Getting My wife to take the plunge

[ManhattanCurious]

Whenever we have sex, my wife and I are frequently fantasizing about cuckolding. As soon as I mention a bull taking her and cumming inside her she has a big orgasm, which kinda tells me she is into the idea. She claims she’s open minded about these things, but she’s also shy in public and besides we never have much chance to get out these days because of the kids. Would love to hear suggestions about how to eventually make this share fantasy into a reality.

[2inUPMichigan]

Welcome to OHW Manhattan Curious

The age of the children could make a difference as it can be difficult for some couples to manage playing and childcare. (Kids come 1st!)
That's great that the two of you are enjoying some hot bedroom action!

I tend to be shy (yes really) in person so for me the perfect outlet was going the route of online searching. Of course this was after I had made my decision that this was a good fit for myself our life and our marriage. I signed up here, then on a swinger site.

You don't always have to go out to bars to find men. Look online and screen out the flakes and fakes so you only meet up with (hopefully) quality men.

Good luck

[exroadie]

My wife and I started in a situation very similar to yours. I talked with her about how we would do it... should we do it together or would she do it alone (together), would it be in our home town or out of town (originally decided for out of town, but ended up being in town), would it be someone we know, a friend, or a stranger (stranger), would we do it at home or at another location (hotel), etc. I started showing her ads from guys who were looking. Originally it was Craigslist, after that it was here and then doublelist. She didn't want to look at the ads herself. So it would look through and show her the ones I thought were possibles. She kept saying no. She wasn't interested at all in the ads I thought she would be. This led to other conversations. What did she want in a guy? What did she want from the experience? I thought she would be interested in fit, young guys, strong black guys, guys that had large, impressive penises... none of those were what she wanted. She wanted someone about our age, she didn't want a gym rat or a testosterone fueled guy of any kind... no one pushy, no alpha types. And she didn't want a single guy. She didn't want for the guy to fall in love with her and cause problems, she wanted someone who had the personal skills that go along with having a successful long term relationship and the skills as a lover that come with making love to the same partner for years and years. And she wanted someone intelligent, funny, disease free, drug free, and non smoking.
As we talked I started to narrow down the ads a lot. It turns out that the kind of guys she wanted are very scarce in these ads. But after years of looking, one ad finally did the trick. It was well written, proper punctuation, said the things she wanted to hear. We did a meet and greet at a coffee shop and then booked a hotel suite a week later for our first time. It went every bit as well as hoped and we have had many repeats since.
That was how we moved on to actually doing it and not just fantasizing.

[mrdnrm]

Whenever we have sex, my wife and I are frequently fantasizing about cuckolding. As soon as I mention a bull taking her and cumming inside her she has a big orgasm, which kinda tells me she is into the idea. She claims she’s open minded about these things, but she’s also shy in public and besides we never have much chance to get out these days because of the kids. Would love to hear suggestions about how to eventually make this share fantasy into a reality.

I suggest starting off slowly, get a babysitter once a week. Go out on a date night. My mother recommended this to us to make sure we stayed connected to who we were as a couple and not just partners in raising kids. Turn you date night into getting a drink at a club or bar. Have her dress sexy and since she is shy just get her to check out the guys and have her tell you which ones are good looking and if she would fuck them, than leave it at that to start. Over time move forward with her flirting with guys while you are out, get her to go out on the dance floor wearing something revealing and sexy, let her get her ass grabbed and she how she opens up. Take it slowly because if you jump right out there and have a bad experience she will shut down on you fast and end it as just a one time deal and you will also kill her fantasy. Starting over will take years to rebuild trust, go slowly.

[brutay2]

Whenever we have sex, my wife and I are frequently fantasizing about cuckolding. As soon as I mention a bull taking her and cumming inside her she has a big orgasm, which kinda tells me she is into the idea. She claims she’s open minded about these things, but she’s also shy in public and besides we never have much chance to get out these days because of the kids. Would love to hear suggestions about how to eventually make this share fantasy into a reality.

You have here three suggestions that should help you reach your your hot wifing goal. It takes patience and determination. once you get her to cuckold you, she will love it so much that she will look at the time wasted holding back as lost time in your love life. Good luck to both of you.

[rascalnvixen]

ManhattanCurious

All the comments thus far are good for consideration. I do like exroadie's comments a lot and similar to ours, in that it is very important that the communications between the original couple stay open and honest. You can't find what you both want if you both don't tell each other what you really want. Be tender and loving in your comments to each other and be sure that you actually listen to each comment. Most of all, try to make your adventures FUN!!! When you get close to the idea that you will actively seek this to happen, you need to be sure you two also talk about limits you may wish to identify and if you will be there.

Good luck!!!!

