Will wife respect My Limits?

[justlookin2day]

Do your wives/girlfriends respect your personal limits expressed outside of the bedroom? My personal limits which include creampie cleanup and direct contact with the bull have been communicated to my wife. Do most of your partners strictly follow limits placed ahead of time? Or do they push the limits?

I ask because my wife has known that I will want to eat her pussy after she has been fucked, with the understanding that she would have them wear condoms. After this past week 's events I have been told that she will probably not use condoms with the man she plans to meet in early July. I'm assuming a cream-pie will not be delivered but I am a little self-conscious about licking a freshly fucked pussy regardless. I'm feeling a little like she is already pushing my boundaries and we have not really started yet.

For now my wife will play alone but I am concerned about what I might do in the future when in the room with my wife and another man. I could imagine doing almost anything when I am desperately hard with my wife teasing me and offering up her pussy in exchange for something I am not comfortable with. For instance, licking her clit while getting fucked.

[Johnann2227]

This is something you both need to talk about. The hotwifing lifestyle, in our opinion, only works if you are both on the same page.
Also understand that while at the moment you dont want to eat her creampies or lick her clit while she is being fucked, you change over time. Hotwifing changes your mindset. It helps you break through mental barriers. It makes you realise that, so long as no-one is hurt and its legal then, pleasure is all that matters. Over our 25+ years of swinging and hotwifing I went through many stages of grosth. I started as being a man who would flinch and shift away if another man's body brushed against mine in an orgy to now enjoying sucking my wife's boyfriend's cock and now fucking him (he is bi and a bottom). Just stay open-minded.

[Wifesharing]

This is hard to answer I believe most set out to follow all limits but in the heat of moments that is not always easy to do.

I don't know I never had any limits or rules. I basically trust my wife and am fine with her doing as she pleases I am well aware that the sex between two people will never be the exact same as between two others. So i have let her do as she please and if something she does hits me a certain way i will express to her that I might be uncomfortable with that she would respect my limits like if I was to say I couldn't eat a cream pie she would not force it on me she might tell me she will shower before lol.

Limits and rules are hard you have to communicate with her only your hard limits, too many small limits that you might break on sends a message that its okay. Just always be open with her what you just can not do make those things, things you can't handle doing not things she can or can't do. I would say most if told that you don't want to eat a cream pie or a freshly fucked pussy will honor that you might need to figure how that works does she shower as soon as she gets home or what that means but limits like those I would say most would follow.

Now you should be careful not to pose to many limits because you might miss out on things you didn't know you would love. For me it has been easier to let it come at me and figure out what I can and can't handle.

[hubudig2]

It might just be the way you explained it but it sounds like you don't discuss this enough with her?
Does she enjoy pushing your limits? Is it a turn on for her?
Do you enjoy her pushing your limits? Is it a turn on for you?
Having limits and pushing them is part of the fun but it requires good trust and communication.
It sounds like she isn't doing enough to earn your trust yet, let her know (nicely).

[ucaneffher]

We started the lifestyle at the age of 19. Both quite young, immature, and fairly inexperienced with sex. We set many ground rules that were broken and many boundaries that were pushed. Examples include:

No kissing - that went out the window the first night with the first man and quite understandable as foreplay is important for sex.

Protection - that went out the window as most of her men took her raw except for one so according to math, 94.2% of her promiscuous activities were bareback. I was okay with this one as it really turned me on. She got tested many times per year.

Getting cummed was definitely a broken rule when she went away for 2 weeks with her 4th lover just one year into the lifestyle. He came in her once and she was immediately hooked. It's like it turned her into a dog in heat and for those 2 weeks she didn't let him cum anywhere except inside of her. I didn't know until she came home and told me he came inside her 6-7 times a day for 2 entire weeks...they took their vacation at the same time and had nonstop sex for vacation. I almost had a heart attack and was upset but when she teased me by telling me that she knew I liked it deep down and there was no need to be upset..
What did it for me is when she asked me "don't you find it hot that he pumped cum into me 60-100 times in the last 2 weeks? I found it hot and couldn't get enough." From that moment on, all her men finished inside of her and it was like a drug for her. I accepted and never once objected to it again.

