Family planning

[Bridget_Joshua]

Those of you have kids, how do you manage to stay active in this lifestyle as well as taking care of the kids. We are planning to start our family & look forward to learn through your experiences. Do share them it will be helpful for us.

[isinlarsa]

I think it is imperative for couples with children whose wife wants to be a hotwife to have a supportive husband who is willing to be primary caregiver for the children. That way the wife can concentrate on indulging in extramarital sex to the excitement and satisfaction of both spouses. It worked for us.

[Cgb29]

I think it is imperative for couples with children whose wife wants to be a hotwife to have a supportive husband who is willing to be primary caregiver for the children. That way the wife can concentrate on indulging in extramarital sex to the excitement and satisfaction of both spouses. It worked for us.

It certainly is not imperative. Not all hotwives concentrate on it so much that they can't be full time parents. In fact, I would imagine almost none do.

[isinlarsa]

I think it is imperative for couples with children whose wife wants to be a hotwife to have a supportive husband who is willing to be primary caregiver for the children. That way the wife can concentrate on indulging in extramarital sex to the excitement and satisfaction of both spouses. It worked for us.

It certainly is not imperative. Not all hotwives concentrate on it so much that they can't be full time parents. In fact, I would imagine almost none do.

No, perhaps they don't, but a supportive husband still helps.

[naivecuck2]

Well, when my wife was fucking her former HS boyfriend, Monday thru Friday, our two elementary school age daughters were in school and I was at work. However, it became complicated, with lying to our daughters, as to where mom was going with her "girl friends", for overnight, out of town and out of state, sexual trysts.

[Bridget_Joshua]

I think it is imperative for couples with children whose wife wants to be a hotwife to have a supportive husband who is willing to be primary caregiver for the children. That way the wife can concentrate on indulging in extramarital sex to the excitement and satisfaction of both spouses. It worked for us.

How do you tackle the question when kids ask for their mom, do you fear what happens when they find out one day?

[Bridget_Joshua]

Well, when my wife was fucking her former HS boyfriend, Monday thru Friday, our two elementary school age daughters were in school and I was at work. However, it became complicated, with lying to our daughters, as to where mom was going with her "girl friends", for overnight, out of town and out of state, sexual trysts.

How is it going now?

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

When we first got started, our oldest was 8 and our youngest was 4.

Fortunately, my wife’s mother came to live with us from the Philippines. It’s a long story, but she didn’t see sex and marriage as a romantic endeavor. She was arranged to marry a man who was 24 years older than her when she was a 19-year-old virgin. She bore him four children, my wife being their first. She viewed sex and marriage as a sort of responsibility rather than something romantic.

Her husband died. We petitioned her. She came to live with us.

Thus, when the wife started to play, her mother (our coincidental babysitter) didn’t really understand what the big thrill was all about for us, but she happily watched the children.

It’s not like we were completely forthcoming with her about what we were up to, either, but we suspect she was able to figure out that we were a rather progressive couple. We would be at my wife’s boyfriend’s house A LOT from the end of our workday until about nine o’clock…two or three times per week. (His house was our fuck-pad!)

So…….We were “lucky” in that sense.

We have often wondered how we would have been able to pull it off without my wife’s mother here to watch the kids. We spent A LOT of time at his house indulging ourselves!

As the kids became teens, we were sure they were putting two and two together. (They’re not stupid! Their mom’s boyfriend was somewhat of an “uncle” to them, and they could plainly see that we spent a lot of time at their uncle’s house every week.) But if they ever managed to put the pieces together, they remained mum about it. Our sex lives were ours; their sex lives were theirs. (And frankly, that’s the way it is…and should be…in most families. Aside from some basic birth control/STD help and advice, parents need to stay out of their teenagers’ sex lives so they can develop properly, we feel.)

Fortunately, everyone has “stayed in their lane” over the years. My wife’s mother saw our lifestyle as curious, but “fine” and “not to be mentioned” as long as everyone was happy. The kids have left us alone. And we have left them alone (again, aside from the help with getting started with birth control). (They have developed quite normally.)

Do the kids know that we are a bit “freaky”? Probably. Like I said, they’re not daft! But what they are definitely seeing is parents who are quite happy. Why mess with “happy” by sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong?!?

Now that they are both in their twenties and quite sexually experienced (in the traditional sense), we would be happy to explain that we’ve been getting our freak on with their “uncle” all these years SHOULD THEY ASK. (They would probably be grossed out for a moment…….and then it would all suddenly make sense! “Uncle has been dicking Mom all these years, and Dad has been enjoying the view!”) (“Mom has since taken on a second boyfriend!” would probably blow their minds. “You guys are FREAKS,” they’d probably say, “but we’re glad you’re enjoying yourselves. More power to you.”)

