are we.
Hotwifeok, you hit the nail on the head.
The kids should come first no matter what, and Jaimee is putting herself totally before the kids and Ky.
Hotwifeok, you hit the nail on the head.
The kids should come first no matter what, and Jaimee is putting herself totally before the kids and Ky.
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
Ky,
When Jaimee went overboard with Derrick and you almost lost her, the only one who could reach her and pull her back was Brooke. You need to engage her again. She is the only one who can break through the Lexi persona and reach Jaimee based on their very strong relationship from before. Your latest conversation shows that you yourself are just too ambivalent about the whole situation, just as it was with Derrick.
Ring Brooke now and ask her to come at once.
When Jaimee went overboard with Derrick and you almost lost her, the only one who could reach her and pull her back was Brooke. You need to engage her again. She is the only one who can break through the Lexi persona and reach Jaimee based on their very strong relationship from before. Your latest conversation shows that you yourself are just too ambivalent about the whole situation, just as it was with Derrick.
Ring Brooke now and ask her to come at once.
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Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
I really believe Ky writes so vividly to intentionally stir up opinions and feelings. He knows there will be all sorts of people with strong feelings on all sides. He knows some people will react with shock and others will cheer on. The real key here is how we choose to respond. At some point repeated objections or repeated encouragement becomes anticipated. Ultimately none of us have any influence over how this will end up. This thing is unfolding all on its own.
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Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
I have not had a chance to read Ky's episode with Derrick - I believe it was pruned by the time I joined. I know a number of folks give advice based on their lived experiences. Before we pass judgement on Ky, Jaimee, Joanna, Sipho and anyone else involved one thing to remember is that this story isnt evolving in real-time. Ky with his superb writing ability gives us a glimpse into the most erotic and sexy bits. A lot of the mundane conversations that go on among the actors is not available to us, So with that said, why dont we all enjoy the episodes as Jaimee and Ky live out their fantasies. Ofcourse I have no experience in this LS so I really cant provide any pearls of wisdom.
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Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
I read this as this is who she is now. It's her life and yours. Enduring it sounds like you don't have a say anymore. It sounds like she has made up her mind. She is doing this. You can just watch and endure or embrace it. There is no stopping. If you asked her to stop now she would tell you no, you made a deal already.Ky_Da wrote: ↑Fri Jan 31, 2025 12:46 pm
"I like who I've become, Ky. Lexi's given me a freedom I never knew I needed. Don't you see that?"
"Ky, we've been over this. I'm not losing myself. I'm finding parts of me I didn't know existed. I want you with me on this journey, not just watching from the sidelines. It's not just about the sex; it's about exploring who I am."
"Ky, we've been over this more times than I can count. I'm not losing myself. It's not just about the sex; it's about exploring who I am."
"I don't know, but I need to know you're with me, not just enduring this, but living it with me. I want to be sure that when I look in the mirror, I see all of me - Jaimee and Lexi."
"I know. But I want you to understand, this isn't just a game anymore. It's my life, our life, and I want to live it fully." Her eyes flickered with something akin to approval as she added, "Sipho offered to pay for it."
Quick question. Do you even have any idea what she does with her time with Sipho and more importantly what he says and does to her? Whatever it is, she is all in on being Sipho's.......whore, slut, pet, sub.....whatever you want to call it. It certainly seems like she will fuck whoever and whenever Sipho wants, is this accurate? What is her body count up to? Do you even really know.
I don't think augmentation is that big of a deal. Half the lulu lemon wearing, Denali driving, soccer moms in our town have them. Sipho paying for them and going bimbo size is a big deal.
I made a thread with some visuals for you. If you don't like it I will pull it down. I thought you might though. All the best. We all wait for updates.
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Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
FamilyCuckold and subtoallsubtoall wrote: ↑Sat Feb 01, 2025 11:14 amI do, because all they EVER succeed in doing is to drive away the most prolific writers on this site.FamilyCuckold wrote: ↑Sat Feb 01, 2025 7:32 am
Lastly, I understand that how people react to things they witness either in person or through retelling is influenced by their own emotional state and past experiences, positive or negative, so I don't judge what some of the other posters are writing here, even the particularly scolding or judgemental ones.
