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Female led relationship ultimatum

I have a fairly long story to tell before I come to the point. I hope that some of you will be patient enough to read. I need to put down the context first and then ask a bit for advice. I currently live in a female led relationship, with many BDSM aspects to it. My wife has set an ultimatum for me. Basically it boils down to a semi open relationship where she will meet other men. I have the full register of emotions and I have I have been given a month to accept, embrace and support ger choice to cuckold me. It is all very logical and deep down I fully support her already and I am very grateful for being allowed sometime to adapt. Hence I come here to get some advice. I divide this into different part because in order to get advice I need to tell about our journey. Thanks in advance anyone who reads and help me out.


I Will be a cuckold before August begins.

DearFLRultimatium

I will for sure be looking forward to read your story, and I am sure that many others also will be.
I will send you a personal message with my background, even if I think you have to make a certain number of posts before you can read this. Please let me know when you have.

Sincerely
elina
(Submissive male using my sissy name here)

I look forward to learning the details of your journey and hopefully can provide some helpful advice in your upcoming new life of sharing your wife.

If I may add, I would venture to say that many men on here would give anything to be in your position. I know that years ago I would not have liked an ultimatum from a partner for her to see other men outside of our relationship but fast forward to July 2024 and I actually prefer it that way . if my girlfriend sat me down and gave me a deadline with an ultimatum *telling me* that she is going to start seeing other men in 1 month and I need to accept/get ready or I can walk, you bet your ass I am becoming the most supportive partner who is taking her shopping but then again I'm based so that's not a good representation of regular man being cornered to become a cuck.

I look forward to learning the details of your journey and hopefully can provide some helpful advice in your upcoming new life of sharing your wife.

If I may add, I would venture to say that many men on here would give anything to be in your position. I know that years ago I would not have liked an ultimatum from a partner for her to see other men outside of our relationship but fast forward to July 2024 and I actually prefer it that way . if my girlfriend sat me down and gave me a deadline with an ultimatum *telling me* that she is going to start seeing other men in 1 month and I need to accept/get ready or I can walk, you bet your ass I am becoming the most supportive partner who is taking her shopping but then again I'm based so that's not a good representation of regular man being cornered to become a cuck.

FLR's are always interesting to me. I, as well as many, live an FLR and there are so many variations.

Cant wait to hear more!

FLRultimatum wrote: ↑

Sun Jul 14, 2024 12:20 am

Female led relationship ultimatum


I Will be a cuckold before August begins.

—-/
Looks to me like you answered your own question

Wow. I have so happy I got encouragement. Great here comes the next part.

Just an early warning. We have gone pretty far in the bdsm aspect and maybe that is not for everyone here. I apologise in advance for that.

Part 1

Me and My wife, Lana (38 years at the time), met five years ago online. She was, and still is, a career woman with a huge responsibility and heading up an organisations with a few hundred people. She also likes to bake and cook and do shopping. All normal stuff. She has been a model during her young years and totally out of my league in all logical ways.

She came out of a relationship where the guys job was always more important to prioritise if there was any kind of conflict of interest working late or similar. He also never agreed to let Alana choose anything. He was a doctor and in the end he met a young nurse that worshipped him more than Lana could. At that point she promised herself to not be pushed down any more in a relationship. In fact; implicitly she decided that she did not want to play submissive anymore when she is in fact natural dominant in all other settings. She was not fully aware of that yet though.

I am Kurt, I was 42 when we met. I was super happy that she liked me and wanted to meet since she was soo beautiful. I became instantly in love and was quickly high up in the clouds. I had many weird relationships before with very unstable women so I was very impressed that she have this big job. That was actually a turn on for her. I also liked that she was taking initiatives like were we where going to date and what she likes me to wear etc. I also liked that she was very outspoken. She told me she wanted to be loved for who she was. I learned also from previous relationships to really listen is the best way get close to a woman.

She was very vocal about that she was hurt that her previous guy was ashamed of her big job and that she was running the show when the made som construction work at home. I told her in all honesty that I was impressed and that Iwould be proud of all aspects with her.

