Limp now for vanilla sex !!!!!

[BFofGF]

I’m not sure how long has it been going on ( gradually getting worse) but it seems I am limp as a noodle for normal vanilla or swinger couple sex.

It’s quite embarrassing in a swinger type setting. And the people that were giving me oral, were quite sexy and I was turned on in my brain, but my dick stayed limp. This includes both men and women.

However, I am rock hard when I think about my cuckoldress and licking her pussy, cleaning her or her Bulls and thinking
about all the cocks that have been inside her , and when I get to fuck her pussy ( not often now= denial) after she’s been filled by one of her regulars . I’m also rock hard just from my Gf talking dirty to me about how she wants to fuck BBC & I’m jerking off !

I am 55 years old but I’ve NEVER had E.D. Issues and I still believe I don’t ! But something is going on !!!!

However, my question is …Has my brain been rewired to only be turned on by my cuckoldress or cuck related duties like cum clean -up?

Please chime in & give me your thoughts !

[Gulfcpl]

I fully sympathize with and understand your dilemma. I am exactly the same way. I get hard when alone but with others, can’t get erect unless I’m just watching my wife play. It’s a psychological thing and short of seeking help from a therapist, which I’m not big on, I don’t see much that can be done.

[Cdncuck]

I’m not sure how long has it been going on ( gradually getting worse) but it seems I am limp as a noodle for normal vanilla or swinger couple sex.

It’s quite embarrassing in a swinger type setting. And the people that were giving me oral, were quite sexy and I was turned on in my brain, but my dick stayed limp. This includes both men and women.

However, I am rock hard when I think about my cuckoldress and licking her pussy, cleaning her or her Bulls and thinking
about all the cocks that have been inside her , and when I get to fuck her pussy ( not often now= denial) after she’s been filled by one of her regulars . I’m also rock hard just from my Gf talking dirty to me about how she wants to fuck BBC & I’m jerking off !

I am 55 years old but I’ve NEVER had E.D. Issues and I still believe I don’t ! But something is going on !!!!

However, my question is …Has my brain been rewired to only be turned on by my cuckoldress or cuck related duties like cum clean -up?

Please chime in & give me your thoughts !

Many years ago I read something about how people who started having sex in the back seats of cars in their teens couldn't become aroused or if they became aroused, couldn't orgasm unless they were in a car.

It was a long time ago but the gist of the explanation was that when we first experienced an intense sexual situation, sometimes they environment kind of imprints into the arousal system. It could be visual things like the shape of the seats or the dome light. It could even be the scent of the car. So you are right.

In the case of my wife and myself, we started doing mfm. She was 18. I was 21. For the first two years after she agreed to let other guys join us, most of our sexual activities involved her and at least two men.

After we were married, she started dating on her own but it seems she attracts guys like me who enjoy watching. The vast majority of her boyfriends eventually would ask her to bang a friend.

Then we got into swinging where she got into gang bangs and orgies. Even after she made this a cuckold relationship she continued to swing. She would take a boyfriend to play with and swap. I would go along strictly as an observer.

So from the time she was 18 years old, the most exciting sexual experiences involved more than one other person. After we had been married for about 10 or 12 years, we found neither of us was interested in one one one sex with each other. We just couldn't get aroused and we didn't care.

We've been that way for years and years now. The only time we get hot for each other is when she's had sex with someone else. Whether at home or she goes out it doesn't matter. Without the stimulation we get from her fucking someone, we just aren't interested.

[scarfolamew]

I fully sympathize with and understand your dilemma. I am exactly the same way. I get hard when alone but with others, can’t get erect unless I’m just watching my wife play. It’s a psychological thing and short of seeking help from a therapist, which I’m not big on, I don’t see much that can be done.

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[jesseejames29]

I totally sympathize with your situation. Watching the wife in some very kinky moments can make anything else pale in comparison. Last week I was invited over to visit my hot female friend, I just wasn't feeling it and didn't go. I can get rock hard in seconds thinking about my wife so like you I don't think this is ed, just my brain being rewired. I have found that 3-4 drinks can make me lose my inhibitions somewhat.

[Loserpaul]

One of the reasons I became pussy free was due to the fact I can't perform for vaginal sex most of the time. I am too intimidated by the thought of it & know I won't be able to satisfy the woman. I'm wired to masturbation only these days.

[Gulfcpl]

I fully sympathize with and understand your dilemma. I am exactly the same way. I get hard when alone but with others, can’t get erect unless I’m just watching my wife play. It’s a psychological thing and short of seeking help from a therapist, which I’m not big on, I don’t see much that can be done.

