10s safeword rule

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10s safeword rule

Unread post by TeunJ9207 » Tue Jun 18, 2024 4:04 am

Things developed quite rapidly over here. Once my wife tried a the hotwife treatment once, she was amazed by it. Nowadays she has one bull who is fucking her one tot hree times per week. We are very happy with how this is going and she enjoys it a lot.

The bull is very talkative and they have great chemistry. They like hard, rough sex and that is what they are doing most of the times.

Now comes my concern... my wife is curious for a threesome of foursome with 2 or 3 bulls. She did several threesomes with 2 guys in the past and liked that enough to become curious again.

Her bull has a few friends in the lifestyle who he chartered for a foursome with my wife. As they all have massive cocks, they agreed a safeword. Makes sense.

But now comes my concern... they agreed that after she said the safeword, they can fuck her for another 10 seconds before they stop. She explained to me that if a guy is almost cumming, they deserve 10s to actually cum. And that it even sometimes happens that the wife a few seconds after the safeword eventually starts enjoying it again, withdrawing her safeword.

To me this sounds like non consensual sex and I am worried that if she really is in pain, it would be traumatizing if she has to take it for another 10 seconds (or more, who says they use an exact timer or something?).

My wife says she is willing to take the risk and she does not thing those 10s will hurt her. She does acknowledge that she probably uses the safeword as she is no true big cock hero when they go balls deep.

What do you think about this 10s safeword rule? Maybe anybody who already has experience with this?

Am I overly worried or should I try to stop her with this ?

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by Cdncuck » Tue Jun 18, 2024 5:22 am

It sounds foolish and dangerous to me. You say they have big cocks. Do you think if she experienced a torn vaginal lining someone should keep fucking her? That's just one possibility. There are many other things that could go wrong. We're involved in bdsm. The parties we attend, no means no and once a safe word is used, it stops immediately! If the guy you're seeing is telling you something different, he's wrong. Put your wife's health and safety ahead of some stranger's pleasure.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by ugcp » Tue Jun 18, 2024 5:56 am

It's coming down to interpretation of the term. Some folks use a YELLOW and RED safeword system, and it sounds like the safeword being discussed here is more of a yellow. A red should mean full & immediate stop.. as in, emergency stop... something is seriously wrong and needs to be dealt with immediately. There's no 10 second bullshit for a hard red fullstop.

If she/they want to have some yellow-level safeword that means keep going for 10 seconds and reassess, then that's up to them I guess. In my experience, in the heat of the moment, complexity and interpretation of things is generally not what you want to be going on, so I don't bother with that stuff. If my partner is in distress, we can slow or stop, depending on her urgency of communication, and figure out what she needs. Doesn't need to get so wrapped up in protocol or procedure.

Her: Wait!
Me: *stops* what's wrong?
Her: You're on my hair!
Me: oops. There we go
Her: okay, keep going!

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by elina » Tue Jun 18, 2024 6:11 am

Well,

I guess this means that your Wife just need to use the safe word before things get critical for Her.
I guess if She is confident She can handle this, then it should not be a big problem.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by SheLikesWhenIWatch » Tue Jun 18, 2024 7:00 am

I’ve never understood the concept of a “safe word.”

How about the word “STOP!”?

And, yes. I agree with you. 10 more seconds is 10 seconds too long. When she says her “safe word,” EVERYTHING stops! She’s in charge, not them.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by hubudig2 » Tue Jun 18, 2024 7:26 am

SheLikesWhenIWatch wrote:
Tue Jun 18, 2024 7:00 am
I’ve never understood the concept of a “safe word.”
It's more for CNC (rape roleplay) where she might be screaming things like "stop" as part of the roleplay.
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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by SheLikesWhenIWatch » Tue Jun 18, 2024 11:22 am

hubudig2 wrote:
Tue Jun 18, 2024 7:26 am
SheLikesWhenIWatch wrote:
Tue Jun 18, 2024 7:00 am
I’ve never understood the concept of a “safe word.”
It's more for CNC (rape roleplay) where she might be screaming things like "stop" as part of the roleplay.
Oh. That makes perfect sense!

She uses her “safe word,” and the fellows fucking her give themselves 10 seconds to rape her!

I see!

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by TeunJ9207 » Tue Jun 18, 2024 1:22 pm

Thanks everyone. At least my concerns are valid.
elina wrote:
Tue Jun 18, 2024 6:11 am
your Wife just need to use the safe word before things get critical for Her.
I guess if She is confident She can handle this, then it should not be a big problem.
That is exactly how she sees it...
SheLikesWhenIWatch wrote:
Tue Jun 18, 2024 11:22 am
the fellows fucking her give themselves 10 seconds to rape her
And this is how I see it...