She also confessed she was, and still is, watching porn. Almost every day and that she is very sexual. She had been with 22 guys she told me, I noticed that she really looked me in the eye when she did. Later she said that she wanted to make sure I respected her in spite of a very active sexlife. Luckily I said “good for you” and “I can imagine you know your ways after that sex of Experience”! Needless to say I went deeper and deeper in love and prepared to do anything for her.

I asked her what kind of sex she likes and she said she has a long list of what she likes but Lana was a bit timid and did not want to say. We continued to circle around the topic and finally she at least mentioned one thing. She loved when someone would go down on her. But it had to be with a guy that also liked it otherwise she would feel uncomfortable (she had some bad experiences on that with other guys).

Dear Kurt,

Thank you for starting your story.
I would also have been thrilled to meet such a Lady,
And I love licking pussy so would have offered my services to Her immediately.

Gleder med til fortsettelsen.

Sincerely
elina

elina wrote: ↑

Mon Jul 15, 2024 1:49 am

Dear Kurt,

Thank you for starting your story.

Gleder med til fortsettelsen.

Sincerely
elina

You are most welcome Elina.

patw3268 wrote: ↑

Sun Jul 14, 2024 5:21 pm

FLRultimatum wrote: ↑

Sun Jul 14, 2024 12:20 am

Female led relationship ultimatum


I Will be a cuckold before August begins.

—-/
Looks to me like you answered your own question

lol I will come to the question later lol. But this is not really a choice is about acceptance and for me to adapt. But thanks for commenting.

elina wrote: ↑

Sun Jul 14, 2024 4:31 am

DearFLRultimatium

I will for sure be looking forward to read your story, and I am sure that many others also will be.
I will send you a personal message with my background, even if I think you have to make a certain number of posts before you can read this. Please let me know when you have.

Sincerely
elina
(Submissive male using my sissy name here)

Great to hear Elina

Tusen tack Elina, jag Svarar när jag uppnått tillräckligt många posts hehe

Her number1 wrote: ↑

Sun Jul 14, 2024 1:03 pm

FLR's are always interesting to me. I, as well as many, live an FLR and there are so many variations.

Very Good to meet people with FLR experience.

ucaneffher wrote: ↑

Sun Jul 14, 2024 10:28 am

I look forward to learning the details of your journey and hopefully can provide some helpful advice in your upcoming new life of sharing your wife.

If I may add, I would venture to say that many men on here would give anything to be in your position. I know that years ago I would not have liked an ultimatum from a partner for her to see other men outside of our relationship but fast forward to July 2024 and I actually prefer it that way . if my girlfriend sat me down and gave me a deadline with an ultimatum *telling me* that she is going to start seeing other men in 1 month and I need to accept/get ready or I can walk, you bet your ass I am becoming the most supportive partner who is taking her shopping but then again I'm based so that's not a good representation of regular man being cornered to become a cuck.

Wow. This is excactly the kind of support I was looking for. Since I don’t see it as an option to leave. I really want to get through this and face my fears. Thank you for those words.

Part 2

Finally, after some soft core dating, we got between the sheets when we had dinner at my place. I had cooked a three course dinner and we shared almost two bottles of wine. I remember what she liked so I wanted to make it special for her. I gave her a 30 min massage and then I started kissing her body. We were both naked. We were lying on the wrong direction in a single bed so we had the feet on the floor. I moved my head between her legs and I had to kneel on the floor to get access. I started licking and sucking the clit and she grabbed a fistful of my hair and started moaning. I was also jerking off myself and accidentally came of all the arousal already after a couple of minutes but I did not say anything. I just continued licking. She came after about 20min of service and it was a pretty intense orgasm. She sat up afterwards with me still kneeling on the floor and looking down at me she said. “ I really liked that. Especially you kneeling like that. Now fuck me!”

I stood up on my knees and really tried to get hard with some mental porn images in mind. I never been really potent enough to come twice in a short period and I explained to her that I came when licking her. She said she noticed something dripping on her right foot but also said it was a bit surprising. “Should we have proper sex? I am not done yet. Go get a shampoo bottle and fuck me with that instead.” So I did and she was also pulling my hair to place my head over her clitoris again. After like 15 min she came once more and I was happy that I performed in some way.

This was the first time we had sex and also a clue on why I am here on this forum now. Stay with me I am still not a cuckold but soon that will change. There is still a lot of history and context.

Thank you FLRUltimatum.

