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I am working up the courage to see if my fiancee would like to at least play around with the fantasy. I’m ok if this remains a fantasy, but it would be awesome if we reach the point she goes with others.

I had a dream last night baby. I dreamed I was watching you fucking a great looking guy, you were really into him and he was making you cum over and over again and I loved it. Watching you enjoying pure bliss was amazing. I woke up with the hardest cock Ive had in years!

I always give the advice: don't focus on the WHAT, focus on the WHY. Ask yourself this, answer yourself, then you can share what you learned with your wife.

When you answer yourself, answer honestly. Take your time to learn about your own feelings and reasons for those feelings. Contemplate the psychology. Identify specific, communicatable factors, and analyze those.

When you truly understand yourself and your motivations, and assuming you understand your wife, you'll know how to communicate with her in a way that would be very convincing (basically unless it is an outright hard limit for her, she would be willing to explore it at least in fantasy).

I second the dream idea.

However, if you want to make it even more believable, watch a movie that has a bit of cuckolding in it and a few days later you can tell her that you had a dream about her wanting to sleep with another man or men just like the girl in the movie. You'll essentially blame the movie for influencing dream.

You can be creative but without too much scripted detail so that it doesn't sound fake. It could be something as simple as you telling her that you had a dream where :

"one night shortly after watching that movie, while having a drink and us both being slightly buzzed, you (the fiancée) told me that you found that movie kind of hot and admitted that you would like to give something like that a try..."

Just keeping it short and simple like that will likely prompt her to ask more questions about the dream and ask you how you reacted and what not. You know her best, use your best judgement on HER reaction of the preview/summary of the dream to see in what direction you take the details of the dream. If she seems interested, you can give her some cuckold positive details and if she's visually disgusted or not pleased, then you can say "that's when I woke up and don't know what happened next" lol


Final considerations, what movie and howTF do you even get to the point of selecting that movie as one to watch... Well the first question I can answer but the second one I can't.

There is a thread somewhere on here with all cuckold related movies, you could probably elect a few that call your attention and get a preview of the movie on your own first to see if it sends the message that you want to send. Odds are that you want to pick a movie that is still relevant and fairly recent within the last 1-10 years otherwise it'll be obvious as to why you're watching a movie from 1983 with such specific theme lol

Good luck and keep us posted!

One thing I'd add to the great advice from ugcp is to consider how tricky her situation is because at this point she is your fiance, not your wife.

She may fear or interpret your suggestion as either a test or an ultimatum. Neither reaction is good for your case. Once you marry, she will likely feel more enabled to respond honesty and openly, positive or negative, because she will better appreciate that you are all in on her.

Now, if you really intend for cuckolding to be a condition for marriage, then YMMV.

Whatever. Self-knowledge is definitely the key.

ugcp wrote: ↑

Fri Nov 15, 2024 11:08 am

I always give the advice: don't focus on the WHAT, focus on the WHY. Ask yourself this, answer yourself, then you can share what you learned with your wife.

When you answer yourself, answer honestly. Take your time to learn about your own feelings and reasons for those feelings. Contemplate the psychology. Identify specific, communicatable factors, and analyze those.

When you truly understand yourself and your motivations, and assuming you understand your wife, you'll know how to communicate with her in a way that would be very convincing (basically unless it is an outright hard limit for her, she would be willing to explore it at least in fantasy).

This is great advice. I’ve been fascinated by the lifestyle for some years now, maybe 6 or 7. So lately I’ve been reading up on it, and I’m pleased by even how many main stream articles have been coming out. These forums are also useful. Compersion definitely plays a role. I also like how the lifestyle seems to have benefitted so many couples and brings them closer as communication is key. It can be hard to describe why something turns you on, but somehow this is more than just sex.

I would start off very simple and at the basic level. Being aware of other men being attracted to her.

I started by saying, "You are so beautiful. I sometimes notice other men checking you out, and I'll be honest, it excites me, to see other men attracted to you, and noticing you. I guess I should be jealous, some other men would be. But find it exciting when I see other men recognizing your beauty, like I do."

She didn't believe me at first. Then I would point out guys who checked her out, as she walked to the ladies room and back. One time I offered her a challenge: To walk back to the ladies room and make a point of making eye contact, and smiling, at each of the guys I observed checking her out. She did it, and she started to recognize that, when she made eye contact and smiled, she recognized that some of them were flirting.

She would discount it, and would say things like, "Oh, that kind of stuff doesn't happen to me anymore. It did when I was in my twenties, but I'm past that now."
So, we kept up the challenge where I would point out the guys who checked her out.

I told her that it really excited me see other guys admiring her beauty, like I did. I asked her to check it out by meeting me after work on Fridays, at a popular cocktail lounge with a happy hour.

I would have her meet me there after work, and sit at the bar by herself. I would come separately, and sit at a distant table and watch. Guys would eventually come and sit by her and start up a conversation, and offer to buy her a drink. She would tell them that she was waiting for a girlfriend and then, would eventually announce that she didn't think her friend was coming. There were guys who asked to buy her drinks, or to join them for dinner in the adjoining restaurant.

She was blown away and couldn't believe it was happening.

I went down the 'I had a dream route'!. I said it really turned me on but she needed reassurance it was just a fantasy.
We incorporated it into our love making with her asking every time after if it was just a fantasy. It was months before I plucked up the courage to tell her I actually wanted it to happen and like so many other wives she did not take it well!

It took alot of talking and smoothing over. It's been about 10 years now and we still do alot of fantasising over it. I know the thought of it turns her on but im still a wannabe!

What I'm saying is go about it very carefully, put your wife's feelings first and be very, very patient!

Have you ever asked her about past sexual experiences? That's kind of how it started with us. She'd tell me about a few hot encounters she had and she'd see that I would get hard.

We had a few drinks one night very early in our relationship and started talking about fetishes and fantasies. She said she'd always wanted to have a threeway with two guys and also wanted to try a Black guy. I told her I was into voyeur porn that had guys watching their gf/wife have sex with other men. I remember saying voyeur porn just because I worried saying cuckold porn may scare her off. She was into it immediately. Eventually I admitted I'd been in cuck relationships with ex gfs in the past. Sharing fantasies has pretty much been the way I've brought it up with everyone I've dated seriously.

albs19922 wrote: ↑

Fri Nov 15, 2024 5:06 pm

... Compersion definitely plays a role. I also like how the lifestyle seems to have benefitted so many couples and brings them closer as communication is key. It can be hard to describe why something turns you on, but somehow this is more than just sex.

This is exactly what I meant! Those sentences are definitely the type of things to bring up with a wife. Most women respond well to that language! Each sentence can be explored further with them, and each carries a lot for positive emotion.

Compersion: You're telling your wife that HER happiness makes YOU feel good. What wife is going to be against this concept?

Closeness and communication: How many wives wouldn't want to feel closer with their husbands and to communicate better as a couple?

Acknowledging nuances beyond sex: For a lot of women, sex as merely an isolated concept is not really that interesting. It's all about everything that surrounds the sex that holds the real value (and makes sex that much better). The average dude getting into cuckolding seems to think he can show his wife a giant cock and that'll be enough to sell her on it lol. Even for married women that would find that somewhat intriguing, they still have a ton of other non-sexual concerns, and can be positively influenced more effectively by appealing to those.