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My wife mention last night about when she sees her boyfriend she has to put her emotions into compartments to avoid falling for him. It made me wonder where most couples are on this subject. Does your wife just let the emotion flow or does she try to avoid them?

They very much in love. They have mature loving committed relationship of long standing.

She will not admit it, but I absolutely believe she does.

My wife has developed feelings for some of her boyfriends. Others were just sports fucking.

I actually wouldn’t mind if we had a poly relationship with a live-in BF. Share the bed and choirs. He could even have 90% of the sex.

Yes, my wife loves him and he loves her too.

My wife has always preferred relationships with the men she dates that involved at least friendship, and with some of them that's moved into a more emotional connection. It seemed like there was always at least one guy she was more emotionally involved with...some form of love, perhaps.

In the past few years, however, she's become far more involved with one man, and is openly and admittedly deeply in love with him and he with her. She's also sexually faithful to him (we both agreed to this), which is a very new thing for her. We're enjoying exploring this new Poly relationship!

Interesting combination. Looks like a pretty spread out set of responses. I guess that makes sense. Good for all of you for making it work.

My wife stays completely away from developing feelings for the guys she fucks, if she starts developing any kind of feelings or thinks they are she cuts the relationship off. Back early in our marriage when she first cuckolded me most of her dates were one night stands, a lot of them being friends of mine who thought she was cheating on me. The one exception was 'Mario'. She fucked him several times and then abruptly stopped cuckolding me, saying the kids were getting older and noticing more things. Several years latter she told me that what really happened was she had developed feelings for Mario and had considered leaving me for him!

There is one exception though. She had a boyfriend from before I met her that was exceptionally well hung (she talked about his cock quite often) and she had actually been his first! When she decided to start back cuckolding me she found him on social media and he is the one she started back with. Long story short, they have been fucking for about 5 years now whenever he comes to visit. For various reasons, I asked her if she had feelings for him and she admitted that she had never stopped caring about him all these years. She assured me that she would never consider leaving me for him and he has assured me that he would never come between us and I believe them both. He has not been back for a visit since my wife and I talked about her feelings for him but after I told her I understood why she still had those feelings and was okay with it she decided that whenever he visits from now on he will be taking my place in our bed for the duration of his visits.

My dick swelled up in it's chastity cage when she told me that and she laughed and said "Well, it's obvious you're okay with it!"

desertsub wrote: ↑

Wed Jan 29, 2020 9:20 am

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My dick swelled up in it's chastity cage when she told me that and she laughed and said "Well, it's obvious you're okay with it!"

Lol interesting bread we are isn't it? Thanks for your post desertsub.

None of the options fully fit out situation so I’ve selected “sometimes but tries to keep FWB”.

We both want Ann to have an emotional connection with her boyfriends and that has a few times evolved into love for them, but mostly they are just close friends. Whatever her feelings for her boyfriend I’ve never felt our marriage was at risk and in fact the greater emotion has added to it. She’s certainly never denied me sex because she was in a relationship with someone else.

annsman wrote: ↑

Wed Jan 29, 2020 9:50 am

None of the options fully fit out situation so I’ve selected “sometimes but tries to keep FWB”.

We both want Ann to have an emotional connection with her boyfriends and that has a few times evolved into love for them, but mostly they are just close friends. Whatever her feelings for her boyfriend I’ve never felt our marriage was at risk and in fact the greater emotion has added to it. She’s certainly never denied me sex because she was in a relationship with someone else.

Yes I realize the options don't fit everyone and that many hot wives might have a combination. What I'm interested in is how many couples are fine with the wife having loving relationships with bulls. We have only been involved with this life for a short time compared to many others here. I suspect as you are involved longer things progress more toward the loving relationships because the couple becomes more sure their relationship can handle it.

My wife completely falls in love with the guys. She once tried sex without much emotions, and didn't like it.
This is the biggest problem for us. She will certainly fall in love if she starts with a guy, that one guy being the exception. I like her having sex with others, but love is an exclusive emotion for me. I abhor polyamory. My wife wants polyamory and fails to understand that the guys are just using her for sex.

Now 54% are saying their wives fall in love. Maybe that is part of the thrill. I noticed last night while my beautiful wife fucked her boyfriend like crazy and had a wonderful time that for me something was missing. I'm sure it was the jealousy. I'm no longer jealous like I use to be because I know there is zero risk at least with him of her losing herself. I like jealousy but don't want to actually lose her, been there. It was still wonderful watching them though. Envy of how he can make her feel wonderful is still there.

Anyway this is all interesting to me. Love the life.

