What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

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What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

Unread post by Xmatty1 » Fri Oct 04, 2024 7:17 am

Is there a place I can go that is less sexual and more mental, a place where I can understand how a hot wife views her husband and bull?

On this site and others I can only find oversexed comments from cuckolds who are fantasizing and jerking off to responses. Or similar comments from wives who are posting for their husbands benefit. It would be nice to get an honest answer from a wife who explains how she feels about being in love with her husband but also being in lust with her boyfriend. How does she feel about her husband being humiliated by the bull? And for those that do, Why they like humiliating her husband.

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Unread post by subbieCuck » Fri Oct 04, 2024 8:51 am

You cant know. Science is unable to unlock the deepest thoughts of humans. Nobody can provide you with the answer you are seeking. What you can do, is to discuss with various hotwives in various sites and/or situations and you might cone up with a vague picture of the multiple feelings towards their husbands.

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Unread post by Cdncuck » Sat Oct 05, 2024 7:12 am

Every couple involved in hotwifing is a bit different. Everyone either finds something that works for them or they stop playing. For example, your comment about the husband being humilated by the bull.

For many of us, if, so called bull, tried to humiliate some of us, they would be gone. Another difference is some of us won't have anything to do with guys who call themselves bulls.

There is no one size fits all answers in this particular sport

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Unread post by Xmatty1 » Sat Oct 05, 2024 8:01 am

subbieCuck wrote:
Fri Oct 04, 2024 8:51 am
You cant know. Science is unable to unlock the deepest thoughts of humans. Nobody can provide you with the answer you are seeking. What you can do, is to discuss with various hotwives in various sites and/or situations and you might cone up with a vague picture of the multiple feelings towards their husbands.
Are you talking about the female mind? Because I can tell you what any man is thinking with 85% accuracy in any given situation. I do think that scientists are still struggling to understand the female mind. It would help if women understood how they feel and why, and then felt they could be honest about it.

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Unread post by trecital » Sat Oct 05, 2024 8:46 am

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Sat Oct 05, 2024 8:01 am
Are you talking about the female mind? Because I can tell you what any man is thinking with 85% accuracy in any given situation. I do think that scientists are still struggling to understand the female mind. It would help if women understood how they feel and why, and then felt they could be honest about it.
Hmm. I think you are treading on dangerous ground with those comments. But I'll let others rip into them.....

I would like to comment that the OP is asking about the mental viewpoint of females with cuckold partners, which I think is a difficult question to answer.
I have been a cuck for 35 years and still don't really understand why it arouses me so much. And, to be honest, I don't really care that much. Perhaps a good psychiatrist might have some insights.... perhaps not.
So, if I don't properly understand my own cuckold 'kink', then how can I expect my wife to fully understand it too? She has less idea than me.
I think you will have trouble getting an answer from a wife of a cuckold, partly because there's not many of them posting on here. And, even if you do, it won't necessarily be representative of wives of cuckolds in general.
All I can tell you is why she likes the situation, which is that she gets a loving husband (who she loves in return), plus extra sex from her boyfriend. What's not to like?

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Unread post by Xmatty1 » Sat Oct 05, 2024 9:00 am

trecital wrote:
Sat Oct 05, 2024 8:46 am
Xmatty1 wrote:
Sat Oct 05, 2024 8:01 am
Are you talking about the female mind? Because I can tell you what any man is thinking with 85% accuracy in any given situation. I do think that scientists are still struggling to understand the female mind. It would help if women understood how they feel and why, and then felt they could be honest about it.
Hmm. I think you are treading on dangerous ground with those comments. But I'll let others rip into them.....

I would like to comment that the OP is asking about the mental viewpoint of females with cuckold partners, which I think is a difficult question to answer.
I have been a cuck for 35 years and still don't really understand why it arouses me so much. And, to be honest, I don't really care that much. Perhaps a good psychiatrist might have some insights.... perhaps not.
So, if I don't properly understand my own cuckold 'kink', then how can I expect my wife to fully understand it too? She has less idea than me.
I think you will have trouble getting an answer from a wife of a cuckold, partly because there's not many of them posting on here. And, even if you do, it won't necessarily be representative of wives of cuckolds in general.
All I can tell you is why she likes the situation, which is that she gets a loving husband (who she loves in return), plus extra sex from her boyfriend. What's not to like?
I am the OP and thank you for clarifying my original post. The complexities of a cuckolds motivations are difficult to understand. The bulls motivation is simple. The wife’s, a little more complex, but she should still be able to articulate what she likes and how she feels about each partner. I’m simply looking for honesty. I can figure out the rest.

