'new' cuck seeking advice

[gingerkev]

Hey... First post here so go me!

So me and my wife got in the lifestyle few months ago. We had talked and fantasised / discussed about her fucking other men and having threesomes for almost 2 years i think.

We started with some threesomes, was wild and a huge succes. Just regular threesomes where all 3 of us are 'equals'

It's after she went out alone once things started speeding up fast. She 'craves' to go out alone, sometimes really prefers it over staying home with me. Our sexlife is and always has been good, its deffinatly not an issue of me not being able to please her. Its just that she loves the rush so much and loves being able to let go and be her 'primal' self.

I'm loving it... Deffinatly when my mind is in the right ( cuckie) place my fantasy goes haywire'... The things we talk about sometimes just blow my mind

I am finding it hard however to always maintain the right 'mindset', when i am more in my daily routine i sometimes start to worry and overthink. Stuff like : what if she doesnt like something and she doesnt know how to tell it? What if she does but he doesnt listen? What if she enjoys them more then she does me? What if the date goes bad and he 'forces' himself on her?

We talk about all these doubts, we are very open with each other. Already hit a few speedbumps that forced us to really communicate. I know i overthink to much and often worry to much but often its stronger then myself.

Any beginning / veteran cucks have advice? I really want to be able to move forward and past all these doubts so we can truelly let go

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum gingerkev. You will get plenty of advice and opinions here.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

I think you’re handling it exactly the way you should.

Communicate, communicate, communicate!

I definitely understand many of your doubts. I experienced them, too. But after a while, you have to face the fact that she’s coming home to you EVERY TIME. YOU are her primary, and her bull(s) are just a chance for her to let loose and scratch that itch.

She’s having some fun, and you should, too.

That’s my two cents, but maybe other commenters will have a perspective I’m not seeing.

[elina]

Dear Gingerkev

Welcome to the forum.

Agrees with SheLikesWhenIWatch,

But I would also add share your thoughts and discussions on here to get the perspectives of other cucks and wannabe-cucks, and if you are lucky, maybe even a cuckoldress or two chipping in....

Sincerely
elina

[Cdncuck]

So me and my wife got in the lifestyle few months ago.

You've only just begun. The whole thing still has that "new car smell." Both you and your wife are experiencing brand new things. As a couple, and as individuals, your brain is going to have to adjust to these changes. Don't be too hard on yourself.

As to your wife liking to go out on her own, that's also a normal thing. My wife experienced very much the same thing. Like you, she used the word primal to to describe her feelings about her new experiences.

My wife went through that phase for about 2 years. She didn't want to leave. She wasn't looking for a better love. She was exploring the limits of her new found sexuality. She was also thrilled to find so many men found her attractive and she wanted to experience all of those things. And she also loved the variety.

If you continue in the lifestyle, you will experience a number of different emotions. At some point, each of you will face moments of self evaluation and wonder if you're doing the right thing. There will be ups and downs the same as anything else you do in life.

Just keep communicating clearly and trust and support each other. We've been in the lifestyle over 30 years now and still going.

[gingerkev]

Thank you guys for these kind and reassuring words. They mean a lot we try very hard to keep communicating, because for her aswell it isn't always easy dealing with this newfound 'side' of her.

It deffinatly helps knowing that others went trough this aswell. I am an insecure person at heart so it's good to know these feelings are normal

[Mgcouplemn]

I was very lucky, I met my wife over 30 years ago at a swinger party, she was there with her guy and I with a date. I watched her fuck other guys before I had my turn. Met her again outside of the party, we talked for hours and found that we wanted to date. We did continue to go to the swing party's but now as a couple. The most two important things to us are trust and communicating, we tell each other everything, thoughts, wishes, ideas, wants, and desires. If I were to pick one it is total open communication, with that there is trust. We don't need other sex partners for anything other than sex, our view is that they are toys for our enjoyment.

Because they are just toys we have always been together when having sex threesomes (MFM or FMF), foursomes, swapping, gangbangs, or one on ones. The sex is for our pleasure, not theirs. Now days I enjoy just sitting in the room watching and jerking off while she has sex with the boy toys. She loves looking at her husband stroking his cock while he is watching his wife getting fucked.

[joel68]

Interesting. No advice on my end as I couldn’t add to what was already said.

Maybe you could share some of your experiences since you got into it.

Also, could you describe you and your wife? How old are you guys and how long have you been together?

[atl0707]

Hey... First post here so go me!

So me and my wife got in the lifestyle few months ago. We had talked and fantasised / discussed about her fucking other men and having threesomes for almost 2 years i think.

We started with some threesomes, was wild and a huge succes. Just regular threesomes where all 3 of us are 'equals'

It's after she went out alone once things started speeding up fast. She 'craves' to go out alone, sometimes really prefers it over staying home with me. Our sexlife is and always has been good, its deffinatly not an issue of me not being able to please her. Its just that she loves the rush so much and loves being able to let go and be her 'primal' self.

I'm loving it... Deffinatly when my mind is in the right ( cuckie) place my fantasy goes haywire'... The things we talk about sometimes just blow my mind

I am finding it hard however to always maintain the right 'mindset', when i am more in my daily routine i sometimes start to worry and overthink. Stuff like : what if she doesnt like something and she doesnt know how to tell it? What if she does but he doesnt listen? What if she enjoys them more then she does me? What if the date goes bad and he 'forces' himself on her?

We talk about all these doubts, we are very open with each other. Already hit a few speedbumps that forced us to really communicate. I know i overthink to much and often worry to much but often its stronger then myself.

Any beginning / veteran cucks have advice? I really want to be able to move forward and past all these doubts so we can truelly let go

I found that it helped to tell my wife what I liked and what my boundaries were, so at first we played by the rules. As we started doing it more, I realized I had very little to fear and let her play by herself. I also think you have to tell yourself that you wanted this and signed up for it. You know the risks of letting her go out by herself, and if she does, she becomes wholly responsible for her own safety. She may be treated a little rough, degraded and downright abused, but you know you want another man to take liberties with your wife, and you know how much it turns you on. There is risk in any kind of sex play, and a loss of control, jealousy and insecurity are a part of being a cuck.

[RKfuncouple]

Great advice so far. I will add on the security side of things, we never her go out solo until we have met and played with the fellow at last 2-3 times and have established a mutual understanding and comfort level. Still not a guarantee but it does help with the angst of safety. Another point in regards to feelings, they will constantly change over the years, back and forth, and that will never change so just understanding that helps me to keep calm and process.

Anyway, best of luck.