An appeal to lurkers

[hubudig2]

I'm curious, how many people come here to read posts/stories but would say they "aren't into the idea of cuckolding".
Maybe you consider the idea "interesting" or maybe find it hot when it's someone else but not for yourself?
Maybe you're "in denial"? Whether you'd admit to it or not.
Maybe you are "into it" but have never admitted it to anyone? Or don't think it'd be worth posting about?
However you justify it, I'd be interested to hear your perspective on it.
How did you become interested in it? Why would you say you aren't actually into the idea?
If you've been waiting for a reason to register, please do.

[snoogaloo82]

I'm curious, how many people come here to read posts/stories but would say they "aren't into the idea of cuckolding".
Maybe you consider the idea "interesting" or maybe find it hot when it's someone else but not for yourself?
Maybe you're "in denial"? Whether you'd admit to it or not.
Maybe you are "into it" but have never admitted it to anyone? Or don't think it'd be worth posting about?
However you justify it, I'd be interested to hear your perspective on it.
How did you become interested in it? Why would you say you aren't actually into the idea?
If you've been waiting for a reason to register, please do.

I personally think it has to do with many different factors. I would be totally interested. Maybe you could also do a poll?

[fistosteel]

I'm a lurker. I am into it. I knew i was into it when I was 19, now 45. My girlfriend at time cheated on me and I told her that it was alright and I was fine with it. She told me it wasn't fair to me and still left me. My current wife, who I have been with for over 20 years now says she is into it but has a low sex drive and it never really goes anywhere. So I just kinda live with my fantasy.

[afagehi7]

I'm a lurker. I am into it. I knew i was into it when I was 19, now 45. My girlfriend at time cheated on me and I told her that it was alright and I was fine with it. She told me it wasn't fair to me and still left me. My current wife, who I have been with for over 20 years now says she is into it but has a low sex drive and it never really goes anywhere. So I just kinda live with my fantasy.

Welcome to the forum fist and also the wannabe club. Our stories are very similar. I knew I was doomed when I asked the wife to go to a sex shop and pick out some cool dildos for play and she said she'd rather get ice cream. I'm not only a member I'm the president.

[2inUPMichigan]

I'm a lurker. I am into it. I knew i was into it when I was 19, now 45. My girlfriend at time cheated on me and I told her that it was alright and I was fine with it. She told me it wasn't fair to me and still left me. My current wife, who I have been with for over 20 years now says she is into it but has a low sex drive and it never really goes anywhere. So I just kinda live with my fantasy.

Is she open to sexy hotwife role play when she is in the mood and aroused?

[2inUPMichigan]

This site has grown a lot over the last few years to the point that we have over 100k members! That is a lot of people who decided not to lurk anymore, take a deep breath and dive in.

There really is a sense of community here, one which many of us would not want to be without.
Some stop in occasionally like a relative you only see at holidays.
Some stop in regularly like a neighbor, to provide support/advice as needed.
Some stop in frequently to share their stories and catch up with friends.
Others seem to consider this their 2nd home and are very involved on a regular basis.
Of course we still have some that sign up for accounts but choose to stay quietly in the background, listening/reading and gathering information with the hopes that someday they too will be telling their story.

For all I hope this is their "place" where they feel at home. We have built this home together and together we share the benefits.

[Greg_N_Shelley]

This site has grown a lot over the last few years to the point that we have over 100k members! That is a lot of people who decided not to lurk anymore, take a deep breath and dive in.

There really is a sense of community here, one which many of us would not want to be without.
Some stop in occasionally like a relative you only see at holidays.
Some stop in regularly like a neighbor, to provide support/advice as needed.
Some stop in frequently to share their stories and catch up with friends.
Others seem to consider this their 2nd home and are very involved on a regular basis.
Of course we still have some that sign up for accounts but choose to stay quietly in the background, listening/reading and gathering information with the hopes that someday they too will be telling their story.

For all I hope this is their "place" where they feel at home. We have built this home together and together we share the benefits.

Damn, that is really well said! That is us. To others new here, this is OHW.

You’re in the company of friends.

[snoogaloo82]

I'm a lurker. I am into it. I knew i was into it when I was 19, now 45. My girlfriend at time cheated on me and I told her that it was alright and I was fine with it. She told me it wasn't fair to me and still left me. My current wife, who I have been with for over 20 years now says she is into it but has a low sex drive and it never really goes anywhere. So I just kinda live with my fantasy.