Oh the humility! For fuck's sake people; Ky is not the Hindenburg.
These naysayers are so insufferably arrogant in their certainty that they know what's happening and what's best for people whom they will never meet based on the merest glimpse into the author's relationship. Are they aware of how they come across? They're all just one big ball of projection. Look it up.
Are there red flags in what Ky's describing? Sure there are. And many. Some of them big fat ones. Does he show evidence of an awareness of them. He sure does. Is there real danger in the course he is following? Maybe.
There's nothing wrong with sharing our fears and concerns but do it in a way that shows our awareness that they are OUR fears and concerns, and with the HUMILITY that we really know next to nothing about Ky, Jaime, their family and their situation. Rid ourselves of the certainty that we know what's best, or what is certain to happen based on what we've read and we'll do fine. We may even have more impact if we do this.
(Thank you FamilyCuckold for tolerating my quoting of your post to make a point. I'm not really replying to you.)
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Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
Such condemnation towards Ky_Da. (And I know I’m being hypocritical, after my own contribution to the opprobrium.) If the story were fiction, I’d think Ky would have already abandoned us.
I wonder if we might think twice, or be more gentle if we knew Jaimee was reading along. She likely reads OHW. In fact page one from this thread begins with a description of Jaimee masturbating to an Xleg story from OHW. I know Jaimee first came to OHW with lifestyle questions years ago, and months before Ky ever appeared.
I wish I could recall Jaimee’s member name from when she was posting. Is she still logging in? Or maybe she was the original Ka_Da, and Ky just took over the login months later? Or maybe they share the current Ky_Da login together? As far as I know, Jaimee has never re-engaged with OHW as a contributor. But when I see Ky_Da visiting the site, is it Ky?—or could it be Jaimee?—viewing our comments as we condemn her behaviors, actions, and the very person she is striving to become?
Would posters want to think Jaimee is hearing from them directly?
I wonder if we might think twice, or be more gentle if we knew Jaimee was reading along. She likely reads OHW. In fact page one from this thread begins with a description of Jaimee masturbating to an Xleg story from OHW. I know Jaimee first came to OHW with lifestyle questions years ago, and months before Ky ever appeared.
I wish I could recall Jaimee’s member name from when she was posting. Is she still logging in? Or maybe she was the original Ka_Da, and Ky just took over the login months later? Or maybe they share the current Ky_Da login together? As far as I know, Jaimee has never re-engaged with OHW as a contributor. But when I see Ky_Da visiting the site, is it Ky?—or could it be Jaimee?—viewing our comments as we condemn her behaviors, actions, and the very person she is striving to become?
Would posters want to think Jaimee is hearing from them directly?
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
Quite the range of comments. What to write, what to write, what to write...
I'm at a bit of a loss. I've spent the last 24 hours reading through most of the comments, though some I just skim for, well, reasons. It's a bit of a catch-22. On one hand, I appreciate getting comments; they're the only currency and payment for the time I invest in writing and sharing. But then I have to ask myself, what am I really expecting? I don't want cheerleaders who only push their own desires at me, and at the same time, the warnings of certain doom and gloom aren't exactly a joy to read.
But even those cautionary comments, I believe they come from a good place. Some of you have been through some rough times. I can tell from your words that you're warning me based on your own past experiences - and I get it. If I were in your shoes, I'd probably do the same.
Still, it makes me reflect even more on what I should write about. To be completely open, I'm struggling with this. I do believe the cuckold kink is what I find most appealing - that's why I started in the Cuckold forum. But it's been nearly ten years since we began, and things are bound to evolve and change. Hence this whole thing with Joanna. But a long-term polyamorous love triangle isn't what I'm looking for either. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I'm trying to figure all this out, and at times, my experiences don't fit neatly into this forum's expectations.
