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The feeling never seems to go away, it seems to come and go in waves sometimes but it’s always there simmering underneath.
Its been about 6 years now since I first told my wife… she’s now fully aware and we play with the idea all the time but she’s not taken the plunge so far.
Sometimes you think it will go away, but it never seems to. My goal is for her to experience extreme pleasure on every level, my goal is for her to be the perfect loyal wife in every way, but at night to be a free woman who is having the biggest orgasms with whoever she wants, and coming home with his semen inside her and on her. Sometimes I think I must be crazy, but then I think we only live once and life is short. I’ll never push my wife too hard I’ve learned to be careful with this, but in the bedroom she has become a different person who pretends she is fucking someone else and forcing me to watch. I love it.
I know people say be careful for what you wish for…. But i just can’t seem to stop it
I keep hopeful for the future:)

How would you like to progress things?
Do you think your wife is ultimately open to doing something with another man?

Thanks so basically right now, she won’t seem to do anything on her own. If a guy approached her at work or otherwise and started to flirt with her and she liked him i am absorbed certain she would go for it… she has said as much. She just won’t initiate anything herself. The closest we have got is i persuaded her to sign up on a dating site and she spent a night chatting to guys, but she started getting sent dick picks and messages from these kinds of men and that put her off pretty badly. I am hoping to persuade her to try again on a more reasonable site with “normal” guys on it. When horny she has said she will do this, other times she has said she won’t. When we have sex she is 100% happy to act it out and go along with it all. This is where we are at.
Personally I would like her to start chatting to guys with the possibility of meeting up as a start. I don’t think we are far away after so many years of playing with the idea…. But it could still be years

A few months ago she was messaging a local guy she knew and it got quite suggestive, he invited her to his house for coffee one day, she teased me about fucking him and she played with it in the bedroom…. I thought it was going to happen but in the end she bottled it because she said he was too close and knew too many of our friends which I totally understand… so this was close. If the same guy existed but he lived away and we didn’t have friends in common I am absolutely sure she would have gone to meet him. I just need to create these conditions somehow.

BD8280 wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 27, 2024 3:55 am

.....she spent a night chatting to guys, but she started getting sent dick picks and messages from these kinds of men and that put her off pretty badly. I am hoping to persuade her to try again on a more reasonable site with “normal” guys on it.

"with normal guys on it"......Good luck with that!

How about you introduce her to the OHW forum? I think she might get a better idea of what she might expect if she becomes a hot wife. It's always better to find out that there are many others that are having the same thoughts as you. Yes, the forum has it's percentage of 'non normal guys', but enough mature and experienced ones too. Plus she could try to get verification as a Verified Hot Wife, which gets her entry to a special forum for ladies only, where she could speak direct to other wives and girlfriends. I don't think she has to prove she's 'experienced' as a Hot Wife. A wannabe hot wife is fine.
Have a look on the Announcements etc forum for the thread about Verified Hotwife Requirements.

Thanks! Agree that it would be a good idea to introduce her to this site, But It’s just not the sort of thing she is into. She doesn’t have an online presence at all, I dunno maybe I should try…

My wife wasn't sure about it. One night after having a few drinks my hot friend and I double teamed her all night. She loved it now she loves threesomes and multiple guys at a time. She is into the lifestyle and sleeping with other guys. At first when I brought it up she wasn't sure it was something she would ever want to do. Once she experienced it the inner slut she always had inside her was let out.

I always wanted it. I have slept with other guys wives and had my share of threesomes before I met her. I can't get enough of it.

My wife wasn't sure about it. One night after having a few drinks my hot friend and I double teamed her all night. She loved it now she loves threesomes and multiple guys at a time. She is into the lifestyle and sleeping with other guys. At first when I brought it up she wasn't sure it was something she would ever want to do. Once she experienced it the inner slut she always had inside her was let out.

I always wanted it. I have slept with other guys wives and had my share of threesomes before I met her. I can't get enough of it.

As a cuckold, your enthusiasm is certainly understandable. My need for this was and is very powerful. Fortunately, my wife had an interest in exploring sexually after I suggested we try this.

Just a word of caution, be sure your wife sincerely wants to commit to this because she has developed an interest rather than doing it just to please you. If she's not fully into it, things can go badly.

I fully empathize with your story so far. Very similar to mine, except I've been encouraging my wife to go down the HW slide for more than 40 years.

Without success, but lots of fun playing with the fantasy.

Must say that your wife is now closer to doing it than mine ever got by at least a little bit. If you could get her to join this forum, it would certainly be a big step, giving her access to VHW's who could provide support.

You are getting great advice so far from people plenty of experience handling it all at fruition, so I'll leave you with my encouragement.

Hoping to offer hearty congratulations in the near future.

Best luck and thanks for sharing your journey.

I may not be a cuck cuck, but I relate to your desires. There is something very primal, fundamental, and natural about your woman fucking other men, something that is a nearly endless source of arousal and, especially when it happens, -- satisfaction. When she is well fucked or even better, filled with another guy's cum, all feels right with the world. So, you are not alone in your desires.

