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Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Thu Oct 19, 2023 12:12 am
by BD8280
Hi everyone… my cuckold desires only seem to be growing, although my wife is totally aware of all of it shes still not keen on turning this into a reality (which is fine I respect her decision). Weve used a dildo for a couple of years now and that does 75% of the “work” these days… I am wondering if I encourage my wife to be more exclusive to the dildo and cut me off her pussy more (just giving me hand jobs and blow jobs etc) wether this could help move things forward in real life or not? Any thoughts much appreciated.
The dildo is a double edged sword a bit, we both love it and she has jumped right into sex with the dildo including denial for me but at the same time I don’t want it to become completely normal and stop her from one day finding a guy for real. Thanks again
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Thu Oct 19, 2023 3:32 am
by AnotherOneTrying
I have a similar situation. We got a strap-on about a year and a half ago. Since then things has changed, though not to the same extent you are describing (75%), but when I use the toy on her she is not concerned anymore if i jerk myself off, unlike earlier when it was essential for her to feel me inside. I certainly feel that it's a progress
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Thu Oct 19, 2023 6:02 am
by BD8280
Definitely similar! It’s great that we use a dildo and i love that she loves it (probably more than me). I would say its been a massive success and the way she pretends it’s someone else and is exactly what I was hoping for But I just don’t want it to block her from actually taking any further steps in the future thats all.
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Thu Oct 19, 2023 6:03 am
by BD8280
Btw I also noticed my wife now is happy for me to jerk off infront of her (something she would never have liked before)
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Thu Oct 19, 2023 6:40 am
by AnotherOneTrying
Well, I am definitely hopeful that it should encourage her to try having sex with someone else in real life. Before we started using the toy even on the fantasy level she was not very keen on the idea of threesome or cuckolding me. Now she is much more open talking about this or about her experiences with exes.
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Thu Oct 19, 2023 11:17 am
by parklife
BD8280 wrote: ↑Thu Oct 19, 2023 12:12 am
I am wondering if I encourage my wife to be more exclusive to the dildo and cut me off her pussy more (just giving me hand jobs and blow jobs etc) wether this could help move things forward in real life or not? Any thoughts much appreciated.
To be honest, I don’t think it has too much bearing one way or the other in and of itself.
I mean, it’s already doing 75% of the intercourse.. until she gets comfortable enough to change the ‘not keen on turning this into a reality’, it shouldn’t happen. And I don’t think the dildo really has much impact in that comfort level. I mean, she’s already comfortable denying you and using the dildo for the majority of her penetration pleasure.
What changes her feelings about it is more about your communication, you increased sharing of possibilities and most importantly, right place, right time, right opportunity.
My wife was adamant about not exploring non-monogamy in reality for years but it was something we discussed in the bedroom and used in our fantasy life. Until, the right opportunity with a certain old flame presented itself. Then it became, she would only be a hotwife with someone she’d already had sex with…. Until the right opportunity presented itself with a new guy. In all instances, our own sex life only played a tangential role. We were open, she always knew where my head and my desires were but until her aligned the same, it honestly didn’t matter if we had any more or less sex or what kind. Her decision was not predicated on my being penis in her vagina or not and I don’t think it ever would have swayed her in either direction.
(As an aside, I’m currently in the mind frame of enjoying tease and denial and am hopeful she accepts the idea of restricting our PIV to only her favorite dildo or our cock sleeve. She not currently active as a hotwife as she’s been on a break for nearly 6 months, and I don’t see this as pushing her back towards being active, but I’m going to enjoy it none-the-less as part of our sex life.)
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2023 1:32 pm
by BD8280
parklife wrote: ↑Thu Oct 19, 2023 11:17 am
BD8280 wrote: ↑Thu Oct 19, 2023 12:12 am
I am wondering if I encourage my wife to be more exclusive to the dildo and cut me off her pussy more (just giving me hand jobs and blow jobs etc) wether this could help move things forward in real life or not? Any thoughts much appreciated.
