Losing your crush/girlfriend/wife to another man

[toreaddave]

I had a HUGE crush on a cute girl back in high school, and I'm sure she also had a crush on me too. We were close friends, but I never had the balls to ask her out. After graduation, we drifted apart and haven't talked in years. Today, I saw a picture of her and her boyfriend looking VERY happy. I ended up cumming the hardest I've ever cum before to that pic and the thought of them being happy together. It was definitely the most pathetic jerk-off session of my life. And I've been so deep into this cuckolding fetish that I didn't even feel any post-nut clarity...I think I've hit rock bottom.

One of the most extreme fantasies in cuckolding is actually losing your girlfriend/wife to another man. I know she was never mine to begin with, but it feels like the lite version of "losing" her. Has anyone else had similar experiences with crushes or an ACTUAL girlfriend/wife?

[tributeb20]

I have a thread on forum but short story:

I had a GF and we dated for 3 years. She was virgin and I didn't fuck her because my cock is very small. She had a trip and met a guy while she was with her friends in a party. She broke up with me after this trip and get so close with this guy.

I lose my pretty virgin gf for a nice guy. She probably had her first time with him and think about it make me almost cum. I had a huge desire for her until today and I jerk a lot when I see her pics on party or with others guys.

[toreaddave]

I have a thread on forum but short story:

I had a GF and we dated for 3 years. She was virgin and I didn't fuck her because my cock is very small. She had a trip and met a guy while she was with her friends in a party. She broke up with me after this trip and get so close with this guy.

I lose my pretty virgin gf for a nice guy. She probably had her first time with him and think about it make me almost cum. I had a huge desire for her until today and I jerk a lot when I see her pics on party or with others guys.

Wow, she really threw away 3 years after a single trip?! Must be one hell of a guy.

[tributeb20]

Wow, she really threw away 3 years after a single trip?! Must be one hell of a guy.

Yes. Probably she was tired to waiting to have a real fuck. From the pics I saw, the guy looks very great.

[Thebestdays1]

I lost my wife to another man, 22 years ago.
She had been seeing a colleague of hers for about a year; sucking him off every morning after their night shift and spending Friday nights together, downstairs in our house, while he'd told his wife that he was working overtime. However, after a while he started acting a bit too weird for her liking and she eventually dumped him. He didn't take it very well and kept pestering her to take him back. At some point during this time his wife told him she'd started seeing someone else and left him. This seemed to make him more determined to get my wife to take him back.
This started to impact on their work and one man started sticking up for her and telling the other one to back off. She'd told me that there had been a couple of issues with the previous boyfriend but hadn't admitted just how bad it was. She told me how the second man looked out for her and I just felt grateful to him. I asked if she fancied him but she replied that he wasn't her type and that he was married.
A few months later there was a Christmas party for the staff and when she came home she admitted she'd sucked him off in her car when she drove him home. She denied anything else had happened although I noticed a stain in her knickers the next morning. A few months later, she came home and said they'd started taking their breaks together in her car to get away from the other man and that she'd sucked him off that night.
She never admitted anything else to me and after a couple of months she'd become so distant that I suggested we should have a trial separation. She eventually admitted she'd been having an affair with him for about 10 months, despite our rule that we were to be absolutely honest with eachother. She hadn't wanted to tell me because she didn't want to give me the juicy details of what they'd done. She was in love with him and didn't want to talk about him in a way that would excite me.
I moved out two months later, we continued to see eachother on my weekends off and went on two pre-booked holidays together, during which time, they'd talk on the phone whenever his wife wasn't around. She eventually found out and kicked him out so he moved in with my wife, 1 day before I'd had to leave my accommodation and move into the caravan on our old driveway.

[toreaddave]

I lost my wife to another man, 22 years ago.
She had been seeing a colleague of hers for about a year; sucking him off every morning after their night shift and spending Friday nights together, downstairs in our house, while he'd told his wife that he was working overtime. However, after a while he started acting a bit too weird for her liking and she eventually dumped him. He didn't take it very well and kept pestering her to take him back. At some point during this time his wife told him she'd started seeing someone else and left him. This seemed to make him more determined to get my wife to take him back.
This started to impact on their work and one man started sticking up for her and telling the other one to back off. She'd told me that there had been a couple of issues with the previous boyfriend but hadn't admitted just how bad it was. She told me how the second man looked out for her and I just felt grateful to him. I asked if she fancied him but she replied that he wasn't her type and that he was married.
A few months later there was a Christmas party for the staff and when she came home she admitted she'd sucked him off in her car when she drove him home. She denied anything else had happened although I noticed a stain in her knickers the next morning. A few months later, she came home and said they'd started taking their breaks together in her car to get away from the other man and that she'd sucked him off that night.
She never admitted anything else to me and after a couple of months she'd become so distant that I suggested we should have a trial separation. She eventually admitted she'd been having an affair with him for about 10 months, despite our rule that we were to be absolutely honest with eachother. She hadn't wanted to tell me because she didn't want to give me the juicy details of what they'd done. She was in love with him and didn't want to talk about him in a way that would excite me.
I moved out two months later, we continued to see eachother on my weekends off and went on two pre-booked holidays together, during which time, they'd talk on the phone whenever his wife wasn't around. She eventually found out and kicked him out so he moved in with my wife, 1 day before I'd had to leave my accommodation and move into the caravan on our old driveway.

Damn, thanks for sharing. How long were you two together, and do you think your marriage would have survived if you never got into cuckolding?

[ucaneffher]

I had a HUGE crush on a cute girl back in high school, and I'm sure she also had a crush on me too. We were close friends, but I never had the balls to ask her out. After graduation, we drifted apart and haven't talked in years. Today, I saw a picture of her and her boyfriend looking VERY happy. I ended up cumming the hardest I've ever cum before to that pic and the thought of them being happy together. It was definitely the most pathetic jerk-off session of my life. And I've been so deep into this cuckolding fetish that I didn't even feel any post-nut clarity...I think I've hit rock bottom.

Dude you and me both. I feel like if drifted so deep into it that I don't even feel that regret for wanting it. I no longer ask myself WTF I am thinking wanting something so extreme right after cumming.

Recent realizations have become so intense for me as well. For example, I feel like I have drifted so deep into cuckoldry (despite not officially being cucked over a decade) that I have come to terms that if my girlfriend or wife made me a cuckold and started dictating rules, I would not oppose and would simply accept. This is something I'd not do in the past. However, I do have limitations such as homosexual/man on man acts and disrespect from another man but most other things are fair game and I'd accept.

