Young married guy here

[RunDannyRun]

Hello everyone,

I am Dan and I am married to my wife Lauren for the couple of two years. We have been together for close to 5 years. I think I always wanted to see my partner with someone other than me but my wife, Lauren has no idea about these feelings. There is going to be some change in our living situation and I am hoping I can make my fantasy come true but I do not want to lose my wife in this process. I came to know about this forum from reddit and saw some threads asking for feedback and I am also hoping that I can get some guidance here. I can also answer any questions here.

[naivecuck2]

My wife received a letter that had been forwarded from her father. It was a letter from a high school boy friend that she had not heard from or seen in 17 years. He had written that he was recently divorced and that he wanted to get reacquainted and take her out to dinner. I gave her a "hall pass" prior to the movie to go on a date with him. He picked a very romantic restaurant that slowly circled 360 degrees overlooking the evening/night time sky line of Chicago. The restaurant was also located in a major hotel and for dessert he reserved a room. She arrived home from her Friday, 5:00 PM departure at 5:00 AM Saturday morning. She told me that his cock was bigger than mine and that they had fucked multiple times. He gave her orgasms that I had not been able to give her. So, the next Monday thru Friday from about 8:30 AM until 2:00 PM while I was at work and our two daughters were in school, they fucked 3-4 times per day. When they were alone, he made up a rule that they had to be naked...no jewelry, no wedding ring. Within a month, they went for an overnight at a motel that featured in room pools, sex swings and mirrors on the ceiling. Had to lie to our young daughters that mom was again going out with girl friends. She came home the next day glowing. Believe it was her 1st anal sex. She was addicted and I was very naive thinking it was going to be one and done. After two years of continuous, cuckold angst, we got divorced. He then decided that her car should be available to him on a permanent basis and she saw dumped him. Be careful what you wish for!

[naivecuck2]

My wife received a letter that had been forwarded from her father. It was a letter from a high school boy friend that she had not heard from or seen in 17 years. He had written that he was recently divorced and that he wanted to get reacquainted and take her out to dinner. I gave her a "hall pass" prior to the movie to go on a date with him. He picked a very romantic restaurant that slowly circled 360 degrees overlooking the evening/night time sky line of Chicago. The restaurant was also located in a major hotel and for dessert he reserved a room. She arrived home from her Friday, 5:00 PM departure at 5:00 AM Saturday morning. She told me that his cock was bigger than mine and that they had fucked multiple times. He gave her orgasms that I had not been able to give her. So, the next Monday thru Friday from about 8:30 AM until 2:00 PM while I was at work and our two daughters were in school, they fucked 3-4 times per day. When they were alone, he made up a rule that they had to be naked...no jewelry, no wedding ring. Within a month, they went for an overnight at a motel that featured in room pools, sex swings and mirrors on the ceiling. Had to lie to our young daughters that mom was again going out with girl friends. She came home the next day glowing. Believe it was her 1st anal sex. She was addicted and I was very naive thinking it was going to be one and done. After two years of continuous, cuckold angst, we got divorced. He then decided that her car should be available to him on a permanent basis and she saw dumped him. Be careful what you wish for!

[Wantsomefunto]

Dan it is a powerful desire to want to share your wife Lauren. But you just can’t force her to want it. Others will tell you communicate is key. Something you can do is get her out dancing and drinking if she does those things. Maybe encourage her to dance alone as you watch and see who hits on her. Even tell her you want her to go into a bar alone and see who offers to buy her drinks. Tell her you will come in later as a friend from work. Always tell her how much it turns you on to see guys chat with her.

[RunDannyRun]

Thanks for replying (and warning me). To give some additional details, I am 26 years old and Lauren is 23. We recently bought a new house and it has been a nice journey for us so far. Lauren and I have lot of common interests. We are both long distance runners and board game addicts. We regularly run half marathons (at least 4 races a year). We also have a small friend group that meets up regularly and plays board games.

I mentioned that there is a change in our living situation. My "brother" Adam is going to be homeless soon. He has a job but can't make rent at his current place (long story). He asked me the other day, out of blue, if he could crash at our place for a few weeks. He already lives pretty close by. I asked Lauren and she was not happy. She hates Adam (they just met thrice before) but she is also very kind. She agreed for him to live at our house for a few weeks. The initial arrangement is for 6 weeks. I am hoping I can somehow get them sleeping with each other during this 6 weeks.