Sometimes just living with it is what was intended all along. Feel free to keep lurking but also feel free to put your two cents worth in at any time.

[snoogaloo82]

This site has grown a lot over the last few years to the point that we have over 100k members! That is a lot of people who decided not to lurk anymore, take a deep breath and dive in.

There really is a sense of community here, one which many of us would not want to be without.
Some stop in occasionally like a relative you only see at holidays.
Some stop in regularly like a neighbor, to provide support/advice as needed.
Some stop in frequently to share their stories and catch up with friends.
Others seem to consider this their 2nd home and are very involved on a regular basis.
Of course we still have some that sign up for accounts but choose to stay quietly in the background, listening/reading and gathering information with the hopes that someday they too will be telling their story.

For all I hope this is their "place" where they feel at home. We have built this home together and together we share the benefits.

I couldn't agree more. This place has become like a second home for me. I find comfort here in sharing my life. I've never felt as comfortable any place else sharing my innermost thoughts and feelings before. It's wonderful to have a place like this where we can share our thoughts and feelings about this type of lifestyle, and especially about being a Hotwife couple!

[hubudig2]

I'm a lurker. I am into it. I knew i was into it when I was 19, now 45. My girlfriend at time cheated on me and I told her that it was alright and I was fine with it. She told me it wasn't fair to me and still left me. My current wife, who I have been with for over 20 years now says she is into it but has a low sex drive and it never really goes anywhere. So I just kinda live with my fantasy.

Thanks for making your first post, you're no longer a lurker.
When you say that she's into it, does the idea turn her on too?
Is it something you're able to share with her? Like stories and fantasy play?
Low sex drive isn't always physical/permanent, sometimes a little spark of inspiration can snap someone out of it, sometimes lifestyle or relationship habits need to change.
If you hypothetically took someone with a low sex drive and placed them in a new and exciting relationship, chances are they'd get their sex drive back.
My wife had a low sex drive for a few years which is part of what got me interested in the psychology angle.
Eventually I was able to able to understand what she needed to get her sex drive back. It was a long and still ongoing process but I think we're actually better off having gone through it together.
Don't give up.

[stubbyhubby]

My 2 pennies (whatever that is worth) is that a huge percentage of the male population is accepting of cuckolding. Like 70% or more. I think that a large majority of men are either into the idea of their wife fucking other men or they would fuck another man's wife with her husband's knowledge.

With that said, I think a tiny percentage are willing to actually act on it. Maybe 1% are actually cuckolded or hotwifing (with some swingers actually cucks going along to get their wife to fuck others). The vast majority either fantasize but never act beyond expressing it in a forum or just lurk.

EDIT: I want to add that my cousin was a lurker for many years. He visited chat rooms and forums and jerked off to cuck porn constantly, but was afraid to tell his wife. He even fucked my wife pretty often just because he got off on being involved in some form of cuckolding.

One day his wife (who knew mine cucks me) asked my wife about it. Why we do it, how we find guys, etc. and she admitted that she was curious and would even try it but she thought my cousin would get angry if he knew she was thinking about fucking other men. Needless to say, when I told him he was overjoyed and within about a week she was fucking another guy. She only fucked the one guy, but he became her boyfriend and even fathered a baby with her. They fully cuckolded my cousin and even locked him. He was in heaven.

[snoogaloo82]

I'm a lurker. I am into it. I knew i was into it when I was 19, now 45. My girlfriend at time cheated on me and I told her that it was alright and I was fine with it. She told me it wasn't fair to me and still left me. My current wife, who I have been with for over 20 years now says she is into it but has a low sex drive and it never really goes anywhere. So I just kinda live with my fantasy.

Thanks for making your first post, you're no longer a lurker.
When you say that she's into it, does the idea turn her on too?
Is it something you're able to share with her? Like stories and fantasy play?
Low sex drive isn't always physical/permanent, sometimes a little spark of inspiration can snap someone out of it, sometimes lifestyle or relationship habits need to change.
If you hypothetically took someone with a low sex drive and placed them in a new and exciting relationship, chances are they'd get their sex drive back.
My wife had a low sex drive for a few years which is part of what got me interested in the psychology angle.
Eventually I was able to able to understand what she needed to get her sex drive back. It was a long and still ongoing process but I think we're actually better off having gone through it together.
Don't give up.

I'm so glad that you two were able to work things out and are on your way to being better. You both deserve a lot of goodness in your life!