Something id never think to accept or do is total denial of penetration but if my current girlfriend decided to give cuckolding a try, loved it, and then told me you have the option to: A) pick between her cuckolding me at the exchange of me being denied or B) resuming our normal relationship and sex life but then she wouldn't see other men... I can tell you with 100% certainty now that If I had the option, I would very much pick option A, her dating other men, cucking me, and permanently denying me as opposed to not cucking me at all but giving me all the pussy I want. This is what scares me, that I wouldn't hesitate to pick being a permanently denied cuck versus normal relationship with unrestricted pussy. 2, 5, 10, 15 years ago I would have said "fuck no!" I'd back off for a few months up to a year to let her be exclusive for a while but now I'm at a point where I crave deeper cuckolding.

One of the most extreme fantasies in cuckolding is actually losing your girlfriend/wife to another man. I know she was never mine to begin with, but it feels like the lite version of "losing" her. Has anyone else had similar experiences with crushes or an ACTUAL girlfriend/wife?

That would be me. I like the extreme risk. I like to see my woman go almost all the way to the point where she becomes more his than mine. I have watched a girlfriend go all the way with her boyfriend. Physically and emotionally she was his. They were sexually exclusive, she saw him every single day, he was her main partner. Holidays, weddings, vacations, and social events/outings were mainly with him instead of me. I hated the part of being left out but I loved watching her belong to him, I loved seeing her looking so beautiful to please him, I loved seeing her physical transformations to surprise him with her style. Hair, nails, skin care, gym and diet, sexier clothing, high heels daily instead of sneakers daily- I liked seeing the details and extra work that she would put to satisfying him instead of me. It was even hotter learning that she was more willing to do things with him that she wouldn't with me such as anal, oral sex, and s whole lot of public sex. Sometimes as a cuck, you just want to see her unhinged and doing crazy things with others that she wouldn't do with you.

I couldn't believe that her first international vacation was with another man, her boyfriend and not me ( we had been together since highschool) I couldn't believe that she had uninhibited and passionate sex with him on lonely beaches many nights of their vacation and with him naturally finishing in her every time.

It made me jealous to hear her happily sharing those details with me but it turned me on insanely and kept me jerking off alone at home knowing that my high school sweetheart was thousands of miles away, giving herself to her boyfriend without limits, and repeatedly making love to him on a lonely sandy beach without a worry in the world.

As excluded and neglected as it made me feel to see my ex go away on a romantic vacation with another man, as a cuckold I would love to relive that with my current partner and would go as far as saying that I would like for that type of activity to become a normal part of my relationship with her. As a housewife without children, having various lovers or boyfriends would facilitate her going away on several vacations per year with different men and I would be good with that.

[toreaddave]

I had a HUGE crush on a cute girl back in high school, and I'm sure she also had a crush on me too. We were close friends, but I never had the balls to ask her out. After graduation, we drifted apart and haven't talked in years. Today, I saw a picture of her and her boyfriend looking VERY happy. I ended up cumming the hardest I've ever cum before to that pic and the thought of them being happy together. It was definitely the most pathetic jerk-off session of my life. And I've been so deep into this cuckolding fetish that I didn't even feel any post-nut clarity...I think I've hit rock bottom.

Dude you and me both. I feel like if drifted so deep into it that I don't even feel that regret for wanting it. I no longer ask myself WTF I am thinking wanting something so extreme right after cumming.

Recent realizations have become so intense for me as well. For example, I feel like I have drifted so deep into cuckoldry (despite not officially being cucked over a decade) that I have come to terms that if my girlfriend or wife made me a cuckold and started dictating rules, I would not oppose and would simply accept. This is something I'd not do in the past. However, I do have limitations such as homosexual/man on man acts and disrespect from another man but most other things are fair game and I'd accept.

Something id never think to accept or do is total denial of penetration but if my current girlfriend decided to give cuckolding a try, loved it, and then told me you have the option to: A) pick between her cuckolding me at the exchange of me being denied or B) resuming our normal relationship and sex life but then she wouldn't see other men... I can tell you with 100% certainty now that If I had the option, I would very much pick option A, her dating other men, cucking me, and permanently denying me as opposed to not cucking me at all but giving me all the pussy I want. This is what scares me, that I wouldn't hesitate to pick being a permanently denied cuck versus normal relationship with unrestricted pussy. 2, 5, 10, 15 years ago I would have said "fuck no!" I'd back off for a few months up to a year to let her be exclusive for a while but now I'm at a point where I crave deeper cuckolding.

One of the most extreme fantasies in cuckolding is actually losing your girlfriend/wife to another man. I know she was never mine to begin with, but it feels like the lite version of "losing" her. Has anyone else had similar experiences with crushes or an ACTUAL girlfriend/wife?

That would be me. I like the extreme risk. I like to see my woman go almost all the way to the point where she becomes more his than mine. I have watched a girlfriend go all the way with her boyfriend. Physically and emotionally she was his. They were sexually exclusive, she saw him every single day, he was her main partner. Holidays, weddings, vacations, and social events/outings were mainly with him instead of me. I hated the part of being left out but I loved watching her belong to him, I loved seeing her looking so beautiful to please him, I loved seeing her physical transformations to surprise him with her style. Hair, nails, skin care, gym and diet, sexier clothing, high heels daily instead of sneakers daily- I liked seeing the details and extra work that she would put to satisfying him instead of me. It was even hotter learning that she was more willing to do things with him that she wouldn't with me such as anal, oral sex, and s whole lot of public sex. Sometimes as a cuck, you just want to see her unhinged and doing crazy things with others that she wouldn't do with you.

I couldn't believe that her first international vacation was with another man, her boyfriend and not me ( we had been together since highschool) I couldn't believe that she had uninhibited and passionate sex with him on lonely beaches many nights of their vacation and with him naturally finishing in her every time.

It made me jealous to hear her happily sharing those details with me but it turned me on insanely and kept me jerking off alone at home knowing that my high school sweetheart was thousands of miles away, giving herself to her boyfriend without limits, and repeatedly making love to him on a lonely sandy beach without a worry in the world.

As excluded and neglected as it made me feel to see my ex go away on a romantic vacation with another man, as a cuckold I would love to relive that with my current partner and would go as far as saying that I would like for that type of activity to become a normal part of my relationship with her. As a housewife without children, having various lovers or boyfriends would facilitate her going away on several vacations per year with different men and I would be good with that.

Thanks again for sharing, I always love reading about your crazy experiences and thoughts about the lifestyle! It's fascinating that as we get deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole, we begin accepting ever-increasing extreme aspects of the lifestyle. For me, I was always into extreme denial, so I never had any reservations about being permanently denied. However, one thing that I'm starting to wonder if I would really accept in real life is pregnancy...Aside from full-on leaving for another man, I think pregnancy is the second most extreme aspect. It kinda scares me that I'm not sure what I would do if faced with this reality...I'm not sure I'd be strong enough to think with the correct head. Morally, I don't think it's the best idea to bring a child into this world via a fetish. But damn does it turn my gears like nothing else. But anyway, that's a whole different can of worms for another thread (which plenty already exist).