[kaskap79]

It is not easy to tell the wife that you want her to have sex with other men.

One approach could be to tell one morning that you had a strange dream that got you very turned on. She was having sex with another man while you were watching. You were enjoying what you saw, and no other women was in that dream.

Since we cannot control what we are dreaming of, it can be a safe way of starting the talk about the subject.

Most likely your wife will come up with the argument, that you only want this because then you can have other women. It is then your job to convince her that is not the case.

Best way of continuing after the first talk, is talk talk talk. For some it takes some weeks, for some it takes several years before the wife is comfortable with the idea.

[RunDannyRun]

It is not easy to tell the wife that you want her to have sex with other men.

One approach could be to tell one morning that you had a strange dream that got you very turned on. She was having sex with another man while you were watching. You were enjoying what you saw, and no other women was in that dream.

Since we cannot control what we are dreaming of, it can be a safe way of starting the talk about the subject.

Most likely your wife will come up with the argument, that you only want this because then you can have other women. It is then your job to convince her that is not the case.

Best way of continuing after the first talk, is talk talk talk. For some it takes some weeks, for some it takes several years before the wife is comfortable with the idea.

Thanks Kaskap79, I sometimes do tell her that guys are checking out when we are at the start line of our races and she laughs it off. Last year, we were discussing celebrity crushes and my wife loves the Imagine Dragons guy, Dan (she calls him her other Dan) and while we were having sex after that discussion, i asked her to imagine having sex with Dan Reynolds and the sex was better than our regular efforts. She then asked me if the thought of Dan Reynolds having sex with her turned me on. I just said maybe and she said and I quote, "You are so weird!". But it was said in a playful way. I never brought it up again. But with my "brother" coming and living with us, i am trying to again somehow bring this up with her.

[Wantsomefunto]

Run Dan
The dream approach as mention is a good way to plant the seed. If she likes sex toys like a dildo you can tell her how good she looks taking a bigger cock and ask if she ever had one bigger than you.

As far as your brother goes, if she doesn’t like him I am guessing she will only get mad if you try and get them to fuck. You could say to her that you see him checking her out and it turns you on and ask if she will wear revealing cloths when around him to tease him.

[RunDannyRun]

Run Dan
The dream approach as mention is a good way to plant the seed. If she likes sex toys like a dildo you can tell her how good she looks taking a bigger cock and ask if she ever had one bigger than you.

As far as your brother goes, if she doesn’t like him I am guessing she will only get mad if you try and get them to fuck. You could say to her that you see him checking her out and it turns you on and ask if she will wear revealing cloths when around him to tease him.

Lauren just had one partner before we met. Her's was a high school relationship and she said that she only had sex twice with him.

I know for a fact that my brother (Adam) likes her lol. He told that himself when he first met her. I think he said that she was very hot and asked me if it is okay if he can bang her if we ever broke up. But this was very early into our relationship and I am fairly certain he was joking as Adam was 33 and Lauren was just 19.

[Wantsomefunto]

Sounds like this may be fun. What have you said to Lauren about teasing him?

[RunDannyRun]

Sounds like this may be fun. What have you said to Lauren about teasing him?

I don't think Lauren even knows about how much of a cuckold I am. I don't even know if she is interested in sleeping with any other men. And she hates my brother with fiery passion lol. But I feel like deep down she might like him.

[Wantsomefunto]

Chances are she does feel attracted to him. You need to tell her tomorrow you had a dream she as in a bar, flirting and dancing with a guy as you watched from a distance and you woke up very hard

[RunDannyRun]

Chances are she does feel attracted to him. You need to tell her tomorrow you had a dream she as in a bar, flirting and dancing with a guy as you watched from a distance and you woke up very hard

Adam is coming this Saturday. I don't want to say anything yet. I think I will take it slow. The reason I said she might like Adam deep down is that all her crushes are big guys. I definitely don't fit the bill. I am around 5'9" and 145 lbs. I am a runner and I do have a six pack but it is mostly due to lack of body fat and not due to muscles.

The dream idea is good. I will think about it a bit more.

[RunDannyRun]

Most likely your wife will come up with the argument, that you only want this because then you can have other women. It is then your job to convince her that is not the case.