Let me clarify: Is the Ky family going perfectly? No, we've got some issues to work out, but is it as doomed as some of you think? I don't believe that's accurate either. But when I think about it, I see that some of the fault might lie with me. What I'm sharing are just the peaks of our lives, the most intense, erotic moments. Yes, I do try to capture them in the most titillating way possible because it's fun, and that's honestly how I feel when it's happening.
What you don't see, what I don't share, are the long, hard conversations Jaimee and I have, the sit-down talks I've had with Sipho. Most notably, you don't see the time Jaimee and I dedicate to parenting our children. I don't share those because they're personal, and frankly, none of anyone's business. Yes, Jaimee has to cover up more so the kids don't see her tattoos. Yes, we'll need to keep our private lives private, even from them. You don't see how much Jaimee is still here as a mother and a wife. I haven't shared these aspects because they're deeply personal.
Again, this might be mostly my fault. I've perhaps given the impression that Jaimee is with Sipho 24/7, under his total control, but that's not the case. Yes, she works for him part-time. Yes, she spends a night, sometimes two, with him during the week. But there are also weeks when she spends little to no time with him due to conflicting schedules. I haven't shared so many nuances, so I understand the concern.
Another aspect I haven't delved into is that while Jaimee does have the QOS tattoos, that doesn't mean she's exclusively with black men. It might be a current preference, but it's more part of the game than a serious, exclusive choice.
Now, while I write this, I might be completely off base. Maybe there's an evil element out there looking to wreck my marriage. But I hope not. I'll fight for my marriage and my family to the very end. Jaimee knows what gets me off, and she's done her best to give it to me. At the same time, she's developed her own kinks that mirror mine in many ways. We're both trying to fulfill our desires and needs, and we make mistakes. Nothing is ever perfect.
Have things gone too far? Maybe...
Should I step in and put an end to it like I've done so many times before? Again, maybe...
I'm not sure what I want to share going forward - if anything. I need to give that some thought.
I'm at a bit of a loss. I've spent the last 24 hours reading through most of the comments, though some I just skim for, well, reasons. It's a bit of a catch-22. On one hand, I appreciate getting comments; they're the only currency and payment for the time I invest in writing and sharing. But then I have to ask myself, what am I really expecting? I don't want cheerleaders who only push their own desires at me, and at the same time, the warnings of certain doom and gloom aren't exactly a joy to read.
But even those cautionary comments, I believe they come from a good place. Some of you have been through some rough times. I can tell from your words that you're warning me based on your own past experiences - and I get it. If I were in your shoes, I'd probably do the same.
Still, it makes me reflect even more on what I should write about. To be completely open, I'm struggling with this. I do believe the cuckold kink is what I find most appealing - that's why I started in the Cuckold forum. But it's been nearly ten years since we began, and things are bound to evolve and change. Hence this whole thing with Joanna. But a long-term polyamorous love triangle isn't what I'm looking for either. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I'm trying to figure all this out, and at times, my experiences don't fit neatly into this forum's expectations.
Let me clarify: Is the Ky family going perfectly? No, we've got some issues to work out, but is it as doomed as some of you think? I don't believe that's accurate either. But when I think about it, I see that some of the fault might lie with me. What I'm sharing are just the peaks of our lives, the most intense, erotic moments. Yes, I do try to capture them in the most titillating way possible because it's fun, and that's honestly how I feel when it's happening.
What you don't see, what I don't share, are the long, hard conversations Jaimee and I have, the sit-down talks I've had with Sipho. Most notably, you don't see the time Jaimee and I dedicate to parenting our children. I don't share those because they're personal, and frankly, none of anyone's business. Yes, Jaimee has to cover up more so the kids don't see her tattoos. Yes, we'll need to keep our private lives private, even from them. You don't see how much Jaimee is still here as a mother and a wife. I haven't shared these aspects because they're deeply personal.