Your experience of your girlfriend living with another man full-time for months is one of the most extreme (and hot) I've seen. Your story gets me absolutely rock hard, but I don't think I'd be able to live with that in reality. I think my main problem with that is just how little time you get to spend with her. What I would consider is living in the same household and him taking full control of the house, her body, and her heart. At least this way, we'd be more present in each others' lives, even if her body and soul belong to another man. But at that point, I wonder why she/they are even keeping me around...Unless she's polyamorous and is capable of loving two men at the same time (while being sexually exclusive to just one), then I suppose that could work.

[sana9889]

It sounds like there is some pain behind this.
I guess its different when you don't get to be part of their life at all, as opposed to just not being a sexual partner.
I hope you are ok.

[toreaddave]

It sounds like there is some pain behind this.
I guess its different when you don't get to be part of their life at all, as opposed to just not being a sexual partner.
I hope you are ok.

Thank you for your kindness and concern!
It definitely hurt a bit, but I think I'm okay.
I do wonder if my cuckolding fetish is from an underlying subconscious fear of being cheated on.
And whether diving deeper into this fetish is just a defense/coping mechanism for this news.

[sana9889]

It sounds like there is some pain behind this.
I guess its different when you don't get to be part of their life at all, as opposed to just not being a sexual partner.
I hope you are ok.

Thank you for your kindness and concern!
It definitely hurt a bit, but I think I'm okay.
I do wonder if my cuckolding fetish is from an underlying subconscious fear of being cheated on.
And whether diving deeper into this fetish is just a defense/coping mechanism for this news.

It may be sweetie. Have you been with other girls before?
How were you in those relationships? What kind of role did you have?

[toreaddave]

It sounds like there is some pain behind this.
I guess its different when you don't get to be part of their life at all, as opposed to just not being a sexual partner.
I hope you are ok.

Thank you for your kindness and concern!
It definitely hurt a bit, but I think I'm okay.
I do wonder if my cuckolding fetish is from an underlying subconscious fear of being cheated on.
And whether diving deeper into this fetish is just a defense/coping mechanism for this news.

It may be sweetie. Have you been with other girls before?
How were you in those relationships? What kind of role did you have?

Thank you for asking. I've actually never been in a relationship and am still a virgin. Most people would think this must mean I'm a socially inept loser, but that's not quite the case. I'm fairly good at talking to people and don't look too bad. I've had about three chances in my life where I could have pursued a romantic relationship but "chose" not to. I say "chose" because at the time, I convinced myself that I should focus my efforts on my education and career first. But now looking back, I believe I was simply immature and afraid. Now that I have completed my education and have a stable career, I look back at the chances I had for a relationship and wonder "what if"...But I'm not a fan of regret, so I've decided to stop wondering about what could have been and instead focus on being grateful for what I currently have. And who knows if I'd be where I am today if I had made a different choice in terms of pursuing one of those relationships. Maybe better, maybe worse. But I really don't think I was mature enough back then to handle a relationship while juggling school. And plus, I'm still young and don't believe in a single soulmate, so I'm happy with who I am and where my life is today. And somewhere along my journey, I stumbled upon cuckolding and became deeply entrenched in it. At first, I was ashamed of having this kink, but after years of turmoil, I've come to embrace that it is now a permanent part of me. Now, I'm looking for my first relationship, one that might even start as a cuckolding relationship...we'll have to see. Thanks again for asking! To care about the well-being of an internet stranger takes a special type of kind-hearted person. So thank you.

[Thebestdays1]

I lost my wife to another man, 22 years ago.
She had been seeing a colleague of hers for about a year; sucking him off every morning after their night shift and spending Friday nights together, downstairs in our house, while he'd told his wife that he was working overtime. However, after a while he started acting a bit too weird for her liking and she eventually dumped him. He didn't take it very well and kept pestering her to take him back. At some point during this time his wife told him she'd started seeing someone else and left him. This seemed to make him more determined to get my wife to take him back.
This started to impact on their work and one man started sticking up for her and telling the other one to back off. She'd told me that there had been a couple of issues with the previous boyfriend but hadn't admitted just how bad it was. She told me how the second man looked out for her and I just felt grateful to him. I asked if she fancied him but she replied that he wasn't her type and that he was married.
A few months later there was a Christmas party for the staff and when she came home she admitted she'd sucked him off in her car when she drove him home. She denied anything else had happened although I noticed a stain in her knickers the next morning. A few months later, she came home and said they'd started taking their breaks together in her car to get away from the other man and that she'd sucked him off that night.
She never admitted anything else to me and after a couple of months she'd become so distant that I suggested we should have a trial separation. She eventually admitted she'd been having an affair with him for about 10 months, despite our rule that we were to be absolutely honest with eachother. She hadn't wanted to tell me because she didn't want to give me the juicy details of what they'd done. She was in love with him and didn't want to talk about him in a way that would excite me.
I moved out two months later, we continued to see eachother on my weekends off and went on two pre-booked holidays together, during which time, they'd talk on the phone whenever his wife wasn't around. She eventually found out and kicked him out so he moved in with my wife, 1 day before I'd had to leave my accommodation and move into the caravan on our old driveway.

Damn, thanks for sharing. How long were you two together, and do you think your marriage would have survived if you never got into cuckolding?

I realised just afterwards that the day I mentioned the trial separation was the 21st anniversary of the day we met.
As for would it have survived if we hadn't have gotten into the lifestyle; I don't think we'd have got married. She was already into cheating and swapping before we met and being bi, she knew she'd want to continue to see other women instead. She was just being honest with herself.
She mostly stopped seeing other people when she and this man were together but that relationship didn't last long. For a while she didn't have anyone in her life and then she got together with her sister's first boyfriend, a previous lover of hers. Now she's with someone who knows nothing about her past and she settled down for a couple of years but she eventually started seeing a young bi curious colleague for a couple of years until she and her partner moved across country two years ago. It didn't take her long before she had an occasional fling with another young woman from work, however.
We've always kept in contact and for the past few years have been exchanging emails where we talk about our past life and she reads my posts on here, sometimes correcting something I've written or suggesting I mention something. As she now lives only a few hours from one of our daughters, who doesn't live far from me, she drives up to see her once a month. On that day she fucks her partner and I meet her along the road in my campervan. I clean her up and we have sex before I clean her up again. I stay in the layby until she's on her way home and we have sex again. This was all her suggestion, she doesn't seem to be able to stop the thrill of illicit encounters, despite being in love with her partner.