I am sure she won't say this lol. Our sex life is in dumps right now. Mostly due to my performance issues.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

I remember the first time I told my wife how aroused I’d be at watching another man have sex with her.

We were so young…so naive…very altruistic…deeply religious at the time. (We had been “deeply” Catholic, but not “devoutly” Catholic…..She took birth control, for example, as we figured out how to start a family.)

She cried a bit, I remember. She couldn’t believe I would want to “desecrate” our wedding vows. I tried to reassure her that I loved her more than ever, and that we were talking about sex, not love-making. I tried so hard to draw the line between the two acts. I remember the guilt I felt when she told me that I made her feel “dirty” through falling tears. I felt like a shitty husband. I let it drop for a while, wondering if my moral compass was indeed broken like she suggested.

Things cooled for a while. Sex….er, love-making…was something we did because we felt it was something that was expected of us…like some kind of obligation to our wedding vows.

I just couldn’t shake the idea of watching her enjoy another cock, though. Sex…..not love-making……just raw, unabashed sex…..no emotional connection…..just two people making each other cum while I sat idly by watching, perhaps touching myself. We now know that she was wondering about some of the same things. But we weren’t talking about it.

And then, a year or so after I first admitted that I’d be a privileged husband to watch her cum in another man’s arms, a year or so after those tears of disillusion, a friend and his newlywed wife came to visit.

I’ve written extensively about that experience. Feel free to check out my other posts. (We didn’t swap with my friend and his wife, but we came REALLY close. Some next-to-each-other same-room sex! It demonstrated for my wife how fun sex-play could be if it was handled well.)

I feel that’s when we really started to sync about her cucking me. She seemed more open-minded about the possibility of trying it. We were talking about it, now. I was just elated that she was thinking about it without all of the Catholic guilt, like we were trashing our marriage in order to have a little short-term fun in the sack. She earnestly wondered about the possibilities. Whether properly or improperly, we rationalized. We saw cucking as a way of adding strength to our marriage, not diminishing it. If our marriage could handle this sort of experience, we would be solid forever, we often caught ourselves saying.

We started mutually fantasizing about her cucking me. But, at some point, she flat-out admitted to me that there was no way she would be able to have sex with another man unless she felt emotionally connected to him.

That sort of set me on my heels for a short time. After several years of our mutual fantasy, my wife was saying that if she were to ever actually go through with cucking me, she would have to be somewhat in love with the fellow who would be making our fantasy a reality.

Was THIS what others were talking about when they’d say it’s best to leave fantasies as fantasies?

I had doubts, then. We’d been fantasizing for years by this point. Was I so committed to this experience that I’d let my wife be in love with another man? That was a tall order for me. What if one thing led to another and his superior personality….his superior cock….drew my wife to leave me?

I mean, one moment I’m talking about how deeply Catholic we had been; the next moment I’m talking about my fear of losing my wife to a superior cock. How far we had walked as a couple from that first admission so many years prior that I wanted her to cuck me…..from our experience with my friend and his newlywed wife. Was I ready to trust her that much? To let her fall in love (even a little) with another man in order to feel the ecstasy and satisfaction of being a cucked husband?

I thought about it for months.

Meanwhile, our fantasies involving friends and coworkers continued to intensify. I couldn’t really slow the fantasy down by this point because SHE was really turned on by the prospect of making me sit in a chair while our friend or coworker filled her up right in front of me. SHE began to relish the idea of having a manWould it be better for her to choose an unmarried coworker, or did we need to have a heart-to-heart conversation with a married couple whom we knew were already sexually open-minded? Could we bring my friend and his “newlywed” wife back to finish what the four of us started? If she were to develop feelings for this guy we were fantasizing about, would there be some sort of rip-cord either of us could pull to end it? Like, some kind of “safe word”?

We talked an awful lot those days. The sex was mind-blowing with all of the layers of fantasy and what these men would do to her in front of me. She was really enjoying the fantasy of cucking me.

Condom or no condom? We used to imagine and fantasize about no condom. (I wanted desperately to watch her enjoy the act of taking his seed inside of her, the way she had done so many times for me over the years. She wanted to feel him raw inside of her while making me watch.) We knew that was reckless for people in our situation. We were so into it, though.