To be honest, I don’t think it has too much bearing one way or the other in and of itself.
I mean, it’s already doing 75% of the intercourse.. until she gets comfortable enough to change the ‘not keen on turning this into a reality’, it shouldn’t happen. And I don’t think the dildo really has much impact in that comfort level. I mean, she’s already comfortable denying you and using the dildo for the majority of her penetration pleasure.
What changes her feelings about it is more about your communication, you increased sharing of possibilities and most importantly, right place, right time, right opportunity.
My wife was adamant about not exploring non-monogamy in reality for years but it was something we discussed in the bedroom and used in our fantasy life. Until, the right opportunity with a certain old flame presented itself. Then it became, she would only be a hotwife with someone she’d already had sex with…. Until the right opportunity presented itself with a new guy. In all instances, our own sex life only played a tangential role. We were open, she always knew where my head and my desires were but until her aligned the same, it honestly didn’t matter if we had any more or less sex or what kind. Her decision was not predicated on my being penis in her vagina or not and I don’t think it ever would have swayed her in either direction.
(As an aside, I’m currently in the mind frame of enjoying tease and denial and am hopeful she accepts the idea of restricting our PIV to only her favorite dildo or our cock sleeve. She not currently active as a hotwife as she’s been on a break for nearly 6 months, and I don’t see this as pushing her back towards being active, but I’m going to enjoy it none-the-less as part of our sex life.)
Excellent advice thanks, I think you are absolutely right about right time right place etc. I’m always shocked about how my wife can some days be questioning and open about the idea and even say “when the right guy comes along”. But other days can be absolutely brutal with “no, never, why would I do that” etc. Us men also seem to have the absolute knack to ask at the worst possible moments. I have absolutely no doubt my wife would do it under the right circumstances but understand that may or may not ever happen. I know the best chances of making this a reality is if I communicate even better, am more loving and attentive to her etc but sometimes its hard and you just want things to happen! Slow and steady wins the race i guess. I’m happy she’s totally willing in the bedroom and that is worth a lot, its good fun
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2024 3:44 am
by bradisalpha
Once your conversations are open and your wife realizes how much this excites you... “when the right guy comes along” is your best friend. Keep it in your conversations and you might be surprised sooner than you think !!!
Just sayin…
Brad
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2024 4:02 am
by MartasBoy
BD8280 wrote: ↑Thu Oct 19, 2023 12:12 am
… I am wondering if I encourage my wife to be more exclusive to the dildo and cut me off her pussy more (just giving me hand jobs and blow jobs etc) wether this could help move things forward in real life or not? Any thoughts much appreciated.
Thanks again
I think it can help. Be sure to tell her often, how excited it makes you, to watch her orgasm and have pleasure. Tell her you like the excitement of being denied your orgasm. Ask her if she will tie your hands behind your back when you watch to make it more exciting. This will help her understand your fantasy for being denied your own touch.
Ask her if she will play chastity play with you. Get a chastity device to try out. Let her see how excited it makes you to watch her have pleasure, when you are denied and cannot even touch yourself there.
Do that for a while then tell her that you think it would be really exciting to know that she was receiving pleasure from another man, while you are locked in Chastity and being denied. Work up in little steps.
Women are told often, when they are young, that it is mean to sexually tease a man. They are called prick teases. They are told it is horrible to have sex with other men. They are called cheating whores. When we tell them that we want them to deny us sex and tease us, and have sex with other men, it is hard for them to believe. It is very confusing for them. It takes time for them to understand it and believe it is true.
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Mon Oct 14, 2024 11:18 am
by olive2a
BD8280 wrote: ↑Thu Oct 19, 2023 12:12 am
Hi everyone… my cuckold desires only seem to be growing, although my wife is totally aware of all of it shes still not keen on turning this into a reality (which is fine I respect her decision). Weve used a dildo for a couple of years now and that does 75% of the “work” these days… I am wondering if I encourage my wife to be more exclusive to the dildo and cut me off her pussy more (just giving me hand jobs and blow jobs etc) wether this could help move things forward in real life or not? Any thoughts much appreciated.