The difficulty is that she already went through non consensual sexual acts in the past during a foursome which afterwards she confessed she liked very much.

Also her bull said this is a very common condition in the foursomes they organize. One of the bulls has a very good stamina and a huge dick (11 inch) and she really wants him to fuck her good, no matter what he demands.

She does not see the risks I see and thinks it will not be that bad. To me it just sounds like an easy change to rape her with consent, so to say. I mean, if they are enjoying themselves during rough fucking, she yells the safeword which means they only have 10s left. Than probably they will fuck her even harder in that particular position, right? And if they still enjoy it, who says they will stop after 10s and not just continue?

I think it is a difficult discussion. I will try once more to get her back to reality. Otherwise I will try to at least be there in the room so I can react when needed.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by luvymayfly2 » Tue Jun 18, 2024 2:49 pm

I do not like this 10 second delay thingy. Maybe try the yellow, red approach as a compromise.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by Johnann2227 » Tue Jun 18, 2024 5:38 pm

We have never heard of this 10 seconds after the safe word has been said. A safe word means everything stops immediately. Also it doesn't sound like your wife's pleasure is the priority of this group. Everything should be about her not them just getting off. We would steer clear of this group.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by Zangze » Tue Jun 18, 2024 5:51 pm

It's not just for CNC. Anybody practicing BDSM should have at least one safeword, which means play comes to a full, immediate stop. Different kinks and fetishes, along with various types of roleplay, can involve situations where words are used or sounds are made which would normally be indications that something is wrong, but in that sort of space are just par for the course. A safe word is established to allow each participant to have a way to clearly communicate that there is a problem or concern, using a word or gesture that is otherwise not going to come up.

For example, if you're engaging with someone in play in the S&M space, who enjoys some pain and wants to play roughly, the line between acceptable, pleasurable levels of pain and too much pain may not be that wide. Being able to differentiate between a playful "Oh god that hurts" to elevate the experience, and a serious "Oh god that hurts" that is going too far or potentially even has caused a medical situation is paramount. Trying to figure out which is being communicated in the moment can be very difficult though. Knowing that when they say "Boysenberry" completely out of the blue means "No questions, full stop" removes all the ambiguity and leads to safer, less risky play.

In any sort of BDSM, or even just rough or extreme play outside of the BDSM space, all participants should have agreed on at least a "full stop" safe word. As mentioned earlier in the thread some people/couples/groups sometimes also choose to have a "yellow" word that is used as a more relaxed "This is uncomfortable, but not painful/dangerous/problematic, so ease up a bit" or "Stop when you can so we can talk" word.

If these guys are wanting to proceed with just a yellow word, with no way for her to give a red emergency stop communication, they're doing it wrong, and that could be dangerous. Will it be? Probably not. The whole point though is to plan for the worst case scenarios, despite hoping they never come up. Better safe than sorry.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by TeunJ9207 » Tue Jun 18, 2024 11:00 pm

She won't be doing BDSM, it is 'only' oral sex and rough fucking in all holes.

So the only risk would be that the biggest dick (11 inch x 4 inch) wants to fuck her balls deep and she can't handle it. She says they will build op gradually and she is confident she will can handle max 10 extra seconds if they go too deep.

I think she has great chemistry with her bulls and she does not want to scare them away by rejecting their rules. Plus she loves being fucked real hard.

I'm afraid I cannot change her mind so let's hope for the best tonight...

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by elina » Wed Jun 19, 2024 1:15 am

TeunJ9207 wrote:
Tue Jun 18, 2024 11:00 pm

I'm afraid I cannot change her mind so let's hope for the best tonight...
If your Wife is sure this is what She wants,
that is the best you can do.

Plus the males in all likelihood does not want to hurt Her, I would guess what they really want is to push Her into an experience She cannot forget and will desperately want to repeat itself ;)

Please let us know how this goes...

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by user322 » Wed Jun 19, 2024 3:59 am

TeunJ9207 wrote:
Tue Jun 18, 2024 1:22 pm
Thanks everyone. At least my concerns are valid.
elina wrote:
Tue Jun 18, 2024 6:11 am
your Wife just need to use the safe word before things get critical for Her.
I guess if She is confident She can handle this, then it should not be a big problem.
That is exactly how she sees it...
SheLikesWhenIWatch wrote:
Tue Jun 18, 2024 11:22 am
the fellows fucking her give themselves 10 seconds to rape her
And this is how I see it...

The difficulty is that she already went through non consensual sexual acts in the past during a foursome which afterwards she confessed she liked very much.