Another one that was broken was privacy. At one point she stopped worrying and did not hide her activities. She wasn't advertising them but people would see my GF at bars and clubs with many different men. Eventually she did advertise by putting pictures on social media with other men. I think she liked cuckolding me that way and while I didn't like it then, I feel that people calling me and texting if everything was okay made me feel like such a cuckold for my girlfriend having pictures hugging different men and sitting on different laps.

Having lived all of that, I am not mad that rules and boundaries were broken. I think that overall I enjoyed the process of her training me and conditioning me to accept her behavior. I initially didn't like any of the things she was doing but admit that because of her pushing the boundaries and the way that she subtly teased me into them, I learned to truly love what she was doing. As a result of her training, I hope to see my current GF or a future GF pick up where the first hot GF left off.

[veub]

Do your wives/girlfriends respect your personal limits expressed outside of the bedroom? My personal limits which include creampie cleanup and direct contact with the bull have been communicated to my wife. Do most of your partners strictly follow limits placed ahead of time? Or do they push the limits?

I ask because my wife has known that I will want to eat her pussy after she has been fucked, with the understanding that she would have them wear condoms. After this past week 's events I have been told that she will probably not use condoms with the man she plans to meet in early July. I'm assuming a cream-pie will not be delivered but I am a little self-conscious about licking a freshly fucked pussy regardless. I'm feeling a little like she is already pushing my boundaries and we have not really started yet.

For now my wife will play alone but I am concerned about what I might do in the future when in the room with my wife and another man. I could imagine doing almost anything when I am desperately hard with my wife teasing me and offering up her pussy in exchange for something I am not comfortable with. For instance, licking her clit while getting fucked.

I would ask you if you have read anything else on this site. The only limits are the one's she chooses to impose on herself. You then have the choice to follow her instructions or leave. Both of you have complete free choice in this matter.
Face the truth - you would not have gotten into this if you didn't know that and accept that you will do as she says.

[Teensy1]

You’re talking about limits as though you’re swingers. You are not. She’s the hotwife, you’re the cuck. She decides what her limits are. You have no say. That’s how my marriage works. I would have preferred that my wife didn’t fuck our loud mouthed neighbor but I had to accept it. He satisfies her needs. I never could.

[hubudig2]

justlookin2day, don't let these guys scare you.
A cuckolding relationship is a shared journey, neither of you should be uncomfortable with it. If you can't respect each other's wellbeing, something's broken.
These guys have followed the path of submission to it's end, limits seem like a bizarre concept at that point.
Until then, limits make it more interesting, they're like sensitive areas that require extra care and attention.
Whenever a sub tells me their limits, I consider them to be the most important clues to what they actually like.

[ucaneffher]

justlookin2day, don't let these guys scare you.
A cuckolding relationship is a shared journey, neither of you should be uncomfortable with it. If you can't respect each other's wellbeing, something's broken.
These guys have followed the path of submission to it's end, limits seem like a bizarre concept at that point.
Until then, limits make it more interesting, they're like sensitive areas that require extra care and attention.
Whenever a sub tells me their limits, I consider them to be the most important clues to what they actually like.

I am definitely not trying to scare the OP but merely sharing my experience. Every cuck relationship is different and has different dynamics. In my case our relationship started as a stag/hot girlfriend and it resulted in a cuck/hot girlfriend relationship.

I agree that it's a journey that should be shared between husband and wife or bf/gf if not married. Definitely agree that everyone should feel comfortable and at ease without fear or having to put up with things that make you uncomfortable.

In my case I felt that I liked her pushing my boundaries and using her sexiness and sexuality to convince or make me realize that I wanted it just as much as she did. I would consider that the independent dynamic that her and I had and why we both loved the lifestyle and being in it with each other.

Do what works best for both of you and what makes you both happy within the lifestyle and in your relationship. Keep open communication and be very honest. Good luck!