This was not the Catholic girl I married? (What were we becoming? Why, of all things, was THIS a fantasy that was taking hold? Why did my previously demure wife want me to watch her cumming on another man’s cock….watch me while watching him deposit his seed in her womb? (Was she rebelling against the church that brought her to adulthood?)

Ultimately, and through reading MANY posts here on OHW and on Reddit, I felt I needed to relinquish some control and put my trust in my wife to properly cuck me.

It was scary, I won’t deny.

But when you come down to it, isn’t a proper cucking exactly that? Relinquishing control?

We finally made it happen. She wasn’t ready to have me watch at first. But she’d regale EVERY detail before fucking me herself or helping me to masturbate.

Watching me masturbate as she gave me details simply reassured her that I was serious about wanting her to cuck me. She could see how excited I was.

She used condoms with him for a long time, but when, over almost a year, it became obvious that he was exclusive to her, and that he was “clean,” she started letting him cum inside of her. Only then did I get my first chance to watch.

They invited me in one evening. She instructed me to sit in the chair next to the bed.

The first time you watch your wife, the woman you love, cumming on another man’s cock, your brain will be “scarred” forever. The same is true of watching him for the first time fill your wife with his seed.

We’ve never been happier.

Every couple has their own path, and I have no doubt you will find yours.

Be patient. Trust. Communicate. And, for goodness’ sake, be willing to relinquish control.

[RunDannyRun]

Be patient. Trust. Communicate. And, for goodness’ sake, be willing to relinquish control.

Thanks! I just have like 6 weeks to make by dream (to see Lauren fuck my brother) come true. But if that doesn't work, we are still young... I will use your experience as guidance and try to be stubborn and persevere.

[Teensy1]

Relinquishing control is the essence of being a cuckold. My agreement with my wife is that she can fuck anyone she pleases without my permission or knowledge. At first I felt helpless but I soon got past that and embraced my new status. No regrets from this old cuck.

[RunDannyRun]

Relinquishing control is the essence of being a cuckold. My agreement with my wife is that she can fuck anyone she pleases without my permission or knowledge. At first I felt helpless but I soon got past that and embraced my new status. No regrets from this old cuck.

I do not mind relinquishing control. I am just wondering what is the best way to let her see the benefits of getting fucked by my brother. Or maybe even for a start, think about getting fucked by him.

[Mkliny442015]

Relinquishing control is the essence of being a cuckold. My agreement with my wife is that she can fuck anyone she pleases without my permission or knowledge. At first I felt helpless but I soon got past that and embraced my new status. No regrets from this old cuck.

I do not mind relinquishing control. I am just wondering what is the best way to let her see the benefits of getting fucked by my brother. Or maybe even for a start, think about getting fucked by him.

Let me offer some level headed advice here before you fuck up your marriage and life. Slow it down a bit. This lifestyle isn’t something you dive into head first and when you do enter it you do it holding hands taking baby steps. Think of getting into a cold pool and letting your body adjust to the temperature. For starters you dont even know if she would be open to anything, besides some sexy pillow talk you need more of a gauge. Its one thing to let your wife be intimate with strangers its a whole other ball game when you mix family, it further complicates things.

The fantasy is hot by all means but the reality of it especially post orgasm can be messy and he is living in your house. Use this as a gauge, consider it first steps. I do agree that there is a fine line between hate and attraction, and many women may veil their attraction by disgust. See how they interact together, observe and watch her body language. Have sex with her while he is living there and remark “i hope he cant hear us he is going to get jealous” let her ask why? See if she gets wetter and wants to continue. Dont push it to actually happen with him specifically. Plant seeds and see how she feels. I can’t stress this enough but this only works when the WOMAN wants this too, wives who finally give in out of pressure or obligation end up building resentment. You will absolutely derive vicarious joy from her pleasures but that is only possible if she is a willing participant.

Having another person live in your house can already be stressful and adding sexual tension to that equation that isnt welcome can make it more messy. Sit back and be a quiet observer. Find other opportunities to see how she reacts to other men’s attention. Go to the bathroom and leave her alone at the bar, return quietly and watch if other men start talking to her or notice her. Mention to her how it turns you on watching other men desire her wanting what you have. Good luck and let us know how it progresses.