You can get a free trial of blue chew for just the cost of shipping, takes like 5 minutes to set up an account

I use dial is and viagra. Neither works for me when I want them to. I can’t take injections because of peyronies.

[Gulfcpl]

I fully sympathize with and understand your dilemma. I am exactly the same way. I get hard when alone but with others, can’t get erect unless I’m just watching my wife play. It’s a psychological thing and short of seeking help from a therapist, which I’m not big on, I don’t see much that can be done.

You can get a free trial of blue chew for just the cost of shipping, takes like 5 minutes to set up an account

I use dial is and viagra. Neither works for me when I want them to. I can’t take injections because of peyronies.

I meant cialis.

[BFofGF]

Ok Great ! I’m glad I’m not the only one !

Of course my GF loves that I only get hard for her and her slutivities !

I’m guess this is what I wished for and I sure got it !

I wouldn’t want it any other way !

#cucklife

[aandmp]

Well, I guess it's comforting to know I'm not alone in this respect...
we've been together for almost 20 years, started 'swinging' sporadically about 10 yrs ago. Didn't take long to drift to mfm fun, which was good with me as I love watching her fuck, cleaning up, and silky seconds.
One mfm, I tried fucklicking, was a hit with her, and I enjoyed it. Our friend whether on purpose or not, kept short stroking and I kept getting his cock shoved in my mouth. Wasn't bad, he has a great cock too.
So, fast forward some, we met another friend, had a mfm, then they turned into mmf's. With my wife, weve shared sucking his cock, and them sucking mine. Great fun!
However, my wife started declining going to his place, and due to covid and travel, our sex fun stopped for a couple yrs.
The last mfm we had, with another man, was less than ideal and we didn't finish it.
Now, seems mmf fun is all I can focus on, and erections are 'less than ideal'.
I'm hoping we can get back on track with mmf or mfm fun. Just finding, vetting potential men is such a pain. The first two "regulars" we had have moved or not available anymore...
We may visit our 1st true mmf friend, wife is agreeable about this. I'm hoping if so, my cock will be "up for the occasion"

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

We are DEFINITELY not alone on this, it seems.

I TOTALLY get it. Having watched my wife enjoy her bf’s dick makes vanilla sex seem “blah.” Can’t get hard…or “as hard” as I used to. I find myself edging for long periods (a week or so?) that I wonder if they will inevitably extend (a month? Two months?).

I’m glad someone brought it up. Thanks.

One thing that gets me rock-hard is imagining a wife-swap with these very good friends of ours. They’ve sent signals in the past that they’d be down for some fun. (“Let’s go on a cruise and share a cabin together. C’mon. It’ll be fun. Just the four of us.”). Of course, I’m down for it ONLY because I want to watch my friends make my wife cum for hours on end. That’s the cuck in me. I suspect, though, that my friend is hoping for the same, so my wife and I would gladly fuck his wife…make her cum while he watches. That’s the friend (and sympathetic cuck) in me.

This thought gets me through…but I don’t know for how much longer.

[BFofGF]

That’s really hot ! Do you think you could get hard and fuck your friends wife ? I would def have to pop a viagra to be involved in anything other than cuck sex ( which is me masterbating and licking pussy while the GF dirty talks me )

[little sissy Benita]

Maybe are your problems with your limp dick a physical impairment - or from stress

Of course it is possible that your brain is "reprogrammed" in thinking and feeling - I think that can be the case with long periods of pussy free and denial. Many men have the problem that at the moment when they need arousal, nothing works.
I was pussy free for a long time and my mommy (former wife) also denied herself for a long time - which I can understand, why should she be satisfied with a very tiny baby dick - and that for only two minutes, when she can feel real mens cocks in her?

I had to took some medicine and the result was, that hair, bodyhair and pubic hair stoppt. My jealousy goes to zero and i was easyer to lead - i obey now very good. And I accepted to be a little girl - her little daughter. Also my genitals shrink a lot - my willie was not big before - but now I have a baby dick and balls and always limp - 0.31inches - but I think for a baby sissy - little daughter it is ok

Luckily mommy has black lovers and they satisfy her a lot

[Cookiescream]

I fully sympathize with and understand your dilemma. I am exactly the same way. I get hard when alone but with others, can’t get erect unless I’m just watching my wife play. It’s a psychological thing and short of seeking help from a therapist, which I’m not big on, I don’t see much that can be done.

You can get a free trial of blue chew for just the cost of shipping, takes like 5 minutes to set up an account

I use dial is and viagra. Neither works for me when I want them to. I can’t take injections because of peyronies.

I meant cialis.

I’m 65 and use cialis and started noticing that it wasn’t working as before. I now only take it on an empty stomach and it’s working great again.

[Johor]

Ok Great ! I’m glad I’m not the only one !