Again, this might be mostly my fault. I've perhaps given the impression that Jaimee is with Sipho 24/7, under his total control, but that's not the case. Yes, she works for him part-time. Yes, she spends a night, sometimes two, with him during the week. But there are also weeks when she spends little to no time with him due to conflicting schedules. I haven't shared so many nuances, so I understand the concern.
Another aspect I haven't delved into is that while Jaimee does have the QOS tattoos, that doesn't mean she's exclusively with black men. It might be a current preference, but it's more part of the game than a serious, exclusive choice.
Now, while I write this, I might be completely off base. Maybe there's an evil element out there looking to wreck my marriage. But I hope not. I'll fight for my marriage and my family to the very end. Jaimee knows what gets me off, and she's done her best to give it to me. At the same time, she's developed her own kinks that mirror mine in many ways. We're both trying to fulfill our desires and needs, and we make mistakes. Nothing is ever perfect.
Have things gone too far? Maybe...
Should I step in and put an end to it like I've done so many times before? Again, maybe...
I'm not sure what I want to share going forward - if anything. I need to give that some thought.
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
Thank Ky. You said what I was trying to say previously much better than I did. I think there is a lot that gets lost of the “work” that goes into maintaining a healthy relationship when all you have time to post about are the highlights or the deepest and most intense moments in time. If you and Jaimee/Lexi are getting what you wanted from Sipho, then don’t worry about what all the naysayers are going on about here.
As has been pointed out, the fact that your experiences have moved people to care so much about the condition of your relationship is a tribute to your skill as a writer and the depth of what you have shared with us. Please keep sharing the parts that you want to write about, and don’t feel compelled to share the private and personal parts if that turns into drudgery for you when you try to put it in writing. The interactions you have with Jaimee and how you describe them make it clear (at least to me) that the depth of understanding of the details of “the game” between you two goes way deeper than what your could ever adequately describe here. The one thing that keeps coming through in what you have written is that a big part of the motivation for her is to “make it good for you too”. Her insecurity afterwards about the impact of leaving you at the club tells me that all the blather about her “not caring anymore about you” is just that…blather.
Please keep writing what moves you and please make use of the ignore function for those whose repeated postings are crushing your groove if you need to. Thanks again for sharing and best to both you and Jaimee.
As has been pointed out, the fact that your experiences have moved people to care so much about the condition of your relationship is a tribute to your skill as a writer and the depth of what you have shared with us. Please keep sharing the parts that you want to write about, and don’t feel compelled to share the private and personal parts if that turns into drudgery for you when you try to put it in writing. The interactions you have with Jaimee and how you describe them make it clear (at least to me) that the depth of understanding of the details of “the game” between you two goes way deeper than what your could ever adequately describe here. The one thing that keeps coming through in what you have written is that a big part of the motivation for her is to “make it good for you too”. Her insecurity afterwards about the impact of leaving you at the club tells me that all the blather about her “not caring anymore about you” is just that…blather.
Please keep writing what moves you and please make use of the ignore function for those whose repeated postings are crushing your groove if you need to. Thanks again for sharing and best to both you and Jaimee.
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Ky, it is good to know that what your writing is not completely accurate, but it was scary to me as I lost a family and a daughter to the lifestyle.
Please remember, you can not keep your life style from the kids as they get older. No matter how you try, they will find out. The more blatant Jaimee gets with her decorations the harder it gets to keep from the kids. The older the kids get the smarter they get. At 4 and 6 it is fairly easy to keep most of it from them but at 8 and 10 it will be harder and at 12 and 14 it will be impossible.
Please keep writing, I have loved your story from the beginning. I only wrote because of my like for you and Jaimee and my concern for the way it seemed to be going downhill for you.
I am sorry if I offended you so I will go away now.
Please keep writing!
Please remember, you can not keep your life style from the kids as they get older. No matter how you try, they will find out. The more blatant Jaimee gets with her decorations the harder it gets to keep from the kids. The older the kids get the smarter they get. At 4 and 6 it is fairly easy to keep most of it from them but at 8 and 10 it will be harder and at 12 and 14 it will be impossible.
