Not a Cuckold, but Thought I'd Share My Situation

[drstrangelove]

I'm in my mid-30s and have been browsing this forum and similar ones for a long time as the cuckold fetish has turned me on since my early 20s. I found myself in a few situations back then that I didn't capitalize on because I didn't realize this was my fetish -- as they say, youth is wasted on the youth.

Happy to delve back into some of those, but the reason I'm posting is to share my current situation -- I've been married for 10+ years and have two kids and I'm fairly confident my wife has never cheated on me. But looking back, I have noticed that my willingness to push my fetish into my sex life has led to some actual changes and I thought there could be other guys out there interested.

Early on, like I imagine many guys like me have done, I had my wife share some of her past sex stories with me during sex. I loved it (my wife was very slutty before we met in college -- 30+ different guys -- including two guys after we met). Unfortunately, it didn't last long as she became really uncomfortable with talking about. That shutdown any way for me to realize the fetish in real life, so I relied on porn.

The humiliation aspect of being a cuck also turned me on, and one time, a few years ago, I came in my boxers while eating her out. It turned me on to eat her out, but it turned me on more to see her reaction to me cuming from only eating her out. Truthfully, nothing really changed right away, but I realize now over the course of years, that first time I did it changed a lot in our bedroom dynamic. Most of all, I think it empowered her sexually a bit...which is a good thing when you're a guy looking to play a submissive role in the bedroom while you're with a relatively vanilla girl.

I don't recall the first time it happened, probably a year or two ago, but in response to me wanting to fool around, she responded saying she's tired and asking if I could just go down on her. She was very directly just asking me to eat her out until I came and looking to see my reaction. It was a huge turn on to see her take that control and of course I complied.

In the moment, it didn't feel like much changed, but looking back, our sex life has drastically changed as time went by. We don't ever discuss it directly, but it's clearly both of our preferences for me to eat her out and for both of us to cum that way. It got into a routine of me eating her out to two orgasms and me timing my orgasm with her second one.

It didn't happen over night...some of the times, I'd eat her out and then transition to sex, but I'd always get a comment like "oh, you didn't cum yet?" -- she'd never turn down sex at that moment, but would make a point of noting that me not cuming in my boxers was the anomaly. It's just a gradual change in expectation and sex-life.

Now, more often than not, instead of cuming in my boxers, I'll sit up quick and jerk off onto her stomach after I get her off twice. It's not that it's more humiliating than cuming in my boxers, it's that I'm demonstrating even though I haven't cum, I'll just jerk off instead of having sex with her ready and waiting pussy. At first, she would even offer for me to put it in, but I'd just say it's ok because I'm so close anyway -- now she almost never bothers to even offer.

I don't want to make it sound like it's 100 percent like this -- it's evolving...last year, on average, we'd probably have actual sex once a month, with another 2-3 BJ's mixed in -- and perhaps 8-10 sessions like the ones I've described in a month. But the ratio has gradually moved in favor of eating her out and jerking off. We also just had our second child in July, so it's actually been since around February/March since the last time we had intercourse (the last trimester she wasn't up for much). We had our first intimate session earlier this week -- she reminded me that she couldn't have sex yet so that it'd have to be a BJ, so I just responded, "well, you can get head, right?" -- so she was like oh yea and it went as "normal" -- eating her out and me jerking off.

Anyways, this is getting long, but I just thought I'd share with any readers who are looking at ways to realize their fetish in smaller ways. I know it's not cuckolding at all, but I feel like it checks some of the same kink boxes. I'm happy to give more specifics if people think it will help!

[allengt]

Welcome to the forum.

[nevertoolate]

A patient gardener will cultivate much, as you have done. Try reintroducing penetration, but with a dildo instead of your cock.

[jim28]

My current Wife likes to be in control and show it by frustrating me. She teases and comes on strong until I beg to see Her pussy or eat Her. That is almost always denied and the most I get is to beg Her to let me masturbate. She loves the control. I am very humiliated which is what I need.

[drstrangelove]

My current Wife likes to be in control and show it by frustrating me. She teases and comes on strong until I beg to see Her pussy or eat Her. That is almost always denied and the most I get is to beg Her to let me masturbate. She loves the control. I am very humiliated which is what I need.

