Casual Banter

[iloanmywife]

Another thread about kinky talk got me to thinking about something I deliberately introduced years ago with my wife, ever so gradually.

Early on I realized that there's almost nothing hotter in the world than when she comes home from a date the next morning and tells me about it. I'll pour her a cup of coffee and make pancakes while she gushes about her multiple orgasms or complains that her pussy is sore. "I'm so dehydrated. I was squirting all night." Was he big? "Ohmygosh, babe, you have no idea." Did she manage to get any sleep? "A few hours. He wore me out. I woke up at 5AM with him inside of me!" What was his place like, where did they go for dinner? It was simultaneously charming and emasculating. I'd sit at the table with an erection, smiling and chatting like she was telling me about a visit to her aunt.

I loved it and craved more of that kind of interaction. Yeah, during sex she had no problem talking about sucking some dude's cock or riding another man, but except for those times when she came home in the morning our talk was mostly in the bedroom. But I wanted her to be that comfortable sharing her inner thoughts with me as she would if she were single and confiding in a close girlfriend.

I started small. We'd be out having drinks and I'd comment about one guy or other, or ask her opinion. Most just people watching. She'd give me her impressions, and that was it. I never mentioned any guy later during sex because I didn't want to set the precedent that talking about men in public was simply finding material for bedroom fantasy talk. It was just two friends chatting about guys she liked.

This type of back-and-forth became normal for us. She might see a guy and say "Oh that guy's pretty hot." I don't always agree -- maybe I'll tease her about the ugly shirt he's wearing or his dumb hat. If I ask then she'll explain what caught her eye. It's not that I really care, but I like when she tells me what she likes. And sometimes I'll have to agree that, yeah, he has a great body or he looks like he'd be a great fuck. We might be on our way to the store and drive past some shirtless runner and she'll casually interject, "Oooh, I'd like to fuck that guy," and then go back to reviewing our shopping list for the store.

This seems like it keeps her in more of an on-the-prowl mindset, and me in wingman mode. I might lean in after a waiter leaves our table and comment about the bulge we both saw in his pants. It's totally unfiltered dialogue between us, which is a thrill in and of itself.

[vmb69]

I agree with you the better is really the best. I almost enjoy it more than watching.

[Long Lurker 34]

Another thread about kinky talk got me to thinking about something I deliberately introduced years ago with my wife, ever so gradually.

Early on I realized that there's almost nothing hotter in the world than when she comes home from a date the next morning and tells me about it. I'll pour her a cup of coffee and make pancakes while she gushes about her multiple orgasms or complains that her pussy is sore. "I'm so dehydrated. I was squirting all night." Was he big? "Ohmygosh, babe, you have no idea." Did she manage to get any sleep? "A few hours. He wore me out. I woke up at 5AM with him inside of me!" What was his place like, where did they go for dinner? It was simultaneously charming and emasculating. I'd sit at the table with an erection, smiling and chatting like she was telling me about a visit to her aunt.

I loved it and craved more of that kind of interaction. Yeah, during sex she had no problem talking about sucking some dude's cock or riding another man, but except for those times when she came home in the morning our talk was mostly in the bedroom. But I wanted her to be that comfortable sharing her inner thoughts with me as she would if she were single and confiding in a close girlfriend.

I started small. We'd be out having drinks and I'd comment about one guy or other, or ask her opinion. Most just people watching. She'd give me her impressions, and that was it. I never mentioned any guy later during sex because I didn't want to set the precedent that talking about men in public was simply finding material for bedroom fantasy talk. It was just two friends chatting about guys she liked.

This type of back-and-forth became normal for us. She might see a guy and say "Oh that guy's pretty hot." I don't always agree -- maybe I'll tease her about the ugly shirt he's wearing or his dumb hat. If I ask then she'll explain what caught her eye. It's not that I really care, but I like when she tells me what she likes. And sometimes I'll have to agree that, yeah, he has a great body or he looks like he'd be a great fuck. We might be on our way to the store and drive past some shirtless runner and she'll casually interject, "Oooh, I'd like to fuck that guy," and then go back to reviewing our shopping list for the store.