Please keep writing, I have loved your story from the beginning. I only wrote because of my like for you and Jaimee and my concern for the way it seemed to be going downhill for you.
I am sorry if I offended you so I will go away now.
Please keep writing!
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KY your story is my number one story on OHW. I understand the dangers other posters have shared. Thank you for clarifying some things for us. I hope you continue to share your journey with us.
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
Ky, I'm really sorry man. I apologize if my comments have been a proclamation of doom and gloom. And you nailed it. Sometimes I've gotten carried away in my responses. Yes, I do feel like I may have projected my own desires. For that I apoloigise too. I recognize I've done both. So, I'll put my hands up here and say sorry, both to you and the other readers of your story.Ky_Da wrote: ↑Sat Feb 01, 2025 4:14 pmQuite the range of comments. What to write, what to write, what to write...
I'm at a bit of a loss. I've spent the last 24 hours reading through most of the comments, though some I just skim for, well, reasons. It's a bit of a catch-22. On one hand, I appreciate getting comments; they're the only currency and payment for the time I invest in writing and sharing. But then I have to ask myself, what am I really expecting? I don't want cheerleaders who only push their own desires at me, and at the same time, the warnings of certain doom and gloom aren't exactly a joy to read.
But even those cautionary comments, I believe they come from a good place. Some of you have been through some rough times. I can tell from your words that you're warning me based on your own past experiences - and I get it. If I were in your shoes, I'd probably do the same.
Still, it makes me reflect even more on what I should write about. To be completely open, I'm struggling with this. I do believe the cuckold kink is what I find most appealing - that's why I started in the Cuckold forum. But it's been nearly ten years since we began, and things are bound to evolve and change. Hence this whole thing with Joanna. But a long-term polyamorous love triangle isn't what I'm looking for either. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I'm trying to figure all this out, and at times, my experiences don't fit neatly into this forum's expectations.
Let me clarify: Is the Ky family going perfectly? No, we've got some issues to work out, but is it as doomed as some of you think? I don't believe that's accurate either. But when I think about it, I see that some of the fault might lie with me. What I'm sharing are just the peaks of our lives, the most intense, erotic moments. Yes, I do try to capture them in the most titillating way possible because it's fun, and that's honestly how I feel when it's happening.
What you don't see, what I don't share, are the long, hard conversations Jaimee and I have, the sit-down talks I've had with Sipho. Most notably, you don't see the time Jaimee and I dedicate to parenting our children. I don't share those because they're personal, and frankly, none of anyone's business. Yes, Jaimee has to cover up more so the kids don't see her tattoos. Yes, we'll need to keep our private lives private, even from them. You don't see how much Jaimee is still here as a mother and a wife. I haven't shared these aspects because they're deeply personal.
Again, this might be mostly my fault. I've perhaps given the impression that Jaimee is with Sipho 24/7, under his total control, but that's not the case. Yes, she works for him part-time. Yes, she spends a night, sometimes two, with him during the week. But there are also weeks when she spends little to no time with him due to conflicting schedules. I haven't shared so many nuances, so I understand the concern.
Another aspect I haven't delved into is that while Jaimee does have the QOS tattoos, that doesn't mean she's exclusively with black men. It might be a current preference, but it's more part of the game than a serious, exclusive choice.
Now, while I write this, I might be completely off base. Maybe there's an evil element out there looking to wreck my marriage. But I hope not. I'll fight for my marriage and my family to the very end. Jaimee knows what gets me off, and she's done her best to give it to me. At the same time, she's developed her own kinks that mirror mine in many ways. We're both trying to fulfill our desires and needs, and we make mistakes. Nothing is ever perfect.
Have things gone too far? Maybe...
Should I step in and put an end to it like I've done so many times before? Again, maybe...
I'm not sure what I want to share going forward - if anything. I need to give that some thought.