[snoogaloo82]

My 2 pennies (whatever that is worth) is that a huge percentage of the male population is accepting of cuckolding. Like 70% or more. I think that a large majority of men are either into the idea of their wife fucking other men or they would fuck another man's wife with her husband's knowledge.

With that said, I think a tiny percentage are willing to actually act on it. Maybe 1% are actually cuckolded or hotwifing (with some swingers actually cucks going along to get their wife to fuck others). The vast majority either fantasize but never act beyond expressing it in a forum or just lurk.

Sad but very true.

[hubudig2]

My 2 pennies (whatever that is worth) is that a huge percentage of the male population is accepting of cuckolding. Like 70% or more. I think that a large majority of men are either into the idea of their wife fucking other men or they would fuck another man's wife with her husband's knowledge.

With that said, I think a tiny percentage are willing to actually act on it. Maybe 1% are actually cuckolded or hotwifing (with some swingers actually cucks going along to get their wife to fuck others). The vast majority either fantasize but never act beyond expressing it in a forum or just lurk.

I value your 2 pennies, thanks.
I completely agree with that and that's what I'm curious about, whether there are people in that gray area that find it hot as a concept but don't see it as something that's for them or maybe see it as more of a guilty pleasure that they try to keep at arms length.
Personally, when I first discovered cuckolding was a thing, I found it hot as fuck but I couldn't put my finger on why.
It's only when I put myself in the bull's pov that it all clicked into place for me and made my past experiences make sense too.

EDIT: I want to add that my cousin was a lurker for many years. He visited chat rooms and forums and jerked off to cuck porn constantly, but was afraid to tell his wife. He even fucked my wife pretty often just because he got off on being involved in some form of cuckolding.

One day his wife (who knew mine cucks me) asked my wife about it. Why we do it, how we find guys, etc. and she admitted that she was curious and would even try it but she thought my cousin would get angry if he knew she was thinking about fucking other men. Needless to say, when I told him he was overjoyed and within about a week she was fucking another guy. She only fucked the one guy, but he became her boyfriend and even fathered a baby with her. They fully cuckolded my cousin and even locked him. He was in heaven.

I love stories like this, it's interesting to consider that he was cucking you but was getting off on it from your perspective.
I can fully comprehend how if I wasn't able to give women the mind-blowing experiences that I'm fortunate to be able to give that I could be drawn to wanting to see my wife experience them with someone that could.
It's a realisation that both scares me and makes me appreciate what I have because it could be taken away.
I don't mean that to sound like I pity cuckolds, I think you learn to appreciate what you have, all cucks that I've asked if they would trade cock/body with me (if it was possible) have said no so I think you know what I mean.

I've spoken to couples in the situation that your cousin was in, where they were both into the idea but thought the other wasn't. Helping them to realise that they both wanted it was some of the hottest and most satisfying experiences I've had doing "this".

[stubbyhubby]

EDIT: I want to add that my cousin was a lurker for many years. He visited chat rooms and forums and jerked off to cuck porn constantly, but was afraid to tell his wife. He even fucked my wife pretty often just because he got off on being involved in some form of cuckolding.

One day his wife (who knew mine cucks me) asked my wife about it. Why we do it, how we find guys, etc. and she admitted that she was curious and would even try it but she thought my cousin would get angry if he knew she was thinking about fucking other men. Needless to say, when I told him he was overjoyed and within about a week she was fucking another guy. She only fucked the one guy, but he became her boyfriend and even fathered a baby with her. They fully cuckolded my cousin and even locked him. He was in heaven.

I love stories like this, it's interesting to consider that he was cucking you but was getting off on it from your perspective.
I can fully comprehend how if I wasn't able to give women the mind-blowing experiences that I'm fortunate to be able to give that I could be drawn to wanting to see my wife experience them with someone that could.
It's a realisation that both scares me and makes me appreciate what I have because it could be taken away.
I don't mean that to sound like I pity cuckolds, I think you learn to appreciate what you have, all cucks that I've asked if they would trade cock/body with me (if it was possible) have said no so I think you know what I mean.

I've spoken to couples in the situation that your cousin was in, where they were both into the idea but thought the other wasn't. Helping them to realise that they both wanted it was some of the hottest and most satisfying experiences I've had doing "this".