But no one has asked, and we all seem to be quite happy in our respective lanes!

[kellycuckoldsmark]

I think it all depends on what hot wife activities you are up to but like most things with this lifestyle we have found you have to adjust to the stage of life you are in. We started with no kids on the horizon and it was awesome. Kelly could bring home a guy, make spontaneous dates and have all the freedom we needed. Once kids came and after the first few months it also wasn't too hard. I could look after the baby and he wasn't aware mom was getting ready for a date and left the house.

Each of us putting him to bed made it easy for mom to go out, usually 1x a week, and have her fun.

As he grew up and the second came along we had to change schedule again. So now, she only sees people on our 'date' night. I actually like our date night is me driving her to meet someone for dinner/drinks and bed or just jumping straight into bed and waiting in the car for hours until she is ready. She only meets someone 1-2x a month and on the weeks she doesn't have a date we keep the same schedule in terms of when we leave and return so even the most aware baby sitter isn't wondering why some nights are two hours later than others!

For us, the lifestyle has always been to make our marriage even stronger but has never been more important than our marriage or our family. I imagine it is different for those where there is a boyfriend and mulit-times a week. I have longed for Kelly to have a bf and she has always refused. At this stage of life it definitely would complicate it!

[Cdncuck]

My wife was seeing other men when we were dating. After our first was born life carried on the same as always. Her boyfriends would come over after the kids were in bed. We had our second 2 years later and everything was the same.

When our first baby was almost 4, she stopped playing at home unless the kids were staying with gramma for a weekend. I didn't get to watch as much but the cream pie and sloppy seconds were great.

Fortunately, I worked days, the wife worked afternoons . She worked in a bar which made it easy for her to meet potential playmates. The kids went to bed at 8 or so. They didn't know if she got home at midnight or 3AM.

Several years later she wanted a change from the bar and went back to college. That gave her the opportunity to play cougar with a bunch of college boys. When she graduated, she got a job requiring frequent travel. She took advantage of opportunities to play when she was away. When she got home, she would just pretend her trip was a day longer and arrange to see a boyfriend before she came home.

That worked well for us. Of course not every couple has reasonable reasons for mommy being away. Don't know how we would have done it if my wife didn't have the jobs she did.

[Wifesharing]

When we start our kids were very young, It is much easier to hide this when they are super young. I have to say though hotwife play takes up a small fraction of our time and has never taken away from time with the kids. When they were young it was easy to get a baby sitter or I stay home while she went on a date and the kids don't really think much about it. Hell we even could have friends over and as long as no PDA the kids just thought we had friends over. Now our son is 18 and daughter 14 it is much harder because they are much more observant and their minds are more sexual then before so they can be much more aware. We find now that we mostly only play when we go away, or on date nights together we don't play at home anymore at all.

[isinlarsa]

I think it is imperative for couples with children whose wife wants to be a hotwife to have a supportive husband who is willing to be primary caregiver for the children. That way the wife can concentrate on indulging in extramarital sex to the excitement and satisfaction of both spouses. It worked for us.

How do you tackle the question when kids ask for their mom, do you fear what happens when they find out one day?

Actually our daughter found out when she was a teenager. Fortunately, she had her mother had a close relationship, and she was able to talk with her mother, and then both her parents together. She was able to adjust to the situation and, as an adult now, is well-adjusted.

[sherulestherooster]

Great topic - how to incorporate real life into hotwifing. In my case, my ex hot wife went to play right after work, with the stated excuse being that she was out to dinner with coworkers. She did this routinely before being a hot wife. I enjoyed the one on one time with the kids and just thought it was hot that she enjoying herself - we called it like a “spa day” where she could escape adulting responsibilities and have fun. She was usually REALLY hungry after the date and just picked up some fast food to avoid any suspicion about being hungry after a dinner with coworkers. Haha.

[trecital]

Great topic - how to incorporate real life into hotwifing.

I like how you have prioritised things.

Some might have said "how to incorporate hotwifing into real life"

[submissivedanny]

I knew a couple who had young kids and they didn't hide it. The kids just though the BF was good friends with the wife and husband. When her Bf came over he would kiss their mother and shake their fathers had so they just thought they were good friends. The Bf even spent nights there and the kids didn't think anything of it when the BF stayed over night. Even when the kids got older all they knew was the BF was a good a friend and thought nothing of it when they went out to dinner or went away for the weekend. They just thought the BF was a special friend of their mother.