I love your writing. It is amazing. Titillating, of course. But also the way you convey the emotions that a lot of us enjoy too. Damn it, you capture that so very well. The angst, but also the desire, the arousal. The playful game between you and Jaimee.
I know you've been working on your writing skills, and it really does show. It's gotten to the point where, over the years of sharing you have painted an amazing emotional picture of the people you love and encounter. Jaimee and Lexi of course, Joanna and now Sipho. As a reader we get as attached to your depictions of these people as much as we get attached to you, and your writing.There are many of us, myself included who hop on this board to catchup with you. A lot of us would miss you if you stopped posting. I'd miss you!
I'd also feel awful, guilty if my comments led to you not wanting to post here anymore. i'm sorry man. I think as a reader, we (and I) do forget that you and Jaimee have been in the lifestyle for so long. That troubles you guys went through at the start. How you righted the ship and have managed, together to move on and enjoy more of the lifestyle. We forget that you and Jaimee have explored this lifestyle for many years more than any of us have. There are two steady hands at the tiller of the good ship Ky.
Whatever happens Ky, if you decide to continue posting here or not I want to wish you and the good family Ky all the best.
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Ky you have hit the nail on the head once again. The doomsayers only have your best interested and that if your kids and Jaimie in mind. Your writing is so good and compelling that people get worried for you. It does seem like things are maybe going too far with all the markings Sipho is putting on her and that maybe he gets off on seeing how far he can push her and get you to agree with. However you aren't supplying the complete details so everyone commenting is doing so without all the information. If you want helpful feedback maybe supplying more of the details would be helpful for those that care and want to help. In my opinion the cheerleaders are always the most damaging because they get off on the more extreme stuff and will encourage you to let things go to the point of destroying your marriage. I hope you will continue to share your story because most of us consider you a friend and want your marriage to work in the longterm and for your kids to not be negatively impacted by the game you are playing. You have gone a long time without fucking your wife is this game really worth it? Will it cause longterm damage to your marriage if you keep playing. What if you decide that ending the game portion in February is best and you start taking part in the sex with Lexi at the parties or S&M? What ever you decide please continue to write.
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Thanks for the introspective post Ky. Hopefully we get to read more of posts here.
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I have actually tried to hint at what you are saying. It would be a pretty boring read if you included all the family moments and downtime. What we are getting is a montage, greatest hits reel of the most gut wrenching moments, and even if those are accurately portrayed they won’t be truly reflective of a lived everyday reality. People on this site seem to be very good at jumping to conclusions and making up their own narrative based on a few dramatised highlights.
With that being said if I were going to give you my unrequested personal interpretation my opinion has always been that Sipho needs you and Jamiee to have a strong relationship for the dynamic he has been cultivating to truly work.
It feels like the contrast between security and adventure is what makes it exciting and allows boundaries to be pushed. The family gives her a safe space to retreat to and ground herself whilst the times she spends with Sipho provide adventure and a feeling of being out of control. It’s finding the delicate balance between these contradictory forces that maintains the excitement and prevents things from being stale or mundane.
Anyway, I have always found your writing to be incredibly intense and really do hope you continue to share. You have given a lot to this community with very little received in return and I can totally see why some of the comments would make you think twice about sharing. Especially when there seems to be this undercurrent where people have become invested in your story to the point where they act like you somehow owe them something.
With that being said if I were going to give you my unrequested personal interpretation my opinion has always been that Sipho needs you and Jamiee to have a strong relationship for the dynamic he has been cultivating to truly work.
It feels like the contrast between security and adventure is what makes it exciting and allows boundaries to be pushed. The family gives her a safe space to retreat to and ground herself whilst the times she spends with Sipho provide adventure and a feeling of being out of control. It’s finding the delicate balance between these contradictory forces that maintains the excitement and prevents things from being stale or mundane.
