Young married guy here

[viking53]

Hi Danny, hope you’re doing OK, although it would be challenging for anyone.
My 2c, for what it is worth, is to reach out to Lauren, tell her you really love her, that she is your first priority, and ask her what you can do to fix this.

I fully agree. Definitely the highest priority.

[ticklemang]

Lauren will come around. I feel like she was a bit out of line here. But Adam’s POV makes sense.

[vicouple]

Folks,

There has been a setback in the whole dynamic. I tried to talk to Adam and express some displeasure about him not consulting me before springing the Florida trip on Lauren. I also mentioned that he gets to have stay in my house, have sex with my wife and I don’t even get to watch. He called me a fag**t and said he doesn’t want to stay in our house anymore if the only reason I am letting him stay is to fuck Lauren. He packed a duffel and left.

Lauren got pissed about what happed between Adam and me, but she really got angry when I suggested that we can find another third. She said that she is not my whore to pimp around. She reminded me again that she is the one who is supposed to take decisions in this whole cuckolding business. She said she is very disappointed in me and she went to her parents house. This happened on Tuesday evening.

I also feel like this whole thread became less about sex and more about navigating various metaphorical minefields and emotions in our triad. I am not sure what is going to happen in future. I wanted to give an update so that people have some kind of closure and have a sense of where things are now.

Lauren definitely has feelings for Adam but FWIW, they have not met each other yet in person since leaving my house.

Ouch, this has to be so upsetting.

If you care, the boundary you set is reasonable. What he did wasn't cool. It is a major escalation in terms of having a relationship with Lauren. There is no other real way to spin that. Calling you "faggot" is also not ok. Clearly he needs to either apology for both those things or move out.

I think you likely need to to apologize to Lauren and then just stop and really listen to what she is saying. Don't listen to respond but just listen and ask questions until she feels completely heard. She clearly either misunderstood what you meant or you misspoke. Doesn't really matter which.

Before you start that there is a great relationship conversation technique in which each person says, "the story I am telling myself is that you think x" this causes each person to acknowledge that what they are saying is their speculation. It might sound stupid but IMHO it works. It gives the other person a chance to respond. You are going to have to see if you can save the relationship. Make sure you do the listening part first.

Sex and relationships are kind of merged together in most cases. Especially if you are all living in the same house. Adam clearly isn't comfortable with you watching and isn't sophisticated not to yuck someone elses yum. I totally get it, the mistakes you are making are super similar to some I made which ended up in my marriage ending.

I think you could get her back but you likely need to first listen and then spend some time focusing on the two of you.

[Coolcalm]

Gee if only someone had spoken up to Danny about this leading to a huge problem in their marriage???? About Adam and Lauren developing real feelings for each other. Then having others, and Danny, say they know what they are doing. They communicate well (BS).
From the beginning this was fraught with danger. Now she’s walked out in her husband because he confronted her lover and was setting boundaries down, finally!
This is never worth a broken marriage. It’s supposed to be fun.

[Gulfcpl]

This has been a fiasco from the start. Why is anyone surprised?

[Jujube]

The reason Danny suggested another guy is that Adam totally disrespects Danny to the point of insulting him and just taking what he wants with no reciprocation. Danny needs to explain this to Lauren. He’s not trying to pimp her out!

[Wifesharing]

This is not the first time Lauren has checked out on Danny even before Adam she went not talking to Danny for some time even having an affair, even though it never led to full on sex. I think they are a bit in mature for this in their relationship. I hope I am wrong but I think they have done some severe damage to their marriage in the last year.

[US31]

I think Lauren will realize she and Adam had it made at home. She will convince Adam to come back, give Danny what he needs, and they can fuck all they want…and Danny will cook and clean and do laundry.

[cpmici+]

I think Lauren will realize she and Adam had it made at home. She will convince Adam to come back, give Danny what he needs, and they can fuck all they want…and Danny will cook and clean and do laundry.

.....and they will all live happily ever after.
I hope and wish that this is the end of the fairy tale, but I have serious doubts ....

[joel68]

There a whole lot of ways this could go. Lauren has left and may be mulling over what she wants to do about their marriage. Danny is just sitting on the sidelines waiting.

From what I have experienced, heard of, etc. whenever a woman is thinking about a relationship status it usually doesn't bode well for the guy. I have not experienced nor have I heard of it happily ending.

So I would guess we will just have to wait for the verdict. Whenever that will come is to be determined.

[Jujube]

I think if Lauren and Danny back off from this situation for a few weeks, Adam might come to his senses that he’s screwed up a good thing by disrespecting Danny. Also a few weeks of no pussy may make him more compliant about where he fits in. Danny and Lauren need some time together to work out what they really want and how to make this thing work out.. or not. Lots of elephants in the room still.

[joel68]

Jujube,

I agree. They never set any ground rules. An unusual situation too with Adam living there. What was dinner like? What were the seating arrangements for watching TV?

As you said, all three ignored the elephant in the room. So when Adam wanted to go to Florida, that was the catalyst for the events that followed which caused the blowup. All three of them caused this for different reasons.

Let’s hope you are correct and that something can be salvaged.