Also her bull said this is a very common condition in the foursomes they organize. One of the bulls has a very good stamina and a huge dick (11 inch) and she really wants him to fuck her good, no matter what he demands.

She does not see the risks I see and thinks it will not be that bad. To me it just sounds like an easy change to rape her with consent, so to say. I mean, if they are enjoying themselves during rough fucking, she yells the safeword which means they only have 10s left. Than probably they will fuck her even harder in that particular position, right? And if they still enjoy it, who says they will stop after 10s and not just continue?

I think it is a difficult discussion. I will try once more to get her back to reality. Otherwise I will try to at least be there in the room so I can react when needed.
If the men don't stop after the safe word it's a big problem, but in reality whether there is time for 10s or not, the bull who does not want to respect the rules will not respect them, that is there a security word or not......
Then the main parameter is that the woman is voluntary in trying to exceed 10s, so it is not against her will.....the fact of exceeding 10s even though she has said the safety word, in this context it is part of "a game" that the woman wants to play..... plus 10s is not 1mn..... it's quite fast, it's really just for " playing a game of disrespect".... a game, not a reality, especially if it is the woman who agrees to try, I repeat.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by TeunJ9207 » Thu Jun 20, 2024 12:36 pm

So, the date took place and nothing disastrous happened 😀

She went out last night to a hotel for a foursome and recorded the whole thing so I could watch parts of it later on. Which I did today.

The bulls started slowly but soon flipped her on the bed, entered her pussy and started pounding it right away prone bone with a cushion underneath her vagina. When the biggest bull entered her, she was struggling a bit but also enjoyed it.

It seemed like the bulls made some rules between them beforehand because right before he started pounding her really hard and balls deep, he made eye contact with the other bulls and one of them put her arms behind her back and pushed her neck to the bed. Right after this, the biggest bull started pounding her at full speed and within seconds she yelled the safeword. The bull holding her, forced her down a bit extra and the big one kept pounding her for 53 seconds (I timed it) after which he stopped with his penis still deep inside, asking her if she really wants to stop which she did.

They than switched positions several times where the two smaller bulls were fucking her. They were not big enough for her to use the safeword. She came a few times and they tried several positions.

Than again, the bulls had eyecontact just before the big one started fucking her again. They put her in missionary with her head hanging over the edge of the bed. One bull started fucking her throat and one bull kind of set on her chest and holded her ankles far back so the big one could enter her quite deep. Initially he fucked her half deep and she even squirted. After a short blink, he went over to pounding her balls deep again at full speed. She still had the other dick in her mouth so couldn't say anything. It looked like she was struggling and when the dick went out of her mouth after 46 seconds, she immediately yelled the safeword. After an extra 42 seconds of fucking, the bull stopped, pulled out, licked her pussy for some time and fingered her to a squirting orgasm. Then he said he 'let's try again' and they repeated quite the same thing only a bit longer. After she yelled the safeword, he kept fucking and 93 seconds later she orgasmed heavily telling the bull she loves him and begged him to not stop and keep fucking which he did. It looked like she now became used to his dick and the rest of the date she took his dick as a good girl.

She says she really enjoyed this session and in 2 days she has another date with the big bull.

She says the 10s rule works fine for her and she has no problem with it not being exactly 10s as long as it would not become minutes.
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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by TeunJ9207 » Thu Jun 20, 2024 2:07 pm

One thing I forgot to mention is that for her next date with the big Bull, he already convinced her that she doesn't need a safeword as she also could handle his dick in the end today.

Again I am a bit worried about that as today it seemed like he was stretching the rules a bit and at least she had the safeword to somewhat stop it. During the next date she gives him all permissions to do what he wants as she is convinced she will have great orgasms if he just keeps pounding her even if that will be difficult for her in the beginning.

Next date will be with the big bull only (no others to help control her) but he does use handcuffs etc.

They agreed to keep fucking until she had 11 orgasms, which they both found a magic number as he has an 11 inch cock.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by snoogaloo82 » Thu Jun 20, 2024 3:50 pm

TeunJ9207 wrote:
Thu Jun 20, 2024 2:07 pm
One thing I forgot to mention is that for her next date with the big Bull, he already convinced her that she doesn't need a safeword as she also could handle his dick in the end today.

Again I am a bit worried about that as today it seemed like he was stretching the rules a bit and at least she had the safeword to somewhat stop it. During the next date she gives him all permissions to do what he wants as she is convinced she will have great orgasms if he just keeps pounding her even if that will be difficult for her in the beginning.

Next date will be with the big bull only (no others to help control her) but he does use handcuffs etc.