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Unread post by Wife4Guys » Sat Oct 05, 2024 10:16 am

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Unread post by hubudig2 » Sat Oct 05, 2024 2:55 pm

I've seen some pretty good "video diaries" from some hotwives on onlyfans where they explain the details of their thought processes and what they find hot about it all.
Sorry, I don't have links. I know @innocenthotwifexxx did a few but I can't remember any of the others.
I'm sure if you're after something specific, you could request it from an onlyfans hotwife, for a price obviously.
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Re: What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

Unread post by sana9889 » Sat Oct 05, 2024 3:24 pm

Having started with multiple partners when i was much younger (15), out of formal relationships, I had a very different experience to most girls growing up in India- who were basically virgin (vaginallt) till they got married.

I would also add that this happened (or started) with some exploitation from my older cousin (who i was in a romantic relationship with' at least on my side) and her bf at the time.

When I got married 12 years later- arranged marriage, I felt unsatisfied with sex with my husband. Dick size wasn't the only issue, but hes not long enough to penetrate me. But I love him in every other way. He keeps me happy and is always kind to me. Sexually.. it just wasn't there. And he just wasn't dominant enough for me. I didnt feel submissive with him

When we moved to Sydney, I found it easier to meet/date others discreetly.

I loved being submissive to strong, dominant men (and women) and giving them pleasure.
I met my bf 5 years ago through his wife... and have been exclusive with him sexually since (unless he arranges it otherwise). Its something he wanted and felt strongly about that only he should be allowed to share me, and I was his sexualy. He has a massive sex appetite and good hard dick. I want him to have me for sex.

My husband is by best friend. My sister. I love him dearly.
I can talk to him about anything and everything. (my sex is a secret). But i talk to him about men we see, their potential dick size. Girls, who we think sleeps around. I just dont want to have sex with him.

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Unread post by naivecuck2 » Sat Oct 05, 2024 8:58 pm

Before the internet and cell phones my ex received a U.S.P.S. letter that was sent to her at her former address and then forwarded to her from her father. The letter was from a High School boyfriend that she had not seen nor talked to in 17 years. He had recently gotten divorced and wanted to get reacquainted with her by taking her out to dinner. So, I naively, gave her a "hall pass" before the movie. On a Friday evening about 5:00 PM, we told our daughters, 10 and 12, that mom was going out to dinner with some college girl friends. He took her to a suburban, hotel restaurant, that slowly revolved 360 degrees with the sunset skyline of Chicago...very romantic and expensive. For dessert he rented a hotel room and he fucked my shy, non-orgasmic, (with me), wife, to multiple orgasms, all night and into the early morning. He had stamina and a larger cock than I did. When she came home Saturday morning about 5:00 AM, she told me that she was planning on seeing him again on Monday, while I was at work and our daughters were in school...then also on Tuesday and Wednesday and Thursday and Friday. What I thought was going to be one and done, lasted another two years with over-night trysts at an out of state, Country/Western venue and a local sex motel with mirrors on the ceiling and sex swings. He owned her pussy, that she had me shave, for him and her 36DD tits. He insisted that when they were alone together that they had to be naked and that she could not wear any jewelry including her wedding and engagement rings. Of course, she agreed to his whims because she was addicted to sex with him. She told me that Catholic guilt added to her sexual pleasure with him. I had cuckold angst and masturbated to the thoughts of him fucking all of her holes because she and I only did missionary. Pretending that she was in a summer bowling league, We even bought her a bowling ball, bag and bowling shoes so that during the summer she could spend Friday nights and early Saturday mornings with her lover. After our divorce, he insisted that he had the exclusive right to use her car and then she finally saw the light and dumped him. Lying to our children was the worst part of her affair and my compliance!