[kort677]

the potential for losing your wife to one of her lovers is part of the cuck world.
women are prone to develop deep feelings with the men that they are having relationships with.
we decided early on that one way to avoid this problem is for her to never be with a guy more than a couple of times.
it is harder but better for her to go with random men and it is usually a one and done affair.

[toreaddave]

I lost my wife to another man, 22 years ago.
She had been seeing a colleague of hers for about a year; sucking him off every morning after their night shift and spending Friday nights together, downstairs in our house, while he'd told his wife that he was working overtime. However, after a while he started acting a bit too weird for her liking and she eventually dumped him. He didn't take it very well and kept pestering her to take him back. At some point during this time his wife told him she'd started seeing someone else and left him. This seemed to make him more determined to get my wife to take him back.
This started to impact on their work and one man started sticking up for her and telling the other one to back off. She'd told me that there had been a couple of issues with the previous boyfriend but hadn't admitted just how bad it was. She told me how the second man looked out for her and I just felt grateful to him. I asked if she fancied him but she replied that he wasn't her type and that he was married.
A few months later there was a Christmas party for the staff and when she came home she admitted she'd sucked him off in her car when she drove him home. She denied anything else had happened although I noticed a stain in her knickers the next morning. A few months later, she came home and said they'd started taking their breaks together in her car to get away from the other man and that she'd sucked him off that night.
She never admitted anything else to me and after a couple of months she'd become so distant that I suggested we should have a trial separation. She eventually admitted she'd been having an affair with him for about 10 months, despite our rule that we were to be absolutely honest with eachother. She hadn't wanted to tell me because she didn't want to give me the juicy details of what they'd done. She was in love with him and didn't want to talk about him in a way that would excite me.
I moved out two months later, we continued to see eachother on my weekends off and went on two pre-booked holidays together, during which time, they'd talk on the phone whenever his wife wasn't around. She eventually found out and kicked him out so he moved in with my wife, 1 day before I'd had to leave my accommodation and move into the caravan on our old driveway.

Damn, thanks for sharing. How long were you two together, and do you think your marriage would have survived if you never got into cuckolding?

I realised just afterwards that the day I mentioned the trial separation was the 21st anniversary of the day we met.
As for would it have survived if we hadn't have gotten into the lifestyle; I don't think we'd have got married. She was already into cheating and swapping before we met and being bi, she knew she'd want to continue to see other women instead. She was just being honest with herself.
She mostly stopped seeing other people when she and this man were together but that relationship didn't last long. For a while she didn't have anyone in her life and then she got together with her sister's first boyfriend, a previous lover of hers. Now she's with someone who knows nothing about her past and she settled down for a couple of years but she eventually started seeing a young bi curious colleague for a couple of years until she and her partner moved across country two years ago. It didn't take her long before she had an occasional fling with another young woman from work, however.
We've always kept in contact and for the past few years have been exchanging emails where we talk about our past life and she reads my posts on here, sometimes correcting something I've written or suggesting I mention something. As she now lives only a few hours from one of our daughters, who doesn't live far from me, she drives up to see her once a month. On that day she fucks her partner and I meet her along the road in my campervan. I clean her up and we have sex before I clean her up again. I stay in the layby until she's on her way home and we have sex again. This was all her suggestion, she doesn't seem to be able to stop the thrill of illicit encounters, despite being in love with her partner.

Oh man, thanks for sharing. I'd be devastated if that happened to me after 21 years. But it seems you're rather okay with the situation given that you're still in contact and do cuck-related activities with her. Do you regret anything or would do anything differently if you could do it over again?

[toreaddave]

the potential for losing your wife to one of her lovers is part of the cuck world.
women are prone to develop deep feelings with the men that they are having relationships with.
we decided early on that one way to avoid this problem is for her to never be with a guy more than a couple of times.
it is harder but better for her to go with random men and it is usually a one and done affair.

I see, that's one way to guard against this I suppose. Though it would depend on the woman if she feels this rule is too restrictive and takes away from the experience. I personally would not implement this rule because I think it's a bit unfair for her in case she really likes someone. But then again, if she really likes someone, that presents an increased risk of losing her. It's definitely a tough balancing act between giving her enough freedom and ensuring the relationship survives.

[Ghalilaeus]

I think I am rather extreme on my cuckold scale wishes (nudity denial, permanent chastity etc) but I sincerely hope this never happens to me. I always envisioned the perfect relationship as very kinky but stable. Finding the perfect Lady and then losing Her would be crushing.

[toreaddave]

I think I am rather extreme on my cuckold scale wishes (nudity denial, permanent chastity etc) but I sincerely hope this never happens to me. I always envisioned the perfect relationship as very kinky but stable. Finding the perfect Lady and then losing Her would be crushing.

Agreed. Hot in theory, absolutely not in reality.

[kort677]

the potential for losing your wife to one of her lovers is part of the cuck world.
women are prone to develop deep feelings with the men that they are having relationships with.
we decided early on that one way to avoid this problem is for her to never be with a guy more than a couple of times.
it is harder but better for her to go with random men and it is usually a one and done affair.

I see, that's one way to guard against this I suppose. Though it would depend on the woman if she feels this rule is too restrictive and takes away from the experience. I personally would not implement this rule because I think it's a bit unfair for her in case she really likes someone. But then again, if she really likes someone, that presents an increased risk of losing her. It's definitely a tough balancing act between giving her enough freedom and ensuring the relationship survives.

I didn't impose any sort of rule, we decide together, and she is always in control of who when and where things happen

[toreaddave]

the potential for losing your wife to one of her lovers is part of the cuck world.
women are prone to develop deep feelings with the men that they are having relationships with.
we decided early on that one way to avoid this problem is for her to never be with a guy more than a couple of times.
it is harder but better for her to go with random men and it is usually a one and done affair.

I see, that's one way to guard against this I suppose. Though it would depend on the woman if she feels this rule is too restrictive and takes away from the experience. I personally would not implement this rule because I think it's a bit unfair for her in case she really likes someone. But then again, if she really likes someone, that presents an increased risk of losing her. It's definitely a tough balancing act between giving her enough freedom and ensuring the relationship survives.

I didn't impose any sort of rule, we decide together, and she is always in control of who when and where things happen

Right, you two decided on that rule together which is fantastic. However, some women would much prefer having regular bulls/boyfriends rather than one-and-done affairs. So I meant to say that in those cases, I don't think it'd be fair for me to deny her that, even at the increased risk of things going wrong.