This seems like it keeps her in more of an on-the-prowl mindset, and me in wingman mode. I might lean in after a waiter leaves our table and comment about the bulge we both saw in his pants. It's totally unfiltered dialogue between us, which is a thrill in and of itself.

ILMW - Not in the LS except vicariously through others here.
- Great post. If I ever had made it to the LS what you described here is one of the aspects I would have greatly desired to achieve.

[iloanmywife]

I agree with you the better is really the best. I almost enjoy it more than watching.

Fuck yes! It's always a thrill, and sometimes unexpected.

If given a choice, I'd probably almost always prefer to watch, but there's no denying the heart-stopping rush of hearing her describe something in her own words after the fact. Or when she suddenly remembers something that she once did with another man and casually tells me about it like we're just two girlfriends gossiping over brunch.

We were watching a movie one night and she blurted out, "Oh! I never saw this scene!" Why? I thought she saw this movie. Because, she explained, when she watched it the first time she had been facing away from the TV and only heard the dialogue but didn't see what happened. Wait -- what? "I watched it at [some guy's] house and he had me go down on him during this part."

She retold how she slid a finger up his ass to get him to finish quicker, that she swallowed and then licked him extra clean to keep him from dripping on his new couch, and how she watched the rest of the movie topless because she had no idea where he had tossed her bra and top and didn't want to look during the movie. "Now I get to see it all with you, baby," as she snuggled closer. Comfortably cozy and profoundly emasculating. A few scenes later she nonchalantly described how she had munched on popcorn to clear the taste of semen from her mouth.

[iloanmywife]

ILMW - Not in the LS except vicariously through others here.
- Great post. If I ever had made it to the LS what you described here is one of the aspects I would have greatly desired to achieve.

Thank you for your comment! This sort of dynamic turns life itself into foreplay. Even when we're in the middle of some mundane domestic activity, it's a sweet reminder that my wife fucks other men.

[Long Lurker 34]

I agree with you the better is really the best. I almost enjoy it more than watching.

Fuck yes! It's always a thrill, and sometimes unexpected.

If given a choice, I'd probably almost always prefer to watch, but there's no denying the heart-stopping rush of hearing her describe something in her own words after the fact. Or when she suddenly remembers something that she once did with another man and casually tells me about it like we're just two girlfriends gossiping over brunch.

We were watching a movie one night and she blurted out, "Oh! I never saw this scene!" Why? I thought she saw this movie. Because, she explained, when she watched it the first time she had been facing away from the TV and only heard the dialogue but didn't see what happened. Wait -- what? "I watched it at [some guy's] house and he had me go down on him during this part."

She retold how she slid a finger up his ass to get him to finish quicker, that she swallowed and then licked him extra clean to keep him from dripping on his new couch, and how she watched the rest of the movie topless because she had no idea where he had tossed her bra and top and didn't want to look during the movie. "Now I get to see it all with you, baby," as she snuggled closer. Comfortably cozy and profoundly emasculating. A few scenes later she nonchalantly described how she had munched on popcorn to clear the taste of semen from her mouth.

ILMW - Love it.
- To have that ease of being able to relate and discuss, just awesome.

[Clement99]

I love the amateur videos of a wife fucking a new guy…the best part is the casual banter before they fuck and after. Sometimes it is the three of them - husband, wife and wife’s lover…just talking about random things, often naked.

Something so sexy about a wife talking casually to a guy she is about to fuck while the husband watches.

[D+D]

We do it all the time. Have for years. It’s like you said, it’s like she talking to a girlfriend and not her husband. You have to be best friends to do this though.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

I love the amateur videos of a wife fucking a new guy…the best part is the casual banter before they fuck and after. Sometimes it is the three of them - husband, wife and wife’s lover…just talking about random things, often naked.