The dildo is a double edged sword a bit, we both love it and she has jumped right into sex with the dildo including denial for me but at the same time I don’t want it to become completely normal and stop her from one day finding a guy for real. Thanks again
Hi. So where are you with this cuckolding training with your wife's dildo?
did you give the dildo a name to make it more realistic?
Did she succeed in cuckolding you?
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Mon Oct 14, 2024 11:21 am
by olive2a
bradisalpha wrote: ↑Sun Jan 07, 2024 3:44 am
Once your conversations are open and your wife realizes how much this excites you... “when the right guy comes along” is your best friend. Keep it in your conversations and you might be surprised sooner than you think !!!
Just sayin…
Brad
Is this something you have experienced? It's true that it goes better when it's someone close to you, it makes things less stressful for the wife. and normally the best friend is supposed to take good care of his friend's wife.
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Tue Oct 15, 2024 2:20 pm
by sana9889
I think dildos are more mainstream tools.nowadays
Almost all girls have one of a sort to help get them off. Most guys likely are getting 'cucked' by a dildo or insertable object at some point.
I think it more the interaction with the dildo and the scene you create that will be more helpful.
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Tue Oct 15, 2024 2:35 pm
by sana9889
sana9889 wrote: ↑Tue Oct 15, 2024 2:20 pm
I think dildos are more mainstream tools.nowadays
Almost all girls have one of a sort to help get them off. Most guys likely are getting 'cucked' by a dildo or insertable object at some point.
I think it more the interaction with the dildo and the scene you create that will be more helpful.
Also depends on which part of the world.
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2024 7:04 am
by sana9889
Got some new creature dildos to ride in my ass. my bf has been getting me to ride didlos with my ass to warm up while he fucks his wife lately.
Ive been using them at home too while watching porn with my husband. (under my gown... hes not allowed to see my pussy) Had him riding next to me a few times. Its hot as fuck!
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Sat Nov 16, 2024 1:52 pm
by Mgcouplemn
Dildo's inserted, Womanizer, or some ones real cock are good for us. When ever her pussy is used, I get to watch and jerk myself off.
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Sat Nov 16, 2024 6:16 pm
by namitha157
How many women have a dildo roughly?
I actually wonder how many of my friends do. And are cucking their boyfriends and they don't even know they are doing it. haha!
I admit I have thought about it myself.
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Sat Nov 16, 2024 6:25 pm
by namitha157
I don't think it has the same appeal. People can masturbate and their partner would never know. I get the dildo is something they insert. But guys also have a fleshlight they use without their partner knowing right? A few of my guy friends told me they have one.
Re: Being cucked by the dildo could this help?
Posted: Sat Nov 16, 2024 11:57 pm
by bradisalpha
olive2a wrote: ↑Mon Oct 14, 2024 11:21 am
bradisalpha wrote: ↑Sun Jan 07, 2024 3:44 am
Once your conversations are open and your wife realizes how much this excites you... “when the right guy comes along” is your best friend. Keep it in your conversations and you might be surprised sooner than you think !!!
Just sayin…
Brad
Is this something you have experienced? It's true that it goes better when it's someone close to you, it makes things less stressful for the wife. and normally the best friend is supposed to take good care of his friend's wife.
I have not experienced it myself, although as an Alpha Dominant man I have had opportunities presented.. but I, personally, do not want to become that entangled with friends. I enjoy my hot wife/cuckold couples and keep my friends as just “friends”.
However, I have seen it often in my experience with couples. In conversation, I ask hot wives “who else they know that they would like to fuck” and ultimately one of her husband’s best friends will be the answer. Co-workers also sometimes will come up in these answers !!
I don’t know that a dildo will be the determining factor, but the right person, the right time, and the right situation is definitely what makes it work. I’m sure others can give you real life scenarios of their experiences to show how easily this happens.
In the meantime, enjoy the dildo play and keep the open offer on the table.
I wish you success…
Brad