[ucaneffher]

Thanks again for sharing, I always love reading about your crazy experiences and thoughts about the lifestyle! It's fascinating that as we get deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole, we begin accepting ever-increasing extreme aspects of the lifestyle. For me, I was always into extreme denial, so I never had any reservations about being permanently denied.

Thanks, I'm glad that there are a select few on OHW who find my extreme past experiences hot! I never thought I would ever do something that crazy and extreme. I've always been addicted to sex so giving it up was never an option or even a consideration but here I am, full blown cuckold, more than willing to give it up without a fight if she were to request going that route. I'd only give it up if it means watching her up close in person frequently and knowing the details of her encounters when I'm not present.

However, one thing that I'm starting to wonder if I would really accept in real life is pregnancy...Aside from full-on leaving for another man, I think pregnancy is the second most extreme aspect. It kinda scares me that I'm not sure what I would do if faced with this reality...I'm not sure I'd be strong enough to think with the correct head. Morally, I don't think it's the best idea to bring a child into this world via a fetish. But damn does it turn my gears like nothing else. But anyway, that's a whole different can of worms for another thread (which plenty already exist).

Agree 100% with you. Morally I feel that it is wrong to bring a child into this world based on a kink or a fantasy. We did have a rule that if she got pregnant while playing, that we would raise the child together and give him or her a loving home. When you play with fire, you need to accept that you can feel heat and even get burned so we both agreed that some actions have consequences and we have to be ready to face them if we are going to play.

I admit that it also gets my gears going but that is not enough to make it a reality intentionally. The only way that I might give into it is if we are in a poly-cuck relationship where she has a boyfriend who has assumed my role as her new primary partner and I am the cuckold 3rd wheel observer of their relationship.

If she has a boyfriend who is her primary partner, he lives with us, and they are genuinely in love and committed to each other, then I feel that as their cuckold-third-wheel who only sleeps with her once a week and only has sex with her on anniversary night and on my birthday; I would be open and accepting of her opting to choose him as the man she has children with but that's an extreme scenario and it's something that will need to be discussed if we ever get to that. Don't want to cross that bridge if not there.

Your experience of your girlfriend living with another man full-time for months is one of the most extreme (and hot) I've seen. Your story gets me absolutely rock hard, but I don't think I'd be able to live with that in reality. I think my main problem with that is just how little time you get to spend with her.

Dude you are not kidding. That was one of the most extreme things I have ever done in my entire existence on this planet. I found it so incredibly erotic to give up my girlfriend and watched her live with her boyfriend. 18 months living away and with reduced access to her is certainly no joke but it was too fuckin hot while we were living that. I still saw her once, maybe twice a week when she would sneak to see me while he was at work. We still had sex but not as much as when we lived together. I think that what turned me on was how the tables flipped and I had to wait my turn, and I had to deal with no longer having full time easy access to my girlfriend. As a cuck I had to suck it up and wait my turn while her boyfriend got her every single night. He had the privilege to have that hot young girl hopping into bed with her usual PJs which were either booty shirts and a tank top or a thong and a tank top, along the way it became booty shorts/topless or thong/topless. Knowing this made it hotter, especially at night when I was alone in bed thinking that at that exact moment my GF was across town in their apartment, in bed with him wearing her skimpy comfy PJ's, probably in the middle of foreplay to have a quickie before bed. Not having control or knowing the exact details turned me on even more.


What I would consider is living in the same household and him taking full control of the house, her body, and her heart. At least this way, we'd be more present in each others' lives, even if her body and soul belong to another man. But at that point, I wonder why she/they are even keeping me around...Unless she's polyamorous and is capable of loving two men at the same time (while being sexually exclusive to just one), then I suppose that could work.

Your reason above, is exactly the reason why this scenario has become my go-to ultimate desire in the last year or two. As much as I loved the jealousy and masochistic aspect of temporarily losing my girlfriend while she was living with another man, it just made it difficult not seeing her as much and feeling excluded until the time i would finally see her to catch up with our relationship and our intimacy. It was gut wrenching and erotically humiliating not being able to show up unannounced despite having a key to her place, not being able to call or text her until she reached out, and when I did get to spend time with her I had to publicly hold back from PDA in case people saw us they would tell her boyfriend!

The problem was that in our situation, her boyfriend didn't know she had me. I think that the situation would change a *little* if she does this with a man who is fully aware that she has a cuckold back home. He can have her, take her to live with him, be exclusive, the whole nine yards but at the same time be accepting that her cuck still gets to spend time with her on a designated day(s) without the need to hide or sneak around, yes we'd have joint custody of my girlfriend lol. Perhaps visiting my girlfriend at her and her boyfriends home and sleeping over once or twice a week might make the situation doable. Just imagine visiting them and their home has portraits of them, that would certainly push some buttons!

Back to your idea, the scenario that I have thought of that would satisfy all cuckold tendencies without her going away with another would be to bring him in instead. Think of it as a polyamorous/cuckold hybrid relationship. The idea is that she dates around until she finds a man that she sees as a good fit to be her boyfriend and eventually take over my role as her primary partner.

So she becomes his girlfriend and if things are going well with their relationship and the sex is good, then he moves into our home with the purpose of taking over as her primary partner and I assume the role of secondary. I relocate to another bedroom and he moves into the master bedroom with her. She sleeps most nights with him but comes to sleep and stay in my bedroom with me once or twice per week, sex with me becomes less and less if she already isn't exclusive with him before he moves in.

They do not hold back at all, they are not afraid to be a couple and act like a couple in front of me and around the house. I am essentially invisible. It becomes normal for me to see her flirting with him, kissing him, it's normal to walk into the house and catch them in the act anywhere in the house. Nothing changes in the way that she carries herself around in the house with him. Her revealing and flirty house clothes are the same with him as they were for me when it was just the two of us living alone. She still cooks for him while wearing nothing but a thong, except I get to see her doing it for him now.

This arrangement serves different purposes, it allows her to have two men love her who serve her and are happy to share her even if it's a crazy disproportionate ratio of 9:1. Me being the cuck naturally getting the 1 while he gets the 9. The other purpose for this arrangement is that it allows the cuckold to feel included, even if his girlfriend or wife realistically belongs 90% or 99% to the other man. She'll likely be sexually exclusive to her boyfriend and will certainly be emotionally connected to him. Let's not forget that she will be physically spending more time intimately connecting with her boyfriend if she goes sexually exclusive with him and sleeps at night with him, that's not even counting normal BF/GF activities outside our home.

The final purpose and this one is mostly for my benefit as I doubt it would do much for her or the boyfriend. As you mentioned in your earlier response, you've drifted so deep into cuckoldry that you find yourself not having that post nut clarity anymore, I think that is a large contributing factor for me wanting this.