[stevens4fun]

Before my wife and I married, we were discussing fantasies and I let her know I'd be turned on if she continued having sex with guys she'd been dating after we married. We'd had a couple of drinks and she quizzed me thoroughly, let me tell you! "What do you really want," she asked. I replied: "to lay beside you while you are in orgasm with an attractive, well-equipped man you really like. Just like your wife, my wife said "Wow, that's a lot."

She was the first to raise the topic again a few days later. Bear in mind, we both had full time jobs so our schedules weren't always conducive to these kinds of discussions. We were both divorced and had no children living in the house. We were older than you and your wife - 30s. We discussed it off and on for months as she didn't want to harm our marriage and relationship and she knew she'd be emotionally involved with any man she brought home for sex. "Don't push," she said, "and I want to choose my own lovers. Let me handle it." We discussed many details of how things could go and who she might want to have sex with and it seemed like ages but was really only 3 months before it happened.

Skipping way ahead: it was my inability to deal with the complete loss of control that led to our first hiccup. There was times I wanted to do stuff with her, and she wasn't home or had plans to be with her BF (this was in the 1990s and we had never heard the term "Bull" used the way it's used in this forum. We always used "boyfriend"). My wife brought me back to reality and reminded me that it was me who wanted her to enjoy other men and now that she was emotionally and sexually involved with one, why was I complaining? We discussed a bit more and she also reminded me that her commitment to our marriage was stronger than ever, and that our sex was better than ever since she started seeing her BF. Seeing how foolish I'd be to object I gave in and agreed to be more flexible and supportive as she fulfilled my needs as well as hers. "I did this for you," she said, "and I have feelings for him. I can't just call it off. What do you want me to do?" This was very emotional for her. Me too, actually! It was time for me to man up. She and her BF continued for 4 years and the sex they (and we) had was beyond anything I ever imagined.

My wife and I knew the term "cuckold" from literature we'd seen in college, but we weren't using the term until she called me one morning from her hotel where she was staying on a work assignment. "Your fantasy came true last night," she said proudly. "You are now a cuckold. I'll tell you about it when I get home tonight. Have to go to work now. Oh, by the way, I had an orgasm within 5 minutes after he was in me." I had to look up what a "cuckold" was, while she obviously knew more about how it all works. I now know that I was cuckolded as she had yet to have an orgasm with me in her.

With your brother coming to live with you, you have a unique but risky opportunity.

I'm an old guy now and wish I could live it all again, knowing what I know now. All I can say is: based on our experience, you could step back from pushing your wife and simply give the two of them plenty of time alone, be supportive if things start to jell but most important, don't push. Your wife may be saying she hates your brother because she really hates him, or she may be saying it because she knows she might let herself be seduced by him. And carefully think over the long term ramifications if your wife finds herself enjoying your brother and wanting to continue. What do you really want and are you willing to let her be your guide? As Mkliny noted in this thread, having someone in the house that your wife doesn't like really puts her on the spot. What if he resists leaving at the end? Your chances of realizing your fantasy might be improved if your wife selects a guy she likes and wants and moves at her own pace.

Hello everyone,

I am Dan and I am married to my wife Lauren for the couple of two years. We have been together for close to 5 years. I think I always wanted to see my partner with someone other than me but my wife, Lauren has no idea about these feelings. There is going to be some change in our living situation and I am hoping I can make my fantasy come true but I do not want to lose my wife in this process. I came to know about this forum from reddit and saw some threads asking for feedback and I am also hoping that I can get some guidance here. I can also answer any questions here.

[user322]

Good morning
interesting your idea, but how do you plan to get your wife and your brother to sleep together?

[Wantsomefunto]

I think tonight start with the dream angle and tell her you had a dream she was teasing a guy and made you cum in your sleep

[RunDannyRun]

Relinquishing control is the essence of being a cuckold. My agreement with my wife is that she can fuck anyone she pleases without my permission or knowledge. At first I felt helpless but I soon got past that and embraced my new status. No regrets from this old cuck.

I do not mind relinquishing control. I am just wondering what is the best way to let her see the benefits of getting fucked by my brother. Or maybe even for a start, think about getting fucked by him.

I do agree that there is a fine line between hate and attraction, and many women may veil their attraction by disgust. See how they interact together, observe and watch her body language.

