Solo Safety

[CuckedbyNikki]

Lately we have been planning for a solo date & would like to know what safety measures have to taken. If your HW has ever had a date that turned out to be a nightmare or something which made her take a step back? Do help us & share your experiences.

[SeaGirtCuck]

She never had a problem; she just followed the standard dating protocol as if she were single.

[frank12]

Not quite the hotwife situation but close. An occasional playmate of mine agreed to travel to another city to meet and play with an on-line dominant type. Long, frightening story that ended "ok" but only because someone came to the door and her "date" released her from bondage - and she asked the visitor for a ride back to the airport. She did not have a safe call, did not have anyone who knew where she was going, had never seen his ID, did not meet beforehand in person to get a sense of chemistry. Lots of errors on her part.

I'm sure this was a rarity, but I also know this is something that happens, and occasionally has grave consequences.

[annsman]

She never had a problem; she just followed the standard dating protocol as if she were single.

Same with us. She always tells me who he is, where they are going, always in a public place the first time, and phones me if plans change or they are going on somewhere. If either of us feel uncomfortable for any reason she cancels.

It’s a line between making sure she is safe and giving her freedom by not appearing controlling and wanting to track all her movements.

[SeaGirtCuck]

We use the same protocol you describe.

[canadianwittol]

My wife got really into Tinder in the summer of 2018 and enjoyed it frequently until COVID. At that time our regular bull had moved to a location about 4 hours away so it was hard to see him any more than maybe once a month; Tinder filled in the gap for her nicely.

The obvious issue that stood out however was safety. The less obvious but more common issues she encountered after going on a few dates which ended in going back to the other guy's place were:

1. Guys with roommates
2. Guys with unclean apartments
3. Sometimes having to leave her car in another location/overnight and with it, the risk of break-in/theft

For all of these reasons, in addition to safety, my wife came to me and said she'd prefer to bring men back to our place. I gulped. I was very concerned about the potential humiliation of our neighbours seeing a parade of men coming and going from our condo and about sleeping in our bedroom while she "entertained" in the guest room. Of course the latter had the benefit too of my being able to listen in, but not without some sense of shame attached to it.

However, her reasons were entirely logical and reasonable versus me simply not wanting to feel embarrassed in front of our neighbours...and in all objectivity I had to acknowledge that her logic was valid. It's been a while now since my wife has had a one night stand, but if she ever does, it happens at our place.

[Her number1]

Farmgirl, with one exception, has always played solo. She doesn't do strangers or online, preferring to play with men she knows or has gotten to know.
Never a problem.
She only uses her real name and real phone number.

[Clement99]

I played with a wife once….it was supposed to be a threesome but the husband had to go out of town for work.

I was in town for work and had never met them before…the husband told me that, when I meet his wife at the hotel she would be “packing heat” for protection. Perhaps I was naive, or just horny, but I met her at the hotel anyway.

We had a really fun night and I never did ask if she really had a gun in her bag.

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

I'm not even in this lifestyle, but I do a lot of internet dating, and just use the "standard protocols'.......

1. The first meeting is always in a public place.
2. I never stay at her house for the first or even second visit (and it's the same if she comes to visit me)....I always book us a hotel room.
3. Almost all hotels (even mid-range hotels) these days have cameras up the wazoo.
4. Someone knows where she is going, and there is a "check-in" call when she gets here.
5. Someone knows when she is supposed to leave, and there is a check-in call when she does.
6. Absolutely NO surprises. If her date is picking up your wife at the airport, there is NO ONE in the car except her date.
7. As always, TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. I remember one time I was all set to fly to NYC to meet a date; and on the morning of my trip, my instincts told me that "something about this isn't right"...and I canceled my trip.

[CuckedbyNikki]

My wife got really into Tinder in the summer of 2018 and enjoyed it frequently until COVID. At that time our regular bull had moved to a location about 4 hours away so it was hard to see him any more than maybe once a month; Tinder filled in the gap for her nicely.

The obvious issue that stood out however was safety. The less obvious but more common issues she encountered after going on a few dates which ended in going back to the other guy's place were:

1. Guys with roommates
2. Guys with unclean apartments
3. Sometimes having to leave her car in another location/overnight and with it, the risk of break-in/theft

For all of these reasons, in addition to safety, my wife came to me and said she'd prefer to bring men back to our place. I gulped. I was very concerned about the potential humiliation of our neighbours seeing a parade of men coming and going from our condo and about sleeping in our bedroom while she "entertained" in the guest room. Of course the latter had the benefit too of my being able to listen in, but not without some sense of shame attached to it.

However, her reasons were entirely logical and reasonable versus me simply not wanting to feel embarrassed in front of our neighbours...and in all objectivity I had to acknowledge that her logic was valid. It's been a while now since my wife has had a one night stand, but if she ever does, it happens at our place.

Better feeling humiliated than compromising her safety.

[stubbyhubby]

Luckily Lisa has had nothing but success stories. She has gone on lots of one-on-one dates with guys and so far they have all gone good or great. Like others said, we vetted guys first, then she followed standard dating practices.

In contrast to frank12's story, Lisa has also traveled to guys on several occasions and those went very well. The catch was we invested considerable time getting to know the guy through phone calls and Skype for a few weeks prior to the trip.

[Long Lurker 34]

Not quite the hotwife situation but close. An occasional playmate of mine agreed to travel to another city to meet and play with an on-line dominant type. Long, frightening story that ended "ok" but only because someone came to the door and her "date" released her from bondage - and she asked the visitor for a ride back to the airport. She did not have a safe call, did not have anyone who knew where she was going, had never seen his ID, did not meet beforehand in person to get a sense of chemistry. Lots of errors on her part.

I'm sure this was a rarity, but I also know this is something that happens, and occasionally has grave consequences.

F12
- Gees that reads so much like an episode of any number of TV police drama's. I think she was very lucky.

[Maddie_Hippychick]

I have a girlfriend in the swinger lifestyle that dates regularly. Most of her dates are with guys on FetLife, but some are from vanilla dating sites too. She shares her location with me. First date is always in public. She texts me when she arrives or leaves, texts me names and places, AND “proof of life” pics. Usually a selfie with her and her date with enough background to establish location. She also usually calls me on her way home afterwards to tell me how it went. Knowing someone has her back really lets her put her best foot forward and focus on enjoying the date and getting to know someone new. Not all of her dates are winners, ya gotta kiss a lot of frogs, but since we started this protocol she hasn’t had any dates get sketchy. I should also mention that she’s very upfront with her dates that she’s sharing with a girlfriend, so her dates know someone is watching out for her.