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My cuckoldress is currently without a lover. She is unusual in that she has always said she has never chatted up a man other than me and refuses to even smile or flirt with any man in vanilla land. She has therefore left it to me to find her suitable candidates, then she chooses at a following pub meet we both attend who she wants. She wants a regular lover not one nighters so this has never been a common thing.

Obviously pub meets have been out for a long time and she parted with her lover before Covid struck. We did see three before covid she liked a couple of them but then they got cold feet. Married.

I have known several women on dating sites who say most men on there are just after a fuck, married, wankers or after FWBs.

I have toyed with this for a bit, i am sure she will say NO however there is one chap on one i looked at, i am 90% sure i know him. He is married but a nice genuine man, decent body basIcally wanting a FWBs. Having met his wife i understand why too.

Obviously i couldnt be involved as he knows me and i worked with his wife historically but neither know my wife and would never find the link to me.

The downside for me is if she went with this i would loose completely control of what she does, where and with whom, something i have never experienced as a cuck for over 34 years. I can see the kinky side but also the risk that effectively i would be giving her to a man i may never meet.

I think another blocker for her would be meeting any man alone and lying about owning a feminsied locked cuck husband.

My wife has less of a history of actual cuckolding than you say yours does (though we have engaged in some light swinging at lifestyle clubs). But she recently started cruising around on Tinder and I think it's been a great idea (for us, at least). The downside you mention - lack of control - is an upside from my perspective. I like the idea that this is something she is doing how and when she wants - it makes the whole experience feel more balanced and natural and likely to have a positive outcome. Anyway, I'd say go for it.

Definitely go for it. Hannah uses Tinder, numerous swingers sites, BDSM sites as well as cuckold sites for as she so eloquently puts it “fresh new cocks”. She has had loads of success not just with one off sex sessions but has made numerous long term fuck buddies, Dom bulls, groups sex and extremely kinky BDSM men, couples and groups.

Thanks for your advice very much appreciated.

The problem with "dating sites" is that they are generally too traditional. She can get laid, but if she wants a bull, it will be hard to find one there. Bulls are different than men who fuck. The average guy looking to get laid is not into this, I promise you. As a cuck couple, you likely want a man (or men) who understand, respect, and DESIRE a situation like yours.

I think you need a site that caters to swingers. They are not free, but they are not expensive either. That is where you find the men who are fully into what you want. Your chances of long term success are an order of magnitude higher than if you went on Tinder or OKC. You may get lucky there, but you are likely to waste a ton of time in the process.

Some people like Fetlife and it is an option, but Fetlife is not a dating/swinger site. That is a great informational site and can be fun, but it is not a dating site. You might find someone, but it is more about the hardcore fetishes than it is about YOUR lifestyle.

Good luck.

No. The men you find on a dating site might just about get their head around a cheating wife, but very very few
would have the mindset for a sucessful cuckold relationship, particularly long term.

It's not impossible -you would have to be very upfront and go through a relatively long email 'courtship'
(the lightweights would give up if they can't hook up straight away)

A process of hit and miss would mean to will begin to spot half way decent possibilities (and obvious flakes)
Even so be prepared for a lot of no-shows and ghosts

My wife has used Tinder basically from it's inception, she also uses other dating apps and different sites, she basically lets them know she is married and just wants dating and fucking, I have never come into the conversation, over the years she has been away for weekends and longer with her lovers, to them she is just an easy white slut.