Rascal

[bewareoflizzy]

For us it began as teasing and a fantasy we talked about on date nights after drinking a bottle of wine and inhaling a joint. She slowly opened up and expressed a desire to only be with someone she knew, maybe someone she worked with at the restaurant. Well, that someone turned out to be a cook 9 years her junior (we were 35 and married 10 years). I knew her hormones and sex drive were raging and she finally took the plunge after much encouragement from me. Friday nights became a wild ride with her visiting him at his apartment after they worked their shift and coming home at 3 in the morning to tell me of their increasingly crazed sexcapades.

[commodoredawe]

We had been married for 6 years and I was working for a music production company and producing classical music with one of the best know and internationally renowned orchestras of the world. Then they went on tour and by then my wife and I had become very close friends with the conductor and his wife, we enjoyed our time together and spent lots of our time with them, restaurants, bars, chats, parties, evenings with dinner and dance and we also went to the sauna together at least once a week, so we all had no problem being totally naked and seeing each other naked. My wife and I were both 35 then and the conductor and his wife were both early 60ies. My wife and the conductor's wife were really close and the conductor's wife became my wife's closest confidante and mentor, and they would tell each other everything. My wife had often commented that she thought that I was very, very well endowed and bigger than any of her previous boyfriends but seeing Paul and his wife Johanna in the sauna, she was impressed that he seemed to be even better endowed than me. And she told me that Johanna had told her that Paul was an exceptionally good lover and really knew how to show a lady an extraordinary good time. She also told me that Johanna or Hanna as she liked to be call had told her that when Paul was on tour and she was not with him, because she also was a very well known opera singer and had many engagements, that virtually female members of the ensemble would constantly hit on him and show that they were very willing to give him whatever he may want, and that over the years Paul and her had an understanding that while on tour both he and her could enjoy themselves at will and that Paul had enjoyed on every tour a passionate night with all the willing ladies of the ensemble, be it the principal soprano or the make up lady or the hairdresser. Hannah had told my wife that quite often they would tell each other about their trysts, she knew that while Paul had no preference in age he often admired how eager and willing especially the younger ladies were who were seeking out his famous lovemaking skills and his much praised sexual prowess and endowment, and Hannah confessed that she also had experienced and mostly enjoyed many situations, some out of professional necessity, as it was generally understood that a leading lady who wanted to get the best roles was expected to be open to so called casting interviews which often just were a short conversation, a bit of singing followed by an even more artistic and prolonged performance on the so called casting couch, which quite often Hannah said were quite enjoyable as the opera, theatre and music directors quite often were very skilled lovers but some were just totally hopeless, and just had to be endured and made to belief that they were God's gift to the ladies. But then she had quite a few male colleagues, well-know singers like herself who was always looking forward to when luck had it that they would be working together in an opera or even better go on tour together. Hannah told my wife about a Russian tenor with whom she had enjoy a very long friendship and great sex whenever they met and another American famous tenor, a very handsome black man, who she was very fond of and with whom she had enjoyed some tremendously exciting nights of sex whenever their work brought them together.

Hannah also told my wife that Paul had commented to her that he found my wife very very lovely and sexy indeed and the he really enjoyed seeing her so pretty and beautiful and all in the nude when went together to the sauna, and he hoped that one day he could enjoy her more than just seeing her naked in front of him, he was sure that he could show my wife a really, really good time and he was also sure that I would most likely be ok with it and agree to my wife having a bit of extra-marital fun with him. He, Paul, would have no objection if Hannah would enjoy a few sexy nights of sex with me, quite on the contrary, the thought of it he found actually very exciting.

My wife just chuckled and said, well let's wait and see and sort of asked me what I thought. I just said that I loved her, Paul was my best friend and that it would ultimately be her decision what she wanted and how far she was willing to go with this. But I confessed that imagining was a very arousing and exciting thought.