This is a difficult question for me. In the past, I have become too close with some partners, to the detriment of my marriage. I have a few regular long-term partners, and I do need an emotional connection to have an enjoyable sexual relationship with them. However, I make a conscious effort not to let the connection overshadow that between my husband and me. I make sure that I am not exclusive to any one of them, and I limit the frequency that I am with any one of them. Also, I make sure to have short-term encounters with other men where there is usually less of an emotional connection, although even with them there is some emotional attraction beyond the physical.

ErikaPeter wrote: ↑

Sat Feb 01, 2020 4:50 am

This is a difficult question for me. In the past, I have become too close with some partners, to the detriment of my marriage. I have a few regular long-term partners, and I do need an emotional connection to have an enjoyable sexual relationship with them. However, I make a conscious effort not to let the connection overshadow that between my husband and me. I make sure that I am not exclusive to any one of them, and I limit the frequency that I am with any one of them. Also, I make sure to have short-term encounters with other men where there is usually less of an emotional connection, although even with them there is some emotional attraction beyond the physical.

Thank you for your response Erika. I realized I made the post husband focused afterwards. Thanks for posting anyway. Yes that's where my wife is heading. She really only has one guy now but recognizes that she needs at least a few so she doesn't get overwhelmed with the emotions with just one other than me. Sounds like you are keeping the emotions spread out and having fun in the process. Good for you!

My wife has to have a emotional connection of at least liking a man before she can fuck them. She has to have several conversations and get to know them. She needs FWB for a guy to get a second time. She has known 3 of her Bulls now for 8 years and one of them for 11 years now.

Yes I believe polyamory is possible and accept that she probably loves the one Bull on some level. It just makes their time together fun and enjoyable for all of us.

They adore and love each other and the excitement of their relationship and sexual experiences together cement their continued need for each other. These emotions make our cuckold lifestyle real, extreme and fulfilling for us all.

My wife has a boyfriend she sees either frequently (when the guy’s wife goes out of town) or very infrequently, once a month at most. She’s not in love with him but she says she has a great time being around him, they click really well, he fucks her really well and she’s now letting him cum inside of her. I’m fine with where they’re at. I want her to feel some butterflies and get an emotional as well as physical rush around him. It makes her happy. But this works only because it’s obvious they aren’t going to run off to each other. I don’t get into the details of why, but I’m 100% sure they won’t. Plus they go awhile without seeing each other. So it feels safe. I wouldn’t let my wife become too emotionally connected. That breaks our rules. So if this guy was single no way would I be comfortable.

desertsub wrote: ↑

Wed Jan 29, 2020 9:20 am

My wife stays completely away from developing feelings for the guys she fucks, if she starts developing any kind of feelings or thinks they are she cuts the relationship off.

Mine is the same, the moment she has any feelings coming on from herself or him she ends it. She says it's just sex.

In my experience, it’s almost impossible to engage without some sort of emotional attachment. Admittedly, my experience might be a bit skewed because I prefer couples who are new into hotwifing and cuckolding, which means it’s rare I have a quick chat and fuck, but usually a flirtation that plays out over a period of time.

Having said that, to define boundaries, I do mention to couples to think of me as Sex, and no more—hubby is still the one for long term commitment (and chores, and grocery, and picking up kids, etc.). That’s obvious intellectually, but did once have the beginnings of a conversation about she and I becoming something and developed this line of thinking to prevent anything further—especially because, for me, I’m usually a decade or two younger than the couple which sometimes results in the wife saying things like “if I’d met you in my 20s...”.

Ultimately, that balance of emotion (and “love”, though I imagine it’s probably more a mix of lust/desire/infatuation) is often what makes the experience so sexy and powerful.

You delude Yourself if You don't think it can't happen to You. You always have to watch for those feeling developing. (and they will if you let them)

I chose "they are friends but it doesn't move into love".

For me there has to be a connection and they have to see me. If there is no connection then it is just mechanical (like a bodily function) and I might as well stay home and use a toy.
If a man is just there for sex and any woman will do, then it isn't going to be me.

I never had any intention on being exclusive as a hotwife and I make it clear to my play dates that my heart belongs to my husband and always will. I limit each man to once a month play dates so that we look forward to seeing each other, it doesn't get boring and we don't see each other so often that we would be tempted to let it develop further than the boundaries I have established.

Yes, my wife and her boyfriend are in love and they have been together for over two years now. My wife and i both believe that humans have the capacity to fully love more that one person at a time, so it doesn't bother me.

I'm with rthat69 on this one. My wife says the sex is better when she has feelings for the guy. I think it's much hotter watching her fuck and have orgasms with guys she loves, than just watching hot sex.