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Unread post by naivecuck2 » Sat Oct 05, 2024 9:05 pm

:cry: Before the internet and cell phones my ex received a U.S.P.S. letter that was sent to her at her former address and then forwarded to her from her father. The letter was from a High School boyfriend that she had not seen nor talked to in 17 years. He had recently gotten divorced and wanted to get reacquainted with her by taking her out to dinner. So, I naively, gave her a "hall pass" before the movie. On a Friday evening about 5:00 PM, we told our daughters, 10 and 12, that mom was going out to dinner with some college girl friends. He took her to a suburban, hotel restaurant, that slowly revolved 360 degrees with the sunset skyline of Chicago...very romantic and expensive. For dessert he rented a hotel room and he fucked my shy, non-orgasmic, (with me), wife, to multiple orgasms, all night and into the early morning. He had stamina and a larger cock than I did. When she came home Saturday morning about 5:00 AM, she told me that she was planning on seeing him again on Monday, while I was at work and our daughters were in school...then also on Tuesday and Wednesday and Thursday and Friday. What I thought was going to be one and done, lasted another two years with over-night trysts at an out of state, Country/Western venue and a local sex motel with mirrors on the ceiling and sex swings. He owned her pussy, that she had me shave, for him and her 36DD tits. He insisted that when they were alone together that they had to be naked and that she could not wear any jewelry including her wedding and engagement rings. Of course, she agreed to his whims because she was addicted to sex with him. She told me that Catholic guilt added to her sexual pleasure with him. I had cuckold angst and masturbated to the thoughts of him fucking all of her holes because she and I only did missionary. Pretending that she was in a summer bowling league, We even bought her a bowling ball, bag and bowling shoes so that during the summer she could spend Friday nights and early Saturday mornings with her lover. After our divorce, he insisted that he had the exclusive right to use her car and then she finally saw the light and dumped him. Lying to our children was the worst part of her affair and my compliance!

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Re: What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

Unread post by knight4princess » Sat Oct 05, 2024 9:08 pm

Cdncuck wrote:
Sat Oct 05, 2024 7:12 am
Every couple involved in hotwifing is a bit different. Everyone either finds something that works for them or they stop playing. For example, your comment about the husband being humilated by the bull.

For many of us, if, so called bull, tried to humiliate some of us, they would be gone. Another difference is some of us won't have anything to do with guys who call themselves bulls.

There is no one size fits all answers in this particular sport
Absolutely. We are one of those couples.

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Unread post by bradisalpha » Sat Oct 05, 2024 10:40 pm

As trecital said above.. “All I can tell you is why she likes the situation, which is that she gets a loving husband (who she loves in return), plus extra sex from her boyfriend. What's not to like?”
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I think trecital answered best with his comment above !! With that being the basic attraction to the lifestyle, I agree.. what’s not to like !!

From my experience, the husband and wife are both receiving the sexual satisfaction they crave secretly.. maybe the wife more secretly than the husband.. although the husbands are much more open about their kinks and what arouses him. The wife is always much more secretive about hers, so it is very hard to predict or understand until her cravings and kinks expose themselves.

The first thing I realize is a wife that is open to having a boyfriend desires and enjoys is the newness of attention from a man concentrating on her.. and only her… something she has missed with the pressures of marriage and family. She enjoys the laughing and flirting of a new relationship and it awakens sexual desires she might have been suppressing. She finds sexual arousal increasing with the stamina and deep thrusts from her BF. She enjoys an Alpha Dominant personality that she has wished for deep inside… someone that can “take” her.

Once those sexual desires are awaken she will enjoy anything sexual that her BF enjoys. She will take his sexual suggestions as if they are hers !! When a cuckold husband exposes his submissive desires, including humiliation, she sees no reason to hold back from going along with her BF to satisfy his desires.. leading to a hotwife/cuckold situation that you mostly read about in this forum. She does not necessarily think any less of her husband.. instead, more that she is excited that he is receiving his pleasure the same as she is with her BF. Her husband accepting his position in the relationship allows her total freedom to experience all of her sexual cravings. She actually appreciates his submission to her and her BF !! She doesn’t love him any less as her husband.. they are a team with both fulfilling their sexual needs !!