Over a decade ago with my first hot gf, it became so normal to see my GF dating men left and right , sleeping over, going away weekends, going on multiple 2 week vacations with other men, moving away for 18 months, posting her hot GF activities on social media for everyone to see her with with her boyfriend, her doing all types of BF/GF activities with other men. It was normal to take my gf to get tested for STDs 6-8 times a year, it was normal for my gf to take pregnancy tests all the time, and yes she had to use the morning after pill on numerous occasions when she forgot to take her bc especially because it was normal for her to always have all her men finish inside of her. All of these things became so normal for me to see and accept in my relationship from my girlfriend with other men that I became desensitized to it. I keep wanting more and more extreme.

So without further ado, what I seek from this arrangement is to be included in my girlfriend's relationship with another man where it gets to the point that they outright have a full blown relationship in front of me and make me live as a cuckold 24/7/365. It gets to a point where it's not about me and her but instead it becomes about him and her. As a cuckold It becomes normal to live in a household where I hear my GF/wife tell him she loves him, it's normal and part of my daily life to hear my wife moaning at night or anytime of the day for that matter, it becomes normal to come home and hear her moaning in the bathroom as they shower together, it's normal to see her getting sexy on Friday nights to go out with him, it's normal to see them go on romantic vacations without me, it's normal for us to go out on the weekends where they are publicly the couple and I'm the 3rd wheel.

I want to not only experience being their cuckold but I want them to keep me in a constant state of being cucked. It doesn't matter what time it is, they keep me on edge at all times by simply being together. Her new normal and default natural interactions with him, in other words, her replacement of me with him is what I now experience daily. She keeps me around and minimally engaged to retain a connection between us so that I don't I don't feel left out and leave. This guarantees that my wife will ensure that I spend the rest of my life as a cuckold, seeing her belong to her main partner and have no regrets of going in that direction.

If I still get daily visuals of them together, I can still hear her making love at night in their bedroom, if I can still sit in a corner quietly jerking off as he devours her, still see her getting dolled up to go out with him, while additionally still getting a date night with her myself, sharing my bed with her at least once a week, and the possibility of still penetrating her once or twice a year - then there's no reason for me to go anywhere. With the combination of all those things, I feel that I would be content with my sex life being masturbating to my wife and her relationship with her man. Under those conditions, I am confident that I would settle for living my life that way as a true full-time cuckold under the shadows of my wife and the man who gets to claims her as his in everyway with my blessing. I would humbly settle for the visuals/spectating alone, dates and limited sex would be a plus.

Yes, even after jerking and nutting to the above scenario, the fantasy remains and I can't help but feel guilty that I don't feel regret for wanting my relationship with my girlfriend to go in that direction. It really scares me that I would seriously go down this rabbit hole if my girlfriend genuinely expressed desire to take our relationship in that direction. She's not a hot GF but is aware that I want to be a cuckold and she knows that she has a full green light to date/act single/get a boyfriend which is why she has in the last few years gone on many dates with other men.

While she is not aware that it is a fantasy of mine to experience her replace me in our own home, she has asked me if I would like to meet and be friends with her lover/boyfriend if she has one and upon saying yes, she asked if I would ever agree to her having a boyfriend move in with us to which I also said yes, ultimately making her laugh a little while learning my willingness to go in that direction. I don't foresee myself ever pushing my relationship in that direction, I would only go for it if it comes from her. I couldn't do it just for me to get off, I want it to be as genuine of a cuckold situation as possible meaning that she really wants to be with another man but doesn't want to leave me but she knows I have cuck tendencies and just rolls with it so she presents this option in hopes that I'd be open to going much deeper than us ever discussing.

Sorry for the extremely long reply.

[toreaddave]

Thanks again for sharing, I always love reading about your crazy experiences and thoughts about the lifestyle! It's fascinating that as we get deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole, we begin accepting ever-increasing extreme aspects of the lifestyle. For me, I was always into extreme denial, so I never had any reservations about being permanently denied.

Thanks, I'm glad that there are a select few on OHW who find my extreme past experiences hot! I never thought I would ever do something that crazy and extreme. I've always been addicted to sex so giving it up was never an option or even a consideration but here I am, full blown cuckold, more than willing to give it up without a fight if she were to request going that route. I'd only give it up if it means watching her up close in person frequently and knowing the details of her encounters when I'm not present.

However, one thing that I'm starting to wonder if I would really accept in real life is pregnancy...Aside from full-on leaving for another man, I think pregnancy is the second most extreme aspect. It kinda scares me that I'm not sure what I would do if faced with this reality...I'm not sure I'd be strong enough to think with the correct head. Morally, I don't think it's the best idea to bring a child into this world via a fetish. But damn does it turn my gears like nothing else. But anyway, that's a whole different can of worms for another thread (which plenty already exist).

Agree 100% with you. Morally I feel that it is wrong to bring a child into this world based on a kink or a fantasy. We did have a rule that if she got pregnant while playing, that we would raise the child together and give him or her a loving home. When you play with fire, you need to accept that you can feel heat and even get burned so we both agreed that some actions have consequences and we have to be ready to face them if we are going to play.

I admit that it also gets my gears going but that is not enough to make it a reality intentionally. The only way that I might give into it is if we are in a poly-cuck relationship where she has a boyfriend who has assumed my role as her new primary partner and I am the cuckold 3rd wheel observer of their relationship.

If she has a boyfriend who is her primary partner, he lives with us, and they are genuinely in love and committed to each other, then I feel that as their cuckold-third-wheel who only sleeps with her once a week and only has sex with her on anniversary night and on my birthday; I would be open and accepting of her opting to choose him as the man she has children with but that's an extreme scenario and it's something that will need to be discussed if we ever get to that. Don't want to cross that bridge if not there.

Your experience of your girlfriend living with another man full-time for months is one of the most extreme (and hot) I've seen. Your story gets me absolutely rock hard, but I don't think I'd be able to live with that in reality. I think my main problem with that is just how little time you get to spend with her.

Dude you are not kidding. That was one of the most extreme things I have ever done in my entire existence on this planet. I found it so incredibly erotic to give up my girlfriend and watched her live with her boyfriend. 18 months living away and with reduced access to her is certainly no joke but it was too fuckin hot while we were living that. I still saw her once, maybe twice a week when she would sneak to see me while he was at work. We still had sex but not as much as when we lived together. I think that what turned me on was how the tables flipped and I had to wait my turn, and I had to deal with no longer having full time easy access to my girlfriend. As a cuck I had to suck it up and wait my turn while her boyfriend got her every single night. He had the privilege to have that hot young girl hopping into bed with her usual PJs which were either booty shirts and a tank top or a thong and a tank top, along the way it became booty shorts/topless or thong/topless. Knowing this made it hotter, especially at night when I was alone in bed thinking that at that exact moment my GF was across town in their apartment, in bed with him wearing her skimpy comfy PJ's, probably in the middle of foreplay to have a quickie before bed. Not having control or knowing the exact details turned me on even more.