[Cdncuck]

I would ask you if you have read anything else on this site. The only limits are the one's she chooses to impose on herself. You then have the choice to follow her instructions or leave. Both of you have complete free choice in this matter.
Face the truth - you would not have gotten into this if you didn't know that and accept that you will do as she says.

If that works for you, great. However, each couple has a right to participate in this in a way that works best for them. For us, this is a partnership where both partners have an equal say in what's going on.

We establish mutually acceptable boundaries. If either partner wants to change those we discuss it. In situations where we don't agree it usually winds up with some form of compromise. The type of relationship you're advocating just wouldn't work for us.

[veub]

I would ask you if you have read anything else on this site. The only limits are the one's she chooses to impose on herself. You then have the choice to follow her instructions or leave. Both of you have complete free choice in this matter.
Face the truth - you would not have gotten into this if you didn't know that and accept that you will do as she says.

If that works for you, great. However, each couple has a right to participate in this in a way that works best for them. For us, this is a partnership where both partners have an equal say in what's going on.

We establish mutually acceptable boundaries. If either partner wants to change those we discuss it. In situations where we don't agree it usually winds up with some form of compromise. The type of relationship you're advocating just wouldn't work for us.

I'm not advocating that. Just stating reality.
Both of them have free will. If she wants to do something and he disagrees, she can choose to go ahead with it or not. If she does do it, he has the choice to accept it or leave. If your wife decides to impose limits on herself to satisfy your concerns (or the other way around,) it's great for you that she chose that.
BTW, I am not in this lifestyle and wouldn't want to be, but the site provides great fodder for story ideas.

[justlookin2day]

This is hard to answer I believe most set out to follow all limits but in the heat of moments that is not always easy to do.

I don't know I never had any limits or rules. I basically trust my wife and am fine with her doing as she pleases I am well aware that the sex between two people will never be the exact same as between two others. So i have let her do as she please and if something she does hits me a certain way i will express to her that I might be uncomfortable with that she would respect my limits like if I was to say I couldn't eat a cream pie she would not force it on me she might tell me she will shower before lol.

Limits and rules are hard you have to communicate with her only your hard limits, too many small limits that you might break on sends a message that its okay. Just always be open with her what you just can not do make those things, things you can't handle doing not things she can or can't do. I would say most if told that you don't want to eat a cream pie or a freshly fucked pussy will honor that you might need to figure how that works does she shower as soon as she gets home or what that means but limits like those I would say most would follow.

Now you should be careful not to pose to many limits because you might miss out on things you didn't know you would love. For me it has been easier to let it come at me and figure out what I can and can't handle.

We have talked a lot the last few days about how our relationship will look going forward and limits I might want to impose. I now understand that in the heat of the moment my wife will make decisions about what she and her partner do sexually. She may do something unexpected or out of character and does not want to be judged once she tells me. If I don't think I can handle this then she says we could stop everything now and go back to our monogamous relationship. Of course this is not what I want at all and she clearly knows it as even discussing logistics of our NYC trip in July gives me an erection.

In giving me an example of how unexpected things might develop he also told me something I did not know from her encounter last Thursday. The guy she gave a bj to last week had a smaller cock than me which she told me she really, unexpectedly, enjoyed sucking. We don't have anal sex because she says I am too thick, and that I get too hard, although I know she had anal sex with her long-term partners in the past. Apparently, she was so turned on by sucking him that when he asked if she liked anal she said yes and that she would be open to doing it with him in the future. She now says that she will do it with him because she used to really like anal sex with guys who were too small to satisfy her through PIV. I am getting a better feel for how I need to react so rather than seeming jealous that another man would get to do something with her that I don't, I said that I hoped that she really enjoys herself and am happy he can give her something I can't.

[justlookin2day]

It might just be the way you explained it but it sounds like you don't discuss this enough with her?
Does she enjoy pushing your limits? Is it a turn on for her?
Do you enjoy her pushing your limits? Is it a turn on for you?
Having limits and pushing them is part of the fun but it requires good trust and communication.
It sounds like she isn't doing enough to earn your trust yet, let her know (nicely).