Something so sexy about a wife talking casually to a guy she is about to fuck while the husband watches.

Unfortunately (in a way), my wife has only had two boyfriends, one that lasted 16+ years (BF#1), and her current one which has lasted 1.5 years, now (BF#2). (She’s a one-at-a-time kind of gal.)

Having watched and participated with BF#1, and only getting a detailed after-the-fact description of experiences with BF#2, we find ourselves rather enjoying the descriptions of experiences with BF#2 MORE than the watching and participation we did with BF#1.

Don’t get me wrong. There are memories with BF#1 that have FOREVER changed my life….our lives, really. Words simply can’t substitute for watching your wife getting thoroughly fucked! As you say, watching her do something as casual as tying her hair back (naked, of course) as she got ready to mount and ride him was the sort of thing a cucked man shall never forget….so casual, like it was just something she did before she moved on to the next moment…..the mount and gradual rocking motion as she adjusted to his presence there.

But it is incredibly addictive to hear her describe the minute-by-minute experiences she has had with BF#2, like the OP more or less described, over a Sausage McMuffin and coffee (or something benignly similar), my chubby in my shorts under the table.

Listening to her tell the story of how well he plowed her the night before gives me far more detailed insight to the parts of her relationship with him that excite her more than anything else.

BF#2, for example, apparently is a superb pussy-eater when compared to BF#1 or me. She’ll spend more time and give FAR greater detail to the pussy-eating experience than any other part. He’s VERY good at it, I guess. When I suggest as much to her, she simply and casually replies with, “Oh my god, yes! You wouldn’t believe how good it is!” like she’s just recounting every moment for her bestie.

Letting her tell her story has really been fun for both of us. We really enjoy reminiscing at a local McDonald’s or an IHOP the next morning, or perhaps a day later where she can re-live the experience in HER terms.

Good times!

[frank12]

And from the viewpoint of the other gentleman I too heartily encourage the deliciously hot wives I enjoy to talk with their husbands about our playtime adventures. Not all want to share, and some keep secrets, but most seem to have enjoyed the pleasant conversations charged with hubby's arousal as they tell. The cuckold or stag is an important part of a really good hotwife relationship and those conversations enhance the closeness, trust and pleasures.

What I sometimes hear back from her are bits and pieces of how hubby responded to her telling. Very nice things. Sometimes I hear from the husband his appreciation of both hearing of it and the fact that they enjoy those conversations. Good all around.

Prof Wood

[iloanmywife]

I love the amateur videos of a wife fucking a new guy…the best part is the casual banter before they fuck and after. Sometimes it is the three of them - husband, wife and wife’s lover…just talking about random things, often naked.

Something so sexy about a wife talking casually to a guy she is about to fuck while the husband watches.

I agree with you 100%. I also love the candid dialogue in-between-rounds, or when she has to take a pee break.

[iloanmywife]

We do it all the time. Have for years. It’s like you said, it’s like she talking to a girlfriend and not her husband. You have to be best friends to do this though.

Great point. We should all be best friends with our wives, so she should be able to talk openly about anything and everything with us.

And as much as this casual banter turns us on, I have to believe that it turns our wives on just as much to be able to be so open. At least I know that's true for my wife. I think in the past she's called it "liberating" to be able to talk to me other men without any expectations or judgement, an invisible burden lifted from her shoulders. For one, she has no one else to talk about this stuff (with a few isolated exceptions). So if she wants to dish or vent or even boast, I need to be a girlfriend to her. And that means that as horny as this casual talk sometimes makes me, her telling me about stuff isn't necessarily an invitation to have sex. If I always tried to turn it into sexy time then she'd be less eager to share offhand stuff unless she was in the mood for sex. We're just gossiping about guys. That, ironically, makes it even hotter.