[naivecuck2]

Well, when my wife was fucking her former HS boyfriend, Monday thru Friday, our two elementary school age daughters were in school and I was at work. However, it became complicated, with lying to our daughters, as to where mom was going with her "girl friends", for overnight, out of town and out of state, sexual trysts.

How is it going now?

She is now my ex, we are both remarried and no longer in the life style.

[Bridget_Joshua]

I think it all depends on what hot wife activities you are up to but like most things with this lifestyle we have found you have to adjust to the stage of life you are in. We started with no kids on the horizon and it was awesome. Kelly could bring home a guy, make spontaneous dates and have all the freedom we needed. Once kids came and after the first few months it also wasn't too hard. I could look after the baby and he wasn't aware mom was getting ready for a date and left the house.

Each of us putting him to bed made it easy for mom to go out, usually 1x a week, and have her fun.

As he grew up and the second came along we had to change schedule again. So now, she only sees people on our 'date' night. I actually like our date night is me driving her to meet someone for dinner/drinks and bed or just jumping straight into bed and waiting in the car for hours until she is ready. She only meets someone 1-2x a month and on the weeks she doesn't have a date we keep the same schedule in terms of when we leave and return so even the most aware baby sitter isn't wondering why some nights are two hours later than others!

For us, the lifestyle has always been to make our marriage even stronger but has never been more important than our marriage or our family. I imagine it is different for those where there is a boyfriend and mulit-times a week. I have longed for Kelly to have a bf and she has always refused. At this stage of life it definitely would complicate it!

Bri is hypersexual & is habitual of fucking couple of nights a week or going out wild on weekends leaving on friday night & coming back on sunday evenings. This will bring a sharp fall in her frequency.

[Bridget_Joshua]

My wife was seeing other men when we were dating. After our first was born life carried on the same as always. Her boyfriends would come over after the kids were in bed. We had our second 2 years later and everything was the same.

When our first baby was almost 4, she stopped playing at home unless the kids were staying with gramma for a weekend. I didn't get to watch as much but the cream pie and sloppy seconds were great.

Fortunately, I worked days, the wife worked afternoons . She worked in a bar which made it easy for her to meet potential playmates. The kids went to bed at 8 or so. They didn't know if she got home at midnight or 3AM.

Several years later she wanted a change from the bar and went back to college. That gave her the opportunity to play cougar with a bunch of college boys. When she graduated, she got a job requiring frequent travel. She took advantage of opportunities to play when she was away. When she got home, she would just pretend her trip was a day longer and arrange to see a boyfriend before she came home.

That worked well for us. Of course not every couple has reasonable reasons for mommy being away. Don't know how we would have done it if my wife didn't have the jobs she did.

Bringing bulls home sounds a good idea, the commute time is saved & kids have mom one call away. Hunting guys is easy as in her business she gets hit on by most of her male clients.

[Bridget_Joshua]

Great topic - how to incorporate real life into hotwifing. In my case, my ex hot wife went to play right after work, with the stated excuse being that she was out to dinner with coworkers. She did this routinely before being a hot wife. I enjoyed the one on one time with the kids and just thought it was hot that she enjoying herself - we called it like a “spa day” where she could escape adulting responsibilities and have fun. She was usually REALLY hungry after the date and just picked up some fast food to avoid any suspicion about being hungry after a dinner with coworkers. Haha.

Wow this is a great idea, the wife can play without worrying, dad gets to spend time with kids & who does not like a delicious meal.

[stevens4fun]

When our two kids were small, it was fairly easy, once my wife found the guy she wanted. Our marital bedroom had a slider that opened onto a patio with a jacuzzi and there was a side gate (we lived in the corner house) he could enter directly through or leave through. It was all too easy. I went into the living room and used the couch, and she locked the BR door into the hall until he left.

It was tougher as the kids got older and were more aware of their surroundings and what was going on around home. We have to fit some hotels into the picture, - overnights, in fact. When she started traveling for work more, and using hotels even when she wasn't traveling, I picked up the slack. I wanted her relationship with her BF to continue and it was only fair that I help make it all work.

As we got older, she found a new BF in one of the towns she visited monthly for work. The two was about 150 miles away from our home and she traveled their by car. Her hotel room was where they had sex. I never got to be there. She said it was the best sex she ever had. He was married, so the relationship couldn't go too far beyond sex but she did have feelings for him.