NSA6715 wrote: ↑Tue Nov 08, 2022 4:21 am
Absolutely no loyalty test! If you do that, then you're just like her!
When she cheated, she showed that she didn't trust you, since she cheated on you rather than trusting you to react in a loving way to her feelings about your sex life. It was like she thought you were a math function (she put in lies about her sexual feelings, and got out a husband who believed her to be somewhat satisfied sexually and thus had no cause to reject her for her genuine feelings of sexual dissatisfaction).
Now you're considering doing the same?!? It may seem different, but it really isn't. Whether a marriage sinks or floats isn't usually based on a particular set of mistakes committed by one or both parties, instead it usually depends on who each spouse chooses to be towards the other. Please choose to be the spouse who trusts his wife. She may betray your trust, hell maybe it's even likely (I wouldn't know), but you can't behave sanely towards your wife if you turn your life with her into a Machiavellian game. Trusting someone is about humanizing them. To distrust someone is to treat them like a machine or an algorithm, which is fine if they've proven themselves hostile, but it's soul crushing in a personal relationship.
Your wife doesn't want you to think of her as mathematical function. Trying to put a "loyalty test" in, in order to get a out a feeling of security is a sure fire way to make her feel like one.
To be clear, I was considering the loyalty test because it turned me on—I’ve been open with her that it’s ok if she sects or has sex with other men as long as I’m in the loop. I thought the loyalty tester would be a good catalyst to having an opportunity fall into her lap, but I agree it’s deceitful to do without her involved, so forget that idea entirely.
As to the rest of our sex life, it’s been really fun this month. Multiple times we’ve had sex and I don’t cum at all during the session—other times I’ll jerk off afterwards. But we’ve established a new sex life where we both understand I won’t cum from sex and I’m honestly loving in. Sex is now entirely about achieving her orgasm.
It’s been a bit of adjustment—on my end getting blue balls often and on her end feeling like I’m being left unsatisfied, but we’re both reassuring to each other and a new norm has developed.
This afternoon we were both working from home and she wanted a quicky. I gave her oral briefly on the couch then she bent over the arm and I fucked her doggy to an incredibly loud orgasm. I was close to coming, but I stopped and just held her until she came down from hers. We then went about our day.
I’ve found a few benefits from this—for one, I love the moment of her orgasm and right afterward. I’m just there for her and not worried about finishing myself. I’m also left horny almost all the time, so with her high sex drive, I’m eager to go anytime she wants—there’s less downtime.
As for the cum eating, she has me lick a taste when I do cum typically, but I still haven’t swallowed a full load.