What goes through your mind when...

[ucaneffher]

What goes through your mind in the early stages of her meeting a man? A man that she is really interested in getting to know and talks/texts daily and possibly even goes out with frequently whether on a date or to just hangout?

Do you feel threatened, excited, happy, ignored, hopeful, or something else?


For me, when I see her really bubbly and interested, my mind can't help but ask if this is the man that will one day fully take her sexually for himself? Is he going to want her all to himself or will he accept her having a man back at home? Is she going to want more than just sex?

What goes on in your mind as a cuckold?

[petej55]

I go through the normal angst. But finally start wondering if this is the guy she is going to have fuck me? She has made me wear panties and suck most of her lovers and has teased me about being a fuck toy but in 3 years it has not happened.

[Peaks23]

I think everyone is different.

For me, and her it's not about having another relationship with a man. It's about extending our sexual play and boundaries.
Meeting him just to hang out doesn't sit comfortably with me. I totally get that my girl needs to feel a connection with the man that's fucking her but I think that it's us that should hang out etc.

Just my thoughts

[dinoo]

Ucaneffher,

Many questions.......
If I understand you correctly, the woman you are talking about is more than usually attracted to a man.

In my case, there was a man with whom she (eventually) fell in love.
I always told her that this could happen, because I thought it was as human as possible.
I also always told her not to hide these inner feelings from me.

After she told me that she had fallen in love with him, I had to tongue kiss her twice to confirm that I could accept her feelings. Those were our longest kisses ever.
"Now I have two men that I love. Who can say that? What a paradise," she told me.

My acceptance set her free even more.
Our pillow talks about their bond became incredibly open and, above all, very detailed.
It made our already very good marriage even stronger.

I didn't feel threatened.
I was excited and happy for her.
Did I feel ignored? Not at all.
Hoping for the consequences, yes.

What went through your mind in the early stages of her meeting a man?

Well, it was clear to me from the start that she loved having sex with him.
Apart from anal sex (he was one of the two men she wouldn't refuse anal sex with, she confessed to me), her games were incredibly erotic, beautiful to watch, hot and sometimes kinky.
He gave her the pleasure I couldn't. So she was able to explore her desires.
Oh, I almost forgot: he was one of the men she fucked bare.

Will he want her all to himself or will he accept that she has a man at home?

My wife only met him in what became "our" club. There he wanted her all to himself. Very clearly. So he accepted very easily that I was her beloved husband.
She cooperated wholeheartedly and loved to show me that he was free to do what he wanted. And she with him.......

Will she want more than sex?

When a woman confesses to falling in love, the answer is yes, but it never got that far.

Regards, Dinoo

[Lucky Dog]

What I thought of each time was would my wife like him and want to be with him? Is he capable of giving her what she needs? As they got closer and closer to becoming involved, I'd start to think what would happen to my relationship with her. Would we still be ok, or would he want to take her away and would she be able to resist that? My worries never became reality.

[annsman]

For me its mostly excitement and anticipation, but at the same time anxious that something will go wrong or she'd change her mind and that i'd be disappointed that nothing happened.

[Bridget_Joshua]

Well excitement is always there as she goes out on dates all dolled up with the final aim to end up in their bedroom fucking brains out. Though i have felt threatened sometimes but that was in the early stage of our relationship but now its not there as she has assured me of the unconditional love she has for me. If the guys are tough to get in bed Bri takes it as a challenge in that process i might get ignored but have never been in a negative sense.
If she has been proposed for a relationship, she has always politely refused & asked to keep it upto hooking up only.

[kellycuckoldsmark]

I still get the tingling, nervous excitement. After a busy summer Kelly had her first date for months last night. As her norm was a traveler staying one night and she had been emailing a little beforehand. Whenever she likes someone I have vetted for her I get (as y-guy says) an ICE. I bought her some new lingerie eventhough she made it clear she wouldn't be fucking him on the first date. She pretty much never does,

Dropping her off at the hotel bar felt as erotic and hot and nervy as it did the first time. Over 20 years that feeling has never gone away. She has a rule of no contact from me period and then after an hour she will tell me she is leaving; staying for another drink or going to his room. On cue it was another drink - more ICE; then to his room - more ICE.