Definitely hot and a likely direction I could see this going.

I don't know if it was making this thread or what, but I decided to push things further today. We got the kids out of the house for a couple of hours and went to take a nap. She sent the singnals that she was looking to play, so things progressed as normal...kissing, licking her body, and then moving down to give her head.

This time though, after her first orgasm, I gradually moved lower to her ass for the second, monitoring her reaction (I tried it once before about a year ago and she was really self-conscious and didn't seem to really enjoy it). She didn't give an inkling of hesitation though. So I dove in, eventually working my fingers over her clit as I ate her asshole. When she was about to cum, I switched my mouth back up to her pussy and she exploded into a second orgasm. I didn't even make it to the end; I came in my pants a minute or two before she finished.

She just let out a big sigh and said: "That was great." But most interestingly, she didn't even bother to ask if I came already. I'm not sure if it's because she genuinely didn't care or just rightly assumed I had. Either way, the whole episode felt like a progression.

I'm not sure what to do as a next step. I feel like I won't go right back to her ass next time -- I'm wondering if I can get her to request it, either verbally or with body language, which would be really hot.

I also saw nevertoolate's comment about a dildo, though I think it might be too soon for that. For one, she still can't do penetration until her doctor's visit (still just shy of six weeks from giving birth -- though as an aside, she's already back to 115 lbs., her pre-pregnancy weight; she looks incredible). I feel fairly sure she'll want to have sex once she can, though it's kind of too bad...it's been pretty hot going all these months without any sex.

[jim28]

I envy you, LOL. My Wife only allows me to lick Her pussy every several months and won't ever let me near Her ass although it is very sexy and beautiful. I've always felt that a sub should earn the right to lick Her pussy by doing a good job licking Her ass first. My wife's way of ruling is to deny everything I want, LOL

[aedmontr]

Great introduction!

[drstrangelove]

Great introduction!

Thanks! No update currently -- I suspect there will be ebbs and flows, but I'll update when I can and I'll check back in and answer any questions.

[7inchsub]

Wow very hot. Love the asslicking too!! You might not be a full cuckold but I definitely feel some humiliation desires in there. Like the importance of you not cumming from her pussy. That’s a pretty strong cuckold desire for most (mine as well at times). Would you be open or could you handle the possibility of her being fucked from someone else and you cum from watching?

From what gets you going and your explanation it sounds like this might be a turn on. Does she still ever tell you stories from her past sex encounters? If not maybe get some of that while you lick her pussy next. My wife just recently told me about one of her past lovers and I loved hearing about how she enjoyed him sexually more then me and how big he was! Huge turn on and made my night!

Whatever route or journey you guys go on I just hope it brings you closer and brings you both pleasure!!

[aedmontr]

I second what 7inch said about asslicking. It is not strictly sub behavior but hot as fuck!

[CuckedDude]

A patient gardener will cultivate much, as you have done. Try reintroducing penetration, but with a dildo instead of your cock.

Charlie Chan??

[drstrangelove]

Wow very hot. Love the asslicking too!! You might not be a full cuckold but I definitely feel some humiliation desires in there. Like the importance of you not cumming from her pussy. That’s a pretty strong cuckold desire for most (mine as well at times). Would you be open or could you handle the possibility of her being fucked from someone else and you cum from watching?

From what gets you going and your explanation it sounds like this might be a turn on. Does she still ever tell you stories from her past sex encounters? If not maybe get some of that while you lick her pussy next. My wife just recently told me about one of her past lovers and I loved hearing about how she enjoyed him sexually more then me and how big he was! Huge turn on and made my night!

Whatever route or journey you guys go on I just hope it brings you closer and brings you both pleasure!!

The idea of being a cuckold certainly turns me on. And I've been cucked by other women, I just never knew it until after the fact. But I think it's very different with casual relationships from college -- now there are a lot of significant repercussions. I also don't think she would be into it at all. But yes, to answer the question, it would definitely be hot watching her get fucked.