It is my position as a BF to not abuse the opportunity they have given me as the enforcer (by lack of a better term) of their desires and always promote their position as a husband and wife with a life and family outside our sexual encounters. And at that point, what’s not to like ??

From my experience…. Just sayin..

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Unread post by dinoo » Sun Oct 06, 2024 10:22 pm

We talked rather a lot about this subject, trying to figure out why we both loved this lifestyle so much.
Finally my wife proposed that we have to stop talking about it and "let us enjoy it as we did so far."

For the rest, I can totally concur with what bradisalpha wrote:

As trecital said above.. “All I can tell you is why she likes the situation, which is that she gets a loving husband (who she loves in return), plus extra sex from her boyfriend. What's not to like?”
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I think trecital answered best with his comment above !! With that being the basic attraction to the lifestyle, I agree.. what’s not to like !!

From my experience, the husband and wife are both receiving the sexual satisfaction they crave secretly.. maybe the wife more secretly than the husband.. although the husbands are much more open about their kinks and what arouses him. The wife is always much more secretive about hers, so it is very hard to predict or understand until her cravings and kinks expose themselves.

The first thing I realize is a wife that is open to having a boyfriend desires and enjoys is the newness of attention from a man concentrating on her.. and only her… something she has missed with the pressures of marriage and family. She enjoys the laughing and flirting of a new relationship and it awakens sexual desires she might have been suppressing. She finds sexual arousal increasing with the stamina and deep thrusts from her BF. She enjoys an Alpha Dominant personality that she has wished for deep inside… someone that can “take” her.

Once those sexual desires are awaken she will enjoy anything sexual that her BF enjoys. She will take his sexual suggestions as if they are hers !! When a cuckold husband exposes his submissive desires, including humiliation, she sees no reason to hold back from going along with her BF to satisfy his desires.. leading to a hotwife/cuckold situation that you mostly read about in this forum. She does not necessarily think any less of her husband.. instead, more that she is excited that he is receiving his pleasure the same as she is with her BF. Her husband accepting his position in the relationship allows her total freedom to experience all of her sexual cravings. She actually appreciates his submission to her and her BF !! She doesn’t love him any less as her husband.. they are a team with both fulfilling their sexual needs !!


It is my position as a BF to not abuse the opportunity they have given me as the enforcer (by lack of a better term) of their desires and always promote their position as a husband and wife with a life and family outside our sexual encounters. And at that point, what’s not to like ??

From my experience…. Just sayin..

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Re: What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

Unread post by Drakebelg » Mon Oct 07, 2024 1:13 am

We are (f53/m49) in the looking for first bull phase. I first told my wife a year ago. She is now completely in the driving seat. We are together for 22 years.

We've had a lot of discussions about it and this is what she says.
She had much before alpha/gentle dom lovers before she met me and misses this. She said I am submissive man, definetly not an alpha/dom in bed. We tried me being dom but it didn't work at all. She was a bit disappointed in our sexlife but feel deeply in love with me. It did mean that after a year or so she started finding sex a bit boring. Vibrators, fisting and penis sleeves have helped but still.....

I've always been a quick cummer and cannot give her a proper hard fucking. She misses this big time. She turned into another woman with big cock sleeves balls deep pounding to multiple animalistic orgasms. She said this is what she has experienced in the past and would like to again.

Eventhough I am 7x5.5 she would prefer a really thick cock and at leat 8" long. Again she experienced this before.

The thrill of guys hitting on her and finding her attractive.

Having me submit to her and she loves to humiliate me about my PE.

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Unread post by Xmatty1 » Mon Oct 07, 2024 5:58 am

Drakebelg wrote:
Mon Oct 07, 2024 1:13 am
We are (f53/m49) in the looking for first bull phase. I first told my wife a year ago. She is now completely in the driving seat. We are together for 22 years.