[wemightjust]

given the frequency of the sex between Lauren and Adam previously. I would amazed if they haven't met to fuck. Even before speaking to Danny, recently she seems to be putting Adam before Danny.

[Topnotch]

100 percent

[PANTIES]

I agree

[cpmici+]

A simplistic consideration of mine
Who knows how many of us would like to be in Adam's place: free room and board, as well as household utilities, laundry service, cleaning and a lover available without even leaving the house;
how many women on this forum would be in Laurem's place: a husband who adores her, allows her to be with her lover at her sole request, not having problems taking care of the house or cooking.
Danny wants to be a cuckold and asks only to be able to spy on the two lovers having sex but he is also happy to just eavesdrop and have Lauren tell him how and how well Adam fucked her. After that he takes care of tidying up the room, cleaning, laundry service and cooking meals for all three of them.
In light of this reflection of mine, I don't understand how that good-for-nothing Adam didn't realize that he had thrown away the undeserved luck he had, and Lauren that she would risk walking out of a situation so perfect for her (unless she is so infatuated with Adam's dick that it clouds her previously shown reflective abilities).
Danny loves Lauren and if I were her I would prefer to leave Adam and save the marriage.
But this is Lauren and Danny's life and only they can decide (let's hope for the best)

[MatureCouple]

Very good assessment @cpmici+, it's sad it had to implode. Could have worked out to be a great arrangement.

[joel68]

Yeah, Adam had it dicked. He didn’t have to chase women. He had a young blonde hottie with the bod of a teenager who just loved to fuck.

This had a lot of potential to get hotter. I was actually hoping that Lauren would invite Kelly and have Adam fuck her. That would’ve been hot.

Anyway, now it has imploded. Looking forward to Danny’s next post, whenever that will be. But it could be a while.

[dadah]

guys are so often accused of 'thinking' with our dicks. here we have a situation where lauren thus far is showing she is thinking with her pussy !

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

I'm bummed because two of my top three stories I follow on OHW are going down the tubes. Not that this is about me at all, just an observation. I hope both RDR and Ky-da pull it out at the last minute.

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

guys are so often accused of 'thinking' with our dicks. here we have a situation where lauren thus far is showing she is thinking with her pussy !

And Adam "isn't" thinking with his dick....oh the irony. Lol

[playwifeplease]

This is not the first time Lauren has checked out on Danny even before Adam she went not talking to Danny for some time even having an affair, even though it never led to full on sex. I think they are a bit in mature for this in their relationship. I hope I am wrong but I think they have done some severe damage to their marriage in the last year.

I agree Wifesharing (mostly)

I think they are both immature and maybe they are not in that space to be able to navigate this arrangement,.

However, I think it has been clear from the outset, that Lauren acts like an impudent child whenever things don't go her way (being fingered 1st time, emotional affair with past teacher, and finally, fucking Adam's huge cock till she comes over and over).

She goes straight to blaming Danny when things don't go her way, and now 'walking out on him' simply because he made a comment to her bull?

I know the cuck thing, what I'd give to see my little wife fucked to the edge of her fantasy!

But, this disrespect, I could never do that.. Maybe I ain't actually enough cuck?, .. I just wanna see my wife fucked good & hard, and yes, some emotional bonding would be very hot too..

But this disrespect?

Change the locks Danny, tell Lauren to come get her stuff, she can defo be replaced.

Either she will 'wake up and smell the coffee' or, ... she actually doesn't love you, and your resources are all she cares about?

Best of luck mate.

Please update us, I know you realise we love hearing all the 'hard fucking' stuff, but your emotional journey and how you both navigate it, is probably more important to most of us, and yes, we can learn from this.. Thanks for posting Danny, and hope you and Lauren can turn this around.

[Dream Weaver]

I'm bummed because two of my top three stories I follow on OHW are going down the tubes. Not that this is about me at all, just an observation. I hope both RDR and Ky-da pull it out at the last minute.

It doesn’t always up like Leglover, it often ends up like Tinto Selvagio!

[Coolcalm]

All three of these people are just so st*+p*d!
Adam-free room and board; free sex ANYTIME he wants with a hot young wife with the consent of her “head in the clouds” husband; no responsibility whatsoever-doesn’t even have to clean his own room or cook for himself!
Lauren-I don’t know…I simply don’t like her. Sure she’s hot but she is selfish and unaware and childish. Doesn’t know how good she has it and took advantage of her emotionally brain dead husband. She rubs me the wrong way.
Danny-I don’t like him either. He literally pushed Adam/Lauren to develop feelings for each other. Even when he was warned by readers of the danger WE ALL SAW COMING he pushed it aside. He was convinced it was just sex despite all the evidence to the contrary. Hard to feel bad for a guy like that.
Yet, like a bad train wreck, I’m curious to see how this disaster plays out.
I’m actually sorry for all three of them. None of them have any idea what they’re doing.

[Jujube]

Well, Adam and Danny are guys, and guys can be plenty dumb sometimes. Danny telling Adam he wants to watch sometime went over like a lead balloon, and calling your half brother a faggot while he’s putting him up(with benefits) is beyond dumb. Lauren seems very selfish and petulant, ready to bolt whenever she hears something she doesn’t like..what’s a poor mother to do?