And she hasn't shared any stories about her past with me in about 10 years. We had a thing going for a few months where she would and I loved it, but over the years, whenever I've asked, she has shut it down hard. My favorite story was when her college roommate sophomore year invited over a guy she was hooking up with from the football team -- they were staying in an apartment layout with a common room and bedroom for two. The guy brought his friend to hang out with my wife and they ended up fucking. She said all she could remember was how big he was -- both in size (250-300 pounds) and his cock -- and how long he lasted. She said he fucked her for 45+ minutes straight, long after she was able to keep getting off on it, but he just kept pounding away. Just the idea of my incredibly petite wife (then about 100 pounds) lying underneath a massive football player getting railed for 45 minutes is still a turn on to think about.

[drstrangelove]

So a brief update from my end. My wife saw her doctor on Monday and was given the green-light for sex, so when she got home in the afternoon, we fooled around. I ate her out to an orgasm and then she wanted me to put it in (which was a big moment considering it has been several months of no sex). I tried, but I could only get the tip in because it was causing her too much pain. She would get dry and II'd lick her more and most of the session was her using her hand or me rubbing my dick on the outside of her pussy. I was inside for a bit though, so it counts, haha.

It'll be interesting to see how the next session goes. It seemed very clear that she prefers my tongue over my dick, so we'll see if she bothers to request sex again.

[Jacko]

Maybe see if you can encourage more verbal interaction .. tell her how good she tastes and feels, get her to tell you what she likes and doesn't like when you are licking her out or "steer" your tongue where she wants it. She might open up a little more about what she is thinking about when you are going down on her.

Also have you considered switching out your regular boxers for different underwear? Satin/silk boxers might be a nice change, or even regular briefs can feel constricting in a good way when you're not "inside" something else

[drstrangelove]

Apologies for the lack of updates, but not much has changed. We have been fooling around a lot, and sessions are getting longer and longer, but it's just me eating her out. She decided to postpone starting birth control another month as well.

We did have one session a few nights ago that hit a lot of new notes. I was giving her head for a long time. We usually stop after her second orgasm, but this time I started up again for a third, which she loved. After her third orgasm though, I could tell she was completely wiped out.

I asked if she wanted to have sex, but she just flatly said "no, just cum on my stomach."

So i sat up and started jerking off over her pussy, telling her how hot she was. I also slipped in "you know, I think most husbands get to fuck their wives instead of jerk off..."

She just laughed and said: "Oh, I know they do...but you don't, haha" And then she started jerking me off with one hand and playing with my balls with the other. Not needing my hands anymore, I just started fucking her hand, which was positioned right over her pussy. So it was basically like having missionary sex, but fucking her hand instead. So I started saying, "fuck, I want to fuck you so bad, babe," but she just smiled and said "mmm, just cum on my stomach..." ...which I did

All in all, it was really hot...and the verbal notes really amplified the undertones of what has been developing between us.

[drstrangelove]

Interesting update.

So we took a short vacation (three nights). We were fooling around the first night and in the interest of "hot fun hotel sex" I asked if she was up for sex. She responded, asking me to go down on her instead, so I did. After getting her off once, I was feeling pretty desperate to fuck her, so I asked again -- this time offering to give her all the head she wants all trip in exchange for some sex. She said we'll see, and asked if I was done down there. I wasn't, so I ate her out to another orgasm. And then a third.

I then propped myself up to cum on her stomach, but she grabbed my dick and told me to fuck her like that...so i was basically fucking her hand an inch or two over her spread pussy. I had both my hands free, so I grabbed her by the waist and went at it -- she was into it too, moaning. I only lasted 30 seconds or so before exploding all over her tits and stomach.

Afterwards, she joked, "see, you had sex.."

I laughed and said no way that counts, but she didn't really respond.

I then spent the rest of the trip, every morning and every night, eating her out to two orgasms at a time. Once I fucked her hand again too.

Finally, on the last morning before we left, she let me fuck her...which was incredible. Afterwards I said most husbands get to fuck their wives more than once on a romantic getaway vacation, to which she just responded, "you're not most husbands."

[drstrangelove]

Another update.

