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Whether you're a real cuck or an aspiring wannabe, I think we all get the appeal of cuckolding - that's why we're here!

And I think most understand the very, very real concept of "cuckold angst" and the rollercoaster of feelings we go through on this journey.

I wonder if anyone can relate to a feeling I sort of have right now, I'll call it "the cuckold blahs".

By November, I will have been a cuckold for 15 years. In that time, my wife has slept with dozens and dozens of men. This past February, our long-term bull (8 years) moved to the other side of the country. This has dramatically changed my wife's sex life and to some extent, our dynamic as well. She still has one other regular lover she sees around here, but he is less of a "bull" than he is a lover. She has periodically been seeing a second lover, a younger co-worker, although that appears to be fizzling out a bit.

While she is still cuckolding me, she is seeing other men less than she used to and even when she does, none of it is really new.

We do incorporate humiliation into our marriage, but that too is not really new. I've worn panties for four years now and while I still feel humiliated by this when I really stop to think about it, I actually don't think about it often at all anymore it has become so routine.

It feels like we're in a little rut right now where my wife's sex life has calmed down considerably. When she does go on a date it's with the same guys and nothing new really happens.

Maybe this is middle age. Maybe it's 15 years of marriage. Maybe it's a temporary lull or the lack of anything new and exciting. I don't know what it is.

Any other cucks know what I'm talking about?

Maybe you all could take a break to reignite the spark? Maybe go back to regular briefs and stuff like that? She could also download a dating app and look at prospective dates while you please her (back rub, oral).

The blahs can happen to every couple and sometimes a break and communication can help a lot.

Good luck!

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

Whether you're a real cuck or an aspiring wannabe, I think we all get the appeal of cuckolding - that's why we're here!

And I think most understand the very, very real concept of "cuckold angst" and the rollercoaster of feelings we go through on this journey.

I wonder if anyone can relate to a feeling I sort of have right now, I'll call it "the cuckold blahs".

By November, I will have been a cuckold for 15 years. In that time, my wife has slept with dozens and dozens of men. This past February, our long-term bull (8 years) moved to the other side of the country. This has dramatically changed my wife's sex life and to some extent, our dynamic as well. She still has one other regular lover she sees around here, but he is less of a "bull" than he is a lover. She has periodically been seeing a second lover, a younger co-worker, although that appears to be fizzling out a bit.

While she is still cuckolding me, she is seeing other men less than she used to and even when she does, none of it is really new.

We do incorporate humiliation into our marriage, but that too is not really new. I've worn panties for four years now and while I still feel humiliated by this when I really stop to think about it, I actually don't think about it often at all anymore it has become so routine.

It feels like we're in a little rut right now where my wife's sex life has calmed down considerably. When she does go on a date it's with the same guys and nothing new really happens.

Maybe this is middle age. Maybe it's 15 years of marriage. Maybe it's a temporary lull or the lack of anything new and exciting. I don't know what it is.

Any other cucks know what I'm talking about?

I know what you're talking about... I think this is the reason why the ex and I kept pushing to extremes more and more as time passed. Once things began feeling like normal, we'd want more risk and excitement.

Example, we started as stag/hot GF couple, shortly after it became normal, we started shifting towards cucking (without the typical humiliation/sissification) so de-prioritizing me, eventually that became normal so we agreed to break up publicly so she could date and she did, that led to my gf going to live with him for 18 months.

She came back home, we reconnected for a a couple of months with her having minimal activity with other men but still going out one or twice a week until we both started craving her doing crazy stuff and pushing my boundaries again. We agreed she should start dating again and shortly after her regular of like 4 years became her full time boyfriend. We wanted it to be realistic, so they made it social media official and she decided to cut me off. It led to them spending holidays, birthdays, going to family events together, vacations... She was now his and would tease me with pics/videos of her life with him and it was so intense for both of us.

Being sexually exclusive to him and spending every day away with him led to falling in love so now I had to endure hearing her say "I love you too" when she talked to him on the phone, when they had sex it was love making not fucking. It was difficult for me in the beginning to step aside and watch her all bubbly and having butterflies, getting happy to go spend time away with him whether a few hours per day, a weekend, or 10 days on vacation...I eventually grew to accept their serious relationship, accept my place as her cuckold and as her second option.

Despite liking it, I had a moment of weakness where I could not handle it despite wanting it. The more I fought myself, the more I wanted to see her become his. Eventually this led to my current status where I think that I want my future partner to have a boyfriend and eventually move him in to our place and watch him become her primary in front of me.