We did discuss general limits and expectations but somehow I was oblivious to the fact that these encounters would not follow a script. Now I see that I was a bit foolish as it is a very dynamic situation!

As for her pushing my limits, at this point I do not think it is a turn on for her. The much-feared accidental creampie cleanup is not something that she says would turn her on. It would simply be a result of her being fucked raw and him finishing inside her. Now that she understands it is a turn off for me she says she will make sure to tell me if it happens.
I have definitely pushed her limits by starting this journey so that is of course a turn on. But if she says she only wants to be with one man at a time then I will not push an MFM or FFM. Before me she was with white, black, asian and hispanic men and at least 5 women so a lot of the normal limits haven't applied to her in the past at least.

[saunder]

I think when it comes to the moment, the actual scenario then the heat of the moment takes over. I think once they get horny it can be a difficult situation to control. after our first experience which was very recent she told me that in the initial moment it all started she told me that she just used her tongue on the end of his dick, but since looking back at it she had no problem taking a mouth full. I don't think she even knew herself what actually happened.

[justlookin2day]

My wife and I had sex this past Thursday, a few hours after her date with another man was confirmed for next week in NYC. She and I were looking at some cuckold posts on Reddit, some of which are really explicit and involve acts that I am not currently interested in. These included cleanup (both creampie and the bull's cock) and she asked what I thought and I told her that I was not into it. She did not say if she was.
She started riding me while talking about what she wants to happen next week and after about 5 minutes she asked if I would lick her pussy after being fucked. I said yes, as long as a condom is used. She said that there was a good chance she would not use one and that she would like me to lick her anyway. I said that if she really wanted me to do it and I was really turned on then I would if that is what she wants me to do. She immediately came really hard and rolled off me, leaving me to jack off. Afterwards she said the image in her mind of me cleaning her pussy was so hot and caused her to have an instant orgasm. I really can't imagine doing it next week, but it is interesting how she is really taking to a cuckoldry.

[bowlerlb]

My wife and I had sex this past Thursday, a few hours after her date with another man was confirmed for next week in NYC. She and I were looking at some cuckold posts on Reddit, some of which are really explicit and involve acts that I am not currently interested in. These included cleanup (both creampie and the bull's cock) and she asked what I thought and I told her that I was not into it. She did not say if she was.
She started riding me while talking about what she wants to happen next week and after about 5 minutes she asked if I would lick her pussy after being fucked. I said yes, as long as a condom is used. She said that there was a good chance she would not use one and that she would like me to lick her anyway. I said that if she really wanted me to do it and I was really turned on then I would if that is what she wants me to do. She immediately came really hard and rolled off me, leaving me to jack off. Afterwards she said the image in her mind of me cleaning her pussy was so hot and caused her to have an instant orgasm. I really can't imagine doing it next week, but it is interesting how she is really taking to a cuckoldry.

Yes. Two things that wives love. One is having her Bull fuck her bareback and to cum in her and on her pussy. The other is as you just found out, the thrill of having hubby clean up her freshly fucked pussy and her Bull's cock. For her the cleanup is the highlight of the session. You will soon get good at it and enjoy it as much as she does.

[elina]

I think the interesting aspect here is about the difference between respecting limits and pushing boundaries.

To me, it seems like the Wife of justlookin2day is really discovering how much She would enjoy being a Cuckoldress.
Not just fucking other males, but also pushing the boundaries of Her husband to make him demonstrate his commitment and how much he wants to please Her while being pushed beyond his current limits.

I myself would really love for my Wife to do that,
Maybe justlookin2day will also discover that the urge to please his Wife will overcome his reluctance to eat a creampie from Her lover when he sees how much this means to Her?

Sincerely
elina

[hubudig2]

You now know how much the idea turns her on!
You've also now said that you're potentially open to it and she will have taken that as it's no longer a hard limit but one she's allowed to push.
I think you'll be choosing between doing it voluntarily, being persuaded or being forced.
When faced with it, surely knowing how much she'll enjoy it and that she'll cum hard from it will be a strong incentive?