Anyway, I have always found your writing to be incredibly intense and really do hope you continue to share. You have given a lot to this community with very little received in return and I can totally see why some of the comments would make you think twice about sharing. Especially when there seems to be this undercurrent where people have become invested in your story to the point where they act like you somehow owe them something.
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
Dear Ky,
I really appreciated your recent posts.
I particularly appreciate the most recent. We tend to fall into the trap of thinking we know everything that is relevant when we read and respond to the posts on OHWs, not just yours, it is a general failure of the human mind.
Only You and Jamie in between you have the full story.
Only You can determine what is the right path for you and your family.
Please continue to share the way you prefer to share, and just filter away the comments that your recognize are biased because the posters where unaware of lots of things you have not shared, and are perfectly privileged to keep to yourself.
One question though, Is Jamie aware of you posting here and is She reading it?
Sincerely
elina
I really appreciated your recent posts.
I particularly appreciate the most recent. We tend to fall into the trap of thinking we know everything that is relevant when we read and respond to the posts on OHWs, not just yours, it is a general failure of the human mind.
Only You and Jamie in between you have the full story.
Only You can determine what is the right path for you and your family.
Please continue to share the way you prefer to share, and just filter away the comments that your recognize are biased because the posters where unaware of lots of things you have not shared, and are perfectly privileged to keep to yourself.
One question though, Is Jamie aware of you posting here and is She reading it?
Sincerely
elina
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Just want to say thanks for taking the time and effort to write. I want your life to be happy and may things work out for you as you would like.
I appreciate your sharing your thoughts and experiences with us.
I appreciate your sharing your thoughts and experiences with us.
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This is what all of the readers, both fans and naysayers, are forgetting. What Ky gives us is but a small glimpse into their lives, and most certainly some of the most exciting and adventurous times. We don't hear about the colds, the skinned knees, the coffee in the morning, the shopping trips, the walks in the park, the appointments, the everyday non sexual conversations, the "boring" stuff of life for people on this site. Through his writing I am betting we see maybe a window of 1% of how they live their life.Ky_Da wrote: ↑Sat Feb 01, 2025 4:14 pm
What you don't see, what I don't share, are the long, hard conversations Jaimee and I have, the sit-down talks I've had with Sipho. Most notably, you don't see the time Jaimee and I dedicate to parenting our children. I don't share those because they're personal, and frankly, none of anyone's business. Yes, Jaimee has to cover up more so the kids don't see her tattoos. Yes, we'll need to keep our private lives private, even from them. You don't see how much Jaimee is still here as a mother and a wife. I haven't shared these aspects because they're deeply personal.
Again, this might be mostly my fault. I've perhaps given the impression that Jaimee is with Sipho 24/7, under his total control, but that's not the case. Yes, she works for him part-time. Yes, she spends a night, sometimes two, with him during the week. But there are also weeks when she spends little to no time with him due to conflicting schedules. I haven't shared so many nuances, so I understand the concern.
When it comes to sex and sexual activities, even if you are super active and spend 2 hours each and every single day, or 14 hours per week, engaged in sexual activities, which is unrealistic for most, this is about 8% of your time. By that metric, even if Lexi is hyper active, she spends maybe 10% of her time as Lexi, and the other 90% of her time as Jaimee, although Lexi owns her sexuality. Sure, there may be weeks where Jaimee disappears for a day or two and spends 25% of her time as Lexi, the other weeks where she is Jaimee close to 100% of the time.
Isn't that what we all want, your wife to be the normal loving wife most of the time, the Jaimee, but when it comes to sex and the bedroom, oh, we want the Lexi, don't we? Ludacris said it best with Nasty Girl. "Lady in the streets, but a freak in the bed."
Much like my wife has a some guys she sees, including a boyfriend. Sometimes she does not see him for weeks, but some weeks it several times. In ends up to be mere hours per month, a very small percentage of how she spends her time. Yet people reading may assume she is with him all of the time. We also share the QOS kink, and have dabbled a few times with a very dominant guy, but that does not mean she is out fucking multiple black guys every day.