Sometimes we want more intensity, risk, and something out of the norm. I have steadily incremented all of those with the ex and sadly feel that I still want more. If I ever get in the lifestyle again, I'd still want to start from zero and work our way up to her having a long term serious relationship.

It's a tricky one.

You will never normally beat those highs of 'the first time', be it the first time that she fucks someone else, the first time he sees you masturbating while watching them, the first time you slip those panties on, etc.

I think you have to accept that you can't always keep escalating things to achieve greater and greater 'highs'.
You can compare being a cuckold to being a drinker or drug taker. Is it wise to keep chasing a higher 'high'?

In your situation you have talked about wearing panties, then a bra or bikini. Even, one time at least, a story of being in fancy dress as a woman, and being 'forced' to stay wearing it in public.
Where next on that route? Full crossdressing? More and more time crossdressed in public? Constantly searching the next 'high', pushing the limits?

I think the better solution is to have a variety of 'vices'. Panty wearing or more, bondage, bdsm, pee play, enforced chastity and whatever other kinks, vices you like. Then 'ring the changes' regularly. It might be that you favour one 'vice' for a few days, a few weeks, or a few months. Then, when that gets a bit dull, swop to something else. Maybe sometimes throw a few kinks together. Maybe occaisionally have a 'special' where you throw everything in the mix......you knelt in the bath, in panties, cock cage on, hands tied behind you, having just been spanked by both of them, then they pee on you, and laugh when your wife masturbates you to a ruined orgasm.

Then dial it back down, go back to just panty wearing for a while, before changing again.

You wouldn't be happy eating the same meal every day. But neither can you realistically expect to eat a totally different meal every day. You normally end up with a repetoire of maybe 10 meals that you eat regularly, maybe another 10 that you eat now and again, another 10 that are only for when you have the time to prepare them, etc, etc.....

It's the old "Variety is the spice of life" expression.

Yeah, it calmed down for me near the end of our marriage. When we were engaged and for the first few years, my wife worked at a summer camp and was getting laid every day. Even for more milder cuckolding, she danced burlesque and performed sexually with other men so I got to sit and watch that with friends. Eventually it was reduced to her seeing a well hung jazz musician she was in a band with years ago, about twice a year.

It turned out to be really good for our marriage. Cuckolding is fun, but like anything, it can take over. We had a more healthy, more normal sex life where I was able to focus on my wife, not another man between her legs. She was able to focus more on me. It was a lull where we used to improve our game with each other.

I think we have all experienced the blahs if we have been in the lifestyle for several years and there is already some great advice before me.

When Kelly decided to get back into the lifestyle post the kids, she decided not to have a regular boyfriend. She decided only to see people from out of town and that meant she saw different people regularly. That in itself gave a lot of cuckold angst and tension for me and anticipation and woo'ing for her. If a guy is fun out of bed (dinner, movie, etc.) and good in bed then she may seen him for several months but as he may only come to town 1x a month it still keeps it fresh.

We also mix things up such as her deciding I am her primary and wanting sex all the time. Given I am not usually allowed to cum in her this becomes really exciting (for me) but she knows that she wants more and after a few days will start commenting on needing a bigger cock or needing the romance of dates and a new guy. Works for both of us!

She likes be a unicorn for couples, especially if the woman hasn't been with a woman before. If she takes a break from guys only then she will match with first-time couples. She says she likes taking someone's virginity. She finds a lot of women won't let their man fuck her but the guy is desperate too and Kelly enjoys watching him squirm as he watches Kelly with his wife. She does always join the wife in a blow job and ensure she takes the finish.

We have other things as well but nothing replaces cuckolding which is why we always come back to it. But we always try 1-2 'breaks' during the year to keep us appreciating what we have.

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

By November, I will have been a cuckold for 15 years.

That's amazing! 15 years is a long time! Congratulations to you and your wife! I hope the two of you do something special to commemorate your 15 year cuckold anniversary!

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

In that time, my wife has slept with dozens and dozens of men.

That's awesome!!!!

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

She still has one other regular lover she sees around here, but he is less of a "bull" than he is a lover. She has periodically been seeing a second lover, a younger co-worker...

That's so great! I've read several posts on here about guys whose wives can barely find the time and opportunity to meet up with men. You and your wife must be doing something right if she has a regular lover, plus a second occasional lover! Again, congratulations!

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

We do incorporate humiliation into our marriage, but that too is not really new. I've worn panties for four years now...

You're blowing my mind! Four years straight of wearing panties!!! I don't know what kind of shape you're in, but whether you're flabby or ripped, I bet you look pretty ridiculous in your panties!