So through my mind is always I hope she likes him, hope he respects her, flirts with her and makes her feel excited about the prospect of being with him. Hope he isn't a jerk and she comes walking out in ten minutes! Then when she is in the room, I hope she is having fun. Don't care so much about him but want her to come out with a big, satisfied smile on her face.....

[bradisalpha]

As a BF, i see the angst and questions in his mind that when his wife and I go out.. will she come back. Or when she orgasms strongly 2 or 3 times.. will she still love me afterwards. I enjoy seeing this in the cuckold as it keeps his excitement at a high level while it collides with his hard dickie and his need to cum… it keeps the tension inside him high with thoughts of love and hate at the same time… the true definition of mixed emotions. Of course, I instigate also to keep his angst alive !!

Just sayin…

Brad

[saunder]

I think everyone is different.

For me, and her it's not about having another relationship with a man. It's about extending our sexual play and boundaries.
Meeting him just to hang out doesn't sit comfortably with me. I totally get that my girl needs to feel a connection with the man that's fucking her but I think that it's us that should hang out etc.

Just my thoughts

I do agree with you on this one. I think as you say we are all different and look for something different, but the passion and intimacy that we associate with the closeness of a relationship really needs to be kept in that relationship, it's sure to end in tears otherwise.

[MartasBoy]

What goes through your mind in the early stages of her meeting a man?

Do you feel threatened, excited, happy, ignored, hopeful, or something else?

I feel all of that. I feel fear, I feel threatened, I feel excited, I often feel ignored, and that is really weird, because there is something about it I like. Something about the helplessness at knowing that I asked for this, and now there are things about it I fear and hate. It is all a rush of different emotions.

When we were dating and first married, my wife always said she wasn't into really muscle-bound guys. She would see some very muscly guys in tank tops and make fun of them. But now she has let herself be picked up by a couple of guys at the gym. When I ask her about it, she says it's just exciting to be with them for sex. She said she likes how they can pick her up and make her feel like a little rag doll, as they carry her to the bedroom and toss her on the bed. I feel a little intimidated and threatened by those guys, when she has brought them home.

Is he going to want her all to himself or will he accept her having a man back at home? Is she going to want more than just sex?

That happened to me a while back, my wife was keeping me at arm's length. She was barely letting me touch her. She finally confessed to me that her boyfriend got jealous so she promised him that she would quit sleeping with me.

My wife usually wants a little more than sex. She likes to be courted and dated. She says she needs at least some emotional connection with a guy, like at least close friends.

[MartasBoy]

Is he going to want her all to himself or will he accept her having a man back at home? Is she going to want more than just sex?

I remember the time she came home after a few dates with a guy and said, "I really like this guy a lot. He really lites my fire. He's also really sweet. He's very jealous of you. He said he has a hard time not thinking about us having sex. So I sort of slipped and told him that I would just quit having sex with you. He questioned how I would be able to do that, so I told him that sex with you has never been very good, and I would just tell you I have a headache all the time. I told him that I've done it plenty of times before and that I can keep it from happening. I just think it's going to be a little while that I want to do this with him. I'm sorry."
That just tore me up inside with a combination of fear and excitement.

[inivisibletwin]

whenever i meet a new guy, or i find out my wife, or her boyfriend has met a new guy, my first though... which i usually keep to myself unless theres some kind of green light is, "How can i get this guy to fuck my wife?"

once the process of her flirting with him and what not, has started, I usually just get excited at the prospect of her getting laid, and I try to figure what, if anything, I can do to help make it happen.

then, when my wife finally does get laid, I feel a sense of... i dont know if "satisfaction" is the right word, but somehow, in those moments, that's when my world feels right.

I'm kind of addicted to my wife getting laid