Of course my GF loves that I only get hard for her and her slutivities !

I’m guess this is what I wished for and I sure got it !

I wouldn’t want it any other way !

#cucklife

This is the way I would like to be. No thoughts of sex except for my wife having it when and how she wants it.

[hotfreaks]

I definitely can relate to this. Being in this lifestyle for 20 years now, it's definitely rewired my brain. I have a very tough time with vanilla sex. My brain just automatically goes off to one of the 100s of hot kinky times we have had.

[ucaneffher]

This thread definitely shows a pattern and it's sort of scaring me. After 7 years of being in the lifestyle, vanilla sex does absolutely nothing for me and this sucks because I'm not actively in a cuckold relationship with my current girlfriend.

With the the ex, after she got a lover, I got used to only having sex with my ex once in a while and I honest to God don't remember when was the last time that I was the first man or only man to have my ex in one day. I think that in 5 years, I only got left over pussy ONLY after other men got it fresh FIRST.

I admit that I would be far more turned on for sex knowing that she has a boyfriend or friends with benefits. For the sake of our sex life, I really wish that my current gf would just get a boyfriend already. Sadly I feel that this is the only way that I like it and dont seem to enjoy my girlfriend as her only man. I would very much prefer to continue only having sex/access to my GF only after another man or men have had their way with her.

[D+D]

I’m not sure how long has it been going on ( gradually getting worse) but it seems I am limp as a noodle for normal vanilla or swinger couple sex.

It’s quite embarrassing in a swinger type setting. And the people that were giving me oral, were quite sexy and I was turned on in my brain, but my dick stayed limp. This includes both men and women.

However, I am rock hard when I think about my cuckoldress and licking her pussy, cleaning her or her Bulls and thinking
about all the cocks that have been inside her , and when I get to fuck her pussy ( not often now= denial) after she’s been filled by one of her regulars . I’m also rock hard just from my Gf talking dirty to me about how she wants to fuck BBC & I’m jerking off !

I am 55 years old but I’ve NEVER had E.D. Issues and I still believe I don’t ! But something is going on !!!!

However, my question is …Has my brain been rewired to only be turned on by my cuckoldress or cuck related duties like cum clean -up?

Please chime in & give me your thoughts !

This happened to me. It’s all mental, not physical. I get hard thinking about what a slut my wife has become but I can’t get hard any other way. I can’t get hard watching her get fucked either. I can only get hard alone with her and thinking or talking about the others who fuck her. Really doesn’t matter anyway since I’m now in chastity about 85% of the time.

[Caribwaters]

Understand these feelings all too well.

I have been a cuck over most of our marriage, starting after 7 years. She was very willing to explain in detail her activities with her lovers, which was always a huge turn on for me. In the late 1980s it became necessary for me to mentally focus on my wife's adventures with other men in order to be able to preform. As time went on the need to bring up these images of her having sex with her men, especially her reconnected old boyfriend from high school, became the only way that I could get hard and cum. Our relationship evolved to where it was not just me that needs this mental stimulation, because by the mid 1990s I was unable to help her achieve organism thru intercourse, primarily due to my now revealed mediocre bedroom technique, especially when compared to the exceptional size and unique skills that she discovered with this old bf, who she had become involved with at the time.

Even now, when she is sometimes having trouble reaching that "tipping point", I usually need to whisper images and details of her encounters with previous lovers while manually stimulating her to achieve an organism. This verbal enhancement never fails to bring her over the top.

In order to try to get me hard enough to perform, even after taking Cialis, she needs to verbally humiliate me by comparing my inadequate love making skill when compared to at least 2 of her long term previous lovers. Not reluctant to hold back her graphic and often harsh criticism of me concerning my inability to sexual satisfy her, that has resulted in her need to seek out other, better men. I need to hear this very personal humiliation.

[Nick1477]

We are both 62 and I've always had regular blow jobs from my wife, but for the last few months I don't get as hard as I used to. Yet in our cuck lifestyle when I watch her sucking on some other guys cock I love it and I'm as hard as ever. I now actually get more out of seeing another guys cock in her mouth than my own. Weird really, and when he cums in her mouth there's nothing like it and i always try and capture it on film and watch it back many times. Even watching it back gets me harder than if it's my cock she's sucking off.
Her sucking guys off to completion is by far my favourite part of the cuck lifestyle.

[henry_]

I think it's normal that your threshold is rising. It's like in middle school, just seeing someone's boobs gave you an erection; after fucking a lot of women and watched a lot of porn, boobs don't give you an erection.

It might not be a problem. Maybe just enjoy what gives you an erection?

(If you do want to change it, then less stimulation might help, but I'm not sure if that works in couples.)