What I would consider is living in the same household and him taking full control of the house, her body, and her heart. At least this way, we'd be more present in each others' lives, even if her body and soul belong to another man. But at that point, I wonder why she/they are even keeping me around...Unless she's polyamorous and is capable of loving two men at the same time (while being sexually exclusive to just one), then I suppose that could work.

Your reason above, is exactly the reason why this scenario has become my go-to ultimate desire in the last year or two. As much as I loved the jealousy and masochistic aspect of temporarily losing my girlfriend while she was living with another man, it just made it difficult not seeing her as much and feeling excluded until the time i would finally see her to catch up with our relationship and our intimacy. It was gut wrenching and erotically humiliating not being able to show up unannounced despite having a key to her place, not being able to call or text her until she reached out, and when I did get to spend time with her I had to publicly hold back from PDA in case people saw us they would tell her boyfriend!

The problem was that in our situation, her boyfriend didn't know she had me. I think that the situation would change a *little* if she does this with a man who is fully aware that she has a cuckold back home. He can have her, take her to live with him, be exclusive, the whole nine yards but at the same time be accepting that her cuck still gets to spend time with her on a designated day(s) without the need to hide or sneak around, yes we'd have joint custody of my girlfriend lol. Perhaps visiting my girlfriend at her and her boyfriends home and sleeping over once or twice a week might make the situation doable. Just imagine visiting them and their home has portraits of them, that would certainly push some buttons!

Back to your idea, the scenario that I have thought of that would satisfy all cuckold tendencies without her going away with another would be to bring him in instead. Think of it as a polyamorous/cuckold hybrid relationship. The idea is that she dates around until she finds a man that she sees as a good fit to be her boyfriend and eventually take over my role as her primary partner.

So she becomes his girlfriend and if things are going well with their relationship and the sex is good, then he moves into our home with the purpose of taking over as her primary partner and I assume the role of secondary. I relocate to another bedroom and he moves into the master bedroom with her. She sleeps most nights with him but comes to sleep and stay in my bedroom with me once or twice per week, sex with me becomes less and less if she already isn't exclusive with him before he moves in.

They do not hold back at all, they are not afraid to be a couple and act like a couple in front of me and around the house. I am essentially invisible. It becomes normal for me to see her flirting with him, kissing him, it's normal to walk into the house and catch them in the act anywhere in the house. Nothing changes in the way that she carries herself around in the house with him. Her revealing and flirty house clothes are the same with him as they were for me when it was just the two of us living alone. She still cooks for him while wearing nothing but a thong, except I get to see her doing it for him now.

This arrangement serves different purposes, it allows her to have two men love her who serve her and are happy to share her even if it's a crazy disproportionate ratio of 9:1. Me being the cuck naturally getting the 1 while he gets the 9. The other purpose for this arrangement is that it allows the cuckold to feel included, even if his girlfriend or wife realistically belongs 90% or 99% to the other man. She'll likely be sexually exclusive to her boyfriend and will certainly be emotionally connected to him. Let's not forget that she will be physically spending more time intimately connecting with her boyfriend if she goes sexually exclusive with him and sleeps at night with him, that's not even counting normal BF/GF activities outside our home.

The final purpose and this one is mostly for my benefit as I doubt it would do much for her or the boyfriend. As you mentioned in your earlier response, you've drifted so deep into cuckoldry that you find yourself not having that post nut clarity anymore, I think that is a large contributing factor for me wanting this.

Over a decade ago with my first hot gf, it became so normal to see my GF dating men left and right , sleeping over, going away weekends, going on multiple 2 week vacations with other men, moving away for 18 months, posting her hot GF activities on social media for everyone to see her with with her boyfriend, her doing all types of BF/GF activities with other men. It was normal to take my gf to get tested for STDs 6-8 times a year, it was normal for my gf to take pregnancy tests all the time, and yes she had to use the morning after pill on numerous occasions when she forgot to take her bc especially because it was normal for her to always have all her men finish inside of her. All of these things became so normal for me to see and accept in my relationship from my girlfriend with other men that I became desensitized to it. I keep wanting more and more extreme.

So without further ado, what I seek from this arrangement is to be included in my girlfriend's relationship with another man where it gets to the point that they outright have a full blown relationship in front of me and make me live as a cuckold 24/7/365. It gets to a point where it's not about me and her but instead it becomes about him and her. As a cuckold It becomes normal to live in a household where I hear my GF/wife tell him she loves him, it's normal and part of my daily life to hear my wife moaning at night or anytime of the day for that matter, it becomes normal to come home and hear her moaning in the bathroom as they shower together, it's normal to see her getting sexy on Friday nights to go out with him, it's normal to see them go on romantic vacations without me, it's normal for us to go out on the weekends where they are publicly the couple and I'm the 3rd wheel.

I want to not only experience being their cuckold but I want them to keep me in a constant state of being cucked. It doesn't matter what time it is, they keep me on edge at all times by simply being together. Her new normal and default natural interactions with him, in other words, her replacement of me with him is what I now experience daily. She keeps me around and minimally engaged to retain a connection between us so that I don't I don't feel left out and leave. This guarantees that my wife will ensure that I spend the rest of my life as a cuckold, seeing her belong to her main partner and have no regrets of going in that direction.

If I still get daily visuals of them together, I can still hear her making love at night in their bedroom, if I can still sit in a corner quietly jerking off as he devours her, still see her getting dolled up to go out with him, while additionally still getting a date night with her myself, sharing my bed with her at least once a week, and the possibility of still penetrating her once or twice a year - then there's no reason for me to go anywhere. With the combination of all those things, I feel that I would be content with my sex life being masturbating to my wife and her relationship with her man. Under those conditions, I am confident that I would settle for living my life that way as a true full-time cuckold under the shadows of my wife and the man who gets to claims her as his in everyway with my blessing. I would humbly settle for the visuals/spectating alone, dates and limited sex would be a plus.

Yes, even after jerking and nutting to the above scenario, the fantasy remains and I can't help but feel guilty that I don't feel regret for wanting my relationship with my girlfriend to go in that direction. It really scares me that I would seriously go down this rabbit hole if my girlfriend genuinely expressed desire to take our relationship in that direction. She's not a hot GF but is aware that I want to be a cuckold and she knows that she has a full green light to date/act single/get a boyfriend which is why she has in the last few years gone on many dates with other men.