Do you ever just stand in front of the mirror in your panties and look at yourself? I mean, really look at yourself. Without being distracted by thinking about what color shirt or which pair of pants you're about to put on. That's how your wife sees you every single day in the morning and before bed - as a pantied cuckold!

Do you ever imagine what it's like for your wife to see you in panties every single day? For her to no longer associate men's underwear as an item of clothing that's suitable for you to wear? Regardless of how much she respects you as a husband, I bet four years of wearing panties has really solidified her perception of you as being less manly than her lovers.

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

When she does go on a date it's with the same guys and nothing new really happens.

Your wife goes on dates with these guys!!! Actual dates? Not just secret, sexual rendezvous? Your wife actually goes out in public on dates with these other men! And it's nothing new! This is literally a routine thing for her! It's normal for her to leave you at home while she's out in public on a date with another man! Wow!!! So on top of having two current lovers, if a guy asked her out on date, even though it's known that she's married, I'm guessing she's at liberty to say yes. That's so crazy! Your wife is sort of a free agent, so to speak.

Sounds to me like you're living the dream! Again, congratulations to the both of you on a successful, long-term cuckold marriage!

My one suggestion to you is to Google "practicing gratitude."

How about "all of the above?!" :-) And in all fairness, I wasn't getting as hard and excited as I used to. Because it wasn't happening as often it remained "somewhat" exciting to both of us, but yes, less exciting as we knew what was going to happen. Part of the allure of our "fetish" is the planning and anticipation, I guess.

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

Whether you're a real cuck or an aspiring wannabe, I think we all get the appeal of cuckolding - that's why we're here!

And I think most understand the very, very real concept of "cuckold angst" and the rollercoaster of feelings we go through on this journey.

I wonder if anyone can relate to a feeling I sort of have right now, I'll call it "the cuckold blahs".

By November, I will have been a cuckold for 15 years.

It feels like we're in a little rut right now where my wife's sex life has calmed down considerably. When she does go on a date it's with the same guys and nothing new really happens.

Maybe this is middle age. Maybe it's 15 years of marriage. Maybe it's a temporary lull or the lack of anything new and exciting. I don't know what it is.

Any other cucks know what I'm talking about?

Actually, you are right: I probably should be doing a better job of appreciating the journey of the last 15 years rather than bemoaning that we're presently in one of its' less scenic parts.

You're right, I have a lot to be grateful for. I'm sorry if my post came across as ungrateful or in any way disrespectful. I appreciate the perspective you've offered me here.

ChrisCuck wrote: ↑

Sun Jul 07, 2024 8:11 am

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

By November, I will have been a cuckold for 15 years.

That's amazing! 15 years is a long time! Congratulations to you and your wife! I hope the two of you do something special to commemorate your 15 year cuckold anniversary!

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

In that time, my wife has slept with dozens and dozens of men.

That's awesome!!!!

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

She still has one other regular lover she sees around here, but he is less of a "bull" than he is a lover. She has periodically been seeing a second lover, a younger co-worker...

That's so great! I've read several posts on here about guys whose wives can barely find the time and opportunity to meet up with men. You and your wife must be doing something right if she has a regular lover, plus a second occasional lover! Again, congratulations!

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

We do incorporate humiliation into our marriage, but that too is not really new. I've worn panties for four years now...

You're blowing my mind! Four years straight of wearing panties!!! I don't know what kind of shape you're in, but whether you're flabby or ripped, I bet you look pretty ridiculous in your panties!

Do you ever just stand in front of the mirror in your panties and look at yourself? I mean, really look at yourself. Without being distracted by thinking about what color shirt or which pair of pants you're about to put on. That's how your wife sees you every single day in the morning and before bed - as a pantied cuckold!

Do you ever imagine what it's like for your wife to see you in panties every single day? For her to no longer associate men's underwear as an item of clothing that's suitable for you to wear? Regardless of how much she respects you as a husband, I bet four years of wearing panties has really solidified her perception of you as being less manly than her lovers.

canadianwittol wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 03, 2024 1:51 pm

When she does go on a date it's with the same guys and nothing new really happens.

Your wife goes on dates with these guys!!! Actual dates? Not just secret, sexual rendezvous? Your wife actually goes out in public on dates with these other men! And it's nothing new! This is literally a routine thing for her! It's normal for her to leave you at home while she's out in public on a date with another man! Wow!!! So on top of having two current lovers, if a guy asked her out on date, even though it's known that she's married, I'm guessing she's at liberty to say yes. That's so crazy! Your wife is sort of a free agent, so to speak.

Sounds to me like you're living the dream! Again, congratulations to the both of you on a successful, long-term cuckold marriage!

My one suggestion to you is to Google "practicing gratitude."