No one asked why she even hated him in the first place. It is over politics. I don't want to get political on this thread but my Adam is super conservative (he didn't give a shit about politics before 2016, so you guys know what kind of conservative I am talking about) while we are fairly liberal. but I know that Adam is her type (looks and physique wise).

[RunDannyRun]

Before my wife and I married, we were discussing fantasies and I let her know I'd be turned on if she continued having sex with guys she'd been dating after we married. We'd had a couple of drinks and she quizzed me thoroughly, let me tell you! "What do you really want," she asked. I replied: "to lay beside you while you are in orgasm with an attractive, well-equipped man you really like. Just like your wife, my wife said "Wow, that's a lot."

She was the first to raise the topic again a few days later. Bear in mind, we both had full time jobs so our schedules weren't always conducive to these kinds of discussions. We were both divorced and had no children living in the house. We were older than you and your wife - 30s. We discussed it off and on for months as she didn't want to harm our marriage and relationship and she knew she'd be emotionally involved with any man she brought home for sex. "Don't push," she said, "and I want to choose my own lovers. Let me handle it." We discussed many details of how things could go and who she might want to have sex with and it seemed like ages but was really only 3 months before it happened.

Skipping way ahead: it was my inability to deal with the complete loss of control that led to our first hiccup. There was times I wanted to do stuff with her, and she wasn't home or had plans to be with her BF (this was in the 1990s and we had never heard the term "Bull" used the way it's used in this forum. We always used "boyfriend"). My wife brought me back to reality and reminded me that it was me who wanted her to enjoy other men and now that she was emotionally and sexually involved with one, why was I complaining? We discussed a bit more and she also reminded me that her commitment to our marriage was stronger than ever, and that our sex was better than ever since she started seeing her BF. Seeing how foolish I'd be to object I gave in and agreed to be more flexible and supportive as she fulfilled my needs as well as hers. "I did this for you," she said, "and I have feelings for him. I can't just call it off. What do you want me to do?" This was very emotional for her. Me too, actually! It was time for me to man up. She and her BF continued for 4 years and the sex they (and we) had was beyond anything I ever imagined.

My wife and I knew the term "cuckold" from literature we'd seen in college, but we weren't using the term until she called me one morning from her hotel where she was staying on a work assignment. "Your fantasy came true last night," she said proudly. "You are now a cuckold. I'll tell you about it when I get home tonight. Have to go to work now. Oh, by the way, I had an orgasm within 5 minutes after he was in me." I had to look up what a "cuckold" was, while she obviously knew more about how it all works. I now know that I was cuckolded as she had yet to have an orgasm with me in her.

With your brother coming to live with you, you have a unique but risky opportunity.

I'm an old guy now and wish I could live it all again, knowing what I know now. All I can say is: based on our experience, you could step back from pushing your wife and simply give the two of them plenty of time alone, be supportive if things start to jell but most important, don't push. Your wife may be saying she hates your brother because she really hates him, or she may be saying it because she knows she might let herself be seduced by him. And carefully think over the long term ramifications if your wife finds herself enjoying your brother and wanting to continue. What do you really want and are you willing to let her be your guide? As Mkliny noted in this thread, having someone in the house that your wife doesn't like really puts her on the spot. What if he resists leaving at the end? Your chances of realizing your fantasy might be improved if your wife selects a guy she likes and wants and moves at her own pace.

Hello everyone,

I am Dan and I am married to my wife Lauren for the couple of two years. We have been together for close to 5 years. I think I always wanted to see my partner with someone other than me but my wife, Lauren has no idea about these feelings. There is going to be some change in our living situation and I am hoping I can make my fantasy come true but I do not want to lose my wife in this process. I came to know about this forum from reddit and saw some threads asking for feedback and I am also hoping that I can get some guidance here. I can also answer any questions here.

Thanks a lot for the thoughtful answer. As mentioned in the reply above, her aversion towards him is mostly politics. I told him not to bring any kind of politics into the house and he agreed. The reason I am leaning towards Adam and Lauren fucking together is that I knew Adam since i was six. He might be an idiot but deep down he is a nice guy. I trust him (kind of).

[RunDannyRun]

I think tonight start with the dream angle and tell her you had a dream she was teasing a guy and made you cum in your sleep

This is the best option so far. I also have a convincing backstory to go along with this. Thanks!