Yeah it was an interesting dynamic. I think because he wanted to be cucked so bad he realized how much it meant to me, plus he got the "cucked by family" angle too. He was only 5 inches, but I am less than 3" so he was still big compared to me. He didn't have a bull mentality, but he def loved fucking my wife and watching me clean her after.

[jsaltydog]

I read the posts with envy. I did not realize the joys of the cuckold life until it was too late in life. I am in my 70s now and married to a sexually inhibited woman, my second wife who is not at all satisfying in bed. When I was young enough to enjoy a cuckold marriage and married to my first wife, who was a sexual dynamo, I was stuck in the "traditional" ideas of marriage and could not accept alternate lifestyles. There was no internet to discuss the lifestyle, no forums like this one. No easy access to internet porn with amateur men and women enjoying various forms of sexuality. Very difficult to recognize and accept my true desires. So, reading the posts on this forum and other forums is a way for me to imagine how I would have done life differently. Pretty much all I have left at this point in life.

[Luv4Her]

I’ve told my wife several years ago. She was talking to a guy through IG then abruptly stopped it and told me she could never go through with it. She will make little quips every now and again, I think just to tease me or see where my head is at, then drop it all the same :/. She's told me
that it hurts her feelings that I want her to sleep with other men.
Anyways I got into this by reading reading the old Hustler magazines where people would write in talking about it. I was around 13 or 14. After that I would share my girlfriends with my friends and sometimes join in. When dating my now wife, we were around 19/18, I was living with her during the summer in before my sophomore year. I had a part time job and was at work when her ex stopped by her apartment to talk about their baby even though he was out of the picture and had nothing to do with her. She let him in and one thing led to another a d he fucked her. When I got home from my shift she didnt act any certain way or anything and I started to fool around with her initiating sex. I guess she just thought that we were going to fuck but I like eating pussy first then fucking. Anyways when I ate her out I noticed she tasted different and was real juicy. I tasted sex. She either didnt bother to clean his cum out of her pussy or didnt do a good job of it. I questioned her about it and she broke down and told me what had happened earlier. That she thought that he was really wanting to talk about their kid. She said that he fucked her and I asked if she tried to stop him and she said no that she was scared to try to. He just pressured her to fuck and she did. She cried and asked me to forgive her and I did by eating her pussy then fucking her. I never told her about my cuckolding I was doing with my previous girlfriends before her until several years ago like I mentioned above.
Now I just lurk here reading stories wishing that she would cuck me. Just wish I could convince her to go through with it. I dont ever bring it up unless she makes a quip or flat out asks me but like I said it gets dropped fast. I am just on the outside looking in :/.

[hubudig2]

I read the posts with envy. I did not realize the joys of the cuckold life until it was too late in life. I am in my 70s now and married to a sexually inhibited woman, my second wife who is not at all satisfying in bed. When I was young enough to enjoy a cuckold marriage and married to my first wife, who was a sexual dynamo, I was stuck in the "traditional" ideas of marriage and could not accept alternate lifestyles. There was no internet to discuss the lifestyle, no forums like this one. No easy access to internet porn with amateur men and women enjoying various forms of sexuality. Very difficult to recognize and accept my true desires. So, reading the posts on this forum and other forums is a way for me to imagine how I would have done life differently. Pretty much all I have left at this point in life.

Don't beat yourself up about it. We can all look back on life and consider how we could've/should've done things differently.
Unless there's lessons to be learned from it, it does no good to dwell on it.
Did your first wife ever hint at trying alternate lifestyles? Do you think she would've been up for it?
Were there ever any signs back then about your true desires?
Or did you only realise it later through internet porn?

[hubudig2]

I’ve told my wife several years ago. She was talking to a guy through IG then abruptly stopped it and told me she could never go through with it. She will make little quips every now and again, I think just to tease me or see where my head is at, then drop it all the same :/. She's told me
that it hurts her feelings that I want her to sleep with other men.
Anyways I got into this by reading reading the old Hustler magazines where people would write in talking about it. I was around 13 or 14. After that I would share my girlfriends with my friends and sometimes join in. When dating my now wife, we were around 19/18, I was living with her during the summer in before my sophomore year. I had a part time job and was at work when her ex stopped by her apartment to talk about their baby even though he was out of the picture and had nothing to do with her. She let him in and one thing led to another a d he fucked her. When I got home from my shift she didnt act any certain way or anything and I started to fool around with her initiating sex. I guess she just thought that we were going to fuck but I like eating pussy first then fucking. Anyways when I ate her out I noticed she tasted different and was real juicy. I tasted sex. She either didnt bother to clean his cum out of her pussy or didnt do a good job of it. I questioned her about it and she broke down and told me what had happened earlier. That she thought that he was really wanting to talk about their kid. She said that he fucked her and I asked if she tried to stop him and she said no that she was scared to try to. He just pressured her to fuck and she did. She cried and asked me to forgive her and I did by eating her pussy then fucking her. I never told her about my cuckolding I was doing with my previous girlfriends before her until several years ago like I mentioned above.
Now I just lurk here reading stories wishing that she would cuck me. Just wish I could convince her to go through with it. I dont ever bring it up unless she makes a quip or flat out asks me but like I said it gets dropped fast. I am just on the outside looking in :/.

