Need advice : a 'cheating bull'

[Kev88]

Hey everyone I need the opinion of other ( more experienced ) cuckolds and cuckoldresses.

Me and my wife have been in the lifestyle for about 6 months now. Even before that we always had a relation where I tend to put her on a pedestal and spoil her.

She mostly goes out solo and we try to have on threesome or clubdate a month together. We talk to each other constantantly to make sure everyone is on the same page and feed off each others energy. The way it should be.

So my situation : one of her regulars is married and his wife is unaware. We always had the rule that we wouldn't do cheating. However he only confessed it to her after 4 dates and... the sex between them is insane, in her own words mindblowing.

She has been seeing him for 5 months now. And while at first she was one of many women he was seeing. Now she is the only one. We also constantly have to adjust our shedule to him in order that his wife wont find out.

Lately he's been different. He has pointed out that he is struggling with something personal but won't tell me or her what it is. While he used to speak very openly about his work / finances / relation with his wife to her. This has lead me to start thinking there might be feelings coming into play from his side. The relation with his wife is also going downhill fast, while in the past he always still talked loving about her ( just lack of sex ) it has changed now to a more negative tone... as in : if she finds out now its the end, or perhaps a fresh start.

I'm struggling more and more with my wife seeing him because of all of it, the cheating, the sneaking around, the being part of destroying a relationship and family, the fact that I suspect there are feelings in play from his side don't help either.


When my wife and I talk about it him the tone is changing. It's starting to spark disagreements between us because I voice these concerns, but she says we shouldnt care about all of that. As long as the sex is good its all that matters.


Am I overreacting about struggling with it ?

What are your opinions?

[coastalkid]

Is this her first lover since becoming an hot wife? If it is maybe you can mention that she really hasn't given herself enough of an opportunity to exercise her freedom to experience some variety. At just six months into this she is riding a wave of new sensations and emotions. It could be that since she's only known the kind of sexual relationship that she's had with you and she's applying that knowledge/experience to her new sex life. Was her initial goal to experience a variety or was it to find just one FWB?

[Kev88]

No it is not her only partner. At this moment she has 3 regular partners that she has solo dates with. We also do threesomes or clubdates occasionaly with the 2 of us. So he is deffinatly not her one and only other experience.

[coastalkid]

Also regarding the "cheating" husband, there's really nothing you should or need to do. Sure, you could blow up things and call his wife but you'd probably come away feeling bad from your part in that too. It sounds like the bf's marriage will resolve itself on its own. If you don't like being part of the deception (if there truly is any) then don't do it. In this case not liking him being a cheater is out of your hands unless you and your wife had specific opinions about it.

The greater worry is the "tone" thing, especially if it's causing tension between you and your wife. I think finding out if your wife is being honest about the ONLY thing that matters is the sex being good.

[trecital]

I'm wondering why you chose to post this in the Cuckold forum. It just seems much more suited to the Hotwife forum.