They agreed to keep fucking until she had 11 orgasms, which they both found a magic number as he has an 11 inch cock.
Please keep us updated as to what happens next! I'm curious to find out what the big guy will do next and how quickly she gets to 11 orgasms.
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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by elina » Thu Jun 20, 2024 9:05 pm

Dear Teun

Thanks for the update.
I am glad to hear that your Wife is doing well and is now longing for another date with the biggest bull.

Maybe these bulls have experienced with other Women before that the Lady needs some time to adjust to this really big cock and that some Ladies may draw the plug to soon, preventing them from getting used to what they would otherwise ultimately enjoy.

Hope you will continue to update.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by Magellanic29 » Sat Jun 22, 2024 3:17 am

This is a super hot thread wow! Glad to hear the wife is ok. Surprised to hear she went on another date with him so soon. That safe word sure didn't last long wow.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by TeunJ9207 » Mon Jun 24, 2024 2:08 pm

The next date took place now and I got to watch the video again. It was at the bulls house.

Before they started, he once more verified if she didn't want to agree on a safe word which she confirmed.

They started slowly, kissing, sucking his cock, licking her pussy, giving her the first orgasm.

Then he directed her to lay flat on the bed so he could fuck her prone bone. I think he already expected her to struggle with his 11 inch cock. He handcuffed her hands behind her back and also restrained her ankles. She was blindfolded as well.

First he fucked her slowly and only half deep. She liked this very much and orgasmed once more.

After a while, he went full speed and balls deep. She took this for about a minute and than started screaming and yelling her former safeword. He took this as extra motivation to fuck her even harder after which she almost immediately orgasmed. He didn't care and just kept fucking her as hard as he could.

After another orgasm, he flipped her on her back with her head hanging over the edge of the bed. She was still handcuffed and blindfolded. He fucked her mouth for a while after which he left the room for a moment.

Then I was really surprised to see another well hung bull enter the room, hop on the bed and started fucking her in a deep missionary position. Again, she was struggling and became somewhat vocal. At that moment the initial bull came back and fucked her mouth again. At that moment she realized that there were 2 bulls fucking her but she did not say a word about it.

Just like the previous time, the bulls looked at each other, the first one went deep throat and holded her head tight and the other one started fucking her full speed. She had no where to go, could not say a word and orgasmed after a few minutes.

Once she was used to the big cocks, they put her in doggystyle and each took their turns fucking her. When one bull became exhausted, they switched and went on for more than an hour. At one point the second bull left the room and I am not sure of he came back or if it was a third guy looking almost the same. She had many orgasms and the bulls enjoyed fucking her hard and deep. They counted her orgasms and she reached 11 ones, as they agreed upfront.

When she headed towards her 12 orgasm, the bull said that this was not agreed and denied her orgasm. Every time she almost orgasmed, they pulled out and let her cool down. They did this about 10 times, making her horny as hell. When they were done, they fingered her just a little bit over the edge while she was still handcuffed. She was craving for more stimulation but they just stopped, saying 'that's 11 1/2 orgasms'.

That day she came home and immediately started playing with her Satisfyer airpulse vibrator. She came extremely hard like fireworks. It was incredibly hot to watch.

Nothing planned yet as next date but she will definitely meet this bull again.
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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by elina » Mon Jun 24, 2024 9:11 pm

Thanks for sharing.

Very interesting to see how your Wife has now gone to craving sex with these bulls.
Did you recognize any of the 2(?) additional bulls as anyone in the first group who fucked Her last week?
Did they keep her blindfolded all the time or did she eventually see and say hello to Her other bull(s)?

Finally, are you having sex with Her now that She is waiting for the next opportunity with Her new bull?

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by TeunJ9207 » Tue Jun 25, 2024 1:39 am

No they were definitely not the same guys.

She was blindfolded as long as they were there, she never saw them. When she asked her bull who they were, he asked if she liked it, to which she said Yes. He than said that it doesn't matter than who they were, which she agrees with.

They are already making plans for the next time. He said he had some more well hung friends who want to fuck her and they want to do anal as well.

He also found that she was too loud, so next time they will find a different location or put a gag in her mouth.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by Magellanic29 » Fri Jun 28, 2024 5:01 am

Such a hot thread. Your wife is a champ. How are you holding up though Teun?

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by TeunJ9207 » Fri Jun 28, 2024 1:22 pm

I find it fantastic what is happening nowadays. I full support her and am very happy to see that she gets so much pleasure out of this.

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Re: 10s safeword rule

Unread post by elina » Sun Jun 30, 2024 4:21 am

Thanks TeunJ9207

Has your Wife had more encounters with any of Her Bulls?
Seems to me this is really a network of bulls who cooperates to turn White Wives into complete sluts for them and who share the Ladies between them. Do you understand how this works?

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