I guess my question for you- and so many other cuckolds on here is this- If your wife knew (before she married you) that you could not give her an orgasm
why did she still marry you?
I can only answer for my case. We met at university, and started our sexual relationship when I was 19. This was in the mid 1970's. We were both virgins, and the internet didn't exist. Sex education at school was limited in those days. But we were both liberal minded, and I was keen to learn about all aspects of sex. Feminism, or 'Womens Liberation', as it was known then, was relatively new. Women's sexuality wasn't widely discussed.
But I did read that sexual research revealed that most women didn't achieve orgasm from penetrative sex, i.e. penis in vagina sex.
When we had sex I was able to orgasm from PIV sex, but my, then, girlfriend could only achieve orgasm if she masturbated whilst I was in her, or if she masturbated without me in her. So we both thought, given the evidence of the research, that it wasn't unusual that I didn't make her orgasm. We were both pretty inexperienced, as were most people of our age, at that time.
But we both enjoyed our sex life, and I, in particular was keen to try 'kinky stuff'. I encouraged her to try 'pee games' (normally her on me), shaved her pubes, encouraged her to wear revealing clothing and be somewhat exhibitionistic.
We were married not long after leaving university. She didn't see that her not achieving orgasm from PIV sex only as being a problem. Neither did I. Why were some men able to make their wifes or girlfriends orgasm from PIV sex, and others couldn't? I never came across any definitive answers to that, so we didn't worry about it.
By 1989 we were still having regular sex (her still not orgasming from penetration alone).
Then, temptation came her way, in the form of a work colleague, and she started a secret affair. She didn't start it because she was unsatisfied by me. I remember, when I found out about her affair, thinking that it might just as easily been me having the affair, if a suitable opportunity had presented itself.
I encouraged her to continue the sex with the new boyfriend, but only on the condition that everything was out in the open. Of course, I was also interested in the extra possibilities that threesomes would present.
After I discovered her affair I, naturally, asked her about the sex with him. "Was he good in bed, was he bigger than me..." etc.
She didn't tell me that he could make her orgasm from fucking her. She wasn't sure what my reaction to that would be.
Soon we had our first threesome, and, being a gentleman, allowed him to fuck her first. His cock was bigger than mine. I didn't think it was much longer, but he was definitely thicker. So I watched while they had sex, missionary position. She had an orgasm after about 10 to 15 minutes, and he climaxed shortly after. I was surprised, when my wife orgasmed, as it was clear her hands were nowhere near her clit. I fucked her afterwards, but didn't last long. I was even more surprised when she later told me that he had made her orgasm from the first time he fucked her, and every time since. From that moment my sexual arousal and humiliation became intertwined.
Some while later, after a few more threesomes, he noticed that she wasn't orgasming when I fucked her. He later asked her about my performance, and she told him that I never made her come from PIV sex. She, somewhat guiltily, told me a few days later that she had mentioned it to him. So I suggested that she should make me 'confess' to him about my inadequacy in the bedroom. Which I did, and which both embarrassed and excited me hugely. From then I was increasingly hooked on sexual humiliation.
I still have sex with my wife, and she still wants that.
I asked her a few years ago (after nearly thirty years of her and him fucking) if she had ever considered leaving me for him. She straight away said "Why on earth would I do that?" I said, "Well, because he makes you orgasm." She replied that she liked him, and had affection for him (he's a nice guy), but she could never love him. And, she added, "What woman wouldn't love a husband that gives her the freedom to have sex with another man, and still continue to love her?"