We've had a lot of discussions about it and this is what she says.
She had much before alpha/gentle dom lovers before she met me and misses this. She said I am submissive man, definetly not an alpha/dom in bed. We tried me being dom but it didn't work at all. She was a bit disappointed in our sexlife but feel deeply in love with me. It did mean that after a year or so she started finding sex a bit boring. Vibrators, fisting and penis sleeves have helped but still.....

I've always been a quick cummer and cannot give her a proper hard fucking. She misses this big time. She turned into another woman with big cock sleeves balls deep pounding to multiple animalistic orgasms. She said this is what she has experienced in the past and would like to again.

Eventhough I am 7x5.5 she would prefer a really thick cock and at leat 8" long. Again she experienced this before.

The thrill of guys hitting on her and finding her attractive.

Having me submit to her and she loves to humiliate me about my PE.
Thanks for this response.

I understand that a bigger dick feels better. That he can fuck her multiple times and I cannot. Multiple positions. His dick is rock hard mine is not.

But understanding the reason why they like humiliating is more difficult. Does your wife like it because it turns you on?

My girlfriend is acting like she has to tolerate this other man shaming me to get the great sex she craves. She tells me and him that. But she also tells him that she wants to put his big cock next to my little cock to see my expression. And she likes talking to him about him fucking her in my lap. Does she get off on this? She describes feeling of freedom and trust. Is it more? What does she get out of me being emasculated while she gets what I can’t give her.

Or is she telling the whole truth. That this is what men do that fuck wives better in front of their husbands, and it’s something that we just have to tolerate. And it works because she thinks it might turn me on.

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Unread post by trecital » Tue Oct 08, 2024 12:24 am

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Mon Oct 07, 2024 5:58 am
I understand that a bigger dick feels better. That he can fuck her multiple times and I cannot. Multiple positions. His dick is rock hard mine is not.

But understanding the reason why they like humiliating is more difficult. Does your wife like it because it turns you on?

My girlfriend is acting like she has to tolerate this other man shaming me to get the great sex she craves. She tells me and him that. But she also tells him that she wants to put his big cock next to my little cock to see my expression. And she likes talking to him about him fucking her in my lap. Does she get off on this? She describes feeling of freedom and trust. Is it more? What does she get out of me being emasculated while she gets what I can’t give her.

Or is she telling the whole truth. That this is what men do that fuck wives better in front of their husbands, and it’s something that we just have to tolerate. And it works because she thinks it might turn me on.
"His dick is rock hard mine is not". Why not?

"she also tells him that she wants to put his big cock next to my little cock to see my expression" Could be she is just having a bit of fun at your expense.

"she likes talking to him about him fucking her in my lap". Maybe a bit of power play type activity.

"Does she get off on this?" How can we possibly know? Have you asked her? If so, what did she say?

"What does she get out of me being emasculated while she gets what I can’t give her." Put simply, better sex, more enjoyment. Again, the emasculation might be done with a smile on her face, for a bit of fun. Or it might be done with a more aggresive attitude, of disdain for you and your poor abilities in the bedroom. But you are in a better position than us to know that.

"is she telling the whole truth" Who knows? You could try asking her.

"it works because she thinks it might turn me on" This is possible too.

Of course, there could be a combination of reasons for her activity, for her thoughts. It might be partially because she simply enjoys the better sex. Partly because she wants to please you, and she knows you get turned on by hearing it and seeing it.

I think you need to try to ascertain her attitude when she humiliates you. Is it done in a caring, fun way, with a smile on her face (or at least, a 'smile' in her mind), or does she do it with a degree of contempt? If it's the latter then you might have a problem.

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Re: What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

Unread post by Xmatty1 » Tue Oct 08, 2024 3:05 am

trecital wrote:
Tue Oct 08, 2024 12:24 am
Xmatty1 wrote:
Mon Oct 07, 2024 5:58 am
I understand that a bigger dick feels better. That he can fuck her multiple times and I cannot. Multiple positions. His dick is rock hard mine is not.

But understanding the reason why they like humiliating is more difficult. Does your wife like it because it turns you on?

My girlfriend is acting like she has to tolerate this other man shaming me to get the great sex she craves. She tells me and him that. But she also tells him that she wants to put his big cock next to my little cock to see my expression. And she likes talking to him about him fucking her in my lap. Does she get off on this? She describes feeling of freedom and trust. Is it more? What does she get out of me being emasculated while she gets what I can’t give her.