Wow... 7 years as a lurker and you've just made your first post? I appreciate it.
So your wife has cucked you but in not great circumstances and I'm guessing it's a traumatic memory for her?
Is the memory of it hot for you? How long ago was it? (If you don't mind me asking)
Never give up hope, there's always a chance that she could come around to the idea.
The fact that she mentions it occasionally makes it seem like it's on her mind in one way or another.

[Luv4Her]

I’ve told my wife several years ago. She was talking to a guy through IG then abruptly stopped it and told me she could never go through with it. She will make little quips every now and again, I think just to tease me or see where my head is at, then drop it all the same :/. She's told me
that it hurts her feelings that I want her to sleep with other men.
Anyways I got into this by reading reading the old Hustler magazines where people would write in talking about it. I was around 13 or 14. After that I would share my girlfriends with my friends and sometimes join in. When dating my now wife, we were around 19/18, I was living with her during the summer in before my sophomore year. I had a part time job and was at work when her ex stopped by her apartment to talk about their baby even though he was out of the picture and had nothing to do with her. She let him in and one thing led to another a d he fucked her. When I got home from my shift she didnt act any certain way or anything and I started to fool around with her initiating sex. I guess she just thought that we were going to fuck but I like eating pussy first then fucking. Anyways when I ate her out I noticed she tasted different and was real juicy. I tasted sex. She either didnt bother to clean his cum out of her pussy or didnt do a good job of it. I questioned her about it and she broke down and told me what had happened earlier. That she thought that he was really wanting to talk about their kid. She said that he fucked her and I asked if she tried to stop him and she said no that she was scared to try to. He just pressured her to fuck and she did. She cried and asked me to forgive her and I did by eating her pussy then fucking her. I never told her about my cuckolding I was doing with my previous girlfriends before her until several years ago like I mentioned above.
Now I just lurk here reading stories wishing that she would cuck me. Just wish I could convince her to go through with it. I dont ever bring it up unless she makes a quip or flat out asks me but like I said it gets dropped fast. I am just on the outside looking in :/.

Wow... 7 years as a lurker and you've just made your first post? I appreciate it.
So your wife has cucked you but in not great circumstances and I'm guessing it's a traumatic memory for her?
Is the memory of it hot for you? How long ago was it? (If you don't mind me asking)
Never give up hope, there's always a chance that she could come around to the idea.
The fact that she mentions it occasionally makes it seem like it's on her mind in one way or another.

She never said it was traumatic but I suppose it could have been. The thing is is after being with my wife for 29 years I know she doesn’t put up with shit and is a fighter. There is a part of me that thinks that she fucked him to see if she had feelings or maybe to get back with him for the betterment of their little girl. It wasn’t but five years after that is when I adopted our daughter.
Yes the memory is hot for me. Very hot. I’m 48, she’s 47 and this happened at the beginning of our relationship when we were 19/18 and I was in college. At this point I don’t think it will ever happen even though sometimes she’ll will say things like someone tried to message her on Facebook/Instagram or Snapchat. She’ll talk to them initially but mostly as response just to say hi back then ignores them or blocks them. She does get very wet when, and if, either of us bring it up while I'm eating her pussy. I think she has the potential to be maybe under the right circumstances. I think her head gets in the way of her pussy. So this is me on the outside lookong in.

[jsaltydog]

I read the posts with envy. I did not realize the joys of the cuckold life until it was too late in life. I am in my 70s now and married to a sexually inhibited woman, my second wife who is not at all satisfying in bed. When I was young enough to enjoy a cuckold marriage and married to my first wife, who was a sexual dynamo, I was stuck in the "traditional" ideas of marriage and could not accept alternate lifestyles. There was no internet to discuss the lifestyle, no forums like this one. No easy access to internet porn with amateur men and women enjoying various forms of sexuality. Very difficult to recognize and accept my true desires. So, reading the posts on this forum and other forums is a way for me to imagine how I would have done life differently. Pretty much all I have left at this point in life.