Ky's writing is nothing short of brilliant, and their adventures are nothing short of extraordinary, pushing the extremes of the kink to the edge and beyond, many peoples comfort levels.
Ky, I think most on here are genuinely concerned with you and the family, which explains the emotional reactions and comments, but it sounds like you and Jaimee have the family aspect under control and are putting it first.
Be safe my friend.
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Ky,
The volume, intensity, and passion of the people who respond to your postings of your and Jaimie’s life since you started posting years ago should tell you how you’ve struck a nerve in all of us.
Your experiences are so outside the scope of our lives that we are motivated to chime in our thoughts. Many of these responses are heartfelt and come from a place of concern and interest in your family’s best interests. And others from those who simply use your descriptions of Jaimie’s transformation as stroke material and wish to see her take the deepest dive possible into the possible perversions and decadence Sipho might be able to provide.
I hope you realize that the intensity and passion of the responses to your posts are a direct response and reflection of the intensity, passion, and emotions that your posts describe.
As many of us who have been on this forum for a while realize that your postings are a snippet, “the best of” collectin if you will of your experiences. You of course are going to share just those moments pertaining to Jaimie’s sexual activities and not the mundane, everyday life things.
However in a recent post you shared how Jaimie left during a date night out with your friends. Gave you her wedding rings and left the group, and you, to go with some strange man. This does leave one with the impression that Jaimie is at the beck and call of Sipho and his boys.
So, perhaps you occasionally share within your writings of Jaimie’s debauchary, those times when she does say no to Sipho.
Is it when the kids are sick? When she’s not feeling well? Is she out of commission during her period? Will she say no when the kids have an activity, open house, concert, or other?
If she says no to going to Sipho, does he exact a penalty or punishment on her?
You also mentioned the deep sit down conversations you have with Jaimie and Sipho that you don’t talk about.
I would be fascinated to read about those. Any insight to the Svengooli who is controlling Jaimie’s transformation, sexuality, and libido would add more depth to our understanding of this man and just what his place is in your lives.
As always thank you for taking the time to share your adventures in this lifestyle.
Good luck and I eagerly awaiting your future updates.
The volume, intensity, and passion of the people who respond to your postings of your and Jaimie’s life since you started posting years ago should tell you how you’ve struck a nerve in all of us.
Your experiences are so outside the scope of our lives that we are motivated to chime in our thoughts. Many of these responses are heartfelt and come from a place of concern and interest in your family’s best interests. And others from those who simply use your descriptions of Jaimie’s transformation as stroke material and wish to see her take the deepest dive possible into the possible perversions and decadence Sipho might be able to provide.
I hope you realize that the intensity and passion of the responses to your posts are a direct response and reflection of the intensity, passion, and emotions that your posts describe.
As many of us who have been on this forum for a while realize that your postings are a snippet, “the best of” collectin if you will of your experiences. You of course are going to share just those moments pertaining to Jaimie’s sexual activities and not the mundane, everyday life things.
However in a recent post you shared how Jaimie left during a date night out with your friends. Gave you her wedding rings and left the group, and you, to go with some strange man. This does leave one with the impression that Jaimie is at the beck and call of Sipho and his boys.
So, perhaps you occasionally share within your writings of Jaimie’s debauchary, those times when she does say no to Sipho.
Is it when the kids are sick? When she’s not feeling well? Is she out of commission during her period? Will she say no when the kids have an activity, open house, concert, or other?
If she says no to going to Sipho, does he exact a penalty or punishment on her?
You also mentioned the deep sit down conversations you have with Jaimie and Sipho that you don’t talk about.
I would be fascinated to read about those. Any insight to the Svengooli who is controlling Jaimie’s transformation, sexuality, and libido would add more depth to our understanding of this man and just what his place is in your lives.
As always thank you for taking the time to share your adventures in this lifestyle.
Good luck and I eagerly awaiting your future updates.
Re: I'm Ky, and I'm a cuck-oholic
Here, here Mundyman.