I think there are some very sexual and sexy woman who want to be pursued by a male. So, if this is the case for your wife, don't expect her to make the first move. As you are gathering, she will have to find herself in a situation where guys can approach her; she may find one she wants to explore and maybe even put inside. Good options can include dances, social events, gym encounters, parties (especially Halloween, Christmas, and New Years), football games, and all kinds of vanilla activities. I would not recommend bars, unless you want her to couple with an alcohol (but maybe you do).

At a more advanced level, you could both attend a sex party to "see what it's like," with agreed on no-expectations so she will feel under no pressure except to watch and see people enjoying sex with multiple partners. Finally, I think sexing others for many women may not be as cerebral a thing as it is for some men. A guy can decide to fuck around and then find some women to carry out their fantasy. Women might do something because they feel. They may not want to have sex with another guy until they meet one who triggers those feelings of desire. And then they may do him. It is quite individual and only subject to creative imagination and trying different venues. In the end, the best place to start is with what your wife feels like doing, even if it is far less than what you want. It is, after all, her body, and she will being another guy in HER body, so make what she does fit her. She may cast legs further over time and multiple opportunities.

Hope I'm not too preachy. This may wind up very well for your wife and you.

Oh she is into it now and enjoys other men. She is too sexy for just me

There's a wave of research (possibly taken with a pinch of salt) on human sexuality suggesting that kink and subset lifestyles within it, can be considered their own sexualities.

They often manifest around the same time as hetero/homo/bisexuality, repression/conversion therapy doesn't work on them, and ignoring them often leads to them returning in full force.

Regardless, with any loving relationship it's important to have both partners needs met where possible

BritishBull2k25 wrote: ↑

Tue Mar 11, 2025 6:11 am

There's a wave of research (possibly taken with a pinch of salt) on human sexuality suggesting that kink and subset lifestyles within it, can be considered their own sexualities.

They often manifest around the same time as hetero/homo/bisexuality, repression/conversion therapy doesn't work on them, and ignoring them often leads to them returning in full force.

Regardless, with any loving relationship it's important to have both partners needs met where possible

Very interesting post. I think that I can personally relate with your statement and I will try to elaborate to see if you agree.

I first brought up the idea to my gf at 15/16 years old, we finally gave the lifestyle a try at 19 and went on for 7 years sharing her. I'd say 15/16 is definitely a time that many are in the determination of hetero/homo/bi... In my case, I simply wanted my girlfriend in high school to sleep around with other guys. I wanted to experience her tell me that she wasn't walking with me after school because she was going to "hangout" with another guy. Lol

After that relationship ended, I repressed the feelings and desire to have a promiscuous girlfriend. Despite several semi-long and long relationships. Even though I kept telling myself I didn't want it, deep down I wished they were doing the exact same thing as the ex did which was being out several nights per week with different men, and more often than not going away to stay with other men on the weekends.

After 6 or 7 years of telling myself i was done, and at the first few hints of my then GF of several years having a sudden change in behavior (dressing sexier, going on vacation with a GF and only packing sexy bathing suits/outfits, making new guy friends, her asking me if it was okay for her to go dancing with other men/hangout alone with other men) i returned in full force and one drunken night I told her my observations of her behavior/questions and I told her that I was okay with her going dancing/hanging out alone with other men. I told her that I loved her new sexy revealing clothes, and that I was not a jealous guy. I told her that if dancing/hanging out with men alone ended in temptation for her, that I was okay and accepting of her choices and I would not be mad if she ended not coming home early on those nights or at all. She had quite the dominant personality and I expected her to immediately agree and even braced for it because I know she would've really pushed boundaries and really made me accept her desires. She was not pleased at all with my talk and we broke up shortly after. I think she may have been testing me to see if I would be the jealous or sharing type.

Still in the returning In full force stages:
A few years after that, I'm dating my current gf and I find myself unable to turn off the cuckold desires. They have gotten stronger and more intense, now I''m not just wanting my lady to sleep with other men But instead I want to be cuckolded to the point of being made to watch as I'm replaced by another man. We had the conversation early in our relationship, she was not judgemental. She has gone on many dates over the years, has flirted with men in front of me, has left me sitting by myself multiple times at bars and clubs while she goes to sit with another man for the remainder of the night. She hasn't done anything other than getting undressed during heavy foreplay with another man.

I feel like it's who I am and I can't control the fact that I want my partner to want to be with someone else. I can't wait for the day where she sits me down and comes clean to me and tells me that she wants to start dating again or wants to look for a boyfriend. I am even okay with something more abrupt and extreme which would prompt the conversation or more preferably an ultimatum. The full force of cuckold desires in me would be accepting of catching her in the act with another man in bed or perhaps running into her in public while with another man. Later prompting her to sit me down and give me the ultimatum to let her be promiscuous or walk away, and of course I'd accept the ultimatum and settle for having a partner that will never be fully exclusive or mine. This full force in me pushes me to desire of wanting to be a cuckold to the point where my desire is to become my partner's secondary man while she establishes a relationship with another man who becomes main/primary to her.

Since that initial repression of my cuckold desires, I've realized that the dynamic that I want to have in my relationship is similar to the one in my first and only lifestyle relationship. I want a relationship where my girlfriend is permanently single and available despite being my partner. If she is interested in another man, then by default she is single and available regardless of me being with /next her. It doesn't matter if we are out on a date, if she is approached and she likes the guy or if she sees a guy she likes, I automatically become her best friend and she puts me on hold on the spot while she engages with him.