I love the first two parts.
Clearly you got of on the right path with this Wonderful Dominant Lady!!

Sincerely
elina

Amazing. Ċant wait to hear the rest

Embrace your Goddess’ needs. You will love it! The power exchange here is so hot, you are lucky she’s so strong and decisive.

elina wrote: ↑

Mon Jul 15, 2024 11:03 am

Thank you FLRUltimatum.

I love the first two parts.
Clearly you got of on the right path with this Wonderful Dominant Lady!!

Sincerely
elina

Thank you.

You are right in that one! I am aware I am very privileged.

scarlettscuck wrote: ↑

Mon Jul 15, 2024 5:26 pm

Embrace your Goddess’ needs. You will love it! The power exchange here is so hot, you are lucky she’s so strong and decisive.

Yes the power she has over me is itself giving a lot of energy to Lana and she get very frustrated if she get any friction on the path she choose.

chastity_boi wrote: ↑

Mon Jul 15, 2024 1:55 pm

Amazing. Ċant wait to hear the rest

Lovely to hear

FLRultimatum wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 17, 2024 5:00 am

chastity_boi wrote: ↑

Mon Jul 15, 2024 1:55 pm

Amazing. Ċant wait to hear the rest

Lovely to hear

Yes,
Please don't leave us hanging....
August is fast approaching and I suspect there is still quite a lot to cover before you get to the ultimatum

elina wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 17, 2024 6:31 am

FLRultimatum wrote: ↑

Wed Jul 17, 2024 5:00 am

chastity_boi wrote: ↑

Mon Jul 15, 2024 1:55 pm

Amazing. Ċant wait to hear the rest

Lovely to hear

Yes,
Please don't leave us hanging....
August is fast approaching and I suspect there is still quite a lot to cover before you get to the ultimatum

True. Ok. I will try to post more frequent.

Part 3

Our life together developed quickly and we moved in together already after three month. We married after 6 months. From day one I tried to be really tentative to my future wife’s needs and wishes because I loved her so much. In a very natural way she asked me to do things for her and I did not mind at all. It actually made me feel needed and useful. Things she would say was
- “Bring me coffee!” And she already taught me the way she liked it. It sounded more like an order than a question.
- “Since I make more money you will do dishes and laundry always, it is only fair”.
- “Clean the car inside and outside on Thursday evening and fill it with Gas. I am going away for the weekend with friends “. She did ask if I wanted to come.
She also decided where to go on vacation and who to hang out with. My friends thoughts she was a real bitch so they got blocked from all our communication channels. I was fine with that because everyone need to respect that I found my true love. There was one exception, a guy friend, Lennart, that I later realised he also submits to his wife. So I understand in retrospect that he clicked more with my wife. I did not have that many friends in the first place with and I was anyway disappointed that they did not approve of Lana. It felt like winning the lottery when I met her, she was and is way out of my league.
Later she also took care of all the personal financials investments , accounts and bills. I didn’t have to care at all. Now years later my salary goes directly into her account and she makes sure I don’t spend too much. She is the shopper in the family. I do have a card for groceries and one for gas so I can still do my chores.

I was still very nervous not to make her happy sexually. She told me about her previous boyfriends. There was certainly a lot to live up to. I loved hearing about it though. It was kind of hot when she even talked openly about previous sexlife. She had done it all with her previous lovers. I was a bit jealous that there was nothing for us to discover together as a first. I confessed that I was a virgin on most things. To get a Blowjob being my biggest dream and also anal, threesome etc she had done but not me. She still had low frequency contact with half of these guys and some of them she hooked up for one night stands with between boyfriends. The best previous long term relationship was with a really submissive guy. She talked about him many times when we talked about sex. She said he was also very pleasant to live with and not jealous at all like I was. She also told me:
“ I wish you could be more like him”
I did not fully grasp the full meaning of submissive yet.
And also regarding some bad boy rap guy she met:
“I love when that guy brought his friend over for a threesone. OMG two big cocks at the same time.”
Or
“That guy was just over the top in bed”
A few times I came of all the excitement in the talking without even a touch of a hand. Just rubbing slight against the thigh of Lana. I tried to make myself more potent with vitamins and imagining things that would make me turned off. I didn’t go so well.