While she is not aware that it is a fantasy of mine to experience her replace me in our own home, she has asked me if I would like to meet and be friends with her lover/boyfriend if she has one and upon saying yes, she asked if I would ever agree to her having a boyfriend move in with us to which I also said yes, ultimately making her laugh a little while learning my willingness to go in that direction. I don't foresee myself ever pushing my relationship in that direction, I would only go for it if it comes from her. I couldn't do it just for me to get off, I want it to be as genuine of a cuckold situation as possible meaning that she really wants to be with another man but doesn't want to leave me but she knows I have cuck tendencies and just rolls with it so she presents this option in hopes that I'd be open to going much deeper than us ever discussing.

Sorry for the extremely long reply.

So beautifully written as always! You've basically expressed my deepest fantasy word-for-word! In a perfect world, I would love to live that reality, but unfortunately, I live in a reality where there is simply too much social/familial stigma to have a polyamorous live-in boyfriend situation like this. I'd love to say I don't care about what others think of me, but I'd just be lying. I think in this lifetime, the farthest I'll be able to take my fantasies is "normal" cuckolding (if I'm lucky). But who knows; life is crazy and full of surprises! Nevertheless, it's still fun to think about these more extreme scenarios. But it seems possible for you since you've already gone to the deep end once before, so I wish you all the luck in fulfilling your dreams! Thank you for taking the time to write all that out, and please don't apologize for the length!

[ucaneffher]

So beautifully written as always! You've basically expressed my deepest fantasy word-for-word! In a perfect world, I would love to live that reality, but unfortunately, I live in a reality where there is simply too much social/familial stigma to have a polyamorous live-in boyfriend situation like this. I'd love to say I don't care about what others think of me, but I'd just be lying. I think in this lifetime, the farthest I'll be able to take my fantasies is "normal" cuckolding (if I'm lucky). But who knows; life is crazy and full of surprises! Nevertheless, it's still fun to think about these more extreme scenarios. But it seems possible for you since you've already gone to the deep end once before, so I wish you all the luck in fulfilling your dreams! Thank you for taking the time to write all that out, and please don't apologize for the length!
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I agree completely with the stigma and all of the other things that come with it, I also know that I would worry about what others think but that was my same fear back then when she publicly started dating and essentially publicly cucking me (to some audiences at least) I got over it despite some people asking me how I felt about her posting pics with her BF on social media.


Those are also definitely my worries and concerns and as a result, the thought of such suggestion arising from her, my GF sitting me down to tell me that she wants to lead our relationship in that direction where she replaces me but gives me the option to stay with limited benefits if I am willing to accept him taking over, that just truly scares me because the reality is that I know myself and I would not turn it down. I know myself and despite knowing that it would result in a very one sided relationship.

I know that I would i would not say no despite initially playing it off and playing hard to get or bargaining for more benefits just to not look like I'm easy but, in the end there is a 100% chance that I will be moving into another bedroom and will soon find myself unable to detach my identity from the word cuckold because it would soon become my permanent and full-time identity. It would not be like the old days where I only identified as a cuckold while she is out but once she is back and reclaimed , I would resume as her man and she as my partner. In this situation I would not be able to retract as easily and would permanently find myself living the role of her cuckold, especially if i am going to be living together under the same roof as her full time partner. Constantly reminded of her choice to make him her partner will be my reminder that I am a cuckold and there is nothing that I can do to get away from it, leaving her certainly is not a choice so I settle for accepting my life as a cuckold. There is always the possibility that they'll break up so there is hope to regain primary partner status one day if she doesn't kick me to the curb lol. Until then, I'm toughing it up anx rolling with it. If life ever takes me there, I will write a journal thread of my life as a secondary man to my wife

[toreaddave]

I agree completely with the stigma and all of the other things that come with it, I also know that I would worry about what others think but that was my same fear back then when she publicly started dating and essentially publicly cucking me (to some audiences at least) I got over it despite some people asking me how I felt about her posting pics with her BF on social media.

Those are also definitely my worries and concerns and as a result, the thought of such suggestion arising from her, my GF sitting me down to tell me that she wants to lead our relationship in that direction where she replaces me but gives me the option to stay with limited benefits if I am willing to accept him taking over, that just truly scares me because the reality is that I know myself and I would not turn it down. I know myself and despite knowing that it would result in a very one sided relationship.

I know that I would i would not say no despite initially playing it off and playing hard to get or bargaining for more benefits just to not look like I'm easy but, in the end there is a 100% chance that I will be moving into another bedroom and will soon find myself unable to detach my identity from the word cuckold because it would soon become my permanent and full-time identity. It would not be like the old days where I only identified as a cuckold while she is out but once she is back and reclaimed , I would resume as her man and she as my partner. In this situation I would not be able to retract as easily and would permanently find myself living the role of her cuckold, especially if i am going to be living together under the same roof as her full time partner. Constantly reminded of her choice to make him her partner will be my reminder that I am a cuckold and there is nothing that I can do to get away from it, leaving her certainly is not a choice so I settle for accepting my life as a cuckold. There is always the possibility that they'll break up so there is hope to regain primary partner status one day if she doesn't kick me to the curb lol. Until then, I'm toughing it up anx rolling with it. If life ever takes me there, I will write a journal thread of my life as a secondary man to my wife

Well if it happens, you bet I'll be intently following along

[sana9889]

the potential for losing your wife to one of her lovers is part of the cuck world.
women are prone to develop deep feelings with the men that they are having relationships with.
we decided early on that one way to avoid this problem is for her to never be with a guy more than a couple of times.
it is harder but better for her to go with random men and it is usually a one and done affair.

I see, that's one way to guard against this I suppose. Though it would depend on the woman if she feels this rule is too restrictive and takes away from the experience. I personally would not implement this rule because I think it's a bit unfair for her in case she really likes someone. But then again, if she really likes someone, that presents an increased risk of losing her. It's definitely a tough balancing act between giving her enough freedom and ensuring the relationship survives.

I didn't impose any sort of rule, we decide together, and she is always in control of who when and where things happen

Right, you two decided on that rule together which is fantastic. However, some women would much prefer having regular bulls/boyfriends rather than one-and-done affairs. So I meant to say that in those cases, I don't think it'd be fair for me to deny her that, even at the increased risk of things going wrong.

Some ppl wont like me saying this; it is riskier.with exclusive relationships with bf. You need to be really close with your husband (cuck) in every other way to keep it going, or you will start to fall for your bf. With randoms its not so much of a problem. But i feel like my bf really owns me and can actually control me. Its all in the relationship dynamics and how much control the husband can maintain.