So she's been on her period for most of the last week, so not a lot of playtime. On Friday though I was really horny, so asked if she wanted to return the favor for all the head I gave her over the last month. So she seemed into it and started going at it. It was fucking incredible...nothing better than good head when the girl is really into it, licking balls, etc. So I told her that if she can do this once each month during her period, that's more than enough and I'll just give her head the rest of the month.

I was really turned on in the moment, but once I came I instantly regretted it...

She's still on her period now, so I'll have to see how it plays out in a few days.

[trdd]

Wow, your experience is awesome. The denial aspect is very erotic. I like threads like this that aren't exactly cuckolding but related. Particularly for people who will likely never be cuckolded.

I think it is amazing how your wife has settled into this groove (I think) without any overt discussion of the fetish. Some of her comments that you've captured are very hot. "Oh I know they do but you don't" and "you're not most husbands". Verbal teasing is so sexy... it lasts a long time because you can replay it in your mind easily. Most women don't get that it is so powerful.

So I wonder what combination of things is driving her behavior? And how far could she go with this?

Regarding her motivation, it sounds clear that she prefers oral sex. So it could just be that she now understands how to get her preference. But the comments and her consistent Behavior make me think there's more to it than that. It seems like she enjoys exercising her control over you, would you agree?

Earlier in your marriage did you have a lot of satisfying intercourse? Was she always prone to orgasm more strongly through oral?

[drstrangelove]

Wow, your experience is awesome. The denial aspect is very erotic. I like threads like this that aren't exactly cuckolding but related. Particularly for people who will likely never be cuckolded.

I think it is amazing how your wife has settled into this groove (I think) without any overt discussion of the fetish. Some of her comments that you've captured are very hot. "Oh I know they do but you don't" and "you're not most husbands". Verbal teasing is so sexy... it lasts a long time because you can replay it in your mind easily. Most women don't get that it is so powerful.

I don't think she realizes how powerful some of her phrases are. She's just being truthful and she'll sometimes hit a really hot cord without knowing it.

So I wonder what combination of things is driving her behavior? And how far could she go with this?

Regarding her motivation, it sounds clear that she prefers oral sex. So it could just be that she now understands how to get her preference. But the comments and her consistent Behavior make me think there's more to it than that. It seems like she enjoys exercising her control over you, would you agree?

That's a good question. It might not be the most erotic answer, but it's very possible that she not only likes getting head, but likes it even more because I like giving it so much. She defers to it over sex all the time, but it's never in a way that's made me think she's trying to be hurtful -- it's usually playful. Years ago she once apologized because we didn't have sex one night -- I think she was giving me head and got carried away -- and I just responded, "what's the difference? I still came!"

And that was before our sex life turned in me giving her head all the time. I suspect that planted a seed that whether we fucked for she gave me a bj, it didn't matter...so when I started cumming from eating her out, I think it may have just extended that thought process.

Earlier in your marriage did you have a lot of satisfying intercourse? Was she always prone to orgasm more strongly through oral?

So we've been together since college. She had sex with 30+ people before we met, with the majority of those taking place her freshman year of college. She was in a bad place for numerous reasons and was basically going home with a new guy every week. However, her first orgasm was actually with me from oral during one of our first few hook ups, but for whatever reason, me giving her head never became a big part of our sex life. Our most common sex activities were sex and her giving me a bj while I used my fingers on her clit to get her off. For a long time it seemed like that was her preference, which in turn made her seemingly prefer to give bjs over sex. Now she prefers receiving oral over my hands though.

It's also worth noting that she always enjoys sex and typically cums during sex, but my best sense is that she prefers clit organs more than penetration ones.

[drstrangelove]

So just an update. After about 15 days, her period ended (she was a bit off as she's just getting her period back after the pregnancy). It's incredible how good she looks already -- doing spin and working out, she's below 120 lbs. again. So i hadn't seen her naked in well over two weeks, so I was incredibly horny and hoping for sex. Unfortunately, not in the cards. She really wanted me to suck on her nipples and play with her clit, but while i was doing that, she was intermittently jerking me off. It went on too long and I couldn't handle it, so I ended up humping her fist and cuming on her stomach.

So I didn't get to fuck her or eat her out, so not much of an update, sadly.