Or is she telling the whole truth. That this is what men do that fuck wives better in front of their husbands, and it’s something that we just have to tolerate. And it works because she thinks it might turn me on.
My dick is not hard because it is completely broken, doctors don’t know why. I’m on quadmix injections that give me a floppy erection.

Yes, but what type of power play? His power over me? His power over her? Her power over me? Her power over him?

When I asked her if she got off on it she said she was just doing what turned me and the guy on so that she could get what she wants. Better sex.

"His dick is rock hard mine is not". Why not?

"she also tells him that she wants to put his big cock next to my little cock to see my expression" Could be she is just having a bit of fun at your expense.

"she likes talking to him about him fucking her in my lap". Maybe a bit of power play type activity.

"Does she get off on this?" How can we possibly know? Have you asked her? If so, what did she say?

"What does she get out of me being emasculated while she gets what I can’t give her." Put simply, better sex, more enjoyment. Again, the emasculation might be done with a smile on her face, for a bit of fun. Or it might be done with a more aggresive attitude, of disdain for you and your poor abilities in the bedroom. But you are in a better position than us to know that.

"is she telling the whole truth" Who knows? You could try asking her.

"it works because she thinks it might turn me on" This is possible too.

Of course, there could be a combination of reasons for her activity, for her thoughts. It might be partially because she simply enjoys the better sex. Partly because she wants to please you, and she knows you get turned on by hearing it and seeing it.

I think you need to try to ascertain her attitude when she humiliates you. Is it done in a caring, fun way, with a smile on her face (or at least, a 'smile' in her mind), or does she do it with a degree of contempt? If it's the latter then you might have a problem.

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Unread post by safado » Tue Oct 08, 2024 12:35 pm

in the case of my cuckolding, my wife understood that cucking me gave her power to control me and keep me focused and faithful to her.

Before she did it, she had online chats with a dom I introduced her to online. He understood where I was coming from and what the psychology of cuckolding / female domination was.

He explained it to her and she thought it was a good idea.

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Unread post by coastalkid » Tue Oct 08, 2024 8:38 pm

Xmatty1 wrote:
Fri Oct 04, 2024 7:17 am
Is there a place I can go that is less sexual and more mental, a place where I can understand how a hot wife views her husband and bull?

On this site and others I can only find oversexed comments from cuckolds who are fantasizing and jerking off to responses. Or similar comments from wives who are posting for their husbands benefit. It would be nice to get an honest answer from a wife who explains how she feels about being in love with her husband but also being in lust with her boyfriend. How does she feel about her husband being humiliated by the bull? And for those that do, Why they like humiliating her husband.
This is exactly what I'd like too read a whole lot more about too. How do wives feel about it? Do they become oblivious and lost in their own lust? You never hear much from a wife that says something like, "Whoa fuck! I better check in on my husband, because I've been having a great old time!" I guess I'm surprised and not surprised at the same time. I have this "Pollyanna" belief that wives realize and understand how good they've got it and they keep their good thing going by keeping their husband happy. I've really only read from a very few hot wives here that say the fewest of words about that.

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Re: What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

Unread post by Xmatty1 » Wed Oct 09, 2024 1:36 am

coastalkid wrote:
Tue Oct 08, 2024 8:38 pm
Xmatty1 wrote:
Fri Oct 04, 2024 7:17 am
Is there a place I can go that is less sexual and more mental, a place where I can understand how a hot wife views her husband and bull?

On this site and others I can only find oversexed comments from cuckolds who are fantasizing and jerking off to responses. Or similar comments from wives who are posting for their husbands benefit. It would be nice to get an honest answer from a wife who explains how she feels about being in love with her husband but also being in lust with her boyfriend. How does she feel about her husband being humiliated by the bull? And for those that do, Why they like humiliating her husband.
This is exactly what I'd like too read a whole lot more about too. How do wives feel about it? Do they become oblivious and lost in their own lust? You never hear much from a wife that says something like, "Whoa fuck! I better check in on my husband, because I've been having a great old time!" I guess I'm surprised and not surprised at the same time. I have this "Pollyanna" belief that wives realize and understand how good they've got it and they keep their good thing going by keeping their husband happy. I've really only read from a very few hot wives here that say the fewest of words about that.