Don't beat yourself up about it. We can all look back on life and consider how we could've/should've done things differently.
Unless there's lessons to be learned from it, it does no good to dwell on it.
Did your first wife ever hint at trying alternate lifestyles? Do you think she would've been up for it?
Were there ever any signs back then about your true desires?
Or did you only realise it later through internet porn?

My first wife never really brought up the subject of the cuckold or Hotwire lifestyle, swinging or bi-sex. I think that if we had the courage, honestly and insight to bring it up, she would have gone for it. But, that is conjecture.

Yes there were signs of my true desires. I frequently fantasized of sharing her, previous and later GFs with other men, especially in gang bangs. I also fantasized about sucking a bull's cock in the heat of group sex with my wife. Never considered being a bottom until much later in life. So, I don't think that internet porn started my desires or tendencies. Internet porn only showed me that other people had similar desires, after all other people must be watching the same stuff. The porn let me know that it was ok to have those desires and try to make them happen.

[hubudig2]

She never said it was traumatic but I suppose it could have been. The thing is is after being with my wife for 29 years I know she doesn’t put up with shit and is a fighter. There is a part of me that thinks that she fucked him to see if she had feelings or maybe to get back with him for the betterment of their little girl. It wasn’t but five years after that is when I adopted our daughter.
Yes the memory is hot for me. Very hot. I’m 48, she’s 47 and this happened at the beginning of our relationship when we were 19/18 and I was in college. At this point I don’t think it will ever happen even though sometimes she’ll will say things like someone tried to message her on Facebook/Instagram or Snapchat. She’ll talk to them initially but mostly as response just to say hi back then ignores them or blocks them. She does get very wet when, and if, either of us bring it up while I'm eating her pussy. I think she has the potential to be maybe under the right circumstances. I think her head gets in the way of her pussy. So this is me on the outside lookong in.

I imagine she flits between thinking she could do it, wanting to and realising she doesn't want to for all sorts of reasons.
I think men struggle to comprehend how it could be difficult to want to fuck someone.
I doubt there are many cuckquean wannabes because their husband isn't willing to fuck another woman
If she can break some mental barriers and gain the self-confidence she needs, you can't rule it out.

[Luv4Her]

Well I’ve done just about everything that’s been discussed here. Movies, books, role play, toys, talked about it, not talked about it, continuously let time go by without bringing it up. The whole gambit. I do wish that the random person who does message her on IG, Facebook, Snapchat or whatever when they try talking to her wasn’t an asshat or real pushy. Maybe that’s why she shuts them down. That’s what’s puzzling is she will chit chat, shut it down then tell me about it. I think it is some type of mental block but I’ve done relegated myself to just lurking being a wannabe heh. Bummed out mainly for her because I want her to experience things and realize that she is indeed hot. :÷

[Whenwillshe]

Your question leaves much open to interpretation.
A Cuck is one who's wife has sex with other men.
Some think a cuckold is a weak, caged panty wearing person who is sexual inadequate.
Your mileage may vary but I am an alpha who does quite well in the sack but seeing my wife on her back in the throes of orgasm is a sexual high.
If it involved humiliation or abuse, psychologically or physically, there is no way I'd go along.

[nutjob]

A Cuck is one who's wife has sex with other men.

I don't think it's quite that simple, because a hotwife also has sex with other men. Cuckolding has to have something beyond simply "wife having sex with other men", whether that be something like some degree of humiliation or denial, or some form of dominance or submission. That something can be a matter of degrees; some people might be super into chastity and small penis humiliation, but others might get off on "just" the difference in assertiveness when their wife is with them vs. when their wife is involved with another man.

Incidentally, I don't think it has to be limited to just men. It's more of "wife having sex with other people" and less about the specific genders involved. As long as she's having sex with more than just her spouse, and her spouse knows and accepts it, it falls into some category of hotwifing or cuckolding.

Also, I suppose that there's some wiggle room in terms of the nature of the acts involved. That is, it may not have to be sex sex to count. Your wife going on dates with other men and then coming back and telling you about how much more manly they are than you probably counts as cuckolding, even if there was no wife-to-gentials contact.