Then we all went on tour together, Hannah had a singing engagement in an opera house in another country and so for the next two weeks it would only be Paul, my wife and I. Then we arrived at a little province town in Poland, that had an opera house but something had gone wrong with the hotel bookings and half the opera ensemble and orchestra had to travel to another town close by and stay in a hotel there and in the end there was only one big room for Paul my wife and myself, it had a double bed and a single bed, but when we went to the room the single bed was broken, and it was my wife who suggest that we all should sleep together in the big bed as it could easily offer room for the three of us without any problems.
First we went to dinner, then to the bar, and we had quite a few cocktails and champagne and the evening was very entertaining and fun as usual. Lots of good conversation and laughter and it was already well past midnight when went back to our hotel room. Then Paul asked what he was supposed to wear in bed, as he usually slept naked, and my wife immediately said, you wear nothing as we also are always sleeping naked, I am not used to the sight of a real man in pyjamas, this looks just ridiculous. So we all went to bed, my wife in the middle and Paul to her left and me to her right, we wished each other good night and switched the lights off. It was totally dark in the room and I could not see my wife but we cuddled as usual very closed,my hands on her belly and her hands on my cock as she always did when we went to bed. She knows I like it and she said she loves to hold me when we go to sleep. I could feel some movement on Paul's side and sort of felt that he also cuddle up to my wife on the other side.
Then my wife began to stroke my cock and I was hard in no time, then I heard Paul breath and I was not sure but I suspected that my wife's other hand was holding Paul's cock, then I felt Paul's hand moving up to my wife's breasts and then slowly travelling down her belly, finding and touching my hand and then moving further down to my wife's pussy and I felt that she as always when you get close to her hairy pussy her legs automatically move apart and spread in anticipation of my hand starting to caress her mound, pussy lips and clitoris before probing the wetness of her vaginal opening, only now Paul was doing this and I was extremely aroused and rock hard.
It took Paul only a few minutes to get my wife to her first climax, and when she had come down a bit she whispered in my ear, I want him first and then you and she spread her legs wider and pulled Paul on top of her and guided his big cock into her wet and waiting pussy and while I laid beside and my wife slowly stroked my dick Paul and my wife began to fuck and soon my wife started to moan loudly and even louder with ever thrust that Paul made and this went on for quite a while and my had gone from one loud climax to the next, and her body was shaking wildly and even harder with every new orgasm when I finally heard Paul, who was french kissing with my wife all the time, tense up his body and with a loud grunt he exploded into her and flooded her pussy with his sperm, he kept pounding for some time and then very slowly slid off my wife and she immediately pullled me on top of her and I felt my dick sliding into a pool of wetness and sperm it was the most exciting thing that I had ever felt and as soon as I entered her my wife another even louder orgasm and it took my probably less than a couple of minutes to also explode and dump my load into her.

Then we all relaxed and my wife turned on the light and we all laughed and said how much we had enjoyed what just had happened and my wife said that she would never talk to us again if just stopped there. She wanted, after having had a slight taste to experience it all and that we all should experiment and find out how much fun we could really have together, and that tomorrow first thing she would call Paul's wife and confess it all to her, but she was sure that Hannah was expecting something like this to happen, as when Hannah had left, she had commented to her that she should promise her to really look after both of us men and that she should enjoy herself, really enjoy herself and Hannah had actually not only embrace he but also kissed her hard on her lips and slid her tongue over her lips and mouth, something that she had never done before.

Then we continued and my wife went on all fours and Paul fucked her from behind while she sucked my dick and we swapped positions and so we continued our sexual exploration of all possibilities and from then we shared one room and my wife every night and by the end of the two week, when Hannah returned and the tour was almost over, my wife and I had learned and experience the joys of multiple creampies, sex in every possible position, my wife had gotten to know the joys of anal sex, of having two dicks in her pussy and coming at the same time, had enjoyed he first double penetration with one dick in her pussy and another one in her anus, had given both Paul and myself many great blow jobs and had enjoyed tasting and swallowing our cum, Paul had told her that he enjoyed watching a woman pee and that he also enjoyed drinking Hannah's pee directly from the source. My wife just took Paul to the bathroom, stood in the walk in shower, made him kneel in front of her and without further ado peed directly into his wide open mouth and he had no problem swallowing and drinking it all until my wife was finished, while I watched in amazement. When finished my wife said that any time Paul wanted another helping of her golden nectar he just should let her know and she would happily repeat this for him. She said that she herself would never drink anyone else's pee but as far as letting Paul drink hers she had absolutely no problem and actually enjoyed having a grown, internationally acclaimed music director kneel in front of her with a wide open mouth and eagerly await to receive her warm pee. She asked how it tasted and he said that her pee was delicious, it was naturally a lot better tasting than Hannah's and that his wife often drank pineapple juice to maked her pee sweeter and he did the same to improve the taste of his sperm. My wife said that she had noticed, that she loved how my sperm tasted as it was naturally mild and sweet unlike the taste that her previous boyfriend's sperm had but she also liked Paul and wondered what taste it was that she felt and as he had now told about the pineapple trick she knew what it was.

My wife and Hannah had a long chat the next day and my wife came back all chirpy and happy and said that had Hannah was very happy that I phoned her and told her all and that Hannah had said the she was quite sure that something like this would happen on this tour. Now that it had happened she hoped that we all could continue and that she was quite open to see how we could have more fun. Hannah said that she obviously was ready to feel my big dick in her pussy but she was also pretty sure that my real kick was in seeing my wife getting fucked by another big cock and enjoying the sight of my wife enjoying this and feeling her cum filled pussy in a sloppy second. But Hannah then said that what she really would enjoy the next time we met was to being allowed to lick my wife's pussy and showing her what feelings and what excitement an experience woman could bring her ...... and my wife said that when Hannah told her that her pussy had turned into a waterfall.

[aztd]

Good luck