I'm with ya, this is what I want to know about!
Yes, thank you. I’m surprised as well. To me this is the most exciting part of this. What is she thinking and feeling about me and the other guy. And other things as well. Here it seems like it’s just a bunch of guys that are telling their wife’s what to call them, what to make them do, what to say about their small penis. Am I one of those guys? Is my girlfriend just patronizing me to get more sex from other guys?

Why is my girlfriend trying to set us up with a couple. I have always said I didn’t want that and she is not bi. It’s too bad there is not a place where men can have honest conversations with hot wives to see what makes them tick, without all the fantasies and guys searching for their sub fix.

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Re: What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

Unread post by gwl9dta4 » Thu Oct 10, 2024 6:29 am

Xmatty1 wrote:
Fri Oct 04, 2024 7:17 am
Is there a place I can go that is less sexual and more mental, a place where I can understand how a hot wife views her husband and bull?

On this site and others I can only find oversexed comments from cuckolds who are fantasizing and jerking off to responses. Or similar comments from wives who are posting for their husbands benefit. It would be nice to get an honest answer from a wife who explains how she feels about being in love with her husband but also being in lust with her boyfriend. How does she feel about her husband being humiliated by the bull? And for those that do, Why they like humiliating her husband.
First off ALL sex is mental first and then acted out physically. The wife feels just like you described. In love with her husband and in lust with her bf. Sometimes there is some overlap in love and lust. Humiliation is not humiliation to those who are into it. It's just their kink and a type of fun they like.It's all very high trust. Humiliation, cucking etc are just labels.

Think of yourself as a man with a wife you love and she likes you having sex with another woman she selected for you. You would do it, you would enjoy it, lust about it but in the end it would only make you love your wife even more. Try it as a thought experiment.

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Re: What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

Unread post by annsman » Thu Oct 10, 2024 11:23 am

There’s no humiliation in our relationship, my wife is turned on having sex with other men and equally turned on by my reaction when she gets home from a date and tells me all about it. She’s often said that coming home is the best part.

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Re: What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

Unread post by trecital » Fri Oct 11, 2024 12:07 am

annsman wrote:
Thu Oct 10, 2024 11:23 am
She’s often said that coming home is the best part.
I hope that bit isn't strictly true! :D

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Re: What is going on in the mind of a cuckolds wife?

Unread post by frank12 » Fri Oct 11, 2024 3:37 am

Perhaps it is waxing too philosophical but I draw a parallel to a well-known concept in music: Composers recognize that the human brain enjoys music which introduces a tension, in melody and intensity, which is then resolved as the composition continues, tension released for the listener, their discomfort relieved as the music plays out. In larger symphonic compositions this is often a layered concept with multiple passages which introduce tensions and resolutions - all resulting in an enjoyable, engaging experience for the listener.

In an ever so much more complex way many of us enjoy elements of our sexual lives in finding adventures which introduce other sorts of tensions that contribute to the brain's enjoyment as those tensions are relieved. The simple tension of arousal and orgasm is at that first layer, the more complex ones that people draw in and enjoy include the elements of kinky D/s play and for some the complexities of relationship play with multiple partners in all of the variations including hotwife and cuckold play.

The resolution, the release, the return to the comfort of a committed relationship and the marriage bed (or in some cases a devoted hubby who is graced with a creampie to consume or a hotwife that gets her spanking for being such a "bad girl") may be a similar sort of experience for his cuckoldress' brain to enjoy. It is not quite as good if there is not the tension developed, and where some wives and couples find they like the taunting, teasing and humiliations, some have not discovered those can be a part of the tensions while others have not quite understood themselves and the why's of their enjoyment of the tensions.

The music plays in so many ways.

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"The more you love, the more you can love - and the more intensely you love. Nor is there any limit on how many you can love. If a person had time enough, he could love all of that majority who are decent and just."

R.A. Heinlein - Lazarus Long

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