[drstrangelove]

So last night was a bit interesting from the social dynamic of it all. I was incredibly horny since our last session and we were downstairs watching TV and she was on her phone and I got the sense she might be heading up to bed soon, so I asked if she wanted to go upstairs and play and she immediately snapped back, "Not right now!" But really mean and vicious kind of, which took me off guard because she's almost never like that. So I got kind of pissed TBH and just ignored it.

Then a few minutes later she said: "Ok, now I'm heading up if you want to come."

So I was a bit annoyed still, so I just said no thanks and we said good night.

So then I'm sitting there, still really horny and pissed and 10 minutes passes and I just think fuck it, I'll just go up because she'll probably feel bad and I'll get to have some fun sex with her. So I go up and she's lying in bed and I just say: "I know you were kind of a bitch, but I'm super horny..."

So she laughs it off and we start messing around. I start peeling her cloths off and ask if maybe she's up for some doggy style tonight.

She responds: "Oh, I thought you could just go down on me."

I respond, "I guess, but we haven't had sex in a long time, so I thought maybe we could tonight."

So she just looks at me and is like: "Oh, is that what you thought? Well I think you should just eat me out instead."

So I start moving down there and joke -- "I kind of feel like your bitch," to which she laughs and says, "you are."

So I go down on her for like 15 minutes until she cums and I couldn't hold out unfortunately and I came from eating her out. She saw the mess and as usual, just laughed a bit and then went and cleaned up before bed.

So then tonight I asked if she was up for sex, but she said she was really tired and asked if we could play tomorrow instead, so I said of course. But a part of me thinks if I just offered to give head tonight, I would have been able to get off too. So its like, if I want to cum, that's the only way...sex is like a fluke thing on occasion when she's up for it every month or two. I think it just feels weird because she doesn't come out and say sex is off the table, it's just always pushing it off and when we do play, it's oral.

So now tomorrow is going to cum and I know if we play it's just going to be head. Don't get me wrong, I love doing it, but it is starting to feel a bit more permanent, which is hot I guess, but also a bit scary.

[Des 31]

I suspect that in time she will be cuckolding you. She's getting there.
http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=50057

[drstrangelove]

So I was feeling a bit concerned and curious to see how deep I was into this new sex life, so I really pushed for sex the other night. She was not comital, but we started fooling around and she was jerking me off while I played with her pussy and sucked on her tits. It felt really good and I knew I'd end up just cuming on her from the hj, so I asked is she was up for sex and she started to say "why..." in the same tone she'd always say "why don't you just go down on me instead" -- which is her usual line.

But she stopped and instead said: "Are you sure you don't want a bj?"

So I told her, no, I really just wanted to fuck her...so she said sure and we did. It was awesome -- it's now so few and far between. I didn't last long, but it was worth it. It was definitely good to know sex is still on the table.

[ez456]

So I was feeling a bit concerned and curious to see how deep I was into this new sex life, so I really pushed for sex the other night. She was not comital, but we started fooling around and she was jerking me off while I played with her pussy and sucked on her tits. It felt really good and I knew I'd end up just cuming on her from the hj, so I asked is she was up for sex and she started to say "why..." in the same tone she'd always say "why don't you just go down on me instead" -- which is her usual line.

But she stopped and instead said: "Are you sure you don't want a bj?"

So I told her, no, I really just wanted to fuck her...so she said sure and we did. It was awesome -- it's now so few and far between. I didn't last long, but it was worth it. It was definitely good to know sex is still on the table.

Do you have a small cock?

[drstrangelove]

So I was feeling a bit concerned and curious to see how deep I was into this new sex life, so I really pushed for sex the other night. She was not comital, but we started fooling around and she was jerking me off while I played with her pussy and sucked on her tits. It felt really good and I knew I'd end up just cuming on her from the hj, so I asked is she was up for sex and she started to say "why..." in the same tone she'd always say "why don't you just go down on me instead" -- which is her usual line.

But she stopped and instead said: "Are you sure you don't want a bj?"

So I told her, no, I really just wanted to fuck her...so she said sure and we did. It was awesome -- it's now so few and far between. I didn't last long, but it was worth it. It was definitely good to know sex is still on the table.

Do you have